Invited my son's third grade class to his birthday party and only one person responded!

Tonia - posted on 06/06/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I feel so horrible. My son will be 9 on Thursday. I sent out invites to his party last week. Today is the rsvp date. Only one person called to say their child was coming. Noone else called. I don't want to call everyone in their class. Usually no call means they are not coming. Around here people rsvp when they are coming only. I just don't get it. My boy is a great kid. I am sad for him. Is third grade too old for a party in our home? My son was excited. I was going to do a Super Mario brothers theme. I think i will still do it. I'd better get going on making the pinata! I am just venting my sadness is all.

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Devon - posted on 05/24/2013

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My daughter's birthday is this weekend and only 2 girls rsvp'd..one of which rsvp's every year and never shows up. She's having a spa party (she'll be 8) and is so excited.. my heart breaks for her. I have none of their parents numbers or anything, and we live in the country which means no neighbor friends. All I know is I am super mad spending so much for what seems like nothing. Either way it's my baby's party and I'm going to do my best to make it as great as I can..even if it's just me and her!

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Some ppl just don't know the meaning of RSVP, with etiquette being so far off from mainstream these days. I wouldn't be surprised if alot of them show up. One year we planned a bday party for our oldest (who @ the time was living with her bio mom in another state). I made the invites myself, mailed them of to our daughter so she could give them to her friends & her mom's family. We made arrangements @ the pizza place in the town they were living in (3hr drive from where we live). NONE of her "frens" showed up nor did her "mom" or her family!! Only us, her younger sister, my mom & younger brother & her dad's family. Needless to say we spent a wad of money for gas, hotel, pizza for ppl who never showed up! I was upset that these ppl didn't have the courtesy to show up or call after all the planning I did. Come to find out her frens SHOWED UP THE DAY BEFORE! I thought all these people are soo bright & deserve a prize! The invites had the date & DAY on it so there shouldn't have been ANY confusion. That is the LAST time we did anything like that for the girls. From then on we just did a family thing & their "mom" was going to have 2 responsible for their parties from then on. The girls now live with us & their "mom" never comes to see them for their birthdays or ever. So sad for them.

Teresa - posted on 08/04/2011

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Be prepared! More willl show up than RSVP. This is from experiance. I don't know why people don't feel the need to RSVP a child's party but they don't. It is rude and I feel selfish. I am pretty responsible towards my social obligations though.

Megan - posted on 07/28/2011

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That is soo rude, disrespectful and stressful! When my son had his 8th bday we had his bday at Chuck E Cheese and invited all the boys in his class. We had 1 parent call to say their son couldn't make and one email to say that their son would be there. Other than that I had to start asking people like if I saw the parents in the neighborhood at baseball practice at the school or whatever. A few days before the party I started calling people, which is super annoying that I even had to do that! Some people I didn't have their numbers. There were about 5 people who showed without responding either way. Just don't get it. I gave a phone number and email. It takes like half a minute to send an email or call! There are sooo many rude people out there it's unbeliveable! I feel anyones pain who has gone through this! So stressful!

Jaime - posted on 06/13/2011

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Well Kiernan had his big party on Saturday and I pleased (and relieved) that everyone actually showed up! Way to go to cubscout moms LOL.

Jakki - posted on 06/13/2011

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Arrrrrk - I have seen this same issue before on COM and a lot of people said don't despair - people really might want to come they're just too busy to RSVP or have forgotten, or lost the invitation. This happens to me sometimes even though I hate it when people do it to me. I certainly don't mean to be a rude cow but I simply forget!

If I was you, I'd ask your son to tell you which are his top 5 friends, and call the mums directly (assuming you have or can get their numbers) and just say "oh just wondered if you got the invite, can you come to the party?" And then hopefully you'll get a small group of his best friends and you'll have a nice time.

Mimi - posted on 06/10/2011

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I think thats horribly rude and disrespectful. People just dont have manners anymore. I was brought up that if you got an invitation you rsvp'd whether you could go or not. Some people may show up without rsvping and it could make all the food short. Ugh I hate that.

Jaime - posted on 06/09/2011

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Kiernan still had a great time, his family was there and that is all he cared about...that and the large chocolate cake I brought out LOL

Jennifer - posted on 06/09/2011

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That's sad:( That's what happened at my son's 6th birthday party. I invited the whole entire class and only like 1 or 2 people actually rsvp'd. But just make it as fun as possible and invite the kids in your neighborhood if your son is friends with them.

Kathy - posted on 06/09/2011

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i hear ya there my son turned 4 in october it is is first year of school we invited all his classmates and do u think that one parent would get off their you know whats to bring there kids nope so all he had at his party was his cousins thank goodness i decided to invite them he was so so very upset if u would like to chat more let me know sweetkatt1979@gmail.com

Jaime - posted on 06/07/2011

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I can top that...had 30 people RSVP for my son's 5th birthday so had to rent tables, get enough food and such....2 people showed up.....I was p*******

Karen - posted on 06/07/2011

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That is horrible.They should have rsvp at least. But my kids have been invited by class mates to birthday parties and I always end up saying no. The problem is that only 1 kid is invited. Having 3 young kids it's hard to explain to them and it's also an issue if you need someone to babysit the siblings. I know they make you invite the whole class now but maybe if he got the friend's phone numbers and did an over the phone invite. Or their adresses. the friends that you know are close to him. Or if you can invite siblings also. I don't know (can get expensive).

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