Erika - posted on 08/05/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )
My son doesnt show an interest in learning. I'm worried.
Erika - posted on 08/05/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )
My son doesnt show an interest in learning. I'm worried.
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Tammy - posted on 12/24/2012
I don't understand what the hurry is to teach kids to read. Yes, it's nice that they would be able to read books on their own, but personally I like reading to my daughter.
Though, she is proud that she can read and write her name (which they taught her in preschool last year), my daughter really isn't interested in reading yet. She prefers to play with her toys, which is what kids should be doing at four.
I learned to read in first grade, when I was six and graduated near the top of my class.
Chrissy - posted on 12/21/2012
My son is four and he just ask me if I could spell t-o-i-l-e-t I asked him if he knew what he just spelt and he replied toilet. So if all your kid can spell is his name, maybe you need to spend more time teaching him. Why leave it up to the school. You need to exercise your childs brain on a daily basis. If you want to teach your child to read and write teach him the names of the letters and what they say.
Shaniqua - posted on 11/27/2012
Sherri - posted on 07/22/2010
Our kindergartener's have to know how to read a list of 100 designated words in order to be promoted to 1st grade.
Monica - posted on 07/22/2010
At age 4, if she can recognize letters and spell her name, she is doing great. It is not necessary for children to read before they start kindergarten and most don't really take off until they are about 6. All three of my daughters were like this, now in 3rd and 6th grade, they have been straight A students and my oldest has recieved commendable ratings on all of her state assesment test. How early a child learns to read is not an accurate measurement as to how successful they will be in school. As long as you are reading to them every day and giving them the love and interest in books, they will become readers. In 1st grade is when I noticed them really taking off.
Sylvia - posted on 07/22/2010
Mine couldn't read at all when she was 4. (Unless you count "reading" a book that she'd memorized because I'd read it to her a couple of hundred times. She did that a lot.) I'm pretty sure she knew her English alphabet by the time she was 4, but that's it.
Not surprisingly, she's almost 8 now and reading just fine (slightly ahead of grade level, I believe -- but I don't pay much attention to that kind of thing, I just know she's making progress and is reading way better now than she was a year ago). I admit her spelling is still somewhat sketchy :P
Some kids do learn to read at 3 or 4 or 5, but the vast majority aren't developmentally ready until some time between 5 and 7. The fact that you have a 4-year-old who isn't interested in reading isn't something to worry about -- it's perfectly normal. Just read to him a lot, find books he's interested in for him to look at, make sure he sees you reading and writing so he knows reading and writing are things people do for fun, and when he's ready to get it, he'll get it.
Sherri - posted on 07/22/2010
My son can spell his name that is it. Don't be worried!! I am sending mine to preschool to help with that this fall.
Cristina - posted on 07/22/2010
Hi! I have a 4 yr old, she started reading like phonetically and sight reading at about 3.5 yrs old.. today she' s reading really fast, with correct intonation, she even read subtitles frm movies. She can also spell simple words as long as the sound is clear for her. she can rhym words. I am concernced about school, she is going to JK this fall, and I don't know if I'm going to tell the teachers about her capability (i don;t want to be mistaken like I'm bragging about her), but the at the same, I feel that the teacher can deal with her better if she knows what she can and can't do.
It's different with my son though, my daughter can recite the abc's and it's sounds at 2 yrs old.. she's very articualte.. but my son doesnt. U have to have different approach with each child, and if they show interest then go for it, if not, don't force them. one of the website that helps my child read is www.starfall.com. it's a good phonics site for toddlers. they get to play and learn at the same time. also I teach them few minutes a day.. with their age, u can't hold their attention for so long. Setting a routine and schedule for learning time will also be helpful. 15 minuets a day is what i do. also look for MRS Phipps and snoothy cd.. it helps a lot with alpahbets.
Dawn - posted on 08/10/2009
The most my children could do when they went to school was recite their ABC's. count to 10, and tell colors and shapes. The teachers were fine with that, in fact they were ecstatic about it. You would be surprised at how few parents take learning into their own hands and leave it to the school system, it's really a shame. I did try to teach them to write their name, my only success was my daughter, I also tried some phonetics with the alphabet, because I did not want my children to be behind. They completely lost interest. I bought special books for them to practice writing their numbers and ABCs in. No luck. They lost interest as soon as I sat them down. I would encourage, make it a game, just about everything you can possibly try (I was not above bribing either). All to no success. So don't feel bad, don't worry about it. What motivated my children was seeing other children learning, and being in that school environment. Sometimes that is what it takes.
Claire - posted on 08/10/2009
This seems to be a boy thing my 5 yr old could write his name when he went to school but had no interest what ever in any other letters or numbers. He started school in Jan 09 and is now starting to sound words out while we are out and about, the long and the short is it will happen when he is ready they are still only babies really. as another point my brother now 28 didnt raed or write until 6 and1/2 he was diagnosed with dyslexia when 20 and is now in his first year of his doctorate. That came as a shock to all of us.
Kim - posted on 08/08/2009
I have been a preschool teacher for many years. Kids learn when they are ready. It isn't necessary for him to learn at this age. Just keep reading to him and if he asks about a word or letter or number go with it. You can even start to play ryming games. Teaching kids to read is fun and easy when they are ready. When they aren't and you try to force the subject you are both going to be very frustrated and it might even turn him off of school.
Katrisha Ann - posted on 08/08/2009
Your daughter is doing fine. My daughter who is 4 years old still can not read a booik. But can very well recognize letters and phonics. I think at this stage it is most important to recognize letters and how a letter sounds. The foundation.
Lavinia - posted on 08/08/2009
I teach in the u.a.e and children here are Learning the foundations of reading in KG1 and are reading cvc & dolce words in KG2 they expected to be able readers before entering grade 1. KG1 children start at 2yrs 10 mths here, my daughter will be 5 at the end of sept and will be going into grade 1 in 3 weeks. But as a mother I'm not keen on the pressure that is put on children at such a young age in this country.
Kristin - posted on 08/06/2009
Could be he's just not interested in learning from you! :D My 5 year y/o fights me tooth and nail on everything we "practice" together for school. She's starting kindergarten this Sept. I had given up trying to teach her myself. Then just yesterday she nearly wrote the numbers 1-10 all by herself. She did the same thing with me when she was 3 with her name. Don't worry, and be involved with his school. If your an involved parent they will probably tell you if there is anything they are concerned about. Just watch. I also have known anger issues to start in school when the children are feeling left behind academically. So thats something you can watch for too. But really best thing is not to worry and let him be a kid.
Heather - posted on 08/06/2009
All children develop at their own rate. Most 4 1/2 yr olds are only reading by memory or not at all. A few do pick it up and are great "word callers". My 10 year old daughter is in the GT program now, but was in a reading recovery program in 1st grade. She just finished the last book in the Inkheart series (663 pp.) and zipped through all the Harry Potter Books starting the summer after 2nd grade. My twin boys knew 1/2 the alphabet (maybe) when they started Kinder, and are now reading thorugh book after book (mid to end of 1st grade level). Seriously, just give them opportunities and don't push, they will do it when they are good and ready, if you push too hard, children tend to shut down and see reading as a negative experience.
Kerrie - posted on 08/05/2009
Boys are different than girls. My eldest son was very interested in learning from a young age, however, my next 3 boys could have cared less. Then came my daughter. There wasn't anything she didn't know by the time she was ready for school. Reading, writing...everything! Don't be concerned that he is not reading or writing at 4. He is still young and isn't ready for that yet. My middle three boys are above average students now. It didn't hurt them that they weren't into the whole learning thing at 4. Just make it a game for him. If you see a train, count the cars as they go by. Read the signs for resturants like McDonalds and stress the "M" sound. Play games with him. Teach him without him knowing it and make it fun. READ A LOT!! Show him the pictures and let him tell YOU the story from them. It doesn't matter if it isn't what is written on the page. Get his little imagination going. He will be ready for school, don't worry.
Kassandra - posted on 08/05/2009
He should probably be doing a little reading right now, but don't worry if he's not. just make learning fun and he'll want to keep doing it. Play card games like Memory, UNO and Go Fish. Play board games like Chutes/Ladders, Bingo, and Candyland. A lot of that is covered in preschool and by the end of kindergarten, he'll be reading, writing, and illustrating his own stories. Just wait and see!
Deanna - posted on 08/05/2009
Mine knows the alphabet and could use a computer at age 2. Make learning interesting and fun and never push him stop when he loses interest.
Jennifer - posted on 08/05/2009
My oldest was reading at 4.5yo. Was reading 3rd grade level just after he turned 5. My now 4.5yo can spell his name and pick out a few letters here and there. They're just 2 very different children. Our oldest loves school, is very interested in learning, always has been. Evan is more interested in learning about stuff vs things like math and spelling. He loves animals and knows a lot of animal facts. He goes to pre-k this year and we'll see how he does and see if we need to step things up at hime, but so far we've just let him be.
Jodi - posted on 08/05/2009
I wouldn't worry too much. Most kids at that age can't read. They can generally recognise most of the letters (my daughter is 4 1/2 and still mixes up p and q, b and d, which is normal). They can usually count, and recognise numbers, but actually reading words beyond recognition of the letters is very rare. They tend to associate words with pictures at that age.
Melanie - posted on 08/05/2009
I wouldn't be too concerned a child that can read a book (not from memory) at four is not the norm. At this stage it is more important for him to be able to recognise his letters (but again not essential). Play games with him for example walking down the street point to a stop sign and ask him to name the letters (if he can). Say the alphabet using sounds.
Read to him - talk about the front cover (this is where the title is and the authors name etc), back cover (this is where there is a discription about the story etc) and spine.
We played a game with my daughter where we took turns saying a word and had to say the sound we heard at the beginning of the word (not the letter but the sound). We then started to link the sound to the letter and she started to guess the letter at the beginning of the word. Taking turns is the big thing as they will learn by listening to you, as he gets more confident with it start making the odd 'mistake' my daughter loved to correct us - but don't do it too often as they will start to see through it. We used to play the game while we were waiting for the bus or on the bus etc.
Heather - posted on 08/05/2009
My kids are both very smart and do very well in school. My 12-year-old son is a straight-A student, but he could not read until the middle of 1st grade. That is not unusual. Try not to worry. My daughter will be in kindergarten this fall and she knows all the letters but she cannot read or spell yet, and her 4K teachers were not at all concerned.
Mary "Jeana" - posted on 08/05/2009
Use the things that he likes to play with to count. Like if he likes cars count the cars. Reading my youngest son didn't really read anything until he went to kindergarden. My son also has autism. He went to speech therapy twice a week and they taught me that using flash cards with words and pictures. My older boys learned to read with hooked on phonics. We broke down and spent the money. It is worth it. It teaches him the sounds of the letters. While he is playing, play music with abc and 123's. My youngest learned alot through music. You just have to find out what he likes the most and go with it. Thomas the train is a great teaching tool too. All my boys learned alot from the shows on PBS and especially Barney. Don't give up. If you think he has a problem tell your doctor and really force the issue and have him tested for any type of learning disability. But don't give up. Each child has a different way of learning you just have to find out what his is. My youngest would only follow directions if we sang them to him. My middle child went through a phase where we had to ask yes or no questions because he spoke like Blue from Blues Clues. That drove us nuts. And yes read to him. If the books are too long shorten the story. It would be like just telling him a story. Point to the words while you read. That is what they are taught in kindergarten. Word World is a great show for learning to read too. Good luck be persistant. Jeana
Elizabeth - posted on 08/05/2009
My son is four too and I find that the only way i could ever keep him interested long enough to learn anything is one through the pbs channel which is great they have shows that teach them to spell and words and read and all sorts of useful information and they really don't realize that its a learning process but they do learn from it. Also besides the television when I try to help him learn I use things like his cars, which he loves, to teach him how to count, or I ask him how many movies he has and help him sount those. Letters which my son is very accurately able to identify but can't write them at all, we do that by toys that are designed to tell them what they are as the push the buttons and the same toys if you switch the arrow will ask them to find the letters it gives them three tries to find the letter, and I find that when they get it right they get so excited that they want to keep playing with it. Or my son has a sponge puzzle with all the letters that pop out and we play with it in the bathtub while he is in it and he tells me all the letters, just keep working with your son and eventually he will like the learning process too. Just make it into some sort of game no matter what it is. My son can read very little, mostly his name and other family members names as well but I can not hand him a book and him read it. But he does like having books read to him, we go to the library about once or twice every two weeks and he picks out enough books that he is interested in and we read them I point out words and tell him what they mean. But like I mention before try the PBS channel it is almost with kids. They have a show called word world and its great its a cartoon as they all are and the characters are spelled out but look like what they are suppose to be....don't worry about your son though cause every kid truely learns at their own pace and besides boys mature slower which ultimately means they don't learn things as quickly or as young as most girls do