how old should your child be before they are allowed their own facebook account

Natasha - posted on 10/31/2009 ( 82 moms have responded )

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my son is nearly 8 and wants to be on facebook, we think he is too young but at what age is right?

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Jessica - posted on 11/01/2009

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I think that age is too young. I think we give kids a bit too much at such young ages. We did not have any of these technologies and we came out just fine. What exactly would an eight year old need with a facebook page. My daughter is 10 and is not allowed to have any of these types of things. I think this also puts our kids at a higher risk for predators. So for me personally I do not think you should allow him.

Holly - posted on 10/31/2009

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My son (14) has an account. He used it for about a week, then stopped. He checkes it every once in awhile, but is too busy with other things. When he set it up, My husband and I asked for his password and username and we check up on him whenever we log on. That's how I know he's not on much. I'd say let him have a FB page or he may get a myspace which in my opinion is worse. We have that username and password also, but his friends post things I'd rather not know on myspace. Their parents are on FB so they tend to keep things clean. Also, if he changes his personal info on FB you will know, on MS, there's no way to tell unless you log in. Hope this helps. Also, whenever he is logged in, keep the computer where you can look over his shoulder. That way you always know what he's doing.

Arpana - posted on 11/06/2009

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my son 7 hasn't asked for it yet but he does my farming on my farmville at times! Looks like there a rule that under 13 cannot open an acount. I believe we shuold respect that so the kids know that rules are meant to be followed. Eventually they will need to learn to use it and also how to protect themselves as we help them along. Internet is a wonderful and dangerous at the same time. Its important to supervise and if we don't have time might as well not expose them this early.

Andrea - posted on 11/06/2009

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Hi! I was going to help my 9 yr-old son get his own fb account. I figured not many of his friends would have one, but that he could keep in touch with our out of town relatives and his dad who lives in a different state with it. When we tried they would not let him until he is 13 yrs. old. Just lettin you know.Good Luck!

Renee - posted on 11/06/2009

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I didn't feel comfortable with it until this year. My daughter age 10 obeys the rules I set up for her, no quizes, posting of personal information, accepting friends without our approval, etc. She wanted to play the games with my husband and I so we set her up. No problems so far and its been a few months...Of course she is fine with us knowing her passwork and checking her page occationally (for safety reasons).

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Florence - posted on 06/05/2013

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lots of children are given false dates of birth but what im interested in is after Facebook accepting how can they find out other wise and disable account

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Why does an 8 year old need a facebook account? Why at 8 years old do you need to be on a social media account electronically. Go out and play!

Shona - posted on 11/04/2012

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i think 8 is too young to have a facebook and i think he sood be a ballt 10 or 9 to have won

Megan - posted on 11/07/2009

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After much hesitation, I tried to create an account for my responsible 10 year old, but it would not let me. I believe my 12 year old found out you had to be 13 before you could get one, so I'm making them both wait. There is probably a good reason why FB won't let them in. If you have to lie about their birthday to create an account, then I don't think it's a good idea. This gives them something to look forward to.

Leslie - posted on 11/07/2009

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Facebook will not let anyone under 13 have an account. My daughter who is ten wants one. Mostly it depends on your child and if you can monitor what is going on. My nephew has one and even though he's 15 I don't thing he should. He's just way to immature and irresponsible.

Debora - posted on 11/07/2009

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facebooks policy say 13 is old enough ,i still say best to keep it where everyone can view it .since my daughter has a friend who just had someone ask her if wanted to do it ?so her mother notified fb they closed the account advised her to not use a real name nick names with moms maiden name is safest .hope this helps you all.

Lisa - posted on 11/07/2009

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You might want to let your son play games on your account. My oldest is 12 and next year she'll probably get an account. Right now I let her play games on my account. We have our computer in a central location and we all enjoy flairing while dinner is being made. She is on the computer on her own and has some other game accounts but I have her email forwarded to my account so I can keep track. She knows I do this and it is a condition of internet activity.

Dana - posted on 11/07/2009

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Quoting Christine:

I thought it asked for b days to set up an acct...maybe there is something FB has done about younger kids? I would check into it.....



They do...legally you cant' have a facebook page til 14.  There are lots of parents who allow their kids to lie about their ages so they can get them sooner than that.  I guess it depends on how you handle your childs FB. Yep, definitly moniter EVERYTING they do on it...keep it set to private (too many child predators out there).  I've considered letting my 11 year old daughter get one, but her dad says no, so we will wait.

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Why be online with a FB site with an 8 yr old? If 13 is the rule. Stick to it.



In this life of hanging around on the computer...versus playing outside with a ball and bat or a scooter...or a mud puddle and sand tables and counting acorns....or organizing them into piles...(using your brain to make up games) WE SHOULD NOT HAVE CHILDREN having their own sites.

Children have many years after jr high to take classes, and do their typing on computers.



At age 8 a good typing program might actually have benefits. But that is not all games.



There is a fun board game called FARMING game, and maybe your family would have a fun time playing it in real time...not computer time.



Nothing against computers, Im taking a brain break from working on averaging grades right now to answer some questions...then back to averages...but find some recipes to do with him, color with him, get some modeling clay , fill the basement with string and boxes and create a box city.... try something that not all 20-30 yr olds are doing(FB) and get the fun stuff of creating(and cleaning the mess afterwards) going....

When he has his first limo ride...it should be impressive, not something he did in first grade for a fundraiser at school.... so that when he works in college on a computer website, he will have the prior experience in early grade school of creating on his own time, putting his brain to work, be able to solve problems, and not simply, mindlessly keeping up with the clicks on some FB games.



Not that once in a blue moon the games aren't fun for kids... they just need to keep moving, not sitting in front of t.v.s and screens of computers, or with ear buds in their ears for ipods...etc.



Check out your nearest library, get to the zoo, drive to the wetlands, go to the corn mazes, roast hotdogs on some autumn bonfires.... Get out and have some real earth time fun. Im sure you already do these things... enjoy the sunshine! Enjoy the rain.

Pam - posted on 11/06/2009

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Personaly I think it not a childs thing. They have school and other activities to busy themselves. I think at least 15 plus and even then You must consider maturity and responsibility.

Jamie - posted on 11/06/2009

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Quoting Misty:

i think that it is mostly up to you my daughter is 9 and i let her have a face book but it is also b/c it is in the living room and i can moniter everything she is doing at all times so it is more i think where your computer is and if you are comfortable with it if you can moniter it easily then it might be ok but only if you approve


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I completely agree Our Computers are in the living room as well and if it was in a separate room i would have a little bit more problem with it, but see her father and i are getting divorced and he went behind my back and allowed her without even letting me know she was on FB .. I will not let her have a myspace, FB is a little bit more safer for what she does, she only plays games she doesn't talk to anybody unless its me on the Im or something or her father or my fiance (her soon to be step dad) when she is over at grandma's in which my mom also monitors her as well, My daughter does know that it is not a safe world out there, she has seen and watch 20/20 about all the guys out there I know thats kinda weird but how else is she going to know whats out there if she doesn't listen to what they do and how they go about it. AT least she will be advised. We also have talked to her about the computer usage and as i have said we all monitor what she does, she goes straight to the games shes 9 and she doesn't know how to type very well, but she loves playing farmville.

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i think that it is mostly up to you my daughter is 9 and i let her have a face book but it is also b/c it is in the living room and i can moniter everything she is doing at all times so it is more i think where your computer is and if you are comfortable with it if you can moniter it easily then it might be ok but only if you approve

Kelly - posted on 11/06/2009

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For those of you moms that allows your younger children - ages 5, 8. 9 - I thought that FB had an age limit in order to create one? Do you put their real birth date on their or make up a fake one?

Kristine - posted on 11/06/2009

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I finally, after much prompting, allowed my 12 year old to have a myspace account, but only under the condition that I had full and complete access to his account, it would be set to private, and that I would be added as a friend. He used it for a few weeks to connect with some family members that are scattered around the country then essentially lost interest. When I started using FB he wanted to have an account there too. I agreed, but under the same conditions as for myspace and he comes on a few times a week to catch up with family and play a few games, most of which we are on together. He uses my computer and knows that I can and will disable any access if he posts anything unacceptable. He's a good kid, and I trust him - mainly because he knows his boundaries. I may or may not relax rules as he gets older, but I'll cross that bridge when it comes. My computer, my house, my rules and he knows if he doesn't toe the line, he loses it completely except for homework (and if it's bad enough, he'll be banished to the desktop that has no internet access)

Mia - posted on 11/06/2009

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I think facebook requires an age far older than 8. There is alot of stuff on it that an 8yr old would have access to that most parents would not approve of.

Jamie - posted on 11/06/2009

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Well my ex-husband decided to give our 9 yr old facebook but only allow her to play farmville or farmtown and the games on here. thats it. she only has people we have added in which we know. I think as long as you monitor it and he is responsible then it should be alright, but i think the normal age is like 12 or 14. not sure.

Jill - posted on 11/06/2009

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Mine is 14 and 9, they both have one. My oldest daughter has my family and her friend's on it, but my youngest only has family. She has 2 older sister's in college right now and another sister that live's with her Mom (same father different mom). It's a good way for her to stay in touch with her sister's whom she doesn't see very often (her Dad and I are now divorced) so she really doesn't get to see that side of the family too much. I have both of my children's password's and am able to monitor what they do on here.

Theresa - posted on 11/05/2009

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My daughter is 10 and we let her have her own account with restrictions no accepting friends without our approval no posting any comments without asking first and no playing the games without us checking to see which ones they were, and she has down really well with it.

Debbie - posted on 11/05/2009

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I let my almost 12 year old just get one but he uses my computer and I can go on his account and check things out anytime. He mainly just wants to play the same games that I do so I let him. We send each other gifts on here and that's about it. My 10 year old wants an account also but I won't let him. He is much more likely to approve anything people send him and "friend"anyone who asks. He has enough fun with Webkinz World. I guess it just depends on how much you can monitor things and how responsible your child is.

Sam - posted on 11/05/2009

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My little girl(8) likes playing some of the games, but I don't let her chat or exchange messages. She has an email account which is used very rarely, only me,her dad and one or two friends know her address. I wouldn't feel comfortable letting her use facebook for anything but games...like someone says in previous posts, why should they need to at 8 years old, here are plenty of other sites they can go on to play games which do not have a chat facility and are therefore safer for children to use

Jen - posted on 11/05/2009

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I think it depends on your son. My son has one, but he's older, and has no interest in socializing with other's he doesn't know. He only wants on FB for some games, like Mech Quest on FB. But I've been monitoring him for year's on the internet..I know he doesn't pay attention to chat from others. HIs aunt could start chatting with him on a game, and he doesn't pay attention...doesn't even notice the chat. My nephew on the other hand, has a fb account at 9, but he's very social. Even with his mom there he'll chat with strange adults on social games, and try and invite loads of people to his friends lists. I'm not sure how safe it is for that nephew to be on FB...I remember catching him giving out what city he lives in over the net...



You can set the account to private, where no one who searches his name can see the account etc...or no one can send him msg's or invites etc. But a lot of game applications just don't count. Every game app asks for permission to gather all your info, and your friends info to run their application.....if you use your son's picture on his account, a game app may show it to all the other players, depending on the game. Like Knighthood as one example. I won't put my son's picture on his account....its some random picture of a winter-scene.

Michelle - posted on 11/05/2009

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Facebook itself recommends 13 and up. I have a 12 year old and I have let him on my account so I can monitor what sights he is on and the games he plays, etc. Now, I am going to let him have his own account because he has shown me that he can use it correctly.

Kryss - posted on 11/05/2009

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I would check with fb i saw on Hln that they had to be 13 but, if he desires the games and stuff mayb you could set up an acct for him and a guardian....i believe its like anything with kids they are yours and everything that you allow know that it reflects...so just use good judgement.

Ruth - posted on 11/04/2009

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At 8 I let my youngest set up a club penguin account to play games and chat there. another kid friendly option is webkins. both of theese are limited and kid friendly & they don't use the childs personal info.

Colleen - posted on 11/04/2009

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Hi Natasha~ I ABSOLUTELY agree with you! My oldest is 11 and I will not allow him to have one! Too many crazy people out there! Hope this helps

Casey - posted on 11/04/2009

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As a young mother I dont think kids should be on facebook or myspace at all til their about 16 to 17 yrs of again. There are alot of things people post on their profiles that children shouldnt see and you never know who is and isnt a sex offender. I have a 9yr old cousin that has a myspace page and I know she sees things she shouldnt and also has grow people as friends that she doesnt know from Adam. Kids see and hear enough from school and television they shouldnt see and hear even more from the internet. Kids should only be online for school work and to play childrens games.

Amy - posted on 11/04/2009

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My son is 11 and our only rule was that he had to add his dad and I so we could monitor it.

Kimberly - posted on 11/04/2009

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I got a privacy policy from Facebook in my inbox last week and it said that a minor under the age of 13 should not give any personal info and is not allowed to have an account at all.
My 8-yr old stepdaughter wanted to play Farmville and we tried to get her an account for that only but it will not allow it. We will not lie about her age to get one. That is fraud.
We discussed it further to say that when she is able to get an account at age 13 that she will only be allowed to add family members and friends that she actually knows personally.
My step-daughter is allowed access to nick.com, disney.com and other sites of that nature. We have parental controls in place. And if she asks for permission to visit a new site (she is really good about that), we (her father and I) access it first. If it's appropriate, she's able to go ahead.
She does play World of Warcraft because her father does and her sister does. She only plays with people she knows.
If this policy regarding 13 year-olds and under is a new thing, I like it. I guess the other moms with 5 year-olds who have accounts must have gotten them before the new policy?

The key is monitoring. Know who your kids talk to online and what they are doing with the computer.

Lisa - posted on 11/04/2009

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ooooh boy, my son is 8 and wanted a facebook account. I signed him up, but managing it is HARD. I couldn't allow him to be friends with me or my husband because my husband has friends who post not child appropriate comments. I set his profile to private, made it so you can't search him, and blocked everyone's posts. however the mafia ads keep popping up even though I remove them as offensive each time.
So--because of all that, I sign on for him, and will go to a game of his choice that I've okayed. Then I let him play while I sit here and watch. He takes care of his fish, his little pets and farms then he's done for the day.

Natasha - posted on 11/03/2009

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Quoting Sarah:

My daughter is 8 and wants one to play the games but she is too young to have one. I allow my son who is 4 to play some of the games (best tank cleaner around) and my daughter plays some as well on my account. I believe it is up to you to decide what is appropriate for your children. FB is FAR better than myspace and I will NOT allow my children to have a myspace. My daughter has played World of Warcraft (a MMORPG role playing online game) because she sees her father and I play online games. I knew exactly what she was doing and who was online at the time. All her characters were in friends guilds that watched over her and she never chatted with anyone. Many people have disagreed with my family's decision but it was right for us.

Only you and yours can make a similar decision. I think exposing children to what is and is not appropriate online early is important and will carry on as they grow up. Stranger danger is not just a threat in RL but in the cyber world as well. I hope this helps you.


thank you very much, i have decided to make him wait, he can games on my account plus he has his xbox and tv in his room so i think he is doing ok, i thank you for not being so judgemental as i feel some responses have, have a great day

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Both my kids have facebook accounts but they are controlled by either myself or there father. Only family is added to there accounts as they have relatives that live across the country so they can chat to them. I think if you control it then it shouldnt be a problem

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My daughter is 8 and wants one to play the games but she is too young to have one. I allow my son who is 4 to play some of the games (best tank cleaner around) and my daughter plays some as well on my account. I believe it is up to you to decide what is appropriate for your children. FB is FAR better than myspace and I will NOT allow my children to have a myspace. My daughter has played World of Warcraft (a MMORPG role playing online game) because she sees her father and I play online games. I knew exactly what she was doing and who was online at the time. All her characters were in friends guilds that watched over her and she never chatted with anyone. Many people have disagreed with my family's decision but it was right for us.

Only you and yours can make a similar decision. I think exposing children to what is and is not appropriate online early is important and will carry on as they grow up. Stranger danger is not just a threat in RL but in the cyber world as well. I hope this helps you.

Kerri - posted on 11/03/2009

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i told my kids that they cant have one till they are at least 14 or 15 i feel that it can be dangerous if they dont know who they are friends with

Jodi - posted on 11/03/2009

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I just tried setting my almost 9 year old son up an account tonight. I used all his info and it told me he was denied. I thought it was b/c I used his real age... He just wants to play games

Dawnell - posted on 11/03/2009

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I think that the best age is where they are old enough to understand and not "react to" what their friends post. I have 2 children myself...one 12 and the other 10 (almost) and I do not feel that they are old enough yet to not be sucked in by the "peer pressures"... that is just one more thing they do not need to worry about at such impressionable ages.

Jennifer - posted on 11/02/2009

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fb stated that they have to be 13 to have one. My son 9 yr wants one too, play the farm game

Azure - posted on 11/02/2009

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My son id 15 and I just let him get on facebook. My feelings on this are that your child should be old enough to know who his family members are so that he isn't being prayed upon by preditures who are looking for small children on the computer. I feel like a good age would be at least 11 or 12. I have a nephew who will be 9 and he has a facebook but I don't deel like it was the right thing to do.

Toni - posted on 11/02/2009

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My daughter is eight and isn't even interested in fb. But I believe that is too young. If you do it I would monitor his activities closely. Just my opinion. They should have a site like fb for children.

Kim - posted on 11/02/2009

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Quoting natasha:

how old should your child be before they are allowed their own facebook account

my son is nearly 8 and wants to be on facebook, we think he is too young but at what age is right?



I personally think that 8 is 2 young.  Maybe 15 & mature!!!

Charlie - posted on 11/02/2009

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I have been debating the same thing, my girls are 10 and 11 years old, so what i do is let them play games under my account, just don't let them chat, but if any of my friends start to chat with me, I make them tell them that "Mommy isn't at the computer and she will get back with you later". One safe site for games that don't require any information that my girls' absolutely love is http://www.netives.com. if that's any help there.

Heidi - posted on 11/02/2009

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My son is 10 1/2 and has an account and he has had it for almost 2 years now. He uses it from time to time to chat with friends and stay in touch with family that is over seas. His account is limited. Like most of the other moms I say it depends on there maturity level and as long as you monitor it, it should be fine.

Amy - posted on 11/02/2009

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My child does go on ICarly and stuff for kids and even then eith myself or my husband are down stars with jim at all times and watch over him. We know his passwordand user name. What I love about ICarly is thay do not ask for your real neam. They go by your user name. He also goes on Webkins. That is so cure and he loves it. Friends can send him a gift. We do not use that because we do not know how but he loves the games. He does other activites on there. We have the user name and password. So that is not a problem.I even tried to make him his own email but yahoo would not let it go through so we did not prosue it. He never asked for one but ICarly was having problems and asked for the childs email and a parents email but could not do it. We went to the site and it was back to the way it used to be so I dod not need to have an email for my son. Rules are rules and I am not lieing for him or anyone else.

Alanna - posted on 11/01/2009

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If you sit there while he is on it and make the decisions about everything and anything that goes on with his account, I dont see the harm. My daughter is 5, she clicks on a few things in mafia wars for me (lol) but she likes her kidscbc site, and iCarly, maybe he would like a site that is made for kids?

Amy - posted on 11/01/2009

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My son is 8 and He does not have any account. He does not have and emaik address or anything and we will not allow it. He sees me on fb and circle of Moms but he never even asks to be on it. He does not know ANY of the passwords to my emails, fb or circle of Moms. I do not put his birthday on COM or anywhere. I used to have my birthday on both accounts but now do not allow it to be shown. My husband saw other had their birthday on and he was so upset. He said someone could rob you and all that. So I took my birhtday off. If someone asks I will give it to them. I am very careful not to have pple I do not know as friends. I do not put my picture of me or my son on here. I do not like to see pictures of children on fb. My husband would be furious if I would put my picture or my sons picture up. People told me I should put mine up but I will not do it. I do not know how fb lets children under the age limit on and does not know. That is scary. No offence but you do not know what could happen. Maybe when he gets older I will let him have email but not for a while. No facebook for a long time. Good luck and even my son does not know why people have their childrens pictures on fb. He said Mom that is dangerous I said I know she He might be ok but I would not let him on here.

Katherine - posted on 11/01/2009

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None of my children are to have any web/internet accounts until they are at least 18. There are too many predators and pedophiles out there. Why do you even have to ask?!

My children do have email accounts, direct between their grandparents and themselves. Everything else is blocked out.

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