How do I get my husband to appreciate me more?

Barbara - posted on 04/02/2009 ( 346 moms have responded )

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I work my ass off around the house, am constantly stressed out with the kids, and yet my husband seems to think that "telling" me he appreciates me enough isn't good enough. Yesterday I worked my ass off cleaning the house, I did the dishes, cooked chicken parmesan, corn on the cob, and salad for dinner (hardly any help except for when i had to breastfeed), my son was clinging on my leg the whole time while my husband was playing ps2!!!!! He's always rubbing in my face that I don't work, when I kill myself making everybody else happy and am constantly cleaning up after him. He has some stupid job where he is on call 24/7 doing roadside assistance. He barely makes enough money to pay the rent, maybe about 800 a month. He hardly ever gets a call in the middle of the night, but last night a 1 he did. Then when he got home from the call, he stayed up til 4 am playing video games. So this morning at 8 am when my 2 year old was waking up, i ask him can he please get up with him because i was just so tired from the day before, and he completely blows me off. so of course i'm pissed. He said he couldn't sleep last night because I am stressing him out!!!!!!!!!! (try taking care of 4 ppl you ass hole) SO wtf. U only want to sleep and be awake when it's convient for you??? What about ME??!?!!?!? He does the dishes once and says he's been helping out. Um, there are 4 ppl in this house, there's way more than just one load of dishes. He used to have a reguler 9 hours a day job and then i didn't mind doing all of the cooking cleaning and child rearing. and now all he does is sit on his ass. And when I ask him for help, I get chewed out for it, like I'm calling him lazy or something, all i'm doing is asking for hlep. But if one of his stupid friends calls and asks him for a ride or help with something (and that's ALL they ever call him for) he has no problem doing it and most of the time blows me off to do it! I feel like I'm going to go insane, all I hear all day is bitching, from the kids, and from him. I just want some peace and quiet for a little while. when is it going to be my turn to relax? i wish i could just drive away for a few hours, even if i had to spend a total of 45 min. changing someone's tire and unlockinh their car. i feel like i can't even enjoy my kids b/c i am so stressed out and when i tell him these things, he acts like i am wrong for feeling this way and that it's my job so i have to deal with it.

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Gina - posted on 09/17/2012

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Sorry to hear about your dilemna. I have lived through it. I tried all the advice I see listed here. It did not help. I am now HAPPILY divorced from my children's father, and I have remarried a man who is my PARTNER; not an overgrown child for me to take care of.

Start making plans to live independently of him. Call on a family member or close friend to give you a break from the kids every now and then. Do not ask him for help. Do not give him help. Wash your laundry and the kids' laundry. Fix meals for you and them only. Start looking for a job. Or, if you do not have any job skills, apply for a grant and go back to school. Begin to build a foundation for a life and a future for you and your children. Best wishes!

Mesha - posted on 03/04/2014

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The misspelling & poor sentence structure clearly indicates that so many of these spell casting messages are written by individuals who speak English as a second language and are not people from "the states" or the UK. Also, the rules of this site clearly reject soliciting which is plainly the point of these posts. Please stop. I am making a formal complaint to the owners of the site because the value and importance of the site is being denegrated & bastardized by selfish greedy liars trying to take advantage of mothers. How dare you & shame on you!

Laura - posted on 04/05/2009

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My husband use to pull this on me as well. Until one day when I told him was going to the store and that I would be back in a half hour. I came home 3 hours later to a trashed house, but the kids were being pretty well behaved. Nothing was done. So when I saw that I started yelling at him. Later that night he apologize and said how sorry he was for me coming home to nothing being done. Because part of it is that my husband never truely realized how much work I actually did until I did that. He was left with two kids who kept asking for something to drink, something to eat. The baby needing a diaper change. Them wanting him to play with him. All he did was play with the kids, but at the same time he couldn't figure out how the hell I handled all the things they needed plus clean the house spotless. He said that if I hadn't done what I did he probably never would have noticed all the stuff I do. Lately he's been doing it again but not as bad. He at leasts asks if I need help or he just takes the kids off my hands for me. There are times where he asks me how the hell I'm able to take care of him, the kids, and clean the house, and do everything else. I tell him it's not always easy. Some days are easier than others but help every now and then would be nice. And ever since he's been helping out more and letting me relax a lil more and I'm able to get out of the house more often.

Mesha - posted on 03/02/2014

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Please stop posting "spell casting" messages. Its all satanic lies being spread by the idiots at those website taking advantage of hurt & desperate people. Shame on them. You want peace, happiness, love, forgiveness & the reunification of your relationships? Get in relationship with God the Almighty creator of all people & all relationships & u won't have to rely on unreliable people casting "spells"

Catherine - posted on 10/07/2013

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I know exactly how you feel ... Me and fiance do not live together, but I am so stressed out because I take care of two daughters by myself. I cook , I clean, I do clothes and then I pick up after a damn 27 year old. I just wish she would help me sometimes because it is very hard to do it alone which I have been doing my whole life, but geez just wish someone can help me wash dishes, or clean up the house, do the floors. The only thing she does is sit there and watch TV or sleep ... Then tells me she is tired because she been working all day. But do mind, I am a full time student taking care of two babies and then coming home to cleaning and cooking and never get to relax because my youngest follows me everywhere and then my oldest cries all the time for no reason. UGH stressed out, don't know what to do anymore. I totally understand where you're coming from.

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Stephanie - posted on 03/18/2014

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well im a big fan of the book 5 love languages. That can help You see how he needs to feel so that he in favor can see that he needs to treat You better too.. tho its a pain in the ass some times im sure. maybe just scedual more time with friends/Your self and let him know what You plan on doing. as his input and let him know that he has a say and what he says and does is wanted needed and You care what is on his mind.
.. You might be giving him the signal he is in the way. ..if you have something bothering You on Your mind (a lingering nagging thought about him) don't say it right away wait and think/pray over it and find a good time to talk to him. Never~ and i mean never when You are boiling over with anger and tired thoughts. ..talk to him threw out the day if You can. get that flow of words going from You ~ And ~ Him. if he has something(no matter how dumb) listen. hear what he is saying(if You have a thought on that say it. be kind with words) and he may see that You care for help. that he might like to help more and be apart of everything You get to be apart of.

Charlotte - posted on 03/17/2014

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I have a few suggestions that might help. Without knowing a lot about your husband it sounds like you are unappreciated and hes taking advantage of you...but I know from experience you cant Change a man, but you CAN make him "see the light" and want to change. I learned a lot in my first marriage and how to deal with this issue as well. What did I do? Since my ex(like your husband) didn't like working and didn't make enough money to support us, I got a job and made him stay at home with the kids. Switch places with him. I can almost bet he will appreciate what you do on a daily basis and beg to go back to work, Full Time! You wont even need to say a word about how good he had it...he will know! If that doesn't open his eyes and make him help you with the stress around the house then option 2 is take the kids and stay with a friend or relative for a few days/weeks. Give him time to miss the "chaos" around the house, someone to clean up after him, etc. He will either miss you and the kids and compromise household /parental duties to get you to come back,,,,or he will do the opposite which will let you know he doesn't deserve you or the children. Hopefully he chooses to appreciate you and show his family the attention and love they deserve! Good Luck.& HUGS!

Mesha - posted on 03/02/2014

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Focus less on Ur anger & frustration-of which u have a total right to, he's not fulfilling his role as god defined it & thereby creating a lot of the "stress" in the home himself- & start scheduling some regular time for yourself (if u don't you'll get burned out & angry at everything & it will eventually come out on the children). Stick the kids with the husband, despite all the complaining he'll do (you'll have to ignore it completely for awhile but it will stop, much like a toddlers screaming for his binky) on a consistent night & time so he can plan around it. Make sure there's a reliable friend or family member he can call if/when he's gotta go do his job, but then leave it to him to cope with. If he's not an abusive father that u have to worry about his hurting or neglecting the kids, it'll be OK. He will work it out & it may even prove a bonding experience for he & the kids as well as an experience that encourages him to have some confidence in himself to be able to do some of the things with & for the kids that u accomplish so efficiently in a day.

Pamela - posted on 02/21/2014

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Am so grateful to Dr Okole for what he has done for me,At first i was thing he was a scam and also thinking if i was doing the right,But when i decided to contact him i told him my problem he laughed and told me that everything will be okay within 48hours,So i decided to give it a try in which i contacted him he told me that i should remove all taught from my mind and be happy,Really on the second day i just got a cal from someone.The person was weeping then i decided to ask who was i speaking to then he called his name Perry i was shocked i asked him what happened he said he is really sorry for what he has done to me for the past 3years for leaving me alone.That i should please forgive him that he will make it up with me.So then i said let him come over which he did as he was coming he got me a new car and also said i should have access to his account top prove to me that he will never leave me for anything now we are bought together. if you need his help you can contact him via his Email DROKOLESOLUTIONTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM

BESTIE - posted on 02/02/2014

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HELLO I just wanted to say thank you so much for doing this for me and many others. At the beginning of the break up I felt like I would never love again and that my life has ended. Thanks to all your advice, I now have the courage to face every new day. My heart has healed tremendously and I feel like I can now really move on. If it wasn’t for your words then I would probably still be in that dark place of my life. Thank you, thank you!”drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail. com

Clara - posted on 01/20/2014

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Getting my Ex back my name is Clara. I've known Johnson for years, When we finally got together things were kind of weird so we broke up which was in February of 2011 In June of 2012 he and I recently got back together and we were together until march of 2013 which he told me he was not interested in relationship again During that time I changed completely, I wasn't eating,I was sleeping a lot, I wasn't talking to anybody, I cried a lot,I'm so depressed and stressed out that I'm scared I'm going to end up in the hospital because of all the stress and depression until one day i search online on getting love tips because I Love & care about him deeply and I just want us to be together as a couple again and I want us to last forever Google recommend me okija7demons@gmail.com that he will solve my relationship problem then priest okija told me he will come back to me between 48hrs after he cast spell on him never believe it until my fiance called me on the phone and told me he want us to come back and live happy together forever , Am so happy now that priest okija, help me bring Johnson back to me. Thanks so much priest okija his email:okija7demons@gmail.com

Penny - posted on 01/17/2014

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Hello i am penny ,I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how i got my ex love back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month,But when i meet a friend that introduce me to DR AGBOGU the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to DR AGBOGU about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact DR AGBOGU at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: agbogunmagichome @ gmail . com and get your problems solve like me..

Miracle - posted on 01/16/2014

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oh i am exactly the same as you... i'm so stress to my husband too.. as you said he just sit on hes ass while we doing our house chores.. why can't they understand that it is hard for us to do the house chores while taking care of kids? my husband also work for 8-9hrs and come home when he wants... he usually go out without saying anything to me.. sleep as long as he wants even my baby cries out loud he doesn't care as if he didn't hear anything.. while me waking up 7am to start my house chores and sleep at 2am! im so tired! how can i handle this??? i want to save our relationship for my baby... i dont really know what to do.. im not happy in my life :(

Kadijaah - posted on 12/01/2013

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Hello im nineteen ,and im having my firstborn Muslim child.This is just exactly what i wanted.But i never knew dealing with the father was so hard.Like its so crazy that i have to constantly clean after this man .he leaves such big messes and expects me to clean it because im his Muslim wife.and the thing about it is that he smokes hell of weed he constantly drinks beers everyday and hes a yeller .he likes to yell and scream alot .sorta like a screaming animal who'sreally mad.i never get credit for all i do to keep the house in top shape.i have arthritis,and high blood pressure with a baby growing in me .now that's hard to deal with.me , my lord,my fully grown fionce and a growing baby.come on.like i understand you work 9 days a week ..but i don't need all that furiousness ...yamean...i need help with this i can't do everything on my own..and of course i have small dissabilities for a reason..in other words i can't do everything alone..in gonna need help along the way.not bashing absurd comments

Meghan - posted on 11/17/2013

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Okay. I have been here before and COMPLETELY understand what you're dealing with. The problem is that he is still living in the past. He still sees your relationship as it was when he was working more and making more money. The problem is that your lives are different now and you need to get him on the same page. I have four children and have been married for five years. For about a year and a half of that my husband was either unemployed or was working a job where he worked part time hours, however, he still felt I should be doing the same amount or more of the housework and childcare then I was when working full time. Men need a wake up call. Subtlety escapes them. You almost have to beat them over the head with the fact you're fed up and this will no longer fly. It's either get a better job or get with the program and start truly helping. I am not proud to say this but I actually had to treat him like a child once and remove the video games from the house. I recommend first sitting down with him and calmly explaining how your lives have changed and how you need his help and support to have the house running smoothly. Always say "Need" in the conversation as much as possible. Men love to be needed. After this conversation, If you need his assistance bring his attention directly to what you need. Again men don't get subtle and often aren't paying a bit of attention to just how frustrated we are. He's also used to you doing everything on your own and may not think to help. If he seems to be resistant to your asking for help, then it never hurts to stick him with the complete house to care for. I've done this with our new born twins and my husband was never more happy to see me. He felt he was above helping clean and care for the children, so I left for the afternoon. I said I needed a break or I would loose my mind and I handed him the kids and left! Everyone lived but my husband had a much better understand of what I do all day. If none of these suggestions have worked and he tells you again that you don't work, then write him a bill. Go online and see how much it costs for a house keeper, professional, chef, and daycare for all your children. Hand him said bill and ask for your share of the house hold money. If he seems reluctant to pay, say what this is what I do all day isn't it? This is what I would get paid if I went else where! Maybe you should appreciate what you have. If after all this he still doesn't appreciate you, you might want to consider another spouse. Another small tip, find out his parents dynamic often times his parents relationship will give you some insight in to the way your spouses mind works. Good Luck!!

User - posted on 11/12/2013

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What a beautiful and wonderful testimony some
time things you don't believe can just happen. My
name is santo cruiz, from uk am 26 years old i got
married at the age of 25 i have only one child and i
was living happily .After one year of my marriage
my husband behavior became so strange and i don't
really understand what was going on, he packed out
of the house to another woman i love him so much
that i never dream's of losing him, i try my possible
best to make sure that my husband get back to me
but all to no avail i cry and i cry seeking for help i
discussed it with my best friend and she promise to
help me he told me of a man called Dr baba, he is
a very great man and a real man that can be trusted
and there is nothing concerning love issues he
cannot do that is why they call him Dr baba. I
contacted his email address at
( okutemple@hotmail.com) And i told him
everything that happen all he told me is that i
should not worry that all my problems will be solved
immediately. He told me what to do to get my
husband back and i did, he said after 3days my
husband will come back to me and start begging, it
really happen i was very surprise and very, very
happy our relationship was now very tight and we
both live happily again. So my advice for you now is
to contact this same email
address:okutemple@hotmail.com, if you are in
any kind of situation concerning love issues and any
other things that give you problems. THANKS

Jakan - posted on 11/09/2013

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My name is mrs marisa I wish to
share my testimonies with the general public about
what this man called DR.banzuma iyere has just done for
me ,
this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband to
me with his great spell, I was married to this man
called john we were together for a long time and we
loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a
child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t
continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to
get him back until a friend of mine told me about this
man and gave his contact email to me:
Drbanzumaspelltemple@gmail.com then you won't believe
this when I contacted this man on my problems he
prepared this spell cast and bring my lost husband
back, and after a month I miss my month and go for a
test and the result stated am pregnant am happy
today
am a mother of a baby girl, thank you once again the
great DR.banzuma iyere for what you have done for me, if
you
are out there passing through any of this problems
listed below:
1) If you want your ex back.
(2) if you always have bad dreams.
(3) You want to be promoted in your office.
(4) You want women/men to run after you.
(5) If you want a child.
(6) If you need financial assistance.
(7) If you have an HIV and you want to be cure.
contact him now for immediate solution of your
problems on drbanzumaspelltemple@gmail.com

Jakan - posted on 11/09/2013

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My name is mrs marisa I wish to
share my testimonies with the general public about
what this man called DR.banzuma iyere has just done for
me ,
this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband to
me with his great spell, I was married to this man
called john we were together for a long time and we
loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a
child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t
continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to
get him back until a friend of mine told me about this
man and gave his contact email to me:
Drbanzumaspelltemple@gmail.com then you won't believe
this when I contacted this man on my problems he
prepared this spell cast and bring my lost husband
back, and after a month I miss my month and go for a
test and the result stated am pregnant am happy
today
am a mother of a baby girl, thank you once again the
great DR.banzuma iyere for what you have done for me, if
you
are out there passing through any of this problems
listed below:
1) If you want your ex back.
(2) if you always have bad dreams.
(3) You want to be promoted in your office.
(4) You want women/men to run after you.
(5) If you want a child.
(6) If you need financial assistance.
(7) If you have an HIV and you want to be cure.
contact him now for immediate solution of your
problems on drbanzumaspelltemple@gmail.com

Eathen - posted on 10/05/2013

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Eathen 29 )Tell him that you are recovering from him and he arnt getting any tittie for awhile until he can respect you .

123 - posted on 09/27/2013

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What a beautiful and wonderful testimony!!!
My name is KATE ANDY from UK i was in a very serous problems two years ago and i have sick for help many times until i found a man on net who help me.Well, i was in a very serous relationship that two years ago, this relationship was so tight and we promise each other know body on earth can ever tear us apart we were bout happy with each other my parents heat him so much that they don’t even want him around me they even drove me out of the house just because of him my parents this own me i have know were to go except his house i move to his house and we were bout together our relationship was going on fine, so one day something happen he brought a beautiful young girl into the house to help us i was not really happy about it but i just cope with it and everything was still going on fine, something happen again so my nabob ask me if i have not been seeing what is happening in my house between my boyfriend and the new girl? really i desired to find out and i discover that my guy was still dating the girl on my behalf under the same roof so when i try to ask my boyfriend JOHN SIRRAH he say to me if he does not have the right to do what so ever he likes that we are not yet married he really broke my heart or doled i was still in his house my nabob ask me if am going to continue like this forever that there is a man who can help me makes my boyfriend stop cheating on me and to love me as my heart so desire my nabob ask me if am ready to do it i agreed so she told me to contact the man email address called(agbalagbaspellcast@gmail.com) i contacted him and i told him what happen he told me some things that i will have to do to get everything sickord with my boyfriend and after i have see the result within the next 7 days then i will come and please the oracle for a job well done so it really come to pass and i was very happy,and to cult everything shout me and my boyfriend was now very happy together as before.
So if you are in any situation concerning love issues troubles, or any order things please contact this email address (agbalagbaspellcast@gmail.com) he is there
to help you.
THANK’S……

Janis A - posted on 09/21/2013

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You can learn to provide for yourself and your children. Life is very different today with relationships under so much stress and pressure. The unfortunate side of this is that many words and actions can physiologically change your brain and you will not be the same person. Therefore you cannot love a husband such as yours. Why try? Become a superwoman! It's a great goal for women and no more stressful than what you go thru now. Ditch your lousy mean husband pronto getting every single thing you can that you want out of the sloth and begin your new Superwoman Supermom life. Get your children to understand why and what you are doing to gain their emotional support. And get to know all the single moms that you can to share time and stories with. The can be a great support group.

GERRALD - posted on 09/16/2013

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My Name is Amanda Nash from USA. My boyfriend had been gone for about 7 months, I contacted Dr.OSUSU from other testifiers and within a few minutes of speaking with him, I realized that Dr.OSUSU spell was the one person whom I could completely trust. I didn’t expect the spell would work so fast. Within 48 hours, my boyfriend was back in my life. I want to express my warmest gratitude to Dr. OSUSU spell Temple. I’ll never ever forget all the happiness you gave me. I’ll like to share his contact email:greatosususpelltemple@gmail.com OR his phone number +2347063164747

James - posted on 09/09/2013

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I want to say thank you thank you thank you to DR EBOEHI for everything so far. To everyone who doesn’t believe in spell, I was one of those ones at first. I wasn’t quite sure if I wanted to do this since I’ve tried others so-called spells casters and they did not work and was a waste of my time and money. However, when I read through the testimonials of other people at this website and after I talked DR EBOEHI who answered all my questions and was very nice about everything, I decided to give it a try. I figured it would be my last try to get my guy back. So my story is that I was at my office when the guy I am in love with told me that he wasn’t in love with me and never will be and that he didn’t want to speak or see me again, especially since he was talking to this other girl. When I talked to eboehispellcaster@gmail.com he let me know which spells would be most appropriate for me and I chose the ones that was to get him back to me and stay with me and want to marry me.As soon as he started on the spells, my guy came back into my life! It was a miracle to me and I’m so thankful for that. Things have been going well, and pretty much according to what Dr EBOEHI said would happen. He’s always there when you need him and that’s also after the spell is done. I’m still waiting for the spells to completely manifest, but with all that has happened so far I’m very happy because given only four months ago in March, if you asked me or my friends if I would have anticipated how things were right now…no one would believe it! Lara. contact is email address eboehispellcaster@gmail.com

James - posted on 09/09/2013

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I want to say thank you thank you thank you to DR EBOEHI for everything so far. To everyone who doesn’t believe in spell, I was one of those ones at first. I wasn’t quite sure if I wanted to do this since I’ve tried others so-called spells casters and they did not work and was a waste of my time and money. However, when I read through the testimonials of other people at this website and after I talked DR EBOEHI who answered all my questions and was very nice about everything, I decided to give it a try. I figured it would be my last try to get my guy back. So my story is that I was at my office when the guy I am in love with told me that he wasn’t in love with me and never will be and that he didn’t want to speak or see me again, especially since he was talking to this other girl. When I talked to eboehispellcaster@gmail.com he let me know which spells would be most appropriate for me and I chose the ones that was to get him back to me and stay with me and want to marry me.As soon as he started on the spells, my guy came back into my life! It was a miracle to me and I’m so thankful for that. Things have been going well, and pretty much according to what Dr EBOEHI said would happen. He’s always there when you need him and that’s also after the spell is done. I’m still waiting for the spells to completely manifest, but with all that has happened so far I’m very happy because given only four months ago in March, if you asked me or my friends if I would have anticipated how things were right now…no one would believe it! Lara. contact is email address eboehispellcaster@gmail.com

Joyce - posted on 09/06/2013

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Hello I am joyce Moore ,I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex love back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month, But when i meet a friend that introduce me to Dr agbalagb the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to Dr gbalagb about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Dr agbalagba at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: adagbalagbaspellcast@gmail.com. and get your problems solve like me..... ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: agbalagbaspellcast@gmail.c

Joyce - posted on 09/05/2013

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Hello I am joyce Moore ,I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex love back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month, But when i meet a friend that introduce me to Dragbalagb the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to Dr gbalagb about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Dr Odia at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: odagbalagbaspellcast@gmail.com. and get your problems solve like me..... ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: agbalagbaspellcast@gmail.com

Sarahclark901 - posted on 08/16/2013

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My Name Sarah Clark, I just want you to know that benson went back home yesterday! This is the most wonderful day in my life and this is because of you! I never will find enough strong words to express you my gratitude. Thank you from your friend.”if you need please contact is email madurai@yahoo.com

User - posted on 08/15/2013

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mrs keith.brand | 7/18/2013 15:43:34 pM |
Good Day Every One On This Sites,,

I have a testimony to share,,My Name is Mrs keith.brand am from the United State Of America am now 54years old Am a Medical doctor in California,I married for about 24years ago without any child then me and my husband go for an adoption of 2kids male/female.
Last years something wonderful and gracious happened to me i came across this witch doctor IMONG in the internet that promise to help me get pregnant which i totally disagree,,,How can i be pregnant looking my age he ask me not to worry that he only specialize on pregnancy no other. That after the job has been completed there is no any side effect,that was how he told me what to do which i did, could you believe i miss my periodical time that same Month and i was pregnant.Today am now the happiest woman on Earth,,While am i testify to this site i know there are a lot of people that are in this kind of trouble some will decide to commit suicide.
please just do and contact him for help make him to understand that Mrs keith.brand from USA direceted you, his email imongspiritualtemple@priest.com or websit www.imongspiritualangelictemple.webs.com

User - posted on 08/07/2013

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Hello I am Joy Micheal ,I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex lover back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month, But when i meet a friend that introduce me to DR GREAT OSOBA the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to DR GREAT OSOBA about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact DR GREAT OSOBA at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: greatosobaspelltemple@gmail. com. and get your problems solve like me..... ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: greatosobaspelltemple@gmail. com

User - posted on 08/02/2013

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Hello I am Joy Micheal ,I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex lover back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month, But when i meet a friend that introduce me to DR GREAT OSOBA the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to DR GREAT OSOBA about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact DR GREAT OSOBA at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: greatosobaspelltemple@gmail. com. and get your problems solve like me..... ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: greatosobaspelltemple@gmail. com

Geefin - posted on 08/02/2013

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SUSAN IS MY NAME

I AM MARRIAGE WITH TWO KINDS AND WITH MY HUSBAND, WE WHERE HAPPLY AND LOVINGLY LIVING TOGETHER FOR GOOD 9YEARS..UNTIL LAST 5 MONTHS NOW WHEN MY MARRIAGE GRADUALLY GOING DOWN AND I BEGIN TO FEEL PAIN IN ME AND IN MY HOME..MY HUSBAND WILL TELL ME THAT HE DON’T LOVE ME ANY MORE..AND THAT IS HOW I COME AND CROSS THE MAN CALLED PROPHET OGBOGBO ON THIS SAME SIT AND WHEN I MET WITH HIM HE TOLD ME NEVER TO WORRY THAT EVERY THING IS GOING TO BE FINE, HE TOLD ME THAT MY LOVER WILL BE BACK WITHIN 24 HOURS AND NOW IT LOOK’S LIKE A MIRACLE TO ME..MY HUSBAND HAS COME BACK TO ME, AND HE IS NOW THE KIND OF MAN I WANT HIM TO BE NOW. HE IS NOW SUBMITTED TO ME.

THANKS YOU PROPHET OGBOGBO YOU ARE A GREAT MAN AND A GOOD FATHER

YOU CAN CONTACT HIS EMAIL VIA>>>>>>>>>>>spiritualprophtictemple@gmail.com

User - posted on 03/22/2013

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My late husband was pretty much the same, he did have a job though & he also had an addiction to alcohol, pot & gambling. So as you can well imagine on pay day where he was spending all his time and money. I had a part time job & we had two kids as well. I never made enough to pay all the bills, groceries, diapers or anything else. I left him several times and was a fool to return with the kids to him after he would promise to quit all his bad habits ( that never lasted long) So finally the kids and I moved a heck of a lot further away from him for 6 months, I found a job full time and loved it my in-laws cared for the children while I was at work the kids were adjusting well to life without their father, he tried getting me to send him $$ to pay his rent & his bills?! Told him he was totally ridiculous! He never sent me a dime to care for his kids! And wants me to send him $$ so he could probably blow it at the local bar! Don't think so! Slammed the phone on the reciever! He did not call back! lol ( he never paid the rent or any other bills & was evicted ) he talked his mom into letting him move out to their place to be with us ( she totally caved cause I had no say in the matter) but he first had to go to rehab ( which he tried several times before & it never stuck) he did good for a short period of time & then got booted from his parent's place! Then finally he really did miss being with the kids and me so much that he quit drinking, gambling and smoking pot. He became a better stronger man, father & husband. We had a great year and a half together before he passed away.
If he doesn't appreciate your presence make him appreciate your absence, you & your childern do deserve a lot better then what he is giving you.

Omo - posted on 03/04/2013

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I am Marilyn and I am from Ontario in Canada, I am 45years old and I just got

married in my life for the first time last year ago. Thanks to THE

GREAT DR.UGUEL for this wonderful miracle and blessing that he brought to

my life, usually he does not posting and he believed that what is

yours will never leave you and that you can have what ever you want in

life only if you believe.
When I was younger I tried finding love but every man that comes my

way have never spent 2 months with me without leaving, and my family

called me so many abusive names and say that I will never get married

in time, even my younger sister and brother were already married with

2 kids each and were happily married.
But until last year back when I came across THE GREAT DR.UGUEL and I

told him all about myself and I told him that I am 45years old and single and
I want a man in my life. All is said was that I will have a man

and will be the one that I will truly love that he will cast a spell

for me that when men sees me that they will rush after me and he also

said that I will have a child and now thanks to DR.UGUEL THE GREAT, I

meet my husband last year just one week after the spell was cast on me

and every spiritual curse on me were destroyed and broken, I got

married to him February this year and I am 7 month pregnant with my

own kid for my husband all thanks to DR.UGUEL, you can contact DR.UGUEL

for help his {email is DRUGUELSPELLHOME@GMAIL.COM}.
He also help me of my depress.

Amanda - posted on 04/15/2009

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Wow sounds like you do need some time off! It also sounds like your husband is a little sensitive about being lazy, which is why he blows up everytime you mention it. You do have a right to be pissed. You are willing to take on alot as long as he is too, right? I'm thinking things will get better or your just just get used to it, but in case that doesn't happen change what you do for him, don't do as much. It sounds like neither one of you are happy and maybe you should look at that closer. In the mean time, get a sitter, go out BY YOURSELF and just breath for awhile. If you don't you won't be any good to your kids and you'll eventually go insane. Figure out what you want and if he's it. Take care, Amanda

KerrieLynn - posted on 04/15/2009

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I have always found that when I don't get help around the house, that soup and sandwichs a couple of nights in a row for dinner usually do the trick.........also my husband is more of a neat nut than me so if he doesn't like how I do something he gets to do it himself.... as a result after 11 years together, I cook, he cleans up the dinner dishes, and he does the laundry as he does not like how I put away the clean clothes...

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Quoting Barbara:

How do I get my husband to appreciate me more?

I work my ass off around the house, am constantly stressed out with the kids, and yet my husband seems to think that "telling" me he appreciates me enough isn't good enough. Yesterday I worked my ass off cleaning the house, I did the dishes, cooked chicken parmesan, corn on the cob, and salad for dinner (hardly any help except for when i had to breastfeed), my son was clinging on my leg the whole time while my husband was playing ps2!!!!! He's always rubbing in my face that I don't work, when I kill myself making everybody else happy and am constantly cleaning up after him. He has some stupid job where he is on call 24/7 doing roadside assistance. He barely makes enough money to pay the rent, maybe about 800 a month. He hardly ever gets a call in the middle of the night, but last night a 1 he did. Then when he got home from the call, he stayed up til 4 am playing video games. So this morning at 8 am when my 2 year old was waking up, i ask him can he please get up with him because i was just so tired from the day before, and he completely blows me off. so of course i'm pissed. He said he couldn't sleep last night because I am stressing him out!!!!!!!!!! (try taking care of 4 ppl you ass hole) SO wtf. U only want to sleep and be awake when it's convient for you??? What about ME??!?!!?!? He does the dishes once and says he's been helping out. Um, there are 4 ppl in this house, there's way more than just one load of dishes. He used to have a reguler 9 hours a day job and then i didn't mind doing all of the cooking cleaning and child rearing. and now all he does is sit on his ass. And when I ask him for help, I get chewed out for it, like I'm calling him lazy or something, all i'm doing is asking for hlep. But if one of his stupid friends calls and asks him for a ride or help with something (and that's ALL they ever call him for) he has no problem doing it and most of the time blows me off to do it! I feel like I'm going to go insane, all I hear all day is bitching, from the kids, and from him. I just want some peace and quiet for a little while. when is it going to be my turn to relax? i wish i could just drive away for a few hours, even if i had to spend a total of 45 min. changing someone's tire and unlockinh their car. i feel like i can't even enjoy my kids b/c i am so stressed out and when i tell him these things, he acts like i am wrong for feeling this way and that it's my job so i have to deal with it.


Hi Barbara i think you shoud leave him with the kids for a day or two and finally you guys shoud see a counselo, you do not have a 9to 5 but a 24 hour job that needs the healp of your husband

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Quoting Barbara:

lol. I don't know if I could do that! LOL. The kids would get freaking out without me lol. He hasn't had to take care of the 2 of them by himself since... umm.... I think EVER!



Yes, the kids never want you to leave, but you have to want to change things.



Start with a 5 minute trip to the local shop to get the milk while the kids are asleep, then with them awake but mellow, then with them roaring and just pop out to get some milk. Then lengthen the periods by 15 minutes, until he suddenly finds he can cope, you don't feel so hemmed in, and the kids know they've got two parents that care.



It is about training yourself to not be indispensible as much as training him to be helpful.

Barbara - posted on 04/08/2009

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Wait, no, I did go out one night, but my 2 year old was in bed asleep before I left so technically, I don't think that counts!

Barbara - posted on 04/08/2009

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lol. I don't know if I could do that! LOL. The kids would get freaking out without me lol. He hasn't had to take care of the 2 of them by himself since... umm.... I think EVER!

Andrea - posted on 04/05/2009

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this is a bit evil but get sick stay in bed start friday night let him handle the kids for a weekend you will end up with a mess but he will see what you go through each day ...a mist bottle makes good swet on your face

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I feel your pain, I am in the same boat. My only difference is my husband is always gone trying to keep our business afloat and I sell Pampered Chef. I can only do one party a month due to he fact that he refuse to do anything when I am gone litterally looks like a bomb went off, no baths. I can't even enjoy the couple hours I am away.  With 3 little ones my work is never done. When he is home he really isn't, I would give anything for an hour to myself. I feel horrible there are days when he walks through the door I just want to pickup my keys and walk right out, have know idea where I would go or what to do. I will use some of the other ladies suggestions see how it works. GOOD LUCK!   

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i'll try. thanks everyone for your help! i'm glad i'm not the only one who feels this way. things are getting better. today he took our son out to play so me n the baby could take a nap and then he folded all the laundry while i was asleep and put it away later on. amazing! lol

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Women and Men are different. Not bad just different.



Women want to feel loved. Are you feelin' the love?



Men want respect. Do you respect him?



I know that it can be difficult especially when times are highly stressed and tough.



Try this: One day walk in the room and say, "I respect you." and walk out of the room.



See what happens. I bet he wants a response for that one. If it works you can get back with me and I give you a little more information.

Marcelle - posted on 04/05/2009

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Commiserations. It may be hard while you're still breastfeeding, but put your timeout higher on your priority list. Hubby always moaned about the way I cleaned the bathrooms. So I gave him the job and stopped doing it. It only took one weekend for him to permanently take it on.



We have eventually reached a compromise, I do all the cooking, washing, ironing and most of the shopping, and he does the yard and most of the cleaning nowadays and he has a 12 hour a day stressful job.



Don't be a martyr, that is how some men keep getting away with it. While he may be feeling stressed himself with not providing as he would like to, fighting is not helping either of you.



Spend some time with him, even if it is through gritted teeth in the beginning. Don't say anything that is not at least civil. Even if it just starts as 15 minutes after the children are in bed. Neither of you have to talk. If you are both physically in the same space and awake and not talking about the children or the house, you will (fingers crossed) start building a bridge between the two of you. My children are older now, we spend about an hour together most nights, some of them I'm xstitiching away and he is deep in his newspaper and some we have really lovely conversations. We're 2 different people not always on the same page, but there is that time to talk about stuff we don't particulary want to share over the dinner table.



Good luck, raising small children, breastfeeding, and a job that is not wanted are a recipe for trouble. With some care, the whole family can see through this trough and get to better times.

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Well back to your question, I've often found that by changing the way I do things has a huge impact towards being appreciated by my husband.  For example, change up your routine with housework and the kids.  Make a schedule for what needs to be done...for each day of the week, ie/ laundry MON, WED, and FRI, cleaning bathroom TUES,THURS, etc.  Putting music on while you're doing these mundane chores helps ALOT. 



I know how hard it is to juggle everything yourself, with little or no help from your husband, I too married an 'old-fashioned' type that thinks the wife is responsible for everything in the house and the kids.  My husband actually calls it "my kitchen" - like I'm the only one who eats food !  Whatever, I have come to understand you won't change someone who doesn't want to change, so you have to make a decision - can you live with things the way they are, or change it up ... even if that just means making time in the day to do things you enjoy, and venting to your friends whenever possible...that helps me. 



You're not alone, girl.  Start with little changes, get out of the house some more, too.  Sometimes those 4 walls can seem like they're closing in on you.  Spring's here now, so try to get out for walks everyday, with the kids, or without (if possible) and make some friends with people around, it'll give you a new perspective on things.  Hope I've been helpful !!



 

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