Ideas to teach my 7 yo boy about respect and good manners?

Tammy - posted on 12/02/2009

All kids go through this stage, but it is important to make sure that you call them on the behavior as soon as they do it to someone. Also I find that you have to lead by example and not to just other adults. It is important to say Please and Thank you to your child when it is appropriate too. When an incident occurs we always would have our child apologize and then when we were alone we would discuss what they did and how they should have acted more in depth.

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Stacy - posted on 11/29/2009

When ever my children are disrespectful to me or others around us, I simply take them, and exsplain to them they are being mean, or disrespectful. If they do it again, I remove them from the room we are in tell them they can not return to that room for the reason, and I return to what I was doing. If we are out in poblic, or someone elses house we leave. When they ask why I tell them they are being bad, and does not need to be around others with theeir behaviors. Hope that helps.

Valerie - posted on 11/28/2009

check out The Virtues Project and buy The Family Virtues Guide...you can go to virtuesvillagellc.com for workshop and products as well. Set down some family rules around courtesy and respect: We are courteous and respectful in this family. We speak kind words....give a consequence for breaking.......i would ask where he is learning this way of speaking? at aschool, tv, ...

Liz - posted on 11/24/2009

Wow, I thought my 7 yr old son was the only one doing this. His father and I have had enough with it but can't figure out how to nip it in the butt. We have taken things away, but of course that back fires, he could care less. Even if it is a favorite toy. He has gotten spanked and vingar in the month. We've tried so many things and nothing really phases this kid.

Candis - posted on 11/24/2009

I have worked with children for awhile now and I have two of my own. I have learned the best way to deal with this problem is to... Not listen to them when they are acting this way. When they start you tell them once, I will talk to you when you can speak nicely, or I will help you when you can ask nice. Then as long as they are acting up do not answer them but when they act right answer them right away. This teaches them they are not going to get any where by acting up. If you have a problem with your child crying about everything (this was my problem with my son) tell them that you can not understand them while they are crying and as soon as they stop you will will talk to them. This worked miricles for our problem. GOOD LUCK...

Carol - posted on 11/24/2009

My 6 year old goes through bouts of this. He gets put in the corner and/or gets things taken away. He has to apologize to the person he's hurt or disrespected. My son tends to act out like this if something's bothering him - lately the school bully. After he's punished for what he's done we talk about what's going on in his life that's upsetting him.

Kimberly - posted on 11/23/2009

Hi Michelle. I have a 7 year old little girl and lately she also has been doing the same thing as your son. I don't know where it's coming from but we are constantly arguing and I'm really tired of it. Plus Iove her so much I don't want to have this kind of relationship with her but I know she can't keep this up without consequences. What I have done is immedately take something away that she really likes. I then explain the reason for it. After I have cooled off, I go and speak to her about her behavior and reassure her that I love and I care and give her the opportunity to explain in her own words and come up with some ideas on how she can improve. Good Luck! Kim