is my daughter old enough to get her ears pierced ?

Jenifer - posted on 07/22/2010 ( 278 moms have responded )

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my daughter really wants her ears pierced. she is only 4yrs old. how have other kids reacted ?

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ESTY - posted on 08/02/2010

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i wish you would have do ne it early on in europe it is actually rare to see a girl small or big without earrings. it is an important signature of being a baby girl so we do it early on before they can fight you and it is better because they do not have to have memmory of the hurt. she is not too old for it do it

Tara - posted on 08/02/2010

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My daughter was 2 when she asked to get her ears pierced. I explained to her that it would hurt. She still wanted it done. So we went to get them done. There was a smaller girl getting her ears pierced and crying. My daughter still wanted hers done. They had to people pierce them both at the same time. She cried for one minute then we went and got ice cream... I hope all goes well, and I say if she wants her ears pierced...let her.

Litia - posted on 08/02/2010

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I got both of my daughters ears pierced at 2months.. They have had no problems at all.. My youngest daughter got her second hole before Kindergarten and she did fine with that too!

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My sister had her daughter's done at 5 because she was asking. My daughter is too scared so I don't push her. Anyway I went with my sister when my niece had them pierced. She was a little scared but they did both ears at the same time. She cried...more so because the one of the guns didn't fire the 1st try and they had to do it again (it took some pep talk so she didn't walk out of there with one earring). Once it was done she was fine and now loves having her ears pierced and picking out cute little earrings. You might have an understanding with your daughter that if her ears end up being real sensitive and get infected, then you will have to let them close up and try again when she's older and can take care of them herself. So far my niece has not had any problems. You also might want to keep the style of earrings to studs to avoid injury and also to keep within her age appropriate range.

Tay - posted on 08/02/2010

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if she realy wants them done then there is no reason why you shouldnt get them done, i have twin girls, and they asked when they were 3, they sat and had them done and the love having new ring to put in them, all chilren are different, and its up to you as her mother to decide if she has it done, and if you realy feel thats she realy wants it done then do it, and if she changes her mind then theres no problem with that just take the rings out and theres no damage done, gd luck

Cindy - posted on 08/02/2010

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It all comes down to, how much work do you want to put into it. I had my daughter wait until she was responsible enough to take care of them herself. I though that way she would learn to respect them and want to always look her best.

Kristi - posted on 08/02/2010

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I have a step daughter that asked to have her ears pierced so I got them done when she was 8....she ended up losing her earrings and not cleaning them the way she was supposed to, so her holes started closing up....so I helped her with them and they got better, but she did the same thing - she can't keep track of her jewelry or even remember to brush her teeth half the time, let alone keep her ears sanitized....so I would say unless your daughter is more responsible or you want to do everything for her and get on to her about taking her earrings out and losing them, I would wait....however, I got my ears pierced when I was around 7 or 8 years old as well and mine were just fine. I tend to be a bit more organized though.

Laura - posted on 08/01/2010

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My daughter asked at the same age and I made her ask a few times. We went to the store and she seemed skeptical so I decided to wait and she was ok with it. She asked again at 4 and a half. She really wanted to wear pink earrings so I told her we had to go back to the store and have them pierced, she said yes. We went to the store, she entered without fuss, sat down on my lap and the lady suggested to do both ears at the same time. My daughter didn't move and said she just felt like a pinch and then had a great smile looking at her pink earrings. It's been two months now and she is happy, she was patient the first month since we had to clean each pierced ear with salt water daily and she never had a problem. Before I had told her about the daily cleaning and that she had to be careful. If you decide to do it try and get the smallest earring possible so that hair or other strings have less chances to cause any problems. Good luck.

Becky - posted on 08/01/2010

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I was 2 when I had my ears pierced. I don't think there is a wrong age to get them pierced. I have pierced ears on babies as young as 9 months. Some cry alot and others don't seem to be bothered by it. Everyones reaction to this question will be different, with "no, dont do it" and "yes, do it". My suggestion to you is: on any child that is younger than 10 (older if they have no pain tolerence) to make sure there are 2 people working so that both ears can be pierced at the same time. Having to do the second ear on a crying child is the worst for all around. The child is squirming and crying. The mom or dad is feeling helpless because they want to take the pain away for them. And the piercer is feeling horrible that they have to enflict this pain one more time.

In reading most of the other posts... It seems that all but one is on the side of piercing. As for the one that said it should be banned, maybe she believes that for religeous puposes. IDK. But ultimately it is up to you. I say: go for it.

Kristin - posted on 08/01/2010

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Well I think children should not be allowed to get pierced.
In my home its NO and thats it!

Andrea - posted on 07/31/2010

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I just had my little girl's done, that's what she decided she wanted for her 4th birthday. I was very careful to explain that it does hurt a little and the gun makes a noise. They did both ears at the same time, and she just jumped and got a funny look on her face, didn't even cry. If she's asking for it, and knows that it will hurt some & still wants to, then I'd say go for it. You will have to clean them for her, but that's not such a big deal. My little girl would let me clean them, and then she would turn them. Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 07/31/2010

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No disrospect to any one who pierced thier childrens ears when they are little , but I think it looks dreadfull TACKIE!!! my 7 year old asked I said no & gave her an age I think is appropriate (13) & she has never asked again, maybe it will come later but I will continue to give her the same reply!

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I had my daughter's ears pierced when she was around 2. She doesn't wear her earrings at all, claims they hurt to wear. if she wants her ears pierced go for it.

KAREN - posted on 07/30/2010

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MY DAUGHTER WAS 5 WHEN WE GOT HER EARS PEIRCED, BUT SHE HAD BEEN WANTING SINCE SHE WAS 2, I STRUGGLED WITH THE AGE, I STRUGGLED WITH"WHAT IF SHE CANT TAKE CARE OF THEM OR FEAR OF HER NOT LETTING ME TAKE CARE OF THEM" BUT U KNOW WHAT, AFTER MUCH BEGGING, I GAVE IN, WE HAD A PERSON ON EACH SIDE SO IT COULD B DONE AT THE SAME TIME. SHE NEVER CRIED, BUT I CAN TELL YOU SOMETHING, I WOULD NOT CHANGE A THING, IT HAS OPENED A WHOLE NEW RELATIONSHIP WITH US, TO DATE SHE IS 10 YRS OLD, AND WE STILL HAVE A BLAST SHOPPING FOR EARRINGS. I THINK IT MADE HER EVEN MORE RESPONSIBLE, SHE HELPED TAKE VERY GOOD CARE OF HER EARS AND SPECIAL CARE OF HER EARRINGS. SHE PROBALEY HAS OVER 200 PR OF EARRINGS. YOU WILL SEE HOW SWEET AND SPECIAL OF A BOND YOU WILL HAVE WITH HER JUST BECAUSE OF SOME EARRINGS. HER PAIR SHE HAD THEM PIERCED WITH WENT IN HER BABY BOOK AFTER THE 6 WEEKS WERE UP. SHE TOLD ME WHEN SHE HAS A BABY THAT SHE IS GOING TO USE THOSE EARRINGS, SO THEY HAVE A REAL SPECIAL MEANING FOR HER & I.

LOTS OF LUCK TO YOU.

KAREN

Kimberly - posted on 07/30/2010

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I have two daughters and I had decided that once they are old enough to be responsible to take care of them on their own, then if they asked, we'd talk about it. It depends on how responsible the child is. My oldest (8 years old) has decided that she doesn't want her ears pierced, which is fine. My youngest (5) has not asked yet.

Fee - posted on 07/30/2010

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Why do you say it should be banned? do you mean completely banned or just for little ones?

Fee - posted on 07/30/2010

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My daughter is 27 months old, and asking for them already!! I can't wear earrings anymore because when I do she insists on having them too! She throws tantrums, it's like war, so I just don't bother wearing them anymore! I've thought about doing hers, but not sure if it's just a phase, a long phase!! it's been 8 months now!

Charity - posted on 07/30/2010

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My daughters was done when she was 6 months old. The only problem she had was the fact that we had to hold her head, she didn't care about the piercing itself though.

Jody - posted on 07/30/2010

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My daughter had her ears done on her 5th birthday. But my some of my friends have done their girls ears as early as a couple of months old! My daughter got scared of the clicking noise from the piercing gun.

Jessica - posted on 07/30/2010

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I see little ones that can't even roll over yet with piercings. I am going to wait until my daughter turns 10 years like my mom did with me. That way she can make up her own mind

Lisa - posted on 07/30/2010

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i did my girls when they were babies! They are now 10 and going on 14..my 14 yr old has 2 sets now and is wanting her cartlidge pierced!! idk bout that!! My opinion is if its the ears they are never to young now when they start talking about other piercings they'll have to wait until they are 40 lol

Lindilani - posted on 07/30/2010

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My daughter pierced her ears when she was 2 months old and she is 8 years old now. She never reacted

Hanoi - posted on 07/30/2010

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Let me tell you, in my country, we ask for it at the hospital, when baby girls are newborn. In general, we use only 18 K gold earrings in little girls to avoid alergies or infections, if you do that, no special care is need it, Only the rutinary cleaning. We use earrings all the time, we only take them off to change it for other ones or for cleaning. It is part of our culture, I am from Venezuela.

Wendy - posted on 07/30/2010

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I had my daughters ears pierced before she was a year old. My parents, on the other hand, waited till I was a teen. It is personal preference. My daughter is 10 now and loves that she can wear cute little earrings.

Dayna - posted on 07/29/2010

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I have to say each to there own when it comes to piercing ears, my daughters who are now 9 have had their ears pierced since they were 4 and a half months old(yes that young). As there mum I made that choice and it has turned out to be a good one as they have always known they have been there they do not play with them and the don't remember the pain when getting ears done. My son asked at age of 5 for his ear to be pierced so off we went he was so keen and happy they marked his ear the bang the gun went of at he screamed the loudest he has ever done,and was upset for a few hours. He still states 2 years later that it hurt.

Carmel - posted on 07/29/2010

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yes, i think she is, my daughter was 5 handeld it ok. They usually do 2 together

Tanya - posted on 07/29/2010

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My daughter wanted hers pierced for her 5th birthday. She had them both done at the same time and left them alone and did the turning and cleaning and all that stuff. You may have to do more of it for her since she is only 4, but younger is better for sure in my opinion.

Ariesa - posted on 07/29/2010

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It isn't because I got my daughter ears pierced when she was a baby. And you might need to worry about when she ask for a tatoo. SMILE

Dawn - posted on 07/29/2010

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My daughter is 7. She had not shown any interest at all before that. So we took her into have them done. As we were waiting, a little girl about 2 was having hers done. As soon as it happened, the 2 year old starting crying uncontrollably and then my daughter freaked out and started crying. She now wants to wait until she is 8. So if you decide to have them done, I would suggest not having them watch another child. If she had not seen that happen, she would have had pierced ears today.

Sharon - posted on 07/29/2010

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Remember that ears change and grow like the rest of us. That's why those who get their ears pierced as babies often have the holes off center, too low, too high, etc. as adults (or often, even while still little). It's hard to get it really precise on a tiny ear lobe!

If you want them to be really centered so she can wear studs, I would recommend waiting.

Also 4 year olds aren't the best when it comes to washing hands and then standing there while you turn them. The piercing itself is the easy part. It's cleaning the back and turning them which is tough, and can be painful. Easier if you're a very motivated teenager. Less so if you're a preschooler, wanting to go outside and play!

Ramya - posted on 07/29/2010

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in india kids get their ears pierced quite early. in some places it is as early as a month. mostly especially girls get it pierced by their first birthday. at that time since their ears r quite tender they dont feel it much. i think u can get it pierced now. through the doc it is quite easy.

Shawna - posted on 07/29/2010

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Well I have 3 girl's...N they all had their ears pierced by 6 months old...So any time is a good time...

Amy - posted on 07/29/2010

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I waited until my girls could ask and make the choice. It was fine. They were about 3-4 yrs old when they had it done. I would just make sure the store you have it done at does both ears at the same time. That way if she is scared after one, she won't be able to say no more.

Sreekala - posted on 07/29/2010

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I had both my daughter's ear pierced when they were 4 months old.Actually when I mentioned to my pediatrician she was the one who told me to do it at 4 months because they will hardly know and won't pull on it and it will be easy to care for. Pediatrician did the piercing for my older daughter and I had the younger daughter's done at claire's. you might want to ask them to put some numbing cream before they do the piercing. It took only couple of minutes and my daughter cried for may be 5 minutes. Older they are its harder to do depends on how much she wants it herself. since they have to pierce one ear at a time if she gets upset with one ear piercing then she may not let you do the other unless it was something she also wanted to do...Just my two cents

Take care

Nadine - posted on 07/29/2010

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My daughter Madison was 18 months old when she had her ears pierced. She only cried for about 5 minutes and then she was fine. Some of the places that do ear piercing will use two guns and do it at the same time. I think she is old enough to know what is going to happen. I hope this is helpful!

Nadine

Deborah - posted on 07/29/2010

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My parents are Cuban and in our tradition it is done at the Doctor's office when the baby is 2 or 3 months old. There is nothing more lady like than a nice pair of earrings.

Joanne - posted on 07/29/2010

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I personally would never get a childs ears pierced until they were old enough to know it's what they wanted and old enough to maintain them and keep them clean. I think it looks quite tacky especially on babies...I'd wait until they were 8 ish and just buy some clip on earrings in the meantime.

Nikki - posted on 07/28/2010

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i had my ears pierced when i was 6 weeks old (per my mother) i dont remember a thing ..... i have both boys however i took both my neices once they got 1st shots they love then of corse they are 17 and 3 now

Hayley - posted on 07/28/2010

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I don't think 4 is too young. I think the younger the better. We did our little girl's ears at 9 days old. I nursed her while they did it. She whimpered then went back to nursing. She was more upset when I made her stop nursing to switch sides for the other ear. My sister waited until my niece was 6. She swears the next one is getting pierced in the womb. LOL Almost everyone I've talked to at work (i'm a nurse) agrees that the younger they are the less traumatic. My only suggestion if you do it that young you have to be careful until you can switch the earrings out. Even the infant posts they pierce with were too long for my daughter and we had to make sure they didn't snag on anything. When you switch them I suggest spending the money and buying good, surgical steel earrings. Not cheap ones.

Shannon - posted on 07/28/2010

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both my girls got it done win they was babys and they love it go for it if u wait to long she mite mess with it more win she gets bigger my 2 boys got one if there ears done and my kids r 14,11,6,5 just do it

Melissa - posted on 07/28/2010

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My daughter asked when she was 3, for a trial to see how she would do we would put the little plastic star stickers on her ears. She left them alone and let me "take care" of them every day. So after a week we went and got them done. She was so excited to get them she wasn't scared.

Kellie - posted on 07/28/2010

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my daughter got her ears peirced at 6 she wanted them so she got them she was pretty gud with them being done the scariest part for her was the piercing gun..
my son has also got his ear pierced and he loved it not even a tear in his eye..
any age is ok aslong as you feel comfortable about them getting done

Colette - posted on 07/28/2010

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I was in grade 2 when I got mine done, even though it hurt alot and later got infected, I was so proud of having earings!

Aimee - posted on 07/28/2010

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My daughter was 5 and was fine with it. She's pretty tough.:-) I have a neighbor whose daughter is now 13 and afraid to get her ears pierced. I think doing it when they are younger is kinder on them, just more of a commitment from you to keep them clean,etc.

Bonnie - posted on 07/28/2010

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All 3 of my girls were 6months old when i got them pierced so you should be safe take care

Khayriyah - posted on 07/28/2010

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after leaving the doctors office from getting her 2month old shots i went and got her ears pierced she didnt cry. i good thing about getting them done early is they are less likely to fiddle with the earring and having them seem doesnt phase them.

Tiffany - posted on 07/28/2010

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i did my daughters when she was a baby. i think you should go ahead and do it. she is young enough to not remember any pain and you can clean them and make sure they are staying clean.

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