is my daughter old enough to get her ears pierced ?

Jenifer - posted on 07/22/2010 ( 278 moms have responded )

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my daughter really wants her ears pierced. she is only 4yrs old. how have other kids reacted ?

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Kathleen - posted on 06/24/2011

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My daughter is 6 and she got her third holes done for her 6th birthday! Medically wise they say not sooner than 6 months, but it's up to YOU when after that you get them done.

Tracie - posted on 08/03/2010

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i may get bashed for this, but...my daughter turned 2 in Jan, and we have her ears pierced 3 times. the first was when she was 3 months, then at her 1st bday, and the 3rd set was done when she turned 2, so no, i do not think 4 is too young! take her to a salon where they have 2 people to do it at the same time, tho or you could end up with just one ear done!! we didnt have any trouble with any of my daughter's piercings...just keep them clean and remember to turn the earring every couple of days so they heal!

Joanne - posted on 07/29/2010

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I personally would never get a childs ears pierced until they were old enough to know it's what they wanted and old enough to maintain them and keep them clean. I think it looks quite tacky especially on babies...I'd wait until they were 8 ish and just buy some clip on earrings in the meantime.

Lillian - posted on 07/23/2010

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Honestly... there's not a "right" age. I use to be a Manager for a well known Company that does ear piercing. Each child is different... I pierced ears on kids of all ages! My theory on this is... allow the child to make that decision. Don't lie to them. It does hurt, not horribly bad, but it does sting. If at all possible do a double piercing, but ask questions! Certain companys allow employees to pierce without proper training which can lead to a traumatic event! Give a small dose of tylenol about 30 mins prior to having them pierced, IT REALLY HELPS! I personally pierced all 3 of my childrens ears myself. If you need more info just ask me.....my direct email is krazyblue_eyes@yahoo.com. Good Luck

Tanya - posted on 08/08/2010

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I got mine done when I was 25 , for the first time , my dad went off it , my daughter wants hers done , but does not like injections , if she wants them done , but you are not sure compromise , get magnetic ear rings , they look like the real things , primary schools do not allow ear rings , some comprehensive schools do not either , I bought my daughter magnetic ear rings , her dad my husband & my parents thought she had them pierced , but I said no they are just magnetic so she loves them places like claire accessories sell magnetic ear rings & clip on's good luck .My daughter now says she does not want her ears pierced she wants to stick to magnetic ear rings.

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Louise Angela - posted on 10/12/2012

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my daughter wants her ears pierced.can they have it done when their 6yrs by boyfriend thinks yes i think no he was thinking the purple shop but my sister went their a couple of weeks ago to get her tongue pierced

Ann - posted on 05/29/2012

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In my opinion, a child should be old enough to ask. If she were my daughter and she asked, I would take her. My son just turned 5 and asked if he could get his pierced. I showed him videos on youtube of children's reactions to it, showed him what a piercing gun looks like, etc. He still wanted to. But man, he was NOT happy when he had it done. The best thing to do is take her in and make sure the place has two available people and each can have a piercing gun. They can get each ear at the same time and make things that much quicker and painless for her.

Julie - posted on 05/25/2012

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I had my little girls ears pierced just before her 2nd birthday!! She loves them & wears pretty studs which we change on holidays into 'special ones' & shes looking forward to having small hoops 'like mummy' for her upcoming 4th birthday!! We did go through a stage where we syruggled as she didn't want them changed becuase 'they hurt' but i found this was due to the 'safety backs' so she now has normal butterfly backs & is brill with them :))

Anna - posted on 05/23/2012

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I had my daughters done when she was almost 1yrs old. She cried, but i think it scared her more.

Volleygrl_02 - posted on 05/19/2012

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I am not a mother but when i was 3 months old i had my ears pierced by the decision of my mother. Just putting that out there!

Melissa - posted on 01/04/2012

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I had my daughter's ears pierced at 3 when she asked. I told her it will sting a little and asked if she still wanted it done. I explained she would have to let me turn them and put medicine on them. She still wanted them done. She didn't cry when they did it. I let her sit on my lap and they handed her a succer as soon as they were done. No problems she never bothered them. Glad we had it done when she was young. The older they get the more fear they have.

Beth - posted on 12/29/2011

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My mum told me that I couldn't have mine done till I was 16 and then she took me for my 13th birthday. I got my second set when I was 15.

DD is 9.5 yo and has been asking to have hers done for years now. Her cousins had theirs done at the age of 10. We've told her that she won't have them done till 13 , recently we've said no earlier than 10. We'll see how responsible she is in another 6mths. We decided she will have to be old enough to look after them without a lot of reminding and nagging from us.

Evelyn - posted on 12/21/2011

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When our girls are 10 they can get their ears pierced for their birthday that way they are old enough to take care of the earrings themselves.

Kelly - posted on 06/26/2011

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I had my daughters done when she was turning 6 for a birthday present and she loves going to pick out new earrings. If u go to Claires you can ask to get both ears done at once so there's no issue after one.

Tracy - posted on 06/26/2011

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There are some parents who pierce babies ears. I wasn't one of them. I figured I'd let my daughter decide when/if she wanted them pierced. She was around 6 when she decided she wanted them pierced & off we went to do it. She was too young to take care of them herself. I had to clean them for her & turn them for her, so you'll have to do that for your 4 year old for sure. At 6 it hurt my daughter bad enough to make her eyes well up. We went to Claire's & they said they'd get 2 girls to do an ear each, so that both ears would get done at the same time. Great idea & if you can do it I HIGHLY suggest it! However, Claire's became busy & we were stuck with one ear at a time. She almost changed her mind after getting one side done, so at that point I promised her a balloon of her choice if she got the 2nd ear done (to keep her from looking funny & losing out on the $$$). It worked, but I still wish we would've had both ears done at the same time. Since then she's had a lot of problems with one of her ears getting infected in the hole. The pediatrician told us that she could've pierced them in her office under more sterile conditions. That might've been better too....

Tara - posted on 06/25/2011

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I know this is an old post, but wanted to reply :)

Our daughter got her's pierced when she was 4 years old and that was only after she had been asking to have it done for quite a while. We finally said yes and she did amazing! They did both ears at the same time and she never made a sound and there were no tears. She looked a little stunned, but she did it and loved them (and still does, 3 years later).

Julie - posted on 06/24/2011

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Hi Jenifer ear piercing used to be a tradition and it took place for a female childs christening anytime from 4months onwards the younger the better it heals quicker and their less likely to mess with them once their in. it was usually the Grandparents that bought the first set of Gold studs. in the old days ist was often the mother who pierced the ears these days its a lot less painfill and they use numbing cream.

Evelyn - posted on 06/24/2011

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Your daughter is definitely old enough. The pediatrician told us that they can get them done as young as 6 months. That's when we got our daughter's done. It worked out good because she didn't even know she had ears so she never messed with them.

Blossom - posted on 02/09/2011

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I got my daughter's ears pierced when she was 10 monthes old. So she dont remember having them done. So its really what u think is best for ur child.

Sherri - posted on 01/16/2011

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Girls are typically fully 100% fully grown before 16 just so you know Jessica. They stop growing 2yrs from the day they start their cycles. I was 12 yrs old never grew another lick bigger.
Just be careful being so strict about the age. My mom said no to second holes around 12 so I pierced them myself. Nothing she could do about it then. They weren't even and then my mom was forced to take me to a professional to have it all fixed.

Jessica - posted on 01/15/2011

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I won't allow my daughter get hers done until she is at least 16. Their ears are too little and I have seen so many get put in the wrong spot and as their ears get bigger the earings look funny.

Gillian - posted on 01/15/2011

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Honestly?! I think it looks cheap on a child younger than about 10. And that's the general view around the UK, although some will still do it younger. It really should be the choice of the individual but you have to use wisdom - why would you really want to pierce a child's ears before they are even old enough to ask for it?!

Clare - posted on 09/05/2010

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I think as long as your daughter is asking for them to be done that it is perfectly acceptable, Explain to her that it will sting for a while and that it is her decision, It may be a good idea to take her in to see how it is done and you will proberly find that she may change her mind, My daughter did twice! lol she was 9 by the time she finaly got them done. My other daughter is 4 and i will do the same with her when she asks xx

Erica - posted on 09/05/2010

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My daughter is 6 and a half and has been asking since she was 4. i never say no when she asks but when she faces the reality of holes in her ears she chickens out every time. which is fine with me :)

Kelli - posted on 09/04/2010

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My daughter started asking about getting her ears pierced when she was 6 yrs old.....we waited to be sure and she did change her mind and ended up getting them done at 7 yrs of age. It didnt hurt much and she looked in the mirror right after and said, Cool! She did great keeping up the routine with the alcohol and stuff but then she started having alot of gym days at school and they dont like you wearing earrings. She got tired of constantly taking out her earrings and trying to remember to put them back in on days she didnt have gym and didnt wear any for 6 mths. We just started putting them back in and luckily the holes didnt grow over. Now my youngest one who is 6 yrs old is asking to have hers pierced but Im waiting to see for sure and hopefully hers doesnt have any problems. I say that because I didnt have any problems but my sister did.

Marcy - posted on 08/19/2010

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I waited until my daughter was 6 years old. I was in 3rd grade before I had mine done.

Rosa - posted on 08/15/2010

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i got my daughter ear pierced when she was 5 moths old and she is 6 years old now she still wearing earing just now shes wearing hoops she asked me if she could get her second hole i told her when shes 10

Devona - posted on 08/11/2010

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i got my girls ears pierced as babies. i think it is easier. i dont think there is a right or wrong age for the first piercing. the second or third is the one to worry about.

Mary Ellen - posted on 08/11/2010

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when she can help take care of them. she will not "fuss" with them.end the discomfort will not keep her awake

Emma - posted on 08/10/2010

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i am a trained earpiercer and i was trained that we werent really supposed to do anyone under 16 however there are no legal requirements that i know of so if you want it done go for it

Mandy - posted on 08/07/2010

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see my greatest fear would be if she was out side playing with her mates or just having a mess around that they might get pulled or caught on some thing this is only because i have seen it happen i think u should wait till she is older and that way she might be alittle more mature and more understanding

Etrezia - posted on 08/07/2010

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I waited till both my girls were at an age where they were able to take care of the cleaning of the piercings them self. Both were about 8 years old. As a working mom I felt that they must be responsible for their own ear rings

Sherry - posted on 08/07/2010

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All my girls got their ears done at 2,but ur the mommy,it is what u think or when u want her too.

Keisha - posted on 08/06/2010

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Yes she is old enough. She may react badly only because she's at an age now where she can express herself in an over dramatized way. It may hurt a little but she'll be fine after a few minutes.

Rachel - posted on 08/06/2010

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I believe its a personal choice. My youngest daughter was your daughters age when she wanted to get hers done. So we did it.
I have friends that have done it at 3 months of age. I dont agree with it, but I am not the mother so really only you can decide on how you feel about it.

Rachael - posted on 08/05/2010

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i got both of my girls ears pierced for their 1st birthday. they never play with them and they are used to me cleaning them. I think its a personal preference.

Charmaine - posted on 08/05/2010

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Yes!! I had my three girls all done at 3 months of age. we had no bad reaction, hardly any tears and no infections. They are alot older now and dont hate me for it like other people said they would, Pfft to them. I think all little girls should have their ears pierced.
thanks Charmaine

Lisa - posted on 08/05/2010

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I have 3 daughters. I waited until they asked, because I never had a desire, until I was 18. My oldest did just fine. My younger 2 got them done around the same time. The youngest had one of hers fall out during the night and lost one of the earings, so we allowed them to heal over, so she had to get them done again. My middle daughter didn't want to wear them for a long time, so they closed up too. At the beginning of the year they both decided to do it again, so we let them. My middle daughter let me clean them and turned them regularly, but my youngest daughter didn't turn them and didn't like me to clean them. Just last month, my younest daughter decided to take them out, because they kept getting infected, because she wouldn't clean them enough to let them heal. My middle daughters are just fine. I would say, it depends on the child and you are the only one who can decide if she is ready. If she can handle it, she will do fine. If you are good at cleaning them, even if she doesn't want to, you will do good. Just a note, take them out often after the 6 weeks are over and clean them that way, I think that is why my youngest had problems, since she wouldn't turn them.

Samantha - posted on 08/05/2010

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Personally I think any age from 2 years old is old enough to get a girls ears pierced. My mother got mine done at 2 with no hassles.

Sharon - posted on 08/05/2010

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My daughter came out with that one the other day when I picked her up from school. She is 6. My short answer was no.
I first had my ears pierced at10 and had trouble with them ever since. Needless to say I now do not wear earings. On the whole, it will be her decision when she is old enough and can take the responsibilty of turning the earings and putting the antiseptic on the for 6 weeks...THEN and only then it will be uo to her. With school, putting plasters on ears for PE and being so young, ripping ear etc, no.

Becky - posted on 08/05/2010

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I just do not understand why people insist that it is ok to deface children. There is no purpose for poking holes in perfectly good kids like that...

Penny - posted on 08/05/2010

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My daughter was 2 months old when I got hers done...they did both ears at the same time which was fantastic...plus she slept right through it.She has never and she is almost 3 has ever played or bothered with her ears:)

Faith - posted on 08/05/2010

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its cool to pierce her now,i pierced my daughter when she was 3 months old and now shes 7 years and shes so happy,all you need to do is take care of her ears

Ashley - posted on 08/05/2010

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my son got his ear peirced at 4 and all he did was cry for a second and then he was fine...with girls they do both ears at the same time so its one shot.

Heather - posted on 08/05/2010

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Almost all of the girls in my daughters preschool had their ears pierced and so my daughter decided she wanted them. We had her wait until her 5th birthday. She cried when she got them pierced, but as soon as they gave her a mirror and she could see them, she got a big smile. You have to be dilligent about cleaning them every day. Even now almost a year later....we take them out and clean them once a week. Its really a personal choice.

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