how to discapline a strong 10yr old with behaviour issues?
Ruth - posted on 04/09/2009
Hi. I've learned a lot from Love and Logic and Parenting Teens with Love and Logic. The goal for all of us is to raise kids who are responsible for their own actions. The Love and Logic approach does not put a lot of weight on grounding and taking away gadgets. It really encourages you to get your child to take ownership of his problems and set ground rules for consequences that work. Here's an article I wrote about Foster Cline, one of the creators of Love and Logic. I'll be posting another story next week on consequences that work. Good luck. I have two kids 13 and 15. It's a wild ride for some years. But if we do things right, we'll wind up with adult children we can be proud of.
Here's the story I mentioned: http://suchasmartmom.com/2009/02/25/heli...
Lisa - posted on 04/08/2009
I'm with Linda... my kids either get grounded or we take away computer or TV time. My 15 year old has been warned against disrespecting us - she'll loose her mobile phone and with that the option of going out with friends because with no phone we have no way to contact her and vice versa.
Linda - posted on 04/08/2009
What I have found worked for me when my son was 10..... was to take what ever it was he liked at the time( EXAMPLE ..... Toy ...TV program ) ...... my sons is 17 now ....and I still use it not as much ...hehehe ....and am using it on my 4....5...7...year old and it works great .....hope this helps a bit .....
Jacqui - posted on 04/08/2009
A difficult one! My daughter is 9 and I have real issues as she lies a lot. The only thing I have found that helps, is grounding her completely. She may not have friends over or go to them. She may not even come to the shops or anywhere else with me, she has to stay at home or go to school, that's all. This is the only thing that seems to be working. I just find it so hard to discipline. I feel so bad about it. Children can be so manipulative.
Diane - posted on 04/08/2009
I have a very strong 12 year old boy who likes to be very disrespectful. I am disabled with Fibromyalgia and Rheumatoid Arthritis, so even if I could catch him when he runs away from me, smacking him would litterally be more painful for me! BUT - we are a family of blackbelts, and we own and operate a karate school. So I will make him get down and give me push ups, or stand in a squat position with his hands either behind his head, straight out, or chambered at his side for a couple of minutes. Holding a penny with your nose to the wall is a good one. Or getting a belt, making it into a circle on the floor, and they have to stand in the circle for however long you choose. They can't sit or kneel, and if they leave the circle, time is added on. Hope some of these help. The exercise ones should. Crunches, anything like that!
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