Dianna - posted on 06/18/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )
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My son had to sleep in the same bed with me when I lived at my mom's house for a year and now that we moved to another state , and I just bought him a new bed mattress and all he wants to sleep in my room on the floor what do I do? Is it o.k. for him to sleep on the floor I worry he is not comfortable
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Allanya - posted on 06/18/2009
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Health-wise it is probably not ideal for your son to sleep on the floor, simply because he's more likely to get cold (as we all know heat rises) but then if you live in a particularly warm area that may not be any problem.
I think the real issue is that your son is trying to tell you he wants to be emotionally "comfortable", and that is why he's wanting to be in your room. At his age, pobably the last thing he is thinking about is physical comfort, but you and I know that if he is uncomfortable he will not sleep well and before long you'll have a grumpy son on your hands! lol
My suggestion would be to ask yourself how you feel about him sharing your room...is that a good option for you? Do you want and need the privacy and space of your our room? Do you sleep as comfortably with him in your room? Also, to consider if it will serve him to do so. Will he find it difficult to be separated from you? Should he be more independent at his age?
Any transition/change can take kids a bit of time to adapt to, and I had a similiar situation with my sons. When their Dad and I separated they were allowed to sleep in our beds, even though they had their own. My youngest was notorious for waking most nights and coming into bed with me if I had put him down in his own.
Eventually I began dating and as I considered having a new relationship, and that would mean having my bf over to stay in time, I realised my son would need to learn I needed my own bed for myself.
To help him we first sat him down with a warm blanket for a cuddle on the couch, and I explained why I needed my own space. I also explained the benefits of him being a big boy and having his own bed. We then agreed to have a cuddle with a blanket every night before bedtime, and then I would tuck him down. This gave him the security of knowing I wasn't withdrawing my affection or love. I also consciously praised him the following morning for staying in his own bed like a big boy. Once in a while he would still get up, so I would let him in for a wee cuddle, as I am sure he was just needing the reassurance that I was still there, and then take him back to his own bed. Within a couple of months he settled happily :)
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