how do i deal with a mouthy 6 almost 7 year old

Rebecca - posted on 02/27/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 6 years old and already talks like a pre teen i was wondering if any one had any answer how to deal with out going over the deep end

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Meanie - posted on 03/08/2011

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Talk nice to her, refrain from being smartypants yourself. I realized my parenting skills were to blame for alot of my concerns myself. I also have a 7 yr old with a smart mouth, Since I became aware of this, I began to work on my remarks, and so far so good! Good Luck!

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I suppose it depends on what you feel comfortable with, really. I have 6 kids, so different things work with different ones. The oldest is 10, and I try talking with him at this point. He's worse now then at any other time! The 8 yo has always been mouthy, sighs heavily at me, etc..., The 6 yo (boy) is getting worse now with talking back (and thinking it is funny too!) They get a light tap, time out, attitude adjustment, grounding, more chores... depends on my mood really. The 6 yo (girl) has to apologize and gets a time out. The 4yo isn't bad at mouthiness UNLESS she thinks I can't hear her, she gets a tap. And, the 2 1/2 yo??? Lets just say that she copies everyone at times, and I don't like it at all!!! She is learning to be respectful pretty quickly tho'! :)
And lying? Well, if you don't tell the truth you either get a spanking or a taste of vinegar for 30 seconds (then small drink of milk).

Jennifer - posted on 03/09/2011

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My daughter turned 7 and this started last year. When she says something inappropriate I point it out to her. If she keeps up the rolling of the eyes, sighing, stomping off, etc, then I take away video games, etc. Her behavior was WAY worse when I let her watch Hannah, Wizards, etc, so those are treats on rare occasions. Yes behavior starts at home, but kids imitate what they see on tv also. Whenever I get on to her or punish her I ask her does she know why she is in trouble. I personally wouldn't do sentences, etc, I never learned a darn thing from that in school, and it honestly didn't adjust my behavior. Telling her I don't approve however goes along way.

CoffeeMom - posted on 03/06/2011

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My daughter is 7 and the backtalk comes more from school and tv in my opinion as. For my daughter she either gets a time out which she has to say sorry and why she did it and mean it, or write sentences saying I will not backtalk and then we sit down and tell her that just cause her friends do it we dont allow it. I started a chart of Nasty/naughty and uncalled for behavior. If she did something to get on the list such as backtalking we write it on there and then after the time out we write on the chart what she could have done that was the better way. It working for me this way she can go back and see how she can fix things before getting in trouble.

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Danielle - posted on 03/09/2011

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I think we as parents have to realize that most of the behavior start and stops AT home. With that being said I could not agree more with Fenja Ragin and Meanie Butt...lol We have to respect the kids and speak to them in a way that shows you have respect for their opinions. If we are amarty pants and WE have an answer for everything, then what are the kids learning. I for one know that I am the culprit for my little "smarty pants" But if he does something that I don't approve of then we talk about it, and he usually is aware of what he said or did wrong. And sometime he comes up with solutions on how to do it better next time. Everyday is an adventure......WE as parents are just along for the ride :)

Fenia - posted on 03/08/2011

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well i have a 6 yr old too and ppl are amazed at the way she talks she can hold full conversations with any adult and stay on subject and understand. what i do is i talk to her just like i would talk to anyone else because its to late to try to change them after they have matured at this point. they key is to talk to them about things that they need to know, dont talk about certain things around them bc they will catch on let them no whats appropriate and whats not but you have to be a model bc they already know too much for their age anyway but they are still 6 yr old kids so certain words or certain conversations you can't say or have around them bc everything we do around them just adds to this issue and it changes from being maturity to being just too grown and obnoxious. but dont try to muffle her let her continue this shows that she we will an independent individual and will be able to stand on her own if anything ever happens to you just train her to be respectful about it and not get out of line.

Cynthia - posted on 03/07/2011

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i cant even believe what i;m reading here. i have a 6 year old that goes to plubic school. he watches tv and has an older step brother so he hears it all. he never back talks me. he understands that it is not ok. he was very small when i had to get on to him about saying bad words. kids will do what we let them. so stop allowing them to talk back and stick to what ever works and the will get the point.. just dont put up with it ever. not even a little bit. GO OVER THE DEEP END everytime! every single time you hear something thats rude come out of their mouth make a huge deal about it. thats the only thing that works. soon u will notice that they might act that way at school but they will no that mom wont put up with it.

Jessica - posted on 03/07/2011

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My son is 5, its true behave changes once school starts. They seem to pick up alot from other kids. I made a chart with the 7 days of the week. I have red green and yellow cards. If if says something bad he gites to yellow if he does it again he goes to red once on red he looses tv or his paint set. Lets say he is on yellow he has a chance to fix it and get back to green if he slips again with a bad word or action I look at him to see if he will correct himself which he now does alwys, thank goodness. If he is on green at the end of theweek he will get a surprise or let it build up to a 20 gift card to toys r us.for me this bit of bribery haas worked amazingly

Shahnaz - posted on 03/07/2011

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Hi, i have an 8 year old daughter almost going 18 yrs old. The back talk is driving me insane. And its backtalk with "attitude".

I really am losing it. I have banned Disney channels Hannah Montana etc. But i have realised the best punishment (only because it means the world to her) is not allowing her to go to a friends party, playdate etc.

And at times when its impossible to back out of a friends party i punish by advising her that we will have to leave the party early as punishment.

Lynn - posted on 03/06/2011

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I know this isn't for everyone,I don't think I could do it but when I cursed or answered back as a child,I had bar of soap stuck in my mouth I learned fast!

Kimberly - posted on 03/01/2011

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If u figure it out, let me know lol...I have a mouthy 5 yr. old but she's picked up most of hers from the other kids at school...The ones who are used to getting their way all the time and arent used to being told otherwise tend to b the mouthy/fit-throwing ones n the class and at that age, theres alot of em...I think shes just "trying it out" to c if she gets her way 2 which is driving me crazy n the process...Just gotta go with it is what i've been told...If u overlook the backtalking, etc. they lose interest in doing it...Aterall, its like a game to them and they love the reactions they get from u when they do it. good luck...Try not to pull all ur hair out :)

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