how do you keep a child focused on morning routine without badgering them

Christi - posted on 08/11/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My daughter(6) has a hard time in the morning doing her routine of getting ready for school. She either gets distracted or she takes a long time doing a task. Last year was very stressful for the both of us to get out the door on time for the bus. I don't want to have that same experience this year. any suggestions would be appreciated.

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Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2010

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Hi Christi, I hope by now (since I'm late with this) you and your daughter have found a happy medium that works for the two of you! I tend to dread the morning routine only because I've gone through so many hectic battles all before even stepping foot in the garage! These are all fab suggestions, all of which I incorporate into my own routine! Prepping the night before is key: sign those school papers and declutter the backpack, go over (with your daughter) anything she may need to bring with her the next day (ie special book/toy for sharing, etc) and have it in the backpack already. I've made a list of 'chores' my kids have to follow to keep them chugging along (get dressed, put breakfast plates in the sink when finished, brush teeth, and get shoes on) once a time goes off. When they complete all this they get four play dollars (fake money) they can use to 'buy' things like extra time on the computer, a special playdate with a friend, the movies, etc. This has worked really well so far and our mornings have been a lot less stressful because of it. Good luck!

Julie - posted on 08/11/2010

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Every night before bed, we lay out the clothes and shoes they are wearing the next day and make sure everything is in their backpacks. Then all they have to do in the morning is get up, eat, brush teeth and hair, and go out to the bus.

It saves so much time not running around trying to find last minute things in the morning.

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Jacki - posted on 03/12/2011

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I must agree with all the moms when saying that the prep done the night before is MAJOR!! It has worked wonders for my son in the morning!

Beth - posted on 03/12/2011

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My daughter is 6 and in kindergarten. We do the bath at night and lay her clothes out the night before. She does struggle with deciding on what she wants for breakfast and makes any excuse to not get dressed. My husband does the dropoff to the before school center, so it does get a bit stressful if our daughter is not ready in time for him to drive her there and get himself to work sometimes. She's been getting a bit better, but does need help at not getting as distracted. We won't let her watch any tv in the morning, unless she is all ready and there is time to spare.
Good luck! :)

Jessica - posted on 02/09/2011

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We created a daily "to do" list of the things she needs to do in the morning: wake up, get dressed, eat, bush her hair, brush her teeth, pack her bag, put on coat,shoes, hat ect. Yes, some of them are Mom's responsibilities, but it keeps us both on task and leaves her feeling accomplished, not stressed (me too). We also set out clothes the night before like someone else suggested.

Jennifer - posted on 02/09/2011

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I know this sounds awful, but I have my kids get dressed the night before. Most of their clothing is soft and appropriate to sleep in (i.e. not rough, constricting or easily wrinkled). I still struggle with the teeth brushing, shoes, backpacks, etc. but having them wake up dressed works well for me and they like it.

Roschelle - posted on 02/07/2011

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I love the idea of using play money to purchase things they want around the house. Not only is it giving them a little motivation to complete tasks, but also is making them a little money savy!!! I think I'm going to try this with my daughter because we battle every morning!!! and she's in first grade now. Thanks Jennifer L.

Linda - posted on 02/06/2011

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We instituted a magnet board this year that has every task my twins need to do before leaving (eat, meds, comb hair, brush teeth, etc). They then take the magnet down and put it in an envelope when completed. This has helped for afternoons and evenings also.

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Ugh. The dreaded morning routine!!!

No great advice here. Will be looking forward to reading all the suggestions. We need them as much as you do!

Becky - posted on 08/31/2010

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My daughter is notorious for this also. She knows what she's supposed to do, but finds other things to distract her attention in the Am. We moved getting ready for school to the night before including showering, back pack ready, making lunch, etc, and yet she still has to add last minute things right as we are walking out the door. "oh, but wait Mom, I need this form filled out" you know the one she didn't tell me about the night before. She'll come up with just about everything she needs, if we're already running late . . . . I don't know how to get her to move in the morning with out the drama and practically following her around to make sure she's not getting distracted.

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give yourself lots of time to get ready and have a schedule. Make a fun poster that shows everything she has to do with some velcro and a namecard that she can move across the poster as she gets stuff done. Doing as much as you can the night before is also helpful. Plus you can give an incentive, like if she has enough time before she has to go, she can colour or something.

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I remember when my son was in school for kindergarten I used to wake him up so happy...I would go in like we just won something every morning (I'm partly wired to be way too happy!) and say I just found that when I woke him up like that instead of the old "get up we gotta go" works better. I have no idea how you currently get her up but hey, I'm racking my brain for something else that no one has said and this is what I came up with! Maybe it will help! Good luck! As a side note - some people just move slow!!!

Felina - posted on 08/26/2010

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I'm finding the before bed is really necessary for the morning routine too, I've learned from flylady.net to lay out clothes the night before and also to go through the backpack and homework right when my son gets home from school and then back to the backpack for school the next day. This has saved us so much time this year so far and not as frustrating as not knowing what to wear, where's my backpack, etc. Unfortunately, I haven't completely learned how to do this with the diaper bags for the little ones yet, getting out the door with them takes a little longer :(

Angie - posted on 08/11/2010

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I agree with Julie, get as much done at night as you can. The most difficult thing for my children is making sure homework is in the backpack. The thing my children like the most is that they only need to get up about :30 before we leave for school!

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If my daughter gets ready in time, she gets to watch a little tv before we have to leave. I am super morning routine-oriented and I think that helps her because my morning routine rarely changes or varies so she always knows exactly what to expect.

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