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Is it okay for 8yo boy and girl to play together?

Sarah - posted on 05/21/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 3rd grader has had a crush on a boy in her grade for the past 2 years. She says he feels the same about her. They hang out together at lunch and recess, and ride bikes part-way home from school together. He is a nice little boy and lives just a couple of blocks away. I think it's okay for them to play together, but my husband forbids it. Just last year we lived next door to 2 boys my daughter's age and they played together all the time, even in their bedrooms. But since my daughter "likes" this boy he thinks it's not okay for them to play together. I think it should be okay for them to be friends, and that at this age they don't want to do anything inappropriate. What do you think? And as my husband hates it when I try to change his opinion on anything (ugh!) how should I approach it if I try to talk him into letting them play together? I really don't want to go behind his back as this will teach my kids it's okay to be sneaky. Thanks for your thoughts!

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Kristin - posted on 05/24/2012

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I think your husband is facing over protective dad syndrome lol I have seen this where dads have a hard time when they think they are being "replaced" with a boy in their daughters affection. No dad likes to think of his little girl growing up and liking boys and eventually getting hurt, I think that this is normal and i would just ask my husband why he forbids your daughter to play with the little boy she likes but can play with other little boys? Seriously at 8 crushes come and go my son is 6 and so far has had 4 girlfriends lol it is normal and healthy for children to play and have crushes on members of the opposite sex. It doesnt mean anything. This is the time when children start maturing and growing and becoming independent to make wise decisions later on in life. I would not go behind your husbands back but i would be honest and tell him that you feel it is ok for your daughter to play with this little boy.

Jakki - posted on 05/23/2012

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Arrrk I'm really shocked at your husband saying they can't play together. They're only 8! But even if they were 12 or 15 I would say "go ahead and hang out together".

What's wrong with spending time with someone you like? I don't get it.

I think it's really healthy to have friends of the opposite sex - has you husband never had any friends of the opposite sex?

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