how do i get my daughter to do her homework?

Sherry - posted on 08/24/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




i stick to a routine h.w right after school at the dining room table. no snack or t.v 'til its done she is 6 1/2 years old. i can't get her to do it. I NEED SOME ADVICE!!!!!!


Sylvia - posted on 02/27/2011




Well, while "no TV" is definitely a good idea, I bet "no snack" is part of the problem you're having. It's hard to focus when you're hungry!

A six-year-old should have no more than 10 minutes of homework a night. But I remember from when my DD (now in grade 3) was that age that sometimes what's supposed to take 10 minutes can take a lot longer :P

If she's restless, try setting a timer for 5 or 10 minutes at a time, and whenever the timer goes off she gets to run around the table for a couple of minutes, or something else physical.

What are you usually doing when she's doing her homework? I find it sometimes helps for me to be in the kitchen with DD, doing dishes or getting dinner started, while she's sitting at the table doing her homework. (She only has homework a couple of times a week -- spelling on Mondays, a short writing assignment on the weekend, and sometimes a maths worksheet in the middle of the week.) That way she doesn't get lonely or feel like she's being left out of anything, and I'm right there to answer questions without actually breathing down her neck while she's working.

If the amount of homework is ridiculous, and if the homework itself is stupid, you could talk to her teacher and try to negotiate a compromise -- like, if the homework is 10 maths problems and they're all the same, can she stop after 5 problems if she's got them all right?

Christy - posted on 08/27/2009




Hey Sherry, This may sound strange but find something to do when she has homework to do, (like crossowrds, reading or writing something) I found that when I was in school it motivated my kids when they saw me doing my homework. Sometimes I would just be writing in my journal but i used to tell them i can't do anything til I finish my hoomework. And supprisingly it worked now they are in the routine to do their homework as soon as they get home. Good luck and let me know what happens!

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Passachon - posted on 03/07/2011




I let my kids have snack while they do homework. Their homework time is right after the enter the house. But we do talk about what is going on @ school first. However, my older two are already 12 but I started since they're young that homework is a part of their responsibility. If they finish their homework correctly and willingly, then they can have their privileges, e.g. watching TV, playing with toys, computer, or video games. Good luck!

Deepti - posted on 02/28/2011




hi sherry,kids need a good break before they can regain their focus on studies... welcome ur child when she is back from school with a big smile and hug and tell her how much u missed her... this will provide half of the energy... and then let her unwind for sometime say for 1-2 hours before going for h.w. also involve her in making a convenient time table in which she is happy to do her work... kids like to take decisions so getting them involved is a good way to motivate them... all the best and visit here for further help:

Beth - posted on 02/27/2011




All of the other suggestions were good, so I'd just add a few more things to try. Maybe try letting her snack at the table or bar while she's doing her homework. She may be hungry and tired, and the fuel may help her to refocus. Also, try just doing part of the homework, then take a 5 minute "fun" break -- dance to a song, talk about your day, jumping jacks, anything -- then settle back down for the rest. They're worth a try:-)

Amy - posted on 08/28/2009




Hi Sherry, My son will be in second grade. I had problems with him doing his home work. I like Christy Giant's idea and will have to try that myself. Last year in first Grade the only home work he had was to study his spelling words and one night he wanted to go out and play and we told him no not till you study your words and he almost went out the door. My husband told him you go out you will be grounded for 5 weeks straight, No video games of anykind, No tv, No board games, No friends over to play and you can not goto other friends housees to play and no Pop-Pop & Mom=Mom's over the weekends. That is his Grandparents. He loves to go to their house. He did it but it was like pulling teeth, then later on we found out he had a hard day at school with a bully and that was why he was so horrible.

So sometimes it is something that happened in school too so amybe ask if there is something wrong? But with him he does not want to talk about it but he was disrespectfull and we do not telerate that behavior. So I know where you are coming from. Beleive me I do.

Take care and God bless you.

Chanel - posted on 08/26/2009




You can try a few things. First you can talk calmly to her and find out what's exactly going on with her. Maybe if she feels like she's having some trouble with the work you can maybe figure out a way for her to learn more at her pace. You also could try a reward chart with stars and if she has a complete week with the stars she gets to pick out a prize. Something small but a great incentive. If she continues for a month with mostly stars then you could reward her with something better. This doesn't necessarily mean material items, but you could offer like a full day of mommy and me or daughter and me make-overs etc. If all else fails and the child is just defiant then you could take away items of most importance, (this Can be tricky because it's YOU who has to stick with it). Take care :)

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