I have a 9 year old son. Just wondering if any1 has given a cell phone for emergency use to their older child...my son goes to his fathers house on weekends and i have thought about getting him one incase he ever needs to call in an emergency, and also so i can call him where ever he may be. any opinions? has any1 had any problems w/their child owning a cell phone?

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Ilovecats - posted on 12/04/2013

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I think its great that u gave your son a phone because he can always contact where he is and also contact you incase of an an emergency
you made the right choice!

Melissa - posted on 03/04/2009

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Erin,



My ex and his wife did get a cell phone for my oldest for Christmas. He comes to my house on weekends and it was there way to contact him if needed. They do not have any extra features on it for him. It is just used for text and phone calls. So far it has been good. They do have rules with the phone though. NO calling or texting during school hours or after 9 p.m. and no using it for your own personal calls. Overall I think it is a good idea.

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Terri Leanne - posted on 02/19/2014

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I have a 9 yr old grandaughter who has been having tics. Her eyes roll up and flutter. She has a doctor apt to see a Neuro physician. Has anyone deal with this. Please give me any information. My number is 209) 4802428
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Mshs - posted on 02/19/2014

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I have a nine year old daughter, holly. She has wanted a phone since she was 5. I got her one for christmas and she has used it well, so i let her add some friends onto her contacts. I think that you should get your child a phone at the age of 9/10 and they will learn to handle things responsibly. If they use it well let them add friends, but if the dont use it well, take it of him/her

Tamy - posted on 04/15/2012

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This Friday, after being home sick from school Thursday...my 9yr old daughter tried to call me from school (with her teachers permission), and the schools principal refused to let her call me! I just spent all evening and most of early morning in E.R. with my daughter who was diagnosed with stomach fu & CT Scan showed stomach bacteria that mimics appendix trouble!!!! WTH? Was this school thinking...while school nurse and one other teacher stood by and watched this principal??? (FYI: I will have to keep a cell phone on my 9yr old child, for this reason)

Samantha - posted on 03/12/2009

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my son is 9 and is starting to want a bit of independence so i have brought him a cheap cell phone so i can keep in touch with him when he is not with me i think its a good idea its on  pay and go so he cant run up a bill i have also set up a bolt on so that he can contact me should he need to even if he has no credit. I you do get him one get a strap for it too so he can put it round his neck under his clothes this way he wont lose it hope this helps

Yvette - posted on 03/12/2009

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Hi- my son is 10 now and I gave him a cell phone at 9 years of age. At the time I was a single mom and have to work full time. I think it's very necessary not only for emergencies, God forbid, but for everyday use. He contacts me right after school. I have found it very helpful since I can remind him to bring books home for studying, just for reminders. He can be forgetful with so much on his playful mind. My son also goes to his dad's on weekends but does not feel the same way. So, unfortunately he can't take it to his house. The only problem I've encountered was when he'd lost it. It happened once. So don't go shopping for an expensive one. :o)

Jessica - posted on 03/11/2009

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I added my son to my account last year after he passed to 5th grade he was 9 too because he's starting to venture out more in to the neighborhood and stays with friends overnight. At first he use to take my cell with him when he went to friends houses and  he called home to check in every hour. When I'd seen that he took care of it and used my cell only for these reasons I told him that he could have his own when it was time for my upgrade. Luckily he got his for free and it just added $10 more dollars to my account monthly and yes it's worth every penny. Now he calls me from his grandparents house just to say he loves me, and his grandparents can contact him now whenever instead of going through me and his other cousins from his Dad's side chat with him from time to time. Cell phone is family friendly only! If he wants to add a friend to his contacts he asks me first which he hasn't yet, he asks me for permission to download songs or games. He's done good so far so if your son seems mature enough and takes care of his things why not...these days are different from when we grew up, they are scarier so why not have that piece of mind of knowing you son is safe.

Sarah - posted on 03/04/2009

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We just bought my daughter a firefly glow cell phone. It is for kids, and has a mom and a dad button for them to call their parents, and a 911 button. There is also a parent lock on it, and you can go in and add only the numbers you want them to call or get calls from. Theres no key pad, but an arrow pad, so they can arrow down to the person's name and then push the 'call' button. it is very easy to use. My daughter is only 6, and can use it perfectly, we went over how to use a few times, and I had her call different people to get used to it. We had an incident where one of the teachers at her kindergarten put her in a stranger's car. She jumped out before the parent pulled out, but it scared her very badly. I think she and us feel a lot better with her having the phone.

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My son is 10 and my husband (his stepdad) gave him a cell phone when he was 8, against my protests.  It has actually worked out very well,  He was too young to care about talking to his friends on it much so I did not have much of a problem teaching him good "use" habits for the phone.  I have come to depend on his having the phone, especially when he is at his dad's house.  I guess it depends on how responsible your child is.  If you get one I would definitely get the optional insurance on the phone.  My son went into the ocean with his 2 weeks after he got it because he forgot it was in his pocket.

Sondra - posted on 03/04/2009

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I know Verizon has a cell phone for kids that you pre-load a set number of telephone number in. The phone can only be used to call those numbers and 911. Something like that might be an option for you.

Jennifer - posted on 03/03/2009

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My daughter is 10 and she's had a cell phone for 2 years, mainly because when she goes to her dad's (long distance) he won't let her call home and feels she shoudln't need to call me at any time. I feel that she should be able to get a hold of me, wherever, whenever. She's actually very good with it, She uses it mostly to play games on, a few text messages here and there. Depends on the child.

Jaime - posted on 03/03/2009

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When we lived in the city, I gave my 2 older children cell phones (they are 12 & 11 now). I think it is practical & a good way to keep track of them if they are at a friends house.

Leslie - posted on 03/03/2009

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We gave my daughter a cell phone for the same reasons, she is 11 and has had it for 2 years, we have had no problems aqt all, we have very clear rules about what is allowed and what is not and so far it has worked out quite well.

Dawn - posted on 03/02/2009

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My kid is also 9 & he's been wanting one. We decided to get him the Trac phone where you buy the minutes. If he wants minutes for calling his friends it comes out of his allowance.

Patty - posted on 03/02/2009

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I think kids these days have way too many gadgets unnecessarily.  If he is at his Dad's I would think if there is an emergency your ex would call you?  There is no reason a child that young needs a cell phone, you can call him if you need to talk on a regular phone.  I have three 9 year olds and none of them will be getting cell phones til they are at least in highschool.  It has nothing to do with how reasonsible they are, but it is just unecessary.

Erin - posted on 03/02/2009

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thanks alot for all the advice! So i have decided to give Brandan a cell phone for emergency use only...I know I will feel alot better doing this! I also think Brandan feels good about it. like people said he can call from a friends house ect. I will let everyone know how it turns out...and YES there will be rules!!!! lol

Kathy - posted on 03/02/2009

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hi my son is nearly 8 and i have given him a mobile phone, i think he is mature enough to have one and i no i can contact him when he goes to his friends or his nans. 

Bernadette - posted on 02/28/2009

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We gave our children cells phones when they were 9 years old. They were going from one home to another and it was easier to communicate and in case of emergencies. They are responsible and have since gotten upgrades :) We limited their phone use to no text/pic. messages initially but now have a plan that includes this, which my daughter uses with her friends but she knows to stay within the allotted number in the plan.

Kelly - posted on 02/28/2009

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I agree, it would depend a lot on the maturity level... but in the situation that you are in, just setting some ground rules would work. I have considered doing the same for the same reasons. Our "little" ones are 6 and 8.

Sarah - posted on 02/27/2009

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I have given one to my ten year old son for that same reason... he goes to his dads every once in a blue moon but his dad wont let him call me so we gave him the cell... it works great! I think it is a great idea. My son dosnt abuse it and dosnt even talk to his friends on it just me... and sometimes his grandparents... so I am all for it 100%



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My daughter (7) has a cell phone she only uses when she is out of our care - we used Firefly (http://www.fireflymobile.com/), which is a pay-as-you-use-it phone we purchased at Target. What I like about it is that it has three buttons - Mom, Dad, and 911. There are no keys to dial other numbers, and it will not accept calls except from the three listed above.

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my daughter is 8 and she has had a mobile phone for 2 years at first it was just when we went out in case we got seperated but also we thought of it as a way that if she did get seperated she had to find someone who worked where ever we were or a police officer and tell them she has lost her mummy and then give them her mobile with our mobile numbers in. my daughter is mature enough to understand this at 6 but now she txt's her mates from school and plays the games.

Jenny - posted on 02/27/2009

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I just recently gave my 2 sons ages 9 and 11 emergency cell phones.There are rules to the phone use,but I believe we all feel safer with them in thier backpackes when they leave to walk to the bus stop in the mornings. I have had no issues with them yet,they have had them since christmas.Actually, I never see them out of the backpacks.I take them out to charge them and put them back.I find comfort in knowing they can always call me...hope this helps:)

Fiona - posted on 02/27/2009

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I am having the same dilemma.  We are thinking of giving my 10 year old a phone when he turns 11 in June.  Right now he uses my phone if he is going out since I am usually at home with the younger kids.  He will go to middle school in September and I know it could be useful if he needed to get me.   Many of his friends have a cell phone but I still think he is too young although he does have the maturity to go along with the responsibility of a cell phone.   I don't currently see that he needs a cell phone as he doesn't go out a lot and isn't allowed to just hang out with friends.  I suspect this will all change with middle school and activities he will get involved with there.  I will have 3 kids in 2 different schools so will be on the go a lot.



If we do decide to  give him a phone I think it will be one of our old ones and phone cards or pay as you go.  I certainly will not be getting a new phone for him.

Linda - posted on 02/27/2009

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I have 2 sons that go to their dad's house every other weekend also. His dad doesn't have a home phone so is I want to talk to him or their is an emergency my son needed to have access to a phone. He has had this phone since he turned 10 and has done well with it. Both of my boys have ADHD and so I wasn't sure about getting them a phone but we haven't had trouble with them keeping up with it or going over the minutes. It makes me feel better knowing that there is a phone available if needed, it is worth having another bill just so that I can keep all my hair and my sanity!!

Clare - posted on 02/27/2009

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i gave my son a mobile phone when he was 9 and it was the right decision, i can get hold of him when ever i need to and if he has any problems i am only a phone call away, there has been a couple of occasions where he has been unsure of his limits where he can go, and one phone call has clarified the rules.

Sara - posted on 02/27/2009

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My 9 yr old son has a cell phone, but only because I trust him with it.  I guess it all depends on the maturity level they are at.  He walks/rides his bike to/from school every now and then and I like for him to call me to tell me he made it to school fine, etc.

Sara - posted on 02/27/2009

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My 9 yr old son has a cell phone, but only because I trust him with it.  I guess it all depends on the maturity level they are at.  He walks/rides his bike to/from school every now and then and I like for him to call me to tell me he made it to school fine, etc.

Jaimie - posted on 02/27/2009

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I gave my 6 year old daughter a cell phone...yes you read right my 6 year old. It is a kids phone with 5 buttons she can call me, her dad, my work and our emergency contact. I can call her from whatever number I am at, however I only call from the pre programed numbers because she is only allowed to answer the phone if it says "mom calling", "dad calling", "work calling", "Kim calling". There is a 911 feature on the phone that we chose not to program to avoid mistakes. That little phone has been fantastic, we can call to let her know if there has been a change in plans after school. like I will be picking her up, or she is to take the bus, she has phoned to ask if she can go to someone else's house etc. etc. It has not been abused in any way and it has helped her to feel more confident that she can always call me. My daughter is now 10 and has asked for a real cell phone...the answer is no. Not until she can pay for it herself and is responsible enough not to abuse it, to make secritive plans on it or to do anything I would not approve of. And with any cell on a plan, the bill comes to the adult, it is easy to figure out how long they have been on the phone & who they are talking to. Good luck, I am sure whatever you decide will be best for your family.

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my eldest had a phone for hs 10th birthday but he hasn't really needed it till this yr,he is 11 1/2 as he now plays with mates away from home,and i've told my younger son who is 9 that he can have one when he is 10.but it is up to u and ur child.

Courtney - posted on 02/27/2009

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I think these ages are a bit too young to have their own cell phone. Your son is 9 and you said incase of an emergency when hes at his fathers over the weekend....well, for the last 9 years on these weekend visits what did you do for "just incase of an emergency"? I'm sure you relied on his caregiver (father) to be the one to step up and deal with the possible emergency. So what is the difference now? Now that hes 9 are the possible emergencies more greater and his father less active in being there for his child? It doesn't make any sense to me. If you decide to give your 9 yr old a cell phone I would reccomend the firefly I think it's called. Theres only 3 buttons I think and you program what they call. And theres a button for 911. But still 9....seems way too young.

User - posted on 02/27/2009

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We live in a small town. The boys are always on the go. I did give my 9 year old (turned 10 in Dec) a cell phone of his own. He doesn't abuse it and he' has it if he needs it or if I need to find him.

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We bought our 10 year old daughter a prepaid phone and she does chores and keeps her grades up to earn her minutes. It has really worked well.

Nerissa - posted on 02/27/2009

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We gave our 9 yr old son a cell phone that he uses when he goes to friends homes.  He can only call home, my cell, his dads cell, and 911.  Our main problem is him misplacing it...So I keep it unless he is at a friends house.

Michelle - posted on 02/27/2009

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Also- as far as being able to reach him while he is at his father's:



I don't know your relationship with his father, but as far as the law goes, I think it states that you have the right as a parent to have access by phone with your child at any time you feel the need. (but I obviously wouldn't call past bedtime)



hope this was helpful to you :)

Michelle - posted on 02/27/2009

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I think that if you are leaving your child with someone you trust, they should be OK.  If there is an emergency there is always the land line, or the cell phone of the person your child is with.  But you should make the choice you feel most comfortable with. 



If you do decide you want your 9 yr old to have a cell phone, there are phones designed for kids with parental controls like only being able to call pre-programmed or emergency numbers.



As for my home, my rule with my 8 yr old is- You can have a cell phone when you start to drive- and only for emergencies.  But who knows if he will be able to talk me into getting him one once he is in middle school and walking home on his own.

Michelle - posted on 02/27/2009

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I have a friend who gave her10 year old daughter a cell phone for that very reasonbut, you have to decide ifthe child is mature enough to handle the responsibilty to have one. My boys wont begetting one until they are in junior high.

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