How do I help my child be more socialable with other kids

Brenda - posted on 03/30/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I just started my child in a program to prepare him for school.He is so insecure. He cries and cries when I leave. His cousin goes to the same program and my son is stuck to him like glue, and will not play with any other kids. When he goes to school his cousin will not be there at the same school and I'm afraid that he won't be able to interact with any other children. Anyone else with this sort of problem?

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Michelle - posted on 03/30/2009

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How old is your son?  More time may be the answer.  One of my sons had the same problem, and we chose not to push him.  He was only away from me about once a week, and then we put him in the same class (Sunday school) as his older brother.  As he's grown he has naturally developed more confidence and is fine going to Sunday school and his weekly AWANA meeting all by himself.



Realize that the whole idea of small children leaving their mothers and spending the day (or part of the day) with strange teachers and a roomful of other kids is very new.  Kids didn't go to preschool in the 50s, and one hundred years ago kids didn't even start school until they were closer to 8.  For many kids it is simply unreasonable to expect them to be ok with a school environment at 2, 3, 4 or even 5 years old.  You should also know that studies have shown that preschool programs are only beneficial to children who do not have the opportunity to stay home with caring, attentive mothers -- which means that if your son would rather be home with you, there is NO harm in letting him!  He will be just as well-adjusted and ready for school when it's time as he would be if he went to preschool, maybe even moreso since preschool is causing him so much anxiety.

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Supriya - posted on 03/31/2009

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I have a similar situation....Take my son to a program once a week.He cries the entire time we're there.We tried for over a month.He enjoys all the playgoups we go to, as long as I'm with him.I'm thinking of taking a break from the program for a while.

Amy - posted on 03/30/2009

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I would try setting up some playdates with another student in the class who is nice and your son seems to like.  Make it a short playdate - less than an hour, set up some activities (playdough, coloring, cars, trains) and end with a snack.  He may warm up more in his own home with only one other kid than in a classroom full of kids.  Hope this helps!








 

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