is my daughter old enough to get her ears pierced ?

Jenifer - posted on 07/22/2010 ( 278 moms have responded )

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my daughter really wants her ears pierced. she is only 4yrs old. how have other kids reacted ?

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Ashley - posted on 08/05/2010

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my son got his ear peirced at 4 and all he did was cry for a second and then he was fine...with girls they do both ears at the same time so its one shot.

Heather - posted on 08/05/2010

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Almost all of the girls in my daughters preschool had their ears pierced and so my daughter decided she wanted them. We had her wait until her 5th birthday. She cried when she got them pierced, but as soon as they gave her a mirror and she could see them, she got a big smile. You have to be dilligent about cleaning them every day. Even now almost a year later....we take them out and clean them once a week. Its really a personal choice.

Heather - posted on 08/05/2010

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My daughter was four when she started asking me about getting her ears pierced. I asked her if she would like them done for her birthday when she turned five. I explained to her that it would sting and she would have to look after them.
We did get them done for her birthday, and she was really good in looking after them, putting on the an-aseptic spray etc. I found that after the initial period was up she was constantly changing them and loosing the backs of earrings! We have changed her over to the sleepers (hoops) and now if she wants to change them I help her because otherwise we spend hours looking for lost earrings!

Alicia - posted on 08/05/2010

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I had my daughters done when she just turned 1. I was told it is better to do it when they are young.

Debbie - posted on 08/04/2010

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My five year old is such a drama queen when it comes to pain, so when she begged me to get her ears pierced, I refused. She kept begging and begging. Usually I refuse to give in, but I figured when she sat down in the chair and they pulled out the ear guns she would start screaming. Long story short, she sat still for both ears and said it did not hurt. Cleaning the ears twice a day for two months is a pain, but my daughter loves her earings and so do I. Even though they say after two months you can remove the earings, dont unless you are switching the earings out right away. I learned the hard way and had to sort of repierce the holes (that was not fun)

Christy - posted on 08/04/2010

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oh yeah. i got my daughter"s ears pierced when she was 10 months old. if you decide to do it, just make sure you explain to her that you have to clean them every night, and she has to not mess with them. good luck!

Yvonne - posted on 08/04/2010

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my daughter was 6 weeks old when i got hers done and she never tugged or pulled on them either x

Yvonne - posted on 08/04/2010

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i got my daughters ears pierced when she was 6 wks old as i did with both my sons she never pulls them or anything i think its down to how you feel and no one else its a personal opinion

Michelle - posted on 08/04/2010

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i always waited till they were 3 years old my oldest two have them done i ask them see if they want it and then if yes i get it done they never messed with it i told them they looked lovely and they were very proud let me clean it aswel my youngest will get hers done at 3 too

Sherri - posted on 08/04/2010

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Every time I was at the mall with my daughter, I would joke and ask her if she wanted to get her ears pierced. Being the sassy thing that she is, she would tell me I had to wait until she was four. I assumed this was just her way of saying no, she was scared. However, the morning of her 4th birthday, she woke up, came into my room and announced that this was the day she was going to get her "pierced earsings". We took her to the mall, I gave her plenty of opportunitites to get out of it..my boys held their hands over their ears, knowing how loud she screams, but she just sat there. Barely flinched while the Claire's lady did one ear, then the other! Never cried at all! Granted, I let her pick out the earrings--super cute Hello Kitty ones, and let her know it was going to hurt, but she did great. We cleaned them every day, like we were told, and she recently got to change them out for different ones. We had a wonderful experience, and as long as your child is ready in her own mind, I say, GO FOR IT!!!!

Angela - posted on 08/04/2010

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I had my youngest daughters done at 6 months, she was fine. Had my middle daughters ears done at about 18 months, she was fine. Had my oldest daughter's done at 6yrs, you would have thought someone had shot her in the head, screaming, drama, and to this day she won't wear earings. The younger the better I say, because they don't even notice them, don't pull at them and it's not a big deal. Before you know it she's going to be wanting her belly button pierced. lol

Kristin - posted on 08/04/2010

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I wasn't allowed to get mine done until I was 13, b/c my mom wanted me to be old and responsible enough to take care of them myself and she didn't feel I was there until age 13. Now that's just an example, I may make a different choice w/my daughter, every child is different. I would say if you are willing to deal w/cleaning them and making sure she doesn't mess w/them or pull them out then go for it. If you don't want to deal w/that wait until she's a little older.

Candice - posted on 08/04/2010

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Before you make the decision to have them pierced, take her in to an accredited peircing location and they will tell you if her ear lobes are ready for the piercing. My girls made the choice at 5 and 7 that they wanted to get them pierced. The youngest has had no problems, the oldest has had some problems with one ear because she is always changing her earrings. Good luck with your decision.

Jennifer - posted on 08/04/2010

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I had my daughter's ears pierced when she was 2 years old. What ended up happening, because she was so little, is she pulled on them, scratched them, they got infected and then eventually had to be taken out and the holes closed. So, I thought, 2 was too young. We'll wait til she can make that decision. At age 6 she asked for her ears to be pierced because a couple of the girls at school had it done. So, we did it again. And again, she played with them, earrings fell out in the middle of the night, lost in the bed, never to be found again, holes closed, etc etc etc. While parents have the responsibility of maintaining pierced ears in children, we can't keep our eyes on them every second. My daughter is now 11 (in September) and again asking for the ear piercing. I told her for her 13th birthday if she still wanted them pierced we would get it done. My personal opinion (after going through it all) is to wait until they are old enough to understand how to properly maintain and take care of their ears once pierced. Of course, you're her mother and it's up to you. Just my experience :)

Claire - posted on 08/04/2010

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My daughter had her ears pierced when she was 4. She was the only one in her class at school who didn't have them done and really wanted them as well. Having them pierced wasn't a problem but cleaning and turning them was. I think if your daugher is one to make a fuss when she hurts herself, wait a couple more years but if she normally just 'gets on with it' then I would go ahead and get them done.

Julia - posted on 08/04/2010

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it is up to u as my girl is 10 and she dont want hers done but got my son done and he dont worry bout it

Julia - posted on 08/04/2010

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i got my son ear done when he was a bout 2 and never had any worrys with any other kids. and he is now 5 i found it was grown ups that made coments hope this helped

Christi - posted on 08/04/2010

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I haven't gone their with my daughter yet (she hasn't asked). I figured that when she does ask I will base my answer on if i feel that she can handle the responsibilty of having pierced ears. Like how is she handling her day to day responsibilities......toy pick up, making bed, brushing teeth and so on



I don't remember my first hole being done I must have been real young, my second hole was done with ice cube, needle and a potato....I almost passed out (I was 7). My third hole was done when I was twelve in a Spencer store at the mall. It was quick with little pain. i had to turn those twice a day and rub alchol on them it was a big responsibility. i know it is different today, but I still feel like it is a responsibility not a right to have them.

Florence - posted on 08/04/2010

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To me am very grateful to my parents that they did to me when i was young, i don't know how it is outside Nigeria, but here u do it before the eight day most times as soon as u have the baby , her ears are pierced.If not except now with technology it could be painful at an older age. I had my daughters pierced when she was too young to feel the pain so to me, except if your custom prohibits it , you can now that she is much younger, it add to the beauty of your angel

Terri - posted on 08/04/2010

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I had Shelby's ears pierced when she was 4 months old, then she got her second set when she was 7 (her choice). I think as long as your daughter understands that she can't play with her ears for a while afterward it shouldn't be a problem :)

And to answer your question, she cried for about 5 minutes when she was 4 months old, but not at all when she was 7. Every kid is different though!

Kathleen - posted on 08/04/2010

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Hello I peireced my daughter's ears for the first time when she was 6 months old. She's 5 and a half and we just got her her second hole Sunday. The first time of course she was a baby so she cried at the shock of what happened but quit really quick. This time she didn't even flinch. My niece how ever, as we were getting her second holes as well, freaked out and ended up not getting them done, and she's only a month younger than my DD

Michelle - posted on 08/04/2010

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I remember getting mine pierced. I was 7 yrs old and my sister and I both went. We both wanted it. I remember doing one, then the other ear. I just took my 6.5 yr old to get hers pierced about a month ago. She'd asked when she was 4 yrs old and I was ready to take her then if she really wanted it but she has low pain tolerance. We almost went when she was 5, but again she chickened out before we left home. I had also bought EMLA cream over the counter. It is a topical numbing cream and I put that on her ear lobes, prior to going. Not sure it helped much...but can't hurt. We went to Ardene's and 2 girls did it together on the count of 3. The earrings come pre-loaded into the end of the gun. Both girls washed their hands, wore gloves and they swabbed down the ears and the whole gun before starting/attaching the end with the earrings in it. We had NO ISSUES with infection. Of my piercing, I remember it getting crusty and having to turn the earrings and put alcohol on them. Nothing at all like this with my daughter. No crusties, they spun freely though we were told we didn't have to turn them. She didn't cry at all - only teared up for a minute and instinctually her hands went up to her ears as soon as they were pierced. My dd admitted to me after if they'd had to do the ears one after another, she'd have gone home with only 1 done. After a week of putting on the ear piercing cleanser 2x daily we stopped. The earrings she chose were medical plastic. They also had surgical steel. Real gold was not a choice for piercing earrings at Ardene's though I've heard of people who did choose that -- possibly from a jewelery store that pierces. I think 'Peoples' pierces in Canada. They look beautiful and she's very happy she had them done but I recommend waiting until the child REALLY wants it. Tell her it pinches/stings for a minute. I knew my dd wasn't ready the first couple times b/c she freaked when I tried to put the EMLA cream on. Maybe you'd want to take her to the store and hang out/let her see someone else get theirs done first. Right after we got my dd's done, we bumped into her best friend in the mall. The friend's mom has been trying to convince her daughter to get her ears pierced but that child is afraid. Even with my dd watching/being supporting, the friend wouldn't agree to do it. Good luck! At age 4 or younger, they are not likely to remember getting them done, once they are an adult. Above that age, they probably will remember.

Emily - posted on 08/04/2010

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My daughter turned 3 in February and really wanted to get her ears pierced. We pinched her ear lobes with our thumb nails to give her an idea of how much it would hurt, explained that it would hurt MUCH worse than that, and she still wanted to get it done. So in April we took her in and had them pierced. She cried, but didn't even flinch, and only for about 30 seconds... just until the piercer showed her a box of suckers. She was so excited about choosing a blue one she forgot all about her ears. She loves wearing earrings, and still does quite well with them. I think it depends on your daughter's temperance, how she deals with pain, and if you believe she will tolerate the healing process. Good luck!

Sabine - posted on 08/04/2010

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I have three little Girls ,two of which have their ears pierced. My oldest now 8 had it done at the age of two and my middle one had it done with the age of 3 no fuss what so ever, However my 3 year old now does not want a bar of it she ask for it then we get there and she runs the other direction. Good luck. my believe is , in the end it is your decision.

Alesha - posted on 08/03/2010

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i got my wee girls ears pierced on her first birthday she never worried about them or touched them at all

Lisa - posted on 08/03/2010

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I got both my girls done at 6 mo old. I think if she wants them then it should be ok. I would make sure were every you take her they do both at the same time.

Christina - posted on 08/03/2010

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i was 5 when my aunt and grandma took me in to have mine done, they were both done at the same time, at clairs, i flinched a bit, tears welled in my eyes, but that was about it, i did see one other girl get done before me, and the same thing happend to her, so i was a bit nervus, but i wanted it bad enough that i had it done anyway, lol, i am 31 now, and never had a problem :)

Shelly - posted on 08/03/2010

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I think 4 is the perfect age.. young enough that they dont truly understand what the gun is doing by their ear... they cry for a sec but when u show them the pretty earing they smile!!! My daughter never reacted. Good luck

Rebecca - posted on 08/03/2010

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We had our oldest daughters done at the age of 18 months, and our youngest at the age of 3. I would do it again at those ages without any hesitation.

Lynn - posted on 08/03/2010

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i got my daughters ears done when she was only a month old...shes never touched them and half the time doesnt even notice them... shes now 4 and has never had an infection and we have changed them about 3 times so far... :)

Heather - posted on 08/03/2010

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I think you can get it done now both of my neice are 3 and they both have theirs done and they were about 2 when they got them done. So i think you can get them done the longer you wait, the more painful i think it will be. You don't want your child to have a bad experience.

Melyssa - posted on 08/03/2010

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I got my DD ears pierced for her 4th bday! She asked to have them done. We agreed! I think it's a case by case basis....I don't see anything wrong with it. Keeping in mind some parents choose to get their babies ears pierced as newborns. GL with whatever you feel is best.

Crystal - posted on 08/03/2010

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I think it is fine if you take on the responsibility to keep them clean. You can not depend on a 4 yr old to understand the importance of that. I suggest also getting a couple pairs of the studs, they do not come out as easy, so you dont have to worry about the holes closing up on her, re-piercing hurts...my 4 yr old niece had hers done, and her mom took good care of them ,and she can change them out on her own now...

Felicia - posted on 08/03/2010

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i have three daughters and i got all their ears done when they were 2 months old. and they love it. My sister had hers done at age 3 and my step mom said she only cried for a second. and u can have them do both at the same time so it makes it easier. Its like getting a shot over in a second.

Kimberly - posted on 08/03/2010

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I let my daughter get her ears pierced when she was 3. I figured if shes old enough to ask for them shes ready for them. Unfortunately her ears closed over the earrings after a year and we had to take them out. Once they healed she asked for them again and she screamed so loud but they are great this time.

Tracie - posted on 08/03/2010

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Yolanda, not sure where you are from, but they do not use needles to pierce ears...they use a gun with the earring front and clasp on the back, nothing needs to be sterilized as it is sterile from the package, tho they do wipe the earlobe with an alcohol wipe

Ashley - posted on 08/03/2010

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My daughter was 6 months old when we first had hers pierced but she pulled them out and they quickly closed, we tried again when she was 4 and the initial piercing she wasn't happy about, but didn't pick at them or pull them out after that. She was really excited to have them because in her words " I have pretty ears like mommy now!!" Hope this helps.

Tracie - posted on 08/03/2010

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i may get bashed for this, but...my daughter turned 2 in Jan, and we have her ears pierced 3 times. the first was when she was 3 months, then at her 1st bday, and the 3rd set was done when she turned 2, so no, i do not think 4 is too young! take her to a salon where they have 2 people to do it at the same time, tho or you could end up with just one ear done!! we didnt have any trouble with any of my daughter's piercings...just keep them clean and remember to turn the earring every couple of days so they heal!

Denise - posted on 08/03/2010

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I got my daughters pierced when she was a year old, and she in now 9. She has never had any problems but all kids are different. It comes down to personal choice I believe and only you know your child!

Rebecca - posted on 08/03/2010

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I got my ears pierced when I was 6 and 7 years old. My grandmother took me for my 6th birthday and after they did the first one it hurt so badly that I wouldn't let them do the other one. So I walked around for a YEAR with only one ear pierced terrified to get the other one done (and this was before people pierced just one ear). It was a horribly traumatic experience for me and one that I didn't want my daughter to endure. So I got her ears pierced as soon as possible figuring she wouldn't remember the experience (I think she was 3 or 4 months old). She hardly even noticed it! In fact she cried LESS than when she got her shots at the pediatrician. She never messed with them and they never got infected. I was thrilled with my decision although I got a lot of flack from family members. I personally LOVE jewelry and it turns out that my daughter does too (she is now 14 months old and goes right to peoples rings, bracelets etc as soon as she spies them). So I think you should get your daughter's ears pierced as soon as possible - before it becomes something she will get anxious about and before she is old enough to remember the experience. Since she is already 4 YO I would definitely recommend having both ears pierced at the same time to avoid the possibility of repeating my problem Best of luck! (And post what you decided if you can).

Penny - posted on 08/03/2010

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I don't have any daughters, all boys, but i do see parents piercing their baby girls ears as newborns!! So, i think its up to the parents to decide when to get their lil girls ears pierced.

Traci - posted on 08/03/2010

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I got mine done at 12, and a second hole at 16. When my girls asked for it, we talked about it and decided then if they were ready. The two of them got it done at the same time (they're 19 months apart in age, 7 and 8 at the time), and I got a third hole in mine at the same time. They watched how it was done with me and weren't so afraid. I also think she needs to be able to take care of the cleaning on her own.

Rebecca - posted on 08/03/2010

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On my daughter's 6th birthday, we went and got her ears pierced, because thats what she really wanted!

Shelina - posted on 08/03/2010

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i got mine done at 5 got my daughters done at 2 months if shew wants it done then do it just make sure its what she wants and if possiable have 2 people there to do it

Annabel - posted on 08/03/2010

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the younger the better interms of infections even as early as 9months it is still okay hey.

Donna - posted on 08/02/2010

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I let my daughters get their ears pierced when they enterred middle school. It was an "act of passage" type thing. They were old enough to care for their ears on their own. This also made middle school a thing to look forward to instead of fear.

Shantel - posted on 08/02/2010

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I used getting ears pierced for my daughters and a way to get them potty trained. I feel the younger the better because they don't mess with them as much especially with dirty hands. When you take her she will most definitely be scared but make sure you let her pick out the earings she wants to have in. She will also either scream or cry because it hurts but within an hour or so she will forget all about it when her attention is on something else.

Hannah - posted on 08/02/2010

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I guess i go along with the age of responsibilty - my daughter's nan took her to have her ears peirced - against my wishes - when she was 6. they turned out to be an infected mess! Think that if they want their ear piercied- they have to know how to look after them......

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