I dont love you anymore

Pamela - posted on 07/26/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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What am I suppose to do when my son tells me that he don't love me anymore? For no reason at all, he will look at me and tell me that he don't love me anymore or that he don't love me as much as he use to. I know children say it when they are mad but my son will say it when we are playing. It hurts me so much and I don't know what I'm suppose to say to him.

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Tamara - posted on 07/26/2011

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Honestly, if he is getting any type of reaction from you its a game and he does it just for that, its best to say something like Oh okey thank you and ignore it. it will stop faster if he isnt getting the response from you that he is looking for.

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Julie - posted on 10/21/2011

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My daughter tells me that when we are playing. I start fake crying and she'll laugh and tell me she really does. If I keep crying she tells me to stop, she really does love me. She doesn't do it to hurt me or anything. We play a little different than some families do though. We tell her we're going to punch her in the face and she tells us that. Important thing is she knows it's play and there is a time to be serious.

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Take a breathe he is mad about something even if u guys r playing at the time. My daughter who was 3 when her dad deployed used to tell me that while he was gone it's a phase she got over it we would be playing and I wouldn't do what she wants and she would say she hated me.

Bevely - posted on 08/09/2011

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He is saying it because he knows it hurts you. He is just pushing your buttons. Tell him, that's okay, you love him anyways and always will. (Don't make a big deal about it, the more you do the more he will keep on)

Then one day my kid tells me she don't love me anymore so I say, okay..get out my house then. Bye have a nice life. She looked shocked for about a minute then when I asked her why she was still there, she says I was just playing mom. LOL she was 9 then and hasn't said it since.

Teresa - posted on 08/04/2011

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I know it's hard but QUIT reacting to it. Pretend like you haven't heard it. He is waiting for your reaction.

Casey - posted on 08/03/2011

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Sounds like a power play to me! If I make Mum feel bad then she might try to make it up to me with treats or such. I would say "Well I'm very sorry you think that its okay to make mummy feel bad so until you have something nice to say I don't want to hear from you."

Gemma - posted on 07/31/2011

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My 6 year old does it, mainly in temper so I take him to his bedroom and explain to him that I don't want to see him until he has changed his attitude and then I walk away! After about 10 mins he will come and say sorry and I explain to him how much he hurt my feelings and ask him how he would like it if I said it to him! He feels bad and is sorry (until the next time lol)

Pamela - posted on 07/27/2011

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thanks ladies. I try not to let him know that ir bothers me but somtimes it is hard. I told him that I will love him no matter what even when he feels that he don't love me. I know its normal for kids to get angry and say it, sometimes though it really hurts. Hopefully its just a phase.

Jenifer - posted on 07/27/2011

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When my son would say that to me i would reply in a sing song voice" But I'll always love you". I made sue to tell him I loved him at other times as well so he didn't need to say that to hear I love you. He eventually stopped.

Kacie - posted on 07/27/2011

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What Tamara said also! thats what i do to my son! I say in a very non changed tone of voice "oh, yeah, you're right. i dont" or "oh well, no problem"

Kacie - posted on 07/26/2011

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My son is almost 6 and is going through this too. Not with me, but with my husband/his dad. he'll only tell me he doesnt love me when i fuss at him. it sounds mean and hurtful, but im just assuming its a phase and it'll pass

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