Is 38 too old to have a baby?

Katrina - posted on 07/15/2010 ( 156 moms have responded )

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Thinking of trying for baby No 3, I worry about when I am 60 they will be only 20. Is 38 too old to have a baby? Am I fooling myslef?

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Lance - posted on 12/27/2012

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Hello, my name is Lance and my wife is 38 and Im 37, we have 2 daughters that are both about 18 and a son who is autistic and non verbal, we' ve entertained the thought of another child because all of my children are step children per say, and I personally would like a child of my own. Now heres where it gets kinda complicated, even though we have 3 children, one of the children I raised with my first wife because her sperm doner is a p.o.s. and hasn't had anything too do with her at all so when I met my first wife she was only about 9 months old..... now I consider her my real daughter because ive raised and loved her for so long. I guess my question is, is it unfair for me to ask my new wiife to bear my child just because I don't have a blood child? And are we too old, even though we' ll probably have her autistic child who is now 7 until he is a full grown adult and probably then some? I just dont know what to do? Please help me.....
Lance...

Teresa - posted on 08/04/2011

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I'm 41 expecting my 2nd child. My great grnadmoter had her LAST at 50. She had others while in her 40's. Most people will tell you not to have children older because when will you have time for yourself. Having my son, my time is spent with him and I cherish it. I want to spend time with him. Who else would I want to be with? My husband and I both spend most of our time with our son. We want it no other way. SO now at 41, expecting another one. I am excited. There will be time for my body to sleep when I die. Meanwhile my soul is up with my babies.

Chandler - posted on 11/03/2013

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yes, you are too old. The chance for complications for the mother and child go up and the chance for genetic diseases increases immensely. Its not fair on the potential child for you to 'want' a child now. How egocentric are you people? you have a child to give the best life for the child. it's not to make you feel better. They're not your property, they're not decorations or ornaments.

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Im 23 with parents in their early 60s who have great healthy lifestyles. However, while im still trying to get into my career with this crappy economy, my bf and i are trying to decide whether to have kids in the next couple years or wait to marry. And what comes across my mind is whether my kids will have an active relationship with their grandparents being that my parents will be 80 or older. I never knew either of my grandfathers because they passed away when i was a baby. Just something to think about, in MY opinion its a bit selfish to have children at an older age. It goes beyond your "baby fever" urge, think about the kids becoming caretakers at a younge age, etc.

Natalie - posted on 07/29/2013

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I am 44 and I have a 2 year old - and yes, I thought I was preventing it! But I still feel like a young mom in a lot of ways. I think "older" moms have the advantage of maturity, though. I think as long as your equipment works and you're healthy, go for it!

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Olga - posted on 08/22/2014

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WHOEVER NAME IS CHANDLER. HE MUST HAVE SOME ISSUES….HE HE.POOR GUY. MATURE MOTHER CAN OFFER ALOT MORE MATURE LOVE, PATIENCE AND UPBRINGING. GO FOR IT GIRL. I AM 37 AIMING FOR THIRD ONR CAUSE THE OTHER 2 ARE SO WONDERFUL. RISK OF A DISEASE - I DO NOT BELIEVE GOD PLANS A SICK KID FOR YOU. JUST DETOXIFY YOUR BODY, TOXINS CAUSE GENES TO CHANGE. DO ALL POSSIBLE TESTS.

Michael - posted on 03/28/2014

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If a baby is what you want...GO FOR IT!!! I think as long as you are under 50 you are safe. Take care of the body your baby resides in & ask GOD to guide you through your pregnancy & birth. If 60 isn't too old to go to college then under 50 is NOT too old to have a baby. Everyone has different goals.

Tanya - posted on 01/08/2014

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Hi Katrina,
No 38 is fine. I know lots of mums who had babys at that age. My nextddoor neighbor just had her 2nd baby at age ,44 almost 45. They were trying for years and do you know I've yet to hear 1 Person say anything bad or negative about them. I decided when I was 38 that I'd love a 5th baby. I'm now 40 & we've been trying for about 10/11 months, I know if God wants to bless us again he will & we will be very greatful! Did you know 1 in 3 baby's are born to mother's over 40. Its not like years ago people are living longer and are much younger looking than women year's ago. Do it now because if you don't try you'll regret not doing it and the longer it goes the harder it will be. As for worrying about not living long enough as some posters said I disagree I've known Mums who.have died in their 20s & left a few kids behind that had to go and live with Aunts etc then there's my neigh our who's in their 80s had kids in their 40s & are now Great Grandparents!!'
I see this is an old post I'd love to know how your getting on!? Please add me if you get the chance thanks!;)

Cherie - posted on 11/10/2013

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I had my last child when I was 41. I'll admit that physically it's more of a challenge but if you want to have a child at 38 don't sweat it. This is not going to be child #1 so you are already aware of the work involved in that first year of childhood and if you feel you have the energy for it, go for it. I love my children and don't regret any of my pregnancies.
Go forth and multiply! :)

Wendy - posted on 11/08/2013

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Are you heckers like. I had my little boy at 42. He's 3 now with a 22 year old sister x

Kylie - posted on 11/06/2013

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No. I was 34 and 37 when mine were born. I don't feel too old! There are plenty of Mums these days in their 40's. Life expectancy in the Western world is past 80 for women so you'll most likely be around for many years to come. Plan to be as fit and healthy as you can be, and enjoy your children. All the best with your plans.

Amy - posted on 11/05/2013

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I am 35 but will be 36 in a couple weeks, and I am 5 months pregnant with my 3rd child. So I would say that your definitely not too old to have another child.

Diva - posted on 07/29/2013

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Thank you Natalie- after 12 years my husband and I are finally going to take the plunge. Ty for the support I hope to be replying soon with good news. So far I did go see my provider and my female plumbing is still working..

Diva - posted on 07/27/2013

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I dont have any kids and I willl be 40 this year do you think that I could have a baby. Do you ladies think I can

Sherri - posted on 04/15/2013

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37 wasn't too old she's now 10 3/4 and i am still 37 plus 10 3/4 so no 38 is not too old

Dianne - posted on 01/07/2013

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had baby No. 3 at 43. Couldn't be more pleased. When she was born I held her & told her well when your 19 & I'm 62 we'll go on a birthday cruise together & then I guess you'll be off to college! She's 10 now & still has a little trouble keeping up with me!

Patricia - posted on 12/27/2012

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There are plenty of other women having a baby older than you. I would say just make sure your body is in good health and maybe even a nice full physical at the doctor is a good idea.

Teresa - posted on 12/26/2012

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I had my 10 month old at 42. I dont feel old. I still enjoy him and will every stage of his life. I ha ve friends younger than me tht cant keep up with thier younguns because of different medical conditions. Age doesnt matter.

User - posted on 12/26/2012

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I had my first at 43. I have a stepdaughter who is 23. Being a 43 year old first time mom was awesome. There were all sorts of great things about being older. I have infinitely more patience, for one. At 46 I won't have another, but I have a friend who is 46 and thinking about a third. You and only you will know if having a baby at any time is right for you.

Sheila - posted on 12/18/2012

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I am 41 and my children are 2, 3, 6, 9, 10, and 17. Honestly, I love my youngest but I am tired. I wish I would have had all of them (4 of them are bio and two step) shortly after the first one. My husband and I should be enjoying our time together but instead we are still getting up at night etc. It's really a personal decision....

Titch - posted on 12/16/2012

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No! Course it's not too old, i know somebody who had a baby at 41 and their happy! :D xxx

Lana - posted on 12/15/2012

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I Had my 4 th at 39 I got high blood pressure and gestational diabetes but bub is fine. He is almost 1. And I have far more patience than I did when the other 3 where baby's and I was in my early 20a

Elizabeth - posted on 12/01/2012

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I was 38 when I conceived my 5th child. It was a healthy pregnancy and it went very well! She is now 21, almost 22, recently married and doing well. No regrets.

Denise - posted on 11/27/2012

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This is for Flo Whipple, but I just noticed it was from 2010 so she probably won't ever see it lol! You may be resentful that you are having to spend some time at hospitals but have you thanked your mother for the sacrifices she made for you all those years?

Megan - posted on 11/22/2012

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never too old I am almost 38 and considering having my 6th! my last one was born when I was 35 babies are a blessing if it is meant to be it will be :)

Kelly - posted on 11/21/2012

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I am 37 and its my 3years been married and I have lovley big house and want other one! Will I be old having one 38?

Janise - posted on 11/20/2012

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You are never too old to have a baby at 38. I had my twin boys at age 41. I too worried about when I turned 60, whether I will have the health or the strength to be with them That's why I eat healthy and exercise regularly.

Angel - posted on 11/20/2012

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Katrina, thousands of women are having babies after 38, 40 and even 50! However, the important thing to know is that your fertility begins to decline after 35, and even more so after 40. So, if you'd like to do it, you need to get started! Consider getting a referral to a fertility doctor, just to get a benchmark on where you are physically; look at traditional Chinese medicine and diet to work on your biological clock. Here's a tip sheet from the "Over 40 Mom Squad" where older moms and experts share advice and links on getting pregnant later on. http://achildafter40.com/meet-the-over-4... . Also, there's lots of advice and support on parenting really young kids in your 50's and 60's. You are certainly not alone!! :)

Isabelle Jodie - posted on 11/19/2012

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Hi there Katrina. I'm 38 and I'm 21 weeks pregnant with my third child. I haven't had any probs and the baby is healthy and doing well. I found out it's a little girl. Don't know if because it's a girl (being stronger than boys) it's held on so well, because i haven't slowed down at all. All is well though, that's the main thing. I say, if your still in pretty good shape "Go For It". My oldest is 14 and my youngest is 10 and i'm excited!

Taylor - posted on 05/13/2012

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Do what you want, but I just want to say- My dad is 40, my sister will be born in June. There are 17 years between me and my brother, and there will be 20 years between me and my sister. While, I love my siblings with all my heart, and I know that my parents were married and happy when I was born, I can't help but thinking I was the screw up. I feel like I was the kid he didn't want, and now I'm ruining his new perfect family because of it. I urge you- if you have significantly older children, PLEASE talk to them first! I know that it really hurts when I go to Holiday/Birthday parties at my dad's and people look astonished to find out that he has an older daughter. It seems like it reinforces the fact that he doesn't want to acknowledge my existence. Also, please never have a third child because you don't want your second child to be and "only" child. They ARE NOT and only child, and it will only hurt the oldest's feelings.

This may not be your situation, but if it even remotely applies to anyone reading this, PLEASE re-think your decision. Me and my dad had a WONDERFUL relationship before he decided he needed a new family. Everyone needs to learn to be happy with the family they have. Would you seriously have told your older child(ren) when they were 6 that you didn't want them anymore and that you want new kids? Well, it's the same thing when they're 20-it hurts. No one wants to feel like their parents hate them. NO ONE.

Cheri - posted on 04/18/2012

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Do you think it's too old? If not, then it's not too old. I stopped worrying about what other people, who are not living my life for me, think. If your OB approves you for another pregnancy and feels it's safe, go for it if that's what you want!



That said: Pregnancy wise, I know many surrogates doing this and many are between 40-45 years of age, so you're definitely not too old to be pregnant



When you're 60-wise: Your child will be able to handle themselves at age 20. It might be different if you had a 2yo at that age....but you wouldn't.



GOOD LUCK IN TTC!!! :)

Emma - posted on 04/18/2012

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no not at all long you feel your up to having baby age dont matter to certain point

Pamela - posted on 04/17/2012

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No. As long as you are healthy, go for it!!!. Forget what society says. SOCIETY is NOTORIOUS for misinformation and out right lies! LOL!!!

Stop second guessing yourself about age. 60 is just the beginning of adulthood!!! LOL!! Until then you're just a babe in the woods!

Lisa - posted on 04/17/2012

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I had my fifth child at 38 and would be open to one more before I am 40. So, I don't think 38 is too old. Good luck!!!

Dorita - posted on 04/16/2012

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Nope- kids keep you young. I've had 3 past the age of 38. My last was born when I was 46. My younger friends whose kids are grown act like grandparents. I don't !

Amy - posted on 02/23/2012

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I am 38 and expecting. Reading these posts make me feel better about my age.

Amy - posted on 02/23/2012

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I am 38 and expecting. Reading these posts make me feel better about my age.

Emily - posted on 01/29/2012

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no, you are still young. i had my last child at 41 years old, and he is happy and healthy! go ahead with baby no. 3 you will love that you did!! my third baby is a joy to me today. good luck! :)

Rashita - posted on 01/26/2012

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I am 38 and pregnant with my 4th baby. I have a 20, 15, 7 and 2 year old. all boys. unexpecting as this pregnancy was. I am truly happy and blessed. Children are blessings and if God has made it so you can have a baby (plenty of women who cant) and you can mentally and physically take care of it. Then by all means, do so. Blessing to you.

Sue - posted on 09/25/2011

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I had a "surprise" baby at 40. I enjoyed him more than the older children. Yes, I feel tired more often, but he makes me feel so alive. I love having the "later in life" child.

Beth - posted on 08/01/2011

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my mom had me at 40 and my brother at 43. Iam now 31. So my mom and dad are both 71. I do wish sometimes that they had more energy to do physical activities with me. And I also remember feeling a distinct "generation gap" with them. I know all kids feel like their parents can't relate, but even now they seem to be from a different time zone. ;-) And I remember preparing myself as a child that they were probably going to pass away earlier than all of my friends parents (although) several of my friends parents have died and mine are still alive. On the other hand they were both well established and had extra cash. They probably had more wisdom and were more patient than younger parents.

Debrah - posted on 07/31/2011

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Are you fooling yourself ? absolutely not. There are pros and cons for both young and old parents. Children are a blessing and if it's meant to be it will be, but don't let age be a barrier. I'm approaching 38 and have been trying for baby number 2 for 2 years, sadly both my pregnancies ended but i remain hopeful and won't let my age go against me, whatever your decision all the best to you.

Jackie - posted on 07/31/2011

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i had my first daughter at 36, my second at 38 and third at 44, i had my career before my girl's were born, and i love being an older mum. they keep me on my toe's and having their arm's around me telling me they love me is worth more than a career or anything in this world.

Carla - posted on 07/30/2011

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I was 42 when I had my first child of my own. I raised two step children. I was unsure when I got preganet. My great grand ma had a child at that age and she lived longer to see her familygrow. The doctor assured me they take more precaution while I was carring my son. I think that my family is closer. Do to having my son later I would not change a thing

Lori - posted on 07/30/2011

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I was 37 when I had my daughter. I can't have anymore because I've had a total hysterectomy (period problems). When I realized I was pregnant, I felt ready. When I was younger, I knew I wanted (a) child(ren), but wasn't financially or emotionally ready for the responsibility. I don't think 37 is too old, and neither is 43. I would have liked to have maybe had another, but glad didn't because when my daughter was 6 mo., she was diagnosed with having PDD-NOS. It wasn't my age that caused her to have a form of Autism, it just happened. 1 in 150 (or less) have Autism. She's my world and I was meant to have my wonderful child.

Diane - posted on 07/30/2011

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Nope. 8 years after having 4 kids, my Mom had twins at 41 (my sister and I), and I had my second at 38. She was 62 when I was 20 and I turned out just fine. She is now 83 and still kickin'. I'm loving life and enjoying my children every minute. I think it keeps us young to have to keep up to them in our later years. Go for it.

Katherine - posted on 02/05/2011

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no i dont think 38 it too old to have a baby. my older sis was 37 when she had another child.

Its your life, live it.

Carrie - posted on 02/04/2011

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I feel the same way you do. Having those thoughts for months now. Trying to talk my husband into it... it's tough. Frustrating.

Katherine - posted on 02/05/2011

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no i dont think 38 it too old to have a baby. my older sis was 37 when she had another child.

Its your life, live it.

Mindy - posted on 08/02/2010

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No way 38 is not too old to have a baby if you want one then go for it we all worry too much about the biological clock i say if you feel like you can you should

Robin - posted on 08/02/2010

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I had my one and only at 39. I can do everything my younger friends can do with their children. I love being an "older" mom. My child is the joy of my life. If you feel you are able, go for it, you're not too old to have a baby.

Jackie - posted on 08/02/2010

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i have just had my third daughter at 44, i had my first two at 36 and 38. i feel that as long as they are loved and cared for and you are in good health then go for it, you're not too old to have a baby.... and enjoy, jackie

Melanie - posted on 07/28/2010

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im 36 and just had number 4 in nov. shes 8 months now. besides my gramma had my uncle at 44. my cousin had her 3rd at 41 her sister had her 7th at 39. so i say you're absolutely not too old to have a baby. if you want to have another baby go right ahead. im enjoying this one just as much as the ones born at 19 25 and 27. shes a blast.

Bonnie - posted on 07/28/2010

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No your fine, not too old to have a baby, just go for it!! I have 3 girls and I'm 29 years old lol

Julie - posted on 07/28/2010

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i tagged above but i will say it again!!! that is ridiculous. 38 is not too old to have a baby. i had my son at that age and am now 47 and he is such a joy in my life and keeps me feelin young!!! GO FOR IT!!! (i also have a 20 year old son)

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