Is it ok to dye my 10 yr old son's hair pink?
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Patricia - posted on 08/22/2012
Ignore all the bad ass and bullied comments. If he wants to try it just do the semi permanant. It is hard enough having to deal with the hair falling out and bald spots so if coloring it makes him feel better than go for it. If he does get too much teasing then just change it back. Simple as that. Don't let others discourage you from it. In many cultures they color hair- pierce body parts- tattoo. Why does it have to be so awful if you do it in our culture? Don't get it. Everyone expects people to conform to their ways.
Lila - posted on 07/24/2012
Just a little note to add...my son has Alopecia. This means that parts of his hair on his head fall out in clumps, leaving small bald spots. His eyebrows fell out over 2 years ago and have not yet responded to treatment, but he is blessed with a light hair and a strong brow bone so it is not really noticeable. I apply a spray treatment to his scalp twice a day and I cut his hair to ensure it lays properly and covers his "spots".
When he first asked me to color his hair I was worried about the effect on his scalp. I did research and talked to several hair dressers.
Coloring your child's hair is NOT dangerous if it is done by a competent, experienced ADULT.
And I have to add that in MY OPINION, hair is disposable!
God, evolution, whatever you choose to believe, the human being is designed with hair that grows and sheds regularly, so coloring your hair or your child's hair should not be an issue of rules or obediance. Hair should be considered an "adornment" like the style of clothes you choose to wear.
That said, when I enrole my children in school or any activity, I read the rules to see if they contain anything I consider to be restrictive and/or unreasonable, and I would question the principal or whoever regarding it. But I don't believe that hair color should be restricted in school. Maybe if more parents paid more attention to their kids' hair there would be less cases of head lice in school! :)
Sarah - posted on 07/15/2012
Pink was actually the "boy" color up until the 1940's, and blue was considered a feminine color. An ad from a French clothier was the culprit for making today's society believe that color had to be applied to a gender. I think that it might be a great esteem builder. My 10 year old son has a "Top 10 Reasons I Wear Pink" tshirt...and if he could wear it everyday I think he would. It seems to me that "genderizing" colors only encourages an ongoing glitch in the way our children are raised to think you're a sissy if you wear certain colors...and the same can be said for the female gender. Kids are looking to us to teach them..what are they learning? After all...it's only a color.
Pamela - posted on 07/13/2012
Only in backwards thinking people. (Pink is only a girl's color) As for dying the hair, NO!!!
Why would you allow your son to get his hair dyed? Because other kids are doing it? What has happened to today's parents and allowing their children to do whatever they want? Whatever happened to PARENTS SETTING BOUNDARIES? That is why God gives babies to parents and does not have them born on their own planets without anyone to help rear them. Duh-uh!
Cherissa - posted on 07/12/2012
My 9 yr old boy has had the manic panic washout colors and he loves them. He has done blue, yellow, green and rocker pink and never been teased for it. Have fun! With all the fights you are going to have with the boy in his whole life, do you really want one of them to be about HAIR? Its no big deal, let him express himself!
Hillary - posted on 12/03/2012
Ahahaha, I can't believe someone actually thinks the way a person wears their hair determines what their demeanor will be. Old post, so I am sure you have been there done that with this, but had to laugh when I read some of the responses. My son's hair, my son's choice. As long as his choice in clothes, hair, and piercings are not disrespectful to anyone, he is welcome to make his own choices. He has had mohawks, pink, purple, red, etc. hair, and his ear is pierced, he is also 10. But he is in no way a mean, nasty, bully of a child. He is a caring, respectful, regular 10 year old. There are a few restrictions, no body piercings or tatoos until he is 18 (although with a thorough, respectful, adult conversation, I may be swayed when he is 16) but his hair is all his. It is hair, it grows back and can be cut off if he changes his mind. His 8 year old brother is following right in his foot steps and I couldn't be prouder. They don't conform to what they are told they should be like, but are completely individual, and they understand everyone is different, so they couldn't care less what someone looks like. They know to look at the personality, not the appearance. I think allowing our children to be different, may open the gates for others to realize different isn't a bad thing, and maybe help stop bullying, not increase it.
Jen - posted on 10/30/2012
I don't think pink is considered a strange color for boys. I wouldn't let my 11 yo do that to his hair, but to each his own. However, I would make sure that there's not a policy against it at his school - elementary schools often don't allow "unnaturally colored" hair, even though it's generally fine at a highschool level.
Candas - posted on 08/26/2012
Situations like this are sooo much easier with girls, since all colors are pretty much OK. When it comes to my sons, I’d have an informative conversation with them as to why they want that color, and making sure that they understand that some kids may poke fun at them. Personally I feel that allowing your children to make some of their own decisions during adolescence and on thru the teenage years will make the transition into adulthood easier for all parties involved.
Laetitia - posted on 08/23/2012
where do you live?
i should be so amazing to see all the child with bright hair colors!!
in France nobodys do that for the moment. I have ask to the hair-stylist if it was possible to color a little lock of my daughter and he said "now, i never do this on childs, the product we use for adult os dangerous, why do you want your daughter to color her hair so young ect ect"
and i don't speak about school..most of directors even prohibit cap or sleeve one pants leg ^^
Yvonne - posted on 08/22/2012
As a hair dresser I would say nope nope mope to a whole head process. To achieve this color you have to first strip the hair with high lift bleach which if don't wrong can burn the scalp. The pink color itself is not that bad considering it is a direct dye type pigment usually kind if like that in clothes dye or food color. It isnr a process that should be done at home and can be expensive done at the salon.
Lora - posted on 08/21/2012
10 yrs is too young for haircolor, I'm a hairstylist and really 13, 14 is more appropriate, they need sumn to look forward to, the younger they are when they get to color their hair, the younger they'll b when they wanna get a tat, drink, smoke, have sex, etc. I just think they need to kno ok when I get this age I have this to look forward to
Bobbie - posted on 08/19/2012
Okay, this won't be popular but I feel I can't speak my mind and not anger anyone, I hope. When I see boys in this age range with hair of any color change, and cuts to exaggerate it, I know they will be badly behaved. I think the coloring and cuts actually makes them feel empowered and bad ass. I was with my 7 year old grandson at a strip mall. We were getting out of our car and he pointed to two boys and their dad getting out of a car near by. The boys had to be younger than 10 or small for their age and had crazy hair, but it was the fourth of July. They each had half red and half blue hair. The older boy had shaved bottom half of his head and long spiked up hair on top. No big deal. But from experience I knew to stay clear of them. My grandson remarked that he thought their hair was awesome and asked if he could color his hair. I just laughed and said that wasn't up to me. The boys watched us and steered towards us though it was clear their father was trying to get them to go in a different path. The boys made eye contact with my grandson and immediately their little chests popped out. I thought oh boy, here we go, the attitude of I am bad ass is kicking in. When we got to the sidewalk my smiling grandson said to the youngest, your hair is sick. (best compliment to those who don't know). The young boy power walked right into him and pushed him to the side so he didn't have to change his path. The father corrected his son for being rude and smiled at me. The older boy lingered behind and waited for his dad and brother to get ahead and out of ear shot. He then looked at my stunned grandson and glared at him as he walked by super close, in his personal space and said under his breath. Little freak.
Now, I am not saying these are bad kids. Their father's intervention showed he was an involved parent. But the switch goes on inside the brain of these kids and they turn into little monsters when they see someone that is looking at them or in their age group. I mean the hair says look at me the bad ass attitude says what are you looking at. They turn from average kids into ready to react bullies with more prov ado and swagger. If they don't at first, they soon will as a defense mechanism to ward off the comments. Many kids find it is so stupid and attention seeking that they tell them as much.
In closing I can tell you that schools really frown on this kind of coloring, blue, green, red, orange, pink or yellow. Not because of the dress code but because of swagger it gives these kids. Other boys will try them to see if they are as tough as they are acting. The bullying won't come from boys thinking he is sissy. The fights he will get into will be from others not liking his attitude or remarks fueled by what I refer to as the bad ass hair.
Ana - posted on 08/16/2012
I think little kids with wild dyed hair is a distraction to their studies in class.. they can just spray on the halloween and party colors when they get home....Pink is now considered a cool rock and roll color, not just for girls anymore...but it depends on the way it's worn...
Bridget - posted on 08/13/2012
I think you should let him dye his hair pink after all it is his hair. and its not harmful to him or anyone else around him. And i hate the concept that pink is a "girl" color. I think that it is just a color and he has a right to like whatever color he wants to and if he gets teased and wants to dye it back you can no harm done :)
Debby - posted on 08/10/2012
My 13 year old has dyed her hair because I dye my hair. I'm 34 and I still dye my hair funky colors (currently red & black but have been blue or purple as well). That being said let him have fun. Make sure what you pick is DEMI or SEMI permanent as that will wash out in 6 to 8 weeks. They generally don't make permenent hair color in the cooler shades like purple or pink so it's easy to find the wash out stuff. Have fun with it and keep a laid back attitude!
Julie - posted on 08/08/2012
My 7 year old wanted BLUE dyed hair, he kept bugging me so I finally bought the kit and started the process (you have to bleach the hair first, then color.) After we bleached it, I said "Ready for the BLUE? He said, I think I like it just like this! Never even made it to color. Start with same with your son, he may just like it bleached and the pink can come later, or not.
Remind your husband that PINK is back, just like in the 80's. Remember in the '80's PINK IZOD's? My Brother wore one his Sophomore year to a Country Hick High School. My Dad thought he'd be beat up for sure! He sported the plaid shorts and Sperry Topsiders with it! Instead of being made fun of, everyone was wearing the same thing by the next year...
Self expression is key to forming one's identity. Have fun with it :)
Tammy - posted on 08/03/2012
Nice thing about hair is that you can always change the colour on a whim! :)
If he doesn't like the pink tomorrow, get a dye remover and start again.
That happened to me the day before I got married. I wanted to even the colour out (too much sun streaking the previous summer) and the colour I got was way off, or someone had switched the colour in the box! And I have waist length hair! Luckily I was able to fix it with a dye remover and the proper colour afterwards. It was a lovely wedding. :)
Medic - posted on 08/02/2012
I am all for it....but then again my 5 year old dyes his hair every color under the sun and has designs shaved into the side of his head. People will always find something to pick on someone about. My son at 5 just tells them....good thing its my hair, or glad your not my mom.
Anne-Marie - posted on 07/24/2012
PINK! support your son in what he wants... My 15 year old nephew LOVES pink and wears it often. He very rarely gets comments, and when he does, he just brushes it off. My son also loves pink, and I let him have his sparkly shoes, hair bands (he has long hair) and no one really teases him. They did at first, but now they know it is just him.... =).
Dove - posted on 07/17/2012
I don't mind if my child dyes their hair with temporary dye, but the chemicals in the bleaching stuff or the long term hair dye is not something I want my child using. I don't want to be responsible for risking permanent damage to their hair.
I would also never allow my child to do something that violates the school dress code. The rule may not make sense to some people, but by teaching my child that it is ok to break the rules (unless the rule causes actual damage to a person)... I am setting them up to fail in life. Bosses have rules that make no sense sometime and you either follow them... or become unemployed.
Rules that harm people I have no problem in them breaking... other than that.... I'm not a rule breaker and I won't raise my child to be one either. Different priorities I suppose.
Chaya - posted on 07/17/2012
If you don't want your child to dye their hair, tell them not to. I respect your boundaries, but I really don't care if my daughter dyes her hair whateve colour she wishes. I wouldn't do it for my granddaughter unless her parents were okay with it, but as for me and my house, hair colour is fine. God doens't care what colour of hair we have
Chaya - posted on 07/17/2012
My daughters school told me, after I had dyed my hair blue, that children are not allowed to have odd colours of hair. I told them I'm the last person to tell my daughter not to dye her hair. The worse thing they can do in the US, is to suspend him for three days.(Depending on the school district) They can't deny him an education due to his hair color.
When I was a child, I had eye surgery, (Mid &0's) My uncle, who was my guardian, was teasing the guy prepping me for the surgery and told him to give me a mowhawk, he did. I dyed my hair green. My principal told my uncle I couldn't go to school. My uncle pretty much told the principal to get me a tutor until she changed her mind. The principal stated her dislike for my hair, my uncle told her I have to live with it, not her, if she doesn't like it, don't get a green mowhawk.
My aunt and uncle were far better to me than my parents ever were.
Chaya - posted on 07/17/2012
My hair is pink, I did it because I started college and decided to have fun since I won't be working as much. I work from home, so that's fine. Let him do it if you're okay with it. It's temporary, it's not hurting anything, if he decides he doesn't like it or gets teased, he'll either learn his lesson or he won't.
Pink is still a girls colour as far as I'm concerned, but he may not see it that way. You can infer anything you want from it. Yes, he could be gay, or he could like pink, in my circle of friends, it means something else. If it means he likes broccoli or a certian car, or whatever, then that's what it means to him. It could mean he's a non conformist too. If he is doing it to be supportive of cancer survivors, that's not a bad thing.
Janet - posted on 07/15/2012
Hair grows back, can be dyed back, comes back in its natural color etc etc.. its an easy way for them to express themselves and its not permanent - I say, why not? There's setting boundaries and then there's just saying no because you have the power to do so. If it doesn't hurt anything, why not let them express themselves? Its hair dye, not a tattoo or a trip to the local drug dealer...
Barbara - posted on 07/13/2012
YES YES YES... my son had a low self esteem issue, and one summer when I was dying my hair he asked to get his done with the little bit left in the bottle. so I did just the tips... what a difference it made in his personality and esteem. So I kept it up a bout a year I think until he said he didn't want it anymore..I would not trade that little boost for anything...
As far as colors go Pink is just a color not a boys or a girls color... my little grandson was taught by a chauvinist a lot of things like dolls are for girls and trucks for boys and pink is girls and long hair is sissy... I tried and tried to undo the idiot teachings that had been given him...then one day I put a pink t shirt on him and we went to the park...after about three hours of playing with every one there he climbed up a monkey bar in front of me and said, pink is nice gramma and i still feel like a boy... now it is ( and I suspect it really was) one of his favorite colors and there is no stigma to it...
All of this being said, I did have issue with the school over my sons hair color...but it was only once... they sent me a letter telling me to a. cut the color off b. color his hair normal or c. keep him home til it grew out. they tried this it is a disruption in class or a nuisance for others who would look at his hair... I told them that A he would not miss school or cut hair or color hair to conform B. he will be there every day and the nuisance came when they made an issue of it C. this is a small thing to do to give a child some self esteem and after all is that not what they are in the business to do? educate up lift and embrace??? never heard from them again on the issue...
Bravo for such an open minded and well rounded ki ...
Gabrielle - posted on 07/13/2012
Sure, why not? Only people who embrace limitations still consider pink a "girl color". Colors are for everyone. What's wrong with a boy liking pink? My daughter loves orange. Tell your husband that 60 years ago, pink was for boys and blue was for girls, and before that, kids all wore white. The whole color thing is ridiculous. This is also a good time to teach him about standing up for what he likes. That can help him stand up for others, too.
Lila - posted on 07/13/2012
Thanks ladies! We coloured it last night and I dropped him out at Summer Camp this morning to exclaims from a couple of girls going "Wow! You really did dye it pink!" So hopefully all goes well.
I also really appreciate the lines from Cherissa:
"Have fun! With all the fights you are going to have with the boy in his whole life, do you really want one of them to be about HAIR? Its no big deal, let him express himself!"
And from Lisa: "You can get teased for anything so I believe in being true to yourself and teaching the skills to defend, deflect, or even ignore others opinions."
That's great advice ladies. I wish that my mother had taught me more about individualism when I was a child, but her generation didn't know any better. Hopefully we can raise our kids to be confident in their choices, regardless of what others say.
Lisa - posted on 07/13/2012
I sure would. I have a 9 year old boy that has been using red, blue or green coloured hair gel for years. Currently he has a mohawk and I let him know he's welcome to really colour it or bleach it lighter, which he has declined. But we may be a tad more liberal than some folks - as he like nailpolish on occasion too. Is only hair - I currently have some white and pink in my normally dark brown hair.
You can get teased for anything so I believe in being true to yourself and teaching the skills to defend, deflect, or even ignore others opinions.
Lila - posted on 07/12/2012
Thanks Michelle and Denikka. I was hoping to hear that from a few other mom's. They use pink Ts for Anti-Bullying at my kids' school as well so it has been promoted in another positive way. I just didn't want to set him up for any unnecessary teasing or age inappropriate comments. They seem to hear enough these days! :)
Denikka - posted on 07/11/2012
I think a lot of the teasing would depend on the shade of pink.
For me, I've always thought of lighter pinks, such as rose, to be more of a feminine colour. Bright pink (what I would call punk pink or hot pink) or fluorescents are pretty awesome for either boys or girls. If I was going to go pink, for either my boy or my girl, I would definitely do a hot pink. :)
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