Male gay porn found on 9 yr old step-sons computer! How do I handle this?

Stephanie - posted on 11/14/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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OK so I am a step mother (to be) to a 9 yr old boy. I was setting up an internet connection to our TVs on his computer because it is the main PC that the laptops and other PC runs off of, while on the phone with the internet company, and came across male gay porn. There was not only one site, but numerous ones that he has been looking at for a very long time. I did tell his dad and he talked to him, but of course all that came out of his mouth was lies. He denied looking at it. Now this is just the icing on the cake, I don't have enough time or space to tell everything that has happened in the last 2 1/2 years, but this situation is it!



Please someone give me some feedback on who, what, when & where. I am in desperate need of help before I make a decision on to end the relationship or not. One other thing I have 3 girls in the house ages 9, 8 & 5.



P.S. My fiance and I never fight about anything, and I mean NOTHING but his son and his non-discipline and inconsistancy.

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Stephanie - posted on 11/14/2012

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Thank you so much for replying to me Ariana! Idk what to do anymore! Earlier this week he gave my 5 yr old daughter a concussion by hitting her (accidentally?) with a metal bat! Yes I totally agree we ALL need to go to counseling. And I think it would benefit my step son to see a counselor on his own too. It's not just the porn, it's the way he talks to his dad and totally disrespects him, if a grown man cussed & yelled at my fiance like his son does he would probably beat that man up. I don't understand why a 48 yr old man takes this crap from a 9 yr old kid.



My kids are not the most well behaved, they fight and talk back and don't follow directions like every kid does. But what they don't do is disrespect me or any adult/child for that matter unless they are being hurt or feel like they are unsafe.



I'm afraid this whole situation, and everything leading up to this, will end our relationship. My fiance does nothing to make anything better.

Oh one other thing, he can yell and boss around my girls but when it comes to his son no discipline is there.

Thanks again!

Ariana - posted on 11/14/2012

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I would block the sites on the computer. There's no point in talking to him about it if he's denying it. His dad might want to speak to him about how porn isn't real and it's ok to be interested in that type of thing but it's not something someone his age should be looking at.



Otherwise I would probably get a family councellor to help you all deal with the rest of it. If you and your fiance are not on the same page for discipline then it will be very difficult to discipline any of your kids (not just your step-son). You may want to speak with a family councellor who can help you and your fiance get on the same page and help you two deal with your stepson, as well as help your step-son act better.

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