How to I stop my child from misbehaving in school after I tried everything

Ivory - posted on 04/30/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a six year old who is ADHD. I've tried taking things away that he likes, punishing him, spanking him, I even got to the point where I had his child physicologist put him on medication. Nothing seems to work. I am up to my wits end with this little boy. I'm constantly stressing and my hair is falling out. It's to the point where his behavior is beginning to wear on my relationship with my daughters father. Don't get me wrong my fiancee` loves my son like his own and helps me out as much as he can but after awhile everyone gets worn down. What am I do to with this kid?

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Sarah - posted on 04/30/2009

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It's hard to get out of a cycle, especially when you are tired and had enough, but having worked in day care and having my own four kids, trying to work on the positive rather than the negative seems to work better. Rather than losing everything for bad behaviour, try having him earn things for good behaviour, and praising EVERY little thing he does right (which sometimes may be hard to find!!) even if it's just "Hey I liked the way you walked in the room!".

Michele - posted on 04/30/2009

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I have two children with mild cases of ADHD. Keep working with your pediatrician, the meds may not be at the correct level yet. Also set up a meeting with his teacher and make sure she understands that your son had ADHD. If the teacher has not ever dealt with an ADHD child that may be part of the issue. Children with ADHD need to constantly be brought back to focus. The medication does help. My son was in 7th grade before we started him on meds and you can draw a line on his report card from the very DAY that he started the medication. My younger son started on medication in the 3rd grade and it has taken a while to get his dose correct. He needs a stronger dose than my older son. Once the medication level is right even your child will notice the difference.



Medication won't solve all the problems. My doctor told us, "Medication doesn't make a child stop throwing rocks it just helps them aim better." It has to be a cooperative effort between the doctor/medication, the school, the home and the child.



Children with ADHD do better with positive reinforcement. That instant gratification is something they need. Try the Daytrana website. This is a patch that is applied on the skin with ADHD medication. They have some great advice on their site.

Krystle - posted on 04/30/2009

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I actually went through cathe same thing my daughter had the school calling me everyday of things she would do. Its is very hard on a relationship too there days where my fiance is frustrated with my daughter too. We did everything too to make it stop. We just sat her down one day told her that she will loose all privileges to everything TV, toys, games, and etc. She would have to earn every toy one by one. That worked for a short time. Then made a chart and everyday she was good i put a smiley face and if she got ten in a row i would reward her by taking her out to her favorite restraunt, skating or something that is a treat for her. That actually worked for us she still once in a while has a bad day but what kid doesn't. I hope this might work for you. I wish the best.

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