Tamara - posted on 03/30/2012 ( 24 moms have responded )
My six year old son has been getting into trouble this past fortnight for what the teachers say is aggressive and bullying behaviour. I find that really difficult to believe, seeing as my son is calm and quiet yet happy and confident and above all compliant at home and not at all aggressive. I believe he has been fighting back against bullying behaviours from other children in his class during playtime and the way in which he has been doing this has been inappropriate. I believe he needs to learn better methods of sticking up for himself and this is where I feel the school has let us down. Because of this inappropriate method of sticking up for himself, he has been given yellow cards and put into solitary detention for consequtive school lunch times.
The deputy principal rang me today regarding another matter and out of interest I asked how long my son was placed in detention for at one time. She replied with one period of 40minutes but they try and stretch it out during recess and lunchtime so that it doesn't impede on their lessons. That is all very well and good however, the length of time in one sitting is bordering on child abuse.
I got off the phone rather cross and shocked as when disciplining my child at home (if I really have to do this method) I only ever place him in timeout for no more than 10 minutes.
I have been searching for information on possible alternative schools nearest us of which there is only one. They have stated policies on behaviour management on their website and very clearly it outlines that children who need to have timeout are only given 10 minutes at a time and the first lot is actually in the classroom but seperate from the other children.
I fear that this length of time, forty minutes is far too long. There are no policies displayed anywhere on our school's website outlining their procedures for behaviour management and I am concerned that this is just too inappropriate a sentence to hand a six year old.
What behaviour management strategies does your school use for first grade students? And do you think that forty minutes of timeout is too long for a six year old?