How do you get a 10 year old girl to clean her room and keep it that way?

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Janet - posted on 09/14/2012

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Hi i have a 10 year old turning 11 in 4 weeks I am having trouble with her .Trying to get her to clean her room put dirty clothes in the wash without frighting I am having a baby in 14 weeks and trying to teach her jobs around the house i have stop her using laptop and tv until her room clean but sometime she tells me i will do it tomorrow next day and on and on she.trying tell me what to do when do it . she have same jobs to get pocket money feeding the dog help with the dishes clean her room every day but when it cames to her room she doesn't want to do it sometimes she tidy her room up and throwing stuff under her bed etc . She doesn't like to be told and so over it what other ways to explain about keeping her room tidy and respect me and help out ,she is older to know to do three things every day without a fright. I have done chart when she was little thinking of doing other chat like teaching a 4 year old . I will try that see if that works .

Sarah - posted on 06/09/2012

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I have tried rewards, punishment, removing things, etc... my 10yr old just puts everything under her bed behind her bed, or in the closet, and she has her corners piled high with stuff. I have had a friend come over several times to help me clean and organize within a few days stuff is everywhere. I have tried just closing the door but even things she needs we have to search for to find because she never remembers to put it away even if I tell her 10 times. If I don't stand there and watch it doesn't get done.

Sherri - posted on 12/24/2010

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Honestly it isn't a big deal to me that my kids rooms are spotless. They have to live in it I don't as long as I can close the door and not look at it I am good. I figure it is the one place that is there's. As long as laundry and bedding is washed and clean, I don't sweat the small stuff.

Trinna - posted on 06/25/2012

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my daughter loses activities and the tv,computer etc when her room is not clean.

Ron - posted on 06/24/2012

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We let our daughter pretty much have the room any way she wanted, guess what, now shes owns her own home she's a neatness freak lol.

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Barbara - posted on 12/13/2012

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I have 2 sons and the oldest has all of his legos all over the floor (all those small pieces) and it does not concern him at all. My youngest son is neat for a boy and he has his bed made before going to school and hangs up all his clothes and hangs up his uniform without me asking him. When I come in my oldest son's room with the vacumn cleaner I tell him you better pick up those small pieces and he tells me he does not care I tell him okay no more legos and boy does he quickly pick them up. They have rules the bed must be made, clothes hung up and books on the shelf nothing on the floor on Friday afternoon cos thats when I clean the floors. Thats all I expect from them for now (ages are 6 and 8). When they get to be 12 they will have a good list to keep up with.

Beverly - posted on 12/10/2012

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first,tell her ur going 2 get her a snack and a fun trip and say its that if she keps it clean for as long as a month she will get a fun trip.

Jennifer - posted on 12/22/2010

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idk i mean dont let her do anything until it is clean give a week of that and it is still not clean go through and throw junk and stuff he or ddoes not need

Theresa - posted on 10/14/2009

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I HEAR YOU! The basics have to be done which is no garbage, laundry in the hamper, laundry has to be put away before it gets messed up. That's it. Reward charts, punishments never seem to work. I do try not to let them have too much "stuff" so it doesn't get to bad. Make them go through things when the going gets rough, they hate that, so they try to keep it clean so it doesn't get to that point. MY number one rule, close the door!

Ginger - posted on 10/12/2009

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They do not know how to clean at this age. They should, but they don't. I would make a list for her to go by and I would give her a time limit. If she is successful, I would give her a small reward. Is she is not the only suggestion I have is to supervise her as she goes.

Beth - posted on 10/11/2009

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Sorry to say, sadly, you don't. I have two girls and one boy, and he keeps his room the neatest! Just shut the door, and once a week, or once a month, go in with them, and clean it, and tell them you saw this, you saw that, and if it is a private thing you saw...eventually they won't want you to see it! Even though it is your house, it is thier room,,,and we all need our space...I am very easy going, and a clean freak. But picking what to argue over makes life easier...if she wants to be somewhere, give her fair warning..."not till your room is cleaned the way I would do it"...worked for me, now my oldest daughter is almost 15, she even does her own wash! Good luck!

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I give my 9 & 12 yr old the day to clean and I tell them that whatever is not put away by 7pm is mine. Then at 7pm I go in the room and remove into a timeout bag everything that is not put away.

Sandi - posted on 10/11/2009

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Chore chart and rewards work great for me and my sister. My twins who are six have chores like "clothes in hamper", "tidy room", "brush teeth" things like that. If they earn 150 points in two weeks, they get a reward. It doesn't have to be expensive, and it doesn't have to be something they choose. The surprise is half the fun. My twins earned their points and I took them on the riverboat last weekend. It was just a $5 ride down the river, but they were so tickled at it! It renewed their verve for keeping up with chores this week. I made a simple chart, put it in a sheet protector, and let them mark off their chores with a dry-erase marker. I have a 'morning' and 'evening' list, and tally up their points daily. Next week I am thinking maybe the bargain movie ($2 per person) or I have a CD put away for them too.

Angela - posted on 10/10/2009

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We usually do our house cleaning on the weekends with the kids. Depending on how bad it is, determines if we are in the room with them to supervise. Otherwise, we usually tell them what to do and turn on the radio to "rock out" while cleaning. It makes the chore easier and quicker for us and them.

Adrienne - posted on 10/10/2009

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we try to encourage our 9 year old daughter to do it as she goes. the clothes go in the laundry hamper, not on the floor, etc. anything that isn't done during the week she has to do before she gets to go out and play on saturday. she has found that her time to play is a lot longer when she doesn't have to clean all day so she's really made a point to try to get it all done so she has her weekend. we don't allow the tv to be on while she's cleaning but she can crank up her stereo and that seems to help her motivation too. She also gets a small allowance for keeping her room clean, feeding her pets and just generally helping out.

Missy - posted on 10/09/2009

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You don't! :) Seriously, some kids just don't have that clean gene and just don't care! I've tried everything under the sun from organizational items, reward charts, showing her how and where to put stuff, punishments, guilt, praises when she does do it (after I make her) etc. and I haven't found anything that works. She's 14 now and her whole life she's been messy. I've just let it go. I require her to clean it well, vaccum, and take her dirty clothes to the laundry once a week. The rest of the time I just shut the door.That makes us both happy. I figure it's not worth getting upset with anymore because she won't be here forever. Just figure out a compromise that works for BOTH of you. The funny thing is once we agreed on once a week she does make more of an effort to keep it picked up than when i was nagging her every day.

Carrie - posted on 10/09/2009

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I also feel your pain my kids are 7 and 2 three year olds and none of them are very tidy. I feel as though all I do is clean this or that good luck with everything!

Natalie - posted on 10/09/2009

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I have an 11 year old girl who is also slob, the only way I can make her keep her room tidy is to remove privilege's until she tidies it. I do have to keep doing this as she forgets VERY quickly.

Teare - posted on 10/09/2009

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Gee, my 4 1/2 year old is this way! I had serious hopes it would change! My son, great at picking up. 1/2 the time I don't need to ask him.

Cindy - posted on 10/08/2009

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the key is to clean as you go. When she takes out a set of toys when she's done playing with it have her pick it up and put it where it belongs. My 7 year old loves clothes and shoes, but when she would get home from school she would leave everywhere to the point where no one could find them and i was always buying her shoes. So I bought her a shoe rack and as soon as she walks in the door she needs to take them off and put them away. When she doesn't do it i stop her from what she's doing and gently remind her to put her shoes away. For the most part she does it on her own and I follow this same technique with keeping her room clean. Incentives didn't work because she was just shoving everything under bed and her closets.

Dana - posted on 10/08/2009

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Christy, if you get a great response on this, please pass it onto me...I FEEL YOUR PAIN!!!!! My 11 year old daughter can be such a slob...she'll clean her room and within 24 hours it will look like a tornado swept thru!!!!

Deanna - posted on 10/07/2009

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I don't know...everything I tried hasn't worked. Her intention is good, but once she starts, she gets overwhelmed and stops and things pile up and up....Sorry, can't be much help....I am however, looking forward to some replies to your question.

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