How to deal with freeloading siblings?

Jessica - posted on 03/28/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My brother & sister are living with us right now; it was intended as temporary, while they got a job, saved a little, found their own place & started school. You know, just helping out family. Temporary seems to be becoming permanent, as no effort is being made to move out, despite now having good jobs. And they eat the food we buy, adding nothing themselves to the pantry--and complain when "there's nothing good to eat"! They use my detergent, leave hair all over the bathroom they share with my young child, leave out dishes, leftovers...they don't even clean up spills in the kitchen...the list goes on and on. I'm a working mother, and my time is limited. I'd like to spend more time with my daughter, less time cleaning, and feel some respect. Nothing I've said has had any effect. I'm a very quiet, timid person by nature, and it's very difficult. I don't want to kick out my own siblings, but I'm beginning to feel I may have no other choice.



What in the world should I do? Although any advice may be welcome, I'm most interested in that of people who have been in similar situations & successfully resolved the issue.

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Jessica - posted on 03/29/2012

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True, that.

At least they pay rent.

SHOCKER: brother just notified us he's moving out. This week. Apparently, he's getting married. Tomorrow. One down...

Katherine - posted on 03/29/2012

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Why don't you make a responsibility chart? Post it on the fridge and tell them this is what they need to do. That's ridiculous that they expect you to clean up their messes. Put post it's everywhere lol, no I'm serious. Why don't they contribute? They both have jobs now, they should be paying rent and half the groceries. You need to put your foot down and sit down with them and make some rules, OR kick them out.



I know how it is to be non-confrontational, but they are sucking you dry!

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