How do you motivate a 16 yr. old boy

Emery - posted on 09/11/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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He wants to sit in the house all day and watch TV not interested in making friends or maintaing the few friends he has. He feels that making him go outside is a punishment. He does not want to do any after school activites. HELP!!!

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Katie - posted on 09/16/2009

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PLEASE TELL ME WHEN YOU FIND OUT...I'M DYING TYING TO DO THIS MYSELF! MINE ONLY CARES ABOUT FRIENDS AND NOT SCHOOL OR FAMILY AND HE'S DIRESPECFUL TO US...NO MATTER WHAT WE DO, BRIBE, PUNISH, GROUNDING, ETC...

Annabel - posted on 09/13/2009

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is he in school? is he being bullied? Is this normal behaviour for him or has it changed over a period of time? i think it is more the norm than the exception that a 16 yr old boy is un-motivated but they usually love their friends. there is also only so much a parent can do the young adult also has to make choices and it sounds like he's getting all the help and input available. Just keep on loving him and being there for him even when you get no response it is still being appreciated by him on some level. good luck

Trish - posted on 09/12/2009

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I suggest getting him into a hobby which he really loves. It could be guitar, sport, anything, and maybe you could encourage him to search for one through suggesting ideas to him in things you have noticed he's really interested in!!! I hope this helps... good luck!!!

Hayden - posted on 09/11/2009

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I don't have ne that old but my brother is that old n it hasn't been that long since I've been there...At that age I just hung out in my room with my cell, music blaring and door locked...My brother who's 16 hangs with friends, and goes out. I honestly think it's just the person maybe there is something going on that he don't want to talk bout n he just needs to work it through on his own, through his head. After he does then he'll go back to normal activites...Teens will hide lots of things..especially feelings because they feel their parents just wont understand...My brother comes to me..thats how I know. Don't nag him just give him a break..he might need it..I hope this helps..teens just like adults need their space...

Emery - posted on 09/11/2009

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As a matter of fact he see's a thearpist (did I spell that right) twice a month and has been doing so for 4-5 years now both private and at school. I really don't know what else to do.

Des - posted on 09/11/2009

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Have you considered he may be depressed? It's hard to think of your own kid that way, but it is not a failing on your part if he is. I was a depressed teen, and just recently realized my life could have been so much more fulfilling if it had been addressed sooner than my 20's. An adult he does not feel threatened by could talk to him and try to feel it out. . .

Emery - posted on 09/11/2009

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He has roller blades, basketball hoop,(poor looser) a bike and he still won't go out.He asked for a horse shoe set whick I bought...He played it 1x..(He's a poor looser) so noone will play with him again. I only allow him to watch TV after homework for about 1 hour and 1 hour before bed. I have gotten him books. He had a skateboard but he gave it to his brother because he did not want it. I have tried everything. Thanks Misty Miner for your response...

MIsty - posted on 09/11/2009

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My 13 year old son is the exact same way. I turn off the tv and say you can read or go outside. He usually ends up outside. If he has any interests that can be incoorperated with outside say like skateboarding then get him a skateboard. Good luck

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