Harmony - posted on 07/20/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
So I am 30 years old with 4 children between the ages of 4 and 12. I am recently divorced and my sister and I decided to move in together. She has a 5 year old daughter. My kids are currently staying with their dad most of the time but visit me every weekend. This is my situation: My sisters daughter wakes up screaming and crying and nothing comforts her unless her mom lets her sleep with her. She always says its her legs that are bothering her. So my sister was giving her meds every night and wrapping her leg. Now her daughter expects this all of the time. I voiced my concern about how regularly her daughter was getting meds and that I believed this was just an attention seeking act. So my sister decided to let me try and take over with the night routine. Well that night her daughter woke up screaming and crying, I went in to comfort her by just talking and letting her know that we were right across the hall. She said her legs hurt. I told her if she sleeps they will feel better, just to test her. So she stops crying for a little bit but then about 5 minutes later she is screaming bloody murder and yelling for her mom. So I go in again as my sister requested to see what I could do. This time she is saying her ear hurts. And this continued 2 more times, each time she said something new was hurting. This is telling me that she is lying and is only wanting to get into bed with her mom. We also always keep a night light in there and our rooms are about 3 feet apart. So that same night after going in multiple times, and then deciding after that to just not react to her screaming she eventually fell asleep. But at 3 am she sneaks into bed with her mom and my sister just lets her....which basically wiped out all of the work I put in that night because her daughter got exactly what she wanted in the end. I really believe she is manipulating her mom. I see her daughter purposely acting out and upsetting her mom and then behind her moms back I see her smile. It seems to me she knows exactly what she is doing. I have tried talking to my sister about this, tried to help her, but I am not getting through to her. She still spoils her child and gives in way too quickly. Normally I would let her "live and learn" like we all do. But these fits between 12 and 3am are waking the whole house and I really think that is unfair. What should I do?