how do u deal wiv kids who wont do as they are told ?
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Melony - posted on 03/15/2009
I have 1 son age 7 and if he don't do what i tell him to i send him to his room and make him sit on his bed with no playing ,no nothing for like 20 minutes and make him think about why he's there. If that don't work then i bring in DADDY :)
User - posted on 03/15/2009
BUT ALWAYS REMEMBER TO BE AT EYE LEVEL WITH THE KIDS WHEN TALKING TO THEM.MAKE THEM STAND AND U SIT ON BENDED KNEES IN FRONT OF THEM.HOLD THEM BY THEIR SHOULDERS IF U THINK THEY WILL RUN AWAY.MAKE AN EYE CONTACT THEN TELL THEM WHAT U WANT.I HAVE 6YEAR OLD VERY NAUGHTY TWIN BOYS THIS WORKS FOR ME.
When you are dealing with a child or children who won't listen the first thing you could do is give them one chance and with that you could say " I am giving you this one chance to do as you are told and if you do not do just that you will have a consequence and that consequence will be a time out...always give a time out for the age of the child for instance if they r 9 you give them 9 minutes and if that time out isnt a success then go to part 2 and that will be...Ok now I gave you 1 chance and you didnt listen which resulted a time out and in this time out you failed to sit there and behave appropriately so now you will be loosing ur playstation 2 or outside time or you cant go to a friends house,keep consistent,and always go with the thing that they enjoy the most for taking away,it may at first cause havock but you have to stand your ground and not let them walk all over you and let them know that you arent tolerating it anymore that if they cant listen then they lose stuff and theres consequences for not listening,I need to stress to you that you need to be consistent from the day you wstatr on and I guarentee you it will get betta! They always say that things get worse before they get betta and that is true but don't back down and you will see improvement! Keep me posted and lemme kno if ya tried anything I suggested! Sorry if there are any typos...Im pretty tired lol!
Jylana - posted on 03/14/2009
I use 1-2-3 Magic. There are lots of books about it. All written by Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D. It is an excellant discipline program and surprizingly a rather easy read. I hate to read self help books but this one was simply written and sort of funny!! We use it with all of our children and it has done wonders especially with our ADHD child (who is not medicated at this time). His self esteem has improved so much with this program. It is very simple to implement too. I hope you find it as helpful as we do! Good luck!
Linda - posted on 03/14/2009
When my daughter won't do as she's told she gets a 4 minute timeout. Which is usually includes a bit of screaming but by the end of it she usually starts to listen...
my grandkids are 6, 4 & 3. they live with me & hubby, they have been through so much in their lives. just dont listen, mostly with me. thanx for your reply
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