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Jaime - posted on 06/04/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter is a very outspoken fire-y little girl. Any time she gets in trouble, which is often, she screams at me and says "I'm stupid! You hate me!" I try to talk to her and tell her not to say those things and that just because she is getting in trouble and/or I am telling her no doesn't mean that she is stupid or that I hate her. I don't understand where this comes from. We struggle when it comes to our communication. She is very disrespectful to me and always screams and yells. I don't handle the situation that well all the time either. She disobeys me the majority of the time. Anyone else experience their child saying these things?

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Kristin - posted on 06/05/2012

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I used to let my son scream and yell in his room until he tired himself out or wanted to talk. I refused to talk to him while he was yelling and waited to talk to him when he was calm. It is definately not an easy road but I found being consistent and firm worked well. As well the behavior program has tips for parents on how to deal with hard to handle children. My girlfriend too had a son like mine and her sonm used to punch holes in the walls and she put him in the CHADS program to which is a beahvior therapist and he calmed down as well. I like CHADS because it is professionals dealing with your child and they work with parents as well on how to cope. Trust me it will get better

Jaime - posted on 06/05/2012

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Thanks Kristin.....she definitely had the yelling and screaming down. I try to tell her those same kinds of things. That I do not hate her, but I do not like how she is acting, etc. I have never heard of the CHADS program. I will have to check that out.

Kristin - posted on 06/05/2012

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I went through something similar with my son when he was 4. He was diagnosed with ADHD and we put him into behavior classes. When he says he hates me, I say no i love you i just dont like when you dont listen to me or you behave badly. Lots of times when my son yells and is angry i send him to his room for a time out to give him time to think. When he is ready to listen and to talk is when he will come out. I then get to his level eye to eye and ask him why he was angry and why he didnt listen and he will tell me his answer. I also gave him, consequences to his actions and took toys away or park time or treats or whatever, which taught him that bad behavior does NOT get rewarded. I am not saying he is perfect and listens all the time because he doesnt lol but it did help and I also found that getting mad and yelling back doesnt help matters. But the behavior classes help to, we used the CHADS program. Hope this helps good luck

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