how to deal with a 10 year agruementive boy
Sherry - posted on 02/26/2014
I tried everything so that I can be a friend to him more han a Mom, don't know why he is argues in ach simple thing that he does also he likes to irritate Mom, Dad & his brother. He never listens to the instructions carefully. there is big list if I want to discuss. Could some one help.
Jonie - posted on 06/08/2010
I have found that not arguing back "sometimes help" He is 12 years old and I do understand that is a hard age... Hes to old for alot of things and still to young to do things he wants. I am a bit over protective for various reason( Ill post all that soon) It just seems the harder I try the more disgusted with me he is. Anyone else have that feeling with this age kids.I would walk through fire for anyone of my kids (or yours for that matter) but Dear Lord Help me this is the worse Stage of parenting I have experienced.
Kellie - posted on 06/07/2010
i have a four year old and she can get pretty argumentative too. it's not really an issue of age, it's about habits. at first i would continue the arguing by answering every thing she said. i would ask her to do or not do something and she would talk back, i would get angry and retort, she would talk back and so on and so on until it escalated, i started yelling and she gave me the tride and true WHATEVER!...finally i just put a stop to the back and forth. very calmly and softly i would tell her what i did or did not want her to do, she would complain and i would just repeat what i originally said. i no longer acknowledge her argument, i just keep saying the same thing. eventually i would get to the warning part. if you don't do what i am saying in the next five minutes (such and such) will happen. because she does not comprehend time, i would do a countdown minute by minute. she would continue to argue but i would not acknowlege what she was saying. she hated it! it took her a while to get the point and i had to follow through on the punishment many times, but eventually she got it. so my best advice would be to resolve that you won't get sucked into the arguing, you'll remain calm, stand your ground and if necessary follow through. Hope this helps.
Kim - posted on 06/06/2010
My son is the same way!! The only thing that may work is to take away the computer, DSi and TV all at once, sometimes he just doesn't care either way. And if he gets too argumentive and won't quit and won't go to his room all I have to do is threaten to get the wooden spoon. As soon as I head for it he is up the stairs. I don't use it but it scares him into listening. I will also ask him to do things and he says he won't so now I tell him don't ask me for a thing, not one little thing because I won't do it for you. Sometimes that will get him to do it. Good luck i really wish there was a magic word or something to get them out of this stage!
Jonie - posted on 06/05/2010
Nope not working here . I have 12 and 10 year old boys both are mostly good kids. there loving compassionate helps others... but i soon as i speak they put up a red flag and the disrespect rolls in. eye rolling sighing walking off... my 12 year old worse ,I do understand its an age thing. but to far is to far and im getting pretty sick of this...
Emily - posted on 05/28/2010
I'd need more detail on this to really answer well, but each of my kids, so far, became argumentative and disrespectful at nine or ten years old. I sat each of them down and said to them, "Cut it out or I'll treat you exactly the way you're treating me." It worked for me, even with my autistic son. I don't know if that'll help you-- depending on what exactly the problem is, it could hit or miss!
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