My 10 year old is still wetting the bed, almost nightly. Any solutions?

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Brenda Kay - posted on 07/15/2013

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My daughter is still wetting the bed and I am not sure what else to do for her as a mother I am starting to feel helpless. First of all I do not let her drink after 7 pm, I also get her up 3 times a night to go to the bathroom ( she still has accidents even with this), I also have taken her to the doctor( she did have a problem when she was born with her bladder) the doctor put her on a nasal medicine and it did not help. I have also made her clean up the mess which in return made her only hide it from me and made her room stink. I feel like I have tried everything and still she wets the bed. I am at a loss and with her going into 5 th grade I am a little worried. If you have any tips besides the ones I have tried please let me know.

Jeanida - posted on 07/18/2013

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Ladies for some children it just comes with the territory of being a parent, but after a certain age and after you have stopped the drinking before bed, woke them up in the middle of the night to pee, and tried medication, You have to find out what the problem really is.At night is when our subconscious mind gets the best of us, whether its showing us how to fix something we couldnt while we were awake of bringing up our biggest fear. You must talk to your children and find out what is going on and pay attention to what is taking place around them. Bed wetting is more of an emotional reaction to something that bothers the child in their sleep that takes place during the day. The biggest thing parents overlook is arguing around Their children, its one of the most simple things but has a huge impact on your child. And if you know the problem dont keep focusing on the basics actually talk to your child, pay attention to how they act around new people in your life like boyfriends, new husbands, their own father, etc. Children will tell you everything you need to know if you just pay attention. And last thing be sure to remove what ever negative situation may be impacting your child, bed wetting is only the start of the effects these issues can have on your childs development.

Megan - posted on 12/03/2012

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I have a child who wet the bed nightly (often several times) until he was 8 years old. At first, I just invested in a couple pair of washable, waterproof underwearhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... this webpage has lots to choose from in lots of different sizes even waterproof boxers. And used a waterproof sheet protectorhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... to minimize the laundry.
At the age of seven the bedwetting began to chip away at his self esteem. We solved his bed wetting by using an alarm. A child who wets at night has a sleep pattern in which the brain does not react to the full bladder signal. The alarm gradually trains the child's brain to react. He went from being wet every single night to completely dry in about 6 weeks. The bed wetting alarm http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... has given us years of dry nights.
My child absolutely loved the children's book, Prince Bravery and Grace - Attack of the Wet Knights http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/... . It is the story of a young prince who struggles with "the Wet Knights" and eventually defeats them by using an alarm. It's funny yet empathetic and gave him the understanding and motivation to end the bed wetting. The best advice for parents about how to stop bedwetting I found is the book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, by Renee Mercer. Invest in the books-they make the process so much easier, then an alarm -its the best decision I ever made.www.braveryandgrace.com

Pam - posted on 06/16/2013

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I know there are underlying problems for many children---this ONLY pertains to those children who wet the bed out of laziness, knowing mommy will clean it up for them!

My daughter was eight and still occasionally wetting the bed, which occurred when she did not listen and go to the potty before bedtime. I finally got so tired of changing sheets and blankets and kids (she shares a full size bed on the bottom bunk with her twin) that I told her, the next time this happens, you will change everything yourself. She wet the bed a few days later and I as I told her, I made her change everything as I supervised and she NEVER wet the bed again. She is now ten.

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MommieMira - posted on 04/01/2014

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Laura Hanson Brenda Kay

Thank you for your story! I'm glad to know that am not the only mom in the world who is going through the EXACT SAME THING! I sure hope you've found a solution that works for you and your daughter. As I was reading your story, I felt like you were writing it about my child and I!

I only read a few responses so far, but PLEASE if you've found a solution to this huge issue....PLEASE let me know. I am truly at my breaking point with this and no one can tell you "it's just a part of being a parent"! No one understands unless they have been through this situation themselves.

Thank you! ~ DESPERATE MOMMIE!!!!

Monica - posted on 01/11/2014

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My daughter is 10 and I am not stressing over her bed wetting. I have already need through the worry and doctors trips with my oldest son. He outgrew bed wetting at 12 years old. It's more common than you realize. I have met many friends who's kids also have wet their beds at 10 and grew out at 12 years of age. If they have never really kept their bed dry but once in a while, it's not worth yelling at them of making them feel bad. They really have no control. I also know their father wet his bed until 12 too. I just put plastic lining on the bed and she wears a pull up every night. Doctor honestly gave me no reason for concern.

Annalise - posted on 12/21/2013

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my 10 year old daughter wet the bed to and the solution is...
First,do they sleep alone?
Next,do they drink after 7pm?
Finally,do they use the restroom before and after going to bed?
If all of these are things done by your child then try making sure they dont sleep around running water or i have also heard that getting cold can lead to bed wetting.If these things dont work try letting them grow out of it.If you cant handle the large amount of laundry then try talking to a docter about bladder problems.

Annalise - posted on 12/21/2013

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So I wet the bed at 10 to and what solved my problem was...
First does your daughter/son sleep by themself?
Second do they drink after 7 pm?
Iast do they use the restroom before bed and during the night?
If you do all these things for your daughter/son then the best thing i can say is to either wait for them to grow out of it but if you cant stand doing all the laundry then make sure they are not sleeping near running or dripping water.
I have also heard that if your child sleeps with a fan or without cover than this can lead to bed wetting.

Laura - posted on 08/14/2013

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Thank you, everyone, for the advice. It turns out she had Ureteral Reflux. She had to have surgery that required her ureters to be criss crossed. It was called Bilateral Ureteral Re-Implantation. That was last year. She's almost 14 and only wet the bed one time right after surgery. All is well and her confidence is back!! Thank you Dr. Miller, at Cooks Children's Hospital in Fort Worth, TX.

Angie - posted on 12/12/2012

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I know this may sound off the cuff. But I had all the same questions for the last 12 years of my 18 year old daughters life. She was potty trained at 3 and didn't start bed wetting till she was 6. I got married when she turned 6 to a very bitter angry man. We soon divorced 3 years later. Her bed wetting never stopped. I have found that it is always triggered by stress. She was sexually abused at 14 once and again at 15 once. Don't worry she is safe now and finally working things though. So that is something that you should look into as being and root cause of stress. Take it from one raffled mother who struggled to find answers for 12 years. Look up symptoms of sexual abuse. Ask questions gently and be prepared for any answer. Most of the time a child will at first deny any abuse. Stay calm no matter what! The bed wetting could be caused by stress. So stay calm. Hoping for the best!

Nora - posted on 12/03/2012

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MAKE SURE THEY ARE NOT DRINKING AFTER 7 MY SON ALWAY DRANK BEFORE BED AND WET I STARTED LETTING HIM HAVE SOME ICE CREAM IT SEEM THEY JUST NEED SOMETHING AND THAT HELP GIVE IT A TRY

Barbara - posted on 11/16/2012

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Of course my first reaction is did you take him to the doctors to get him checked out and make sure his bladder and kidneys are working correctly? Next of course are the liquids and my boys are not allow any drinks after dinner which usually ends by 6:30 pm. If they are thirsty which really never seems to happen they are allow a sip of water but they brush their teeth and they seem to be fine after that. Also I will ask them to go to the bathroom before they take their showers and I have been told by my sister not to do this but I do I make them go again after stories are read which is around 8:15 pm. They rarely have accidents but when they do I do not get upset because I know they are fine its just a developmental issue and I am sure they will be fine as adults. I never set an alarm for them to wake up they are deep sleepers so I don't think they would wake up to the alarm, they have a hard time waking up to the alarm at 7 a.m.

Doretha - posted on 08/15/2012

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My son just tun nine today and he been wetting the bed since he was 4 the problem came after his grandfather died.i stop the drinking before 7 and gets him up about four times a night to go the bathroom but he stills wet the bed please help me because my water bill is to high keep washing sheets every day.

Shavon - posted on 07/24/2012

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try no liquids past a specific hour. use the potty before bedtime, and teach your child to use the bathroom immediately when they wake up. this should help. ; ) Good luck

Jackie - posted on 07/22/2012

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hope she stops soon, my step son is 10 and still does it. and so does my nephew and his 15. good luck. I try not giving them liquards before bed but it doesn't always work, I guess they will just outgrow it soon

Joann - posted on 03/30/2012

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My daughter is 11yrs old & still wets the bed

I've tried limiting the amount of fluid intake b4

She goes 2 bed, the pills, nasal spray & I even

Taken away her cell phone & lap-top thinking

It was done on purpose. That truly wasn't the

Case. She continued 2 wet the bed. There's 1

Thing I find strange; when she spends the night

Out, she never wets the bed. She states that

She stays up til the wee hrs in the morning b4 she

Falls asleep. So I'm totally confused @ this point

Trish - posted on 05/14/2011

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Hi Laura, I see that your post was almost 2 years ago. my daughter is 9 and everything you said ive tried. now that your daughter is around 11, has it stopped? if so what helped... Thank you Trish Lewis

Diana - posted on 10/09/2009

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Raylene,I believe it was The Dry Time Clinic. I forgot to mention one of the biggest indicators of this problem is if they have had more than 2 UTI's (urinary tract infection) without an obvious medical reason. If you have a Children 's Hospital near by, you can call and ask about it, if you don't you might want to call the one in Denver and ask about finding something near you that might help. Good Luck.

Tracy - posted on 10/09/2009

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Try waking the child up at 11 or 12 to use the bathroom. Most children are still half asleep & will go right back to sleep.

Aisha - posted on 10/09/2009

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dont ridicule her just stop her from drinking at 7pm and if she still does it wake up through the middle of the night on a daily night then she'll get in the habit trust me i know my did it after they were potty trained or it can be something thats bothering her or scaring her

Raylene - posted on 10/09/2009

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What is the name of the seminar? Both my kids need dry-nights and I have a lot of washing.

Raylene - posted on 10/09/2009

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Quoting Diana:

My then 5 yr. old had a problem and in the process of treating this problem we went to a seminar that addressed the bed wetting problem. They talked about how some kids hold their urine all day, and rarely go to the bathroom during the day. The bladder becomes very large and the muscle that releases the urine becomes so strong that they get to the point that they can no longer release everything in their bladder. At night when they go to sleep the muscle relaxes and they wet the bed. If this is what is going on, then restricting fluids before bed won't work. They actually recommend increasing water during the day and having them go to the bathroom every 1 1/2 hrs. School may require a Dr. note to get out of class this often. There is a special watch that vibrates to remind them to go, and his friends wouldn't notice. I would talk to his pediatrian about help. Children's Hospital of Denver has a program dealing with nothing but kids with this problem and a program to stop the problem. Hopefully you can find a similar program in your area if you need it. I hope this was helpful to you and your son. Good Luck


 

Shannon - posted on 10/09/2009

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This might sound weird or maybe even crazy but it worked in both instances. I had a brother who wet the bed and I had a daughter. We figured out that when the child heard water dripping like from a faucet, or when it rains and you can hear the dripping off the roof or maybe there room window is by sprinklers for the yard. My daughter seemed to wet the most when it rained and since I live in Washington state it rains here a lot. She eventually outgrew the issue and so did my brother. His problem was he could hear the sprinkler come on every night because of where his bed was in his room which was next to his window. So make sure your child can't hear water drip and then if that doesn't seem to be it then just wait it out...they will outgrow it. Good luck.

Heather - posted on 10/09/2009

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My daughter wets the bed & so did my son. It may just be something they will grow out of and there is nothing to do. My son was on a pill and it dried him all out, even his nose & mouth. So we just used & still use GoodNites and wait for her to grow out of it as my son did.

Narelle - posted on 10/09/2009

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I have a 8yr old and she has just stop wetting the bed, but we needed help. After reading all the other advice I can only tell you what worked for her. We went to the peaditrician and they refered us to the continence nurse and they told us it was because she was considpated and her brain and bladder didn't talk to each other, so we had to get her to drink more through the day aleast a litre a day make sure she went to the toilet before she went to bed and we used the alarm blanket. When she got her considpation under control we started to notice a diffrence it took about 3 months but we haven't looked back. Most doctors will wont you to try the alarm before they use medication. good luck i hope you get a solution soon as i know how frustrating it is

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I didn't stop until I was near 12 and my son didn't stop until he was ten. Time, patience and understanding? A plastic sheet/liner was on my bed and even though I hated it for myself - I had to do it for my son. He so didn't like it, but eventually he stop.

I really understand your frustration.

Cheryl - posted on 10/08/2009

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is your child a boy or girl if a boy he probably has been growing so fast his bladder cant keep up. it is not uncommon for boys to have this problem

Jamie - posted on 10/07/2009

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my sons doctor gave him impramine to stop him from wetting the bed it helps we only have an accident maybe once a month now

Dianna - posted on 10/07/2009

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I see all the things that came to my mind mentioned here except one- our child wets her bed episodically. I started keeping a log and figured out that everytime she realizes she is going to visit a certain person's home, she wets from when she finds out till the visit is over. Her bed-wetting was stress related. As we can't discontinue the visits, we stopped making a big deal about them before hand. We know the reason for her aniety, but you may want to make sure no one in scaring, abusing or otherwise causing anxiety to your child. Of course, after ceasing drinks in a timely manner, trying bed alarms, and checking for possible physical reasons- wouldnt want to unnecessarily ring any alarms.

Dora - posted on 10/07/2009

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do not let her very no drinks after 7pm.put a cross or angel in her room i use to wet the bed until i was 11 my mother put a claming picture of angel in my room it help me relax

Dragana - posted on 10/07/2009

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I had the same problem untill i was 8 and my mom took me to the doctor and she sujested that when i go to the bathroom i try not to let it all out just pee a littel count to 10 then some more then count to 10 again. Its suppose to train the bladder.

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My daughter who will be 9 in less than a week has an underdeveloped bowel and bladder. Basically her insides are a few years behind her outsides..I took her to Childrens hospital in Cincinnati and they put her on a 3C diet ( no/minimal chocolate, caffiene, carbonation and citrus) This helped her very much but she still has accidents. She has frequent bladder spasmn so even though her bladder is really spall the spasms are so bad that her small bladder doesn't get to fill up enough to have the instinct to go to the bathroom..my daughter has this during the day sometimes too but nighttime is the worst.. the doctors did say that she'll outgrow it and it won't leave lasting effects.

Cori - posted on 10/07/2009

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you might want to make an appointment with your child's pediatritian. There are some very common medical reasons that can easily be fixed.

Evelyn - posted on 10/07/2009

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Cut the liquids after 6 PM. That is what helped my son. We cut out any soda, juice, or milk after 6 and stick to very limited water. I also made sure I got him up every night to go to the bathroom. Figure out when during the night it generally happens and plan to get him up before then. I know that anytime between 1-5 AM was his trouble time but if I got him up sometime between midnight and 1 he would make it accident free.

Janie - posted on 10/07/2009

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My youngest has been dry over a few months now, I went to school nurse who explained that its to do with brain conextions to bladder and back if like my son it was combination of having a small bladder and a chemical in brain called vasopressin his treatment was the alarm and taking tablets until he stoped. Also he wanted to stop this was very important so if your child is not ready then nothing will work until they want to sorry

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First make sure there is no underlying medical issues by seeing a doctor. Then follow the advise of the mommies below as they are right on target. I have 2 children whom have kidney reflux which causes them to wet the bed at night, along with stress and liquids right before bed so with some changes you can be successful. There are also alarms out there on bedwetting.com site.

TNell - posted on 10/07/2009

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Quoting Kim:

Don't worry!!!!!! He will grow out of it! Sometimes it is medical. SOme kids bladders take longer to develope.



The doctor had told me when I had this issue that kids should outgrow this issue by 10 or 11, or they need medical help to determine what's going on.  :)

TNell - posted on 10/07/2009

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I used to have the same problem...Finally my mom took me to a specialist and he gave me somthing to change my sleeping patterns. If your son doesn't outgrow this soon, look into the possibility it is a body chemical issue or sleep issue...btw, my parents tried EVERYTHING from sticker charts, to waking me up at night, to sleeping with music, to discipline, the wet alarms, you name it. It wasn't anything that I could control..it was an imbalance caused from my sleep patterns. Good luck and I hope the best for you both!

Nora - posted on 10/07/2009

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Quoting Laura:

My 10 year old is still wetting the bed, almost nightly. Any solutions?

bed-wetting



ok make sure she has a good drink at supper then try about 1hr before bed time 1\2 glass of juice then  go washroom before climbing into bed  if you go to bed 2 or 3 hrsafter her get her up to go again i did this with my 6 yr olds and it worked try it good luck

KATRINA - posted on 10/06/2009

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HAVE YOU LIMITED HIS FLUID INTAKE A COUPLE OF HOURS BEFORE HE GOES TO BED AND CUT BACK CARBINATED DRINKS AND WAKE HIM UP AT LEAST ONCE A NIGHT

Jennifer - posted on 10/06/2009

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I don't know if anyone's mentioned this or not, but it could be an underdeveloped bladder. I had the same problem up until I was 13 (I think), and my parents cut me off of liquids like they were supposed to, and made me go to the bathroom before bed, even woke me up during the night. I still wet the bed. It was so realistic when I was dreaming, that I actually felt the cold porcelain when I sat down! Next thing I know, I'm wet, and so is the bed. My parents finally talked to my pediatrician, and they referred me to another doctor, they ran tests, and found out my bladder wasn't fully developed yet. Maybe check that out? Good luck!

Vonetta - posted on 10/06/2009

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Get his /her bladder checked. i had the same problem when i was younger and come to find out my body was growing but not my bladder. So it couldn't hold as much as it should have therefore causing the accidents.

Preeti - posted on 10/06/2009

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Try giving your child handful of nuts specially Walnut before going to sleep. I hope it helps.

Marah - posted on 10/05/2009

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Stopping fluids before 7 may work. Your child may also have a medical problem and bedwetting may be a symptom. If your child is having flank pain on either side or incontinence while doing any physical activity, consult your pediatrician. This could be a sign your child has a kidney obstruction or urinary reflux.

Kim - posted on 10/05/2009

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Kids get thirsty! Just like adults. Bed wetting is as is. It happens, it is part of growing.....all kids will grow out of it on their own time. Let's not try to control things that do not need to be controlled. Remember, they are just kids!!!!!!!

Kim - posted on 10/05/2009

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Don't worry!!!!!! He will grow out of it! Sometimes it is medical. SOme kids bladders take longer to develope.

Kelly - posted on 10/05/2009

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I Was a bedwetter myself. My suggestion to you is that first you are understanding and patient and never belittle your child, he/she cannot help it and is not doing it on purpose. Secondly, just know that your child will not be wetting the bed when they graduate high school!!! LOL, I finally stopped when I was 13 years old, yes 13 !! Good luck!

Caroline - posted on 10/05/2009

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i have 5 children my eldest 2 have got tv in there room and im get my 3 year old 1 2 cause he likes things like bob the builder and things like that and the others r girls so they dont like things he dose and the other way round all thow they only watch it on weekends and its good if theres somet on telly u want to watch and they dont u aint got them sayen im bored i dont wont to watch this

Dawn - posted on 10/05/2009

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my son has always wet the bed, he's just turned 8. He's on tablets from the doc's at the mo but even they aren't working, i spend a fortune on pyjama pants, apparently you are supposed to give them more to drink and try to make them hold themselves longer during the day when they need to go! x

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