how to get your 4 nearly 5 year old to clean their room...

Nancy - posted on 11/11/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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it is extreamly frustrating when you are cleaning the house and see that the room you told your child to clean isn't even touched and she is sitting on her bed playing with her babies...but when she looks at you and is super proud of herself for getting her babies to sleep and dressing them up in cute little outfits you can't help but smile at how smart she is and how adorable she is...this is me...I am a sucker for my child and get super upset with myself when I get mad at my daughter for not cleaning her room when I ask her to 6 times...I hate yelling at her and allow her to continue playing because I don't want to yell...what is a good way where we can both be happy and her room get cleaned without ME having to do it?...any suggestions?

Nancy

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Sara - posted on 11/14/2009

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There is a website called handipoints.com that will allow you to do a chart of things that need to be done. When they are finished you can bring them to the computer and it lets them mark off what they did. As they do this you grade them on it and it gives them points to go towards their character. they have tons of age appropriate games and things for them to do. I dont know if you allow your child on the computer but it has things that you could do together. My daughter was always super excited to be able to check things off of the list. We did this to also help with getting dressed and other areas as well. It has a list that you can print that shows pictures of what they need to do next. Hope this helps.

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The best way I have found to get my kids to clean their room is with a timer. I set the timer for 20min and announce that they have 20 min to clean their rooms before I come in with a garbage bag. Now I've only had to do this once but after 20 min and their rooms were still dirty and found them playing video games I took everything on the floor, threw it in a garbage bag and told them I was going to donate their toys to charity for little kids who have no toys and would really take care of them. I never really did it, but I made them earn their toys back by doing other chores for me around the house LOL My mom used to do this too and it really works! Now when I say clean up time, they clean up:)

Amanda - posted on 11/16/2009

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When it is time for my 4 year old to clean I go in there and help him. Four is kinda young and a decent size mess seems like a GIANT size mess to him. Me going in there and "helping" keeps him motivated, plus I teach him to put things up right and not just stuff it somewhere. Works great! My 8 year old cleans like a pro doesn't complain and I truly do not have to ask him twice (at least, not about that) !

Aasiya - posted on 11/14/2009

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u told to your child that if u dont clean your room it become more dirty and if any one outsider come to your room than he think that u r a bad girl

Diana - posted on 11/14/2009

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my 4yr old sing "the clean up song" that he learn from school while he's cleaning up his playroom, me and him made a pack if he doesn't pick up after himself then his toys does't come out to play... and he doesn't get to watch his favorite video (little einstein)... for some reason it works.

Katie - posted on 11/12/2009

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Maybe you could try taking things away...just one at a time and let her know that if she cleans her room she may have it back. If she doesn't clean her room then you will be back to take something else also.

Amanda - posted on 11/12/2009

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Timer its a great idea and has always worked for me, also I'm not super picky about everything getting in the exact right spot. My boys are 5 and 7 and they share a room they work hard to get it clean before times up and if its not how I like it I tidy it up after they leave for school the next day , they don't know I did it and still feel good that they "cleaned it the right way " and mommy is proud. Of course then theres my daughter who is ten and a different story all together. With her its mainly a white lie of "oh my goodness Hope I saw a bug in your room today you'd really better clean it up before they end up in your bed" a little mean maybe but very very affective.

Marsha - posted on 11/12/2009

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I have used the timer, and they run around as fast as they can. It's pretty good, but you have to do it in short spurts, cause if they tire before the timer goes off, they will remember next time what's really going on... I end up having to take things away for the rest of the day. She has an older brother, so that helps because she usually wants to do and be everywhere he is, so I tell her she can't play outside with brother unless she cleans her room. That usually does it. Good luck!

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Bulldoze it to pieces? No, but seriously ...
The timer idea is good.
I tell my daughter 15 minutes before the national 'good night' TV show here starts that she has until then to tidy up, otherwise no show. I remind her 5 minutes later and then every 1-2 minutes after that. Normally by the time we get to 3 minutes she is scooting to do it and only misses the first 2 minutes of the show.
If things are really difficult of an evening then I tell her that everything I have to pick up of hers is gone. Normally that gets her busy, but if it doesn't, then things are gone for 2-4 days. Then we have peace and cooperation for a few weeks.

Rose - posted on 11/11/2009

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My kids loved to be timed. No really. I would set a kitchen timer for 5 minutes and they would put as much away as they could, it had to be neat not tossed. If the room was really a mess we might do with 3 or 4 times during the afternoon. If they did a good job they got a treat ie; story, tea party etc.

Shelly - posted on 11/11/2009

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OMG...that is so me. I walked in with two laundry baskets asked to babysit my daughter's doll. Then said since I am babysitting you have time to clean your room and I will help so it is faster. This basket is for clothes and shoes, this one is for toys and books. I will tell you which basket it goes in if you don't know go ahead and start while I hold you baby. Once the sorting was done, I asked her to sit with me for a minute. After a couple minutes telling her about the babysitting I was doing. I told her we would go a basket at a time and I would tell her where things went if she did not remember. After about an hour her room was clean the only help she got was a little direction and someone to be with her while she did it. But the labor was all her. We took breaks between empting one basket and before the next one started and before the second basket started I told her after that basket maybe we could go have a mom snack when we were done while the baby was sleeping....Hope that helps you.

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