HOW DO YOU RESPONDE TO(I DON'T LOVE YOU ANYMORE)FROM YOUR CHILD?

Stacey - posted on 08/17/2010

I remind my children not to say things that they can't take back. (those were the last words my mom said to her mom at the age of 13, she passed that next day from cancer)

Julie - posted on 08/17/2010

Same thing as Angie." That is fine because still I love you". I also try to name the emotion he/she may be feeling.

Marlene - posted on 08/17/2010

you don't its said out of anger and frustration... just let it go!

Brandi - posted on 08/17/2010

This is a typical 4-6 year old behavior. It falls under the lines of "I'll be your friend if you........" The first time I heart it , broke my heart. But all I simply said was "Well baby I am sorry to hear that. It hurts mama's feelings when you don't love her, but you know what? I still love you ". After a couple times of hearing that he now repeats stuff like that when a kid at school says "I am not your friend" he turns around and says "well that's okay ..... I am still your friend" LOL

Dara - posted on 08/16/2010

I would probably explain that this is not an appropriate way to speak to mommy, and that it hurts my feelings for her to say it to me. With my five year old, I often ask her how she would feel if someone said something like that to her, and then she can see that it is hurtful. Then I would say that I love her anyways. Kids never mean this, they're just striking out with what they know. I totally agree with Denise in giving kids other words to use when they are unhappy.

Denise - posted on 08/16/2010

I say I understand that you are upset with me but I think you mean that you don't like me right now or don't like my actions. I try to teach them to express themselves differently. It's ok to say "Mommy I am upset with you right now" but not "I don't love you" Reminding your child that words like that and I hate you are really strong and hurtful will help them to use words that more truthfully reflect how they feel.

Jennifer - posted on 08/16/2010

I totally agree with the other moms on here... It hurts - as my son has told me the same thing and then the next thing he is telling me he loves me... I think they all go thru it.

Ciara - posted on 08/16/2010

I agree with the other mother's. I have had my son say that to me a couple tmes and 1 time he had said it like 2 or 3 times in a row and ( It hurt so bad ) I told him, " Im sorry, I love you AND you have no choice who your parents are. You are stuck with me and Daddy for the next 15 years. " Then he turned around and told me he Loved me. He also say the tears in my eyes and said he was sorry, he loved me " all around the world and to the moon and back ", and then LOTS of hugs and kisses. Everybody will always say " Don't let it get to you ( Im Not bad mouthing those that do ) but it's really hard. I have too weak of a heart for " words ". Hopefully this will help you out some.

Candy - posted on 08/16/2010

I love you !

Shandy - posted on 08/16/2010

I totally agree with Angie that is what I would do they are just speaking from anger

Angie - posted on 08/15/2010

"That's okay, Honey, because I love you anyway." Children get angry and say these kinds of things. Don't take it personally, she doesn't mean it.