My 5 year old still wets the bed!! How do I get him to stop?

Ashley - posted on 02/11/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

20

63

0

When I first started seeing his daddy and coming around the kids they were an absolute mess. I came in and regulated lol and had to help them in a lot of ways. Travis was peeing his pants regularly and his room smelt of urine because well he had accidents every night. Just here recently he has had a few nights where he didn't have an accident but I'm ready for it to stop. I've tried pullups, which only makes it worse. I wash his sheets daily and I'm sick of it!! HELP!!

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Melissa - posted on 02/11/2010

377

56

51

My son wet his bed up until right before he turned 7. What I would do and still do, and it has worked because I saw him gradually getting better, is stop his drinking about 1 - 1.5 hours before his bedtime. If he is thirsty just give him a sip. Then before bed, take him to the bathroom. And about 1.5 hours after he is in bed, wake him up and take him to the bathroom. Make sure he walks and you don't carry him because this will wake him up and "train" his brain to wake up to go to the bathroom. Also, what I did cause like you, I was sick of washing sheets every day, isi I bought a mattress pad. They are soft and I put it right over his sheets. He slept directly on it. This way, if he does have an accident, you spare the sheets and mattress. You only have to clean him up and put him back to bed and not have to change the sheets. I do this every night. I still do it everynight and he now goes about every 14 days without wetting the bed and he now can wake himself up to go to the bathroom. I hope this helps with your 5 year old who wets the bed. Best of luck!!

Linda - posted on 09/28/2012

2

3

0

Reading all these posts...I would never wake my daughter in the middle of the night just to make my life a little easier. It's somewhat abusive, and they should get peaceful rest. Plenty of kids wet the bed until about 6.. Normal part of development. What's the fixation on this topic. Look at diapers in stores..you'll see they go way high in weight. Buy them, use them, remove them in the morning. That's how you wouldn't change sheets. It's what they are for. No kid needs training..they are not dogs and will grow out of it in due time...just like you. Seeking doctor advice would be reasonable I'd say if they are older..maybe 9 or so. Imagine the embarrassment of being taken for exams regarding this...so really a last resort.

Abigail - posted on 09/19/2012

1

0

0

wow, I am glad I am not alone in this situation. I am having a hard time changing sheets and having 3 covers under him. I remember my cousin would wet the bed, but I don't remember how old was she. I think he does have a bladder problem. The thing is he hold his pee until he really have to go when he's awake in the day. I tell my son, that if he needs to pee don't bother asking permission to leave. When I was pregnant with him, I would pee on myself whether I sneeze or laugh. Ay.. I just want this to end.. I am gong to start getting him up in the middle of the night and train him until he is able to do this on his own.

Maggie - posted on 11/22/2013

3

0

2

My six year old still wets the bed. Did you know about bedwetting. It is an illness, usually inherited. My parents told me my oldest sister wet the bed till she was 17. But my son was seen by a doctor and was prescribed medication. Speak to your doctor about it I do not remember the name of the medication, but it was drops to the nose, and that would keep him dry all night. He eventually stopped. I know it is hard changing the sheets, every night bathing them twice a day. But you have to be patient it is not his fault.

Melissa - posted on 02/15/2010

377

56

51

Ashley...I know that boys are harder to potty train at night. I talked to my son's doctor and he wouldn't do anything until he was almost 7. But as soon as my son turned 7 it was like a switch flipped and he stopped wetting the bed. Sometimes they just need to outgrow it. I did the sticker chart for my son as well. Sometimes it worked but then he would have an accident. You know he is embarrassed by this and i'm sure he wants to stop just like my son. My son was really embarrassed. He just couldn't help it cause he was such a heavy sleeper. The alarm thing I think doesn't really work. It sounds AFTER he already wet the bed. You can train him this way or just train him by waking him up every night at the same time to go to the bathroom. It really did work on my son. But you have to do it every night and it isn't going to stop after a week or even two. I did this for months and months until he finally started getting up by himself and when he did, I made him feel really good and put him back to bed. And the next day I made a big deal about how great it was that he was waking up by himself to go to the bathroom. It works, but it's a lot of work on your part. Best of luck with your 5 year old who still wets the bed!!

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

25 Comments

View replies by

Tamiaya - posted on 03/11/2014

2

0

0

Well after reading these amazing post i would not give them anything to drink after 7 o'clock.

Tamiaya - posted on 03/11/2014

2

0

0

Well after reading these amazing post i would not give them anything to drink after 7 o'clock.

CORINNE - posted on 07/05/2013

44

0

2

Stop giving him fluids after dinner.
IF he needs a drink give a tiny bit only.
Also, be sure to talk to him. Wetting the bed CAN mean other issues.
1. Sexual molestation or abuse. Be sure NO ONE is touching this child. This can mean OTHER CHILDREN as well, like an older child? I know of a child who had 'accidents' of bed wetting and found out that a 'friend' of an older sibling was touching this child. The bed wetting continued for a few years and the child NEVER told anyone. Turns out the child who was doing the molestation was also a victim! Both of these children are adults now!

2. Start talking GOOD TOUCH/BAD TOUCH when the kids are old enough to talk. I say age 2 but it depends on the child.

3. Believe the child and let him know you are here to help. IT COULD BE NOTHING OR IT COULD BE SOMETHING. You will never know unless you ask. And keep asking!

4. Get the child up and take them to the bathroom in the night. Some children do NOT know it is OK to get out of bed to go "POTTY"! My grand daughter is 3 1/2 yrs and had slept over and had an accident. I told her 'IF YOU NEED TO GO POTTY YOU ARE ALLOWED TO GET UP AND GO!" she was NOT aware of this as everyone always told her to get into bed and stay in bed! Once I explained to her this her mother had no more issues with bed wetting and potty training!
SEEMS LIKE COMMON SENSE TO US AS ADULTS BUT TO A CHILD IT IS CONFUSING. ......"Go to bed!"/ "Stay in bed!" / "Don't get out of bed!"

When you think about it from their point of view you can understand the confusion.

Good Luck and I Pray it is nothing serious and is only a simple fix for you and the child.

Valentina - posted on 05/06/2012

3

25

0

what if i asked my 5 yr old and he tells me cuz he likes wetting the bed...he wakes me up in the morning all proud that he peed on him self and tells me i dont have to use the toliet anymore.... what do i do????

Taryn - posted on 12/13/2011

22

15

2

Aside from all the info you've already got here - and lots of good tips - some children's bladders just don't grow as fast as the children I had a cousin and a student in my class that had that problem until the 7th grade - it sucked for him but it wasn't anything he could do anything about and believe me a 12 year old kid would do anything rather then wet the bed!! Look to your pediatrician for guidance!

Karen - posted on 11/01/2011

3

8

0

I would not give any drinks after tea time meal and then wake your child every couple of hour gradually making the gaps in between waking longer over a period of about three weeks. I do believe it is just a habit that needs breaking. This way might seem a bit tedious but you will be smiling when your child's bed is dry. Good luck

Sherri - posted on 02/17/2010

5

22

0

My 5 year had minor problems with wetting the bed. Here's what we did: As tireing as it is, we wake him up around midnight or little after and take him to the toilet. Try not to give liquids before bedtime. AND just before he is to fall asleep... tell him to remember to get up and go and quickly go back to bed to sleep. Children remember things for some reason just before they go to sleep! When he does go to the toilet on his own he well tell you and want you to be proud of him... so be sure to praise!



A change in his routine could have been the problem causing your 5 year old to wet the bed so try to get back to a routine.

Tina - posted on 02/15/2010

7

8

0

I have a 6 year old who still wears a pull up at night. She is wet just about every morning when she wakes up. We are currently seeing a urologist to make the problem stop, however it does run in my family. I have a few cousins and an aunt who wet the bed till the were about 12. Do you know if this runs in his family? I tried everything I tried not letting her drink before bed and she still ends up wet in the morning. I have tried letting her drink and sometimes she wakes up dry.... It is frustrating that your 5 year old still wets the bed but in some cases it is not their fault. You are not alone.

Dahlia - posted on 02/15/2010

14

28

1

Since your 5 year old still wets the bed you should get a spread for under the bed sheet to save the mattress. and no drinks 1 and a half to 2 hrs before sleep.

and 1-2 hrs after sleep, wake up to pee. then before u go to sleep ( assuming its like 3 or 4 hrs later, bring to pee again.

its a tough job, but u will be thru with it soon. follow the help told to u by all of us.

good luck. soon it will be fine.

there are also hormone pills, but i would advise u better not. i bought them for my daughter, but thank god didnt need them. we did it the way i just described.

good luck.

Ashley - posted on 02/14/2010

20

63

0

Here's the thing, I stopped giving him anything to drink after dinner, we tried the pullups for awhile but he was taking advantage of them and going several times a night with the pullup on. So then I started talking to him every night at bedtime and would give him a pep talk, if you go some many nights without wetting the bed then you get a prize. that didn't work. I also have been wanting to redo his bedroom and I have an extra queen size mattress and together we were going to repaint and personalize his room to suit him. So I told him, we weren't going to do until he became a big boy and stopped wetting the bed, and to no avail that hasn't worked either. I'm thinking maybe we just need to have a visit with the doctor. He has plenty of love and attention so that's not it, unless its due to his real mom not being in their life anymore. I just want to help him, I know it embarrassed him.

Colleen - posted on 02/13/2010

9

22

0

I have to say that first it seems as if your 5 year old still wetting the bed is a habit. Some children sleep so deeply that their brain doesn't wake them up or signal a strong enough response to wake up to deal with the issue of having to go to the bathroom. Definetly don't make him feel bad because of it, I'm sure he is embarrassed. Not that you would. Limiting water before bedtime, caffeine intake, maybe even rewarding him with a sticker chart that can earn stuff he really wants if he goes a week without messing the bed. You know it could be emotional. He may keep doing it because he gets attention Maybe he needs extra love, alone time with someone. Sometimes even if it's bad attention it still gets him noticed. Good luck.

Julie - posted on 02/13/2010

5

5

0

Bed wetting can be hereditary. If either parents were bedwetters then chances are the child will be too. Restricting fluid intake will not train your child to remain dry overnight. I have had this problem with my 8 year old and 5 year old. I have spoken to a pediatrition specializing in bedwetting and the bed wetting clinic at the childrens hospital. Basically your only avenue to teach a child to wake at night is to use an alarm that is about the size of a pillowcase and goes on the bed. As soon as urine hits it the alarm goes off. It is the childs resposibility to turn it off and replace the cover. This teaches the brain to wake up before the child needs to wee. It usually works. It worked for me when I was a kid, you must get it through your doctor and the waitlist is usually long however 5 is probably too young to start as they may stilll get over it themselves.

Audrey - posted on 02/13/2010

2

36

0

Does he drink any drinks that contain artifical sweetners. This can be the reason your 5 year old still wets the bed.

Misty - posted on 02/12/2010

8

11

0

first I would say take him to the doctors to see if he has a bladder problem... If not then hold back on the fluids before bed.. also have him use the bathroom before bed and wake him up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom.. I know it sounds crazy but I have three kids and it worked for all of them... I wish you the best...

Melissa - posted on 02/12/2010

377

56

51

Susan - when I was younger, I had that nose spray for myself. I was such a heavy sleeper that I just couldn't wake up. I would take it once before I went to bed and I never wet the bed since. But I know that boys are harder to potty train especially at night. It takes work but he will get it.

Melissa - posted on 02/12/2010

8

21

0

my 5 year old daughter still wets the bed and i was told not to worry because some children still do at that age. i stick a nite time pull up on her and restrict her drink intake before bed, i also have a waterproof cover on her mattress. wetting can also be a sign of worry, distress and inscurities so try asking him whats on his mind and reasure him about the wetting and try using reward charts, i am and so far so good. if you show worry or anger about it it WILL make it worse as the pick up on it.If you feel like you can you could always wake him up when you go to bed and sit him on the toilet that can help too

Jaimie - posted on 02/11/2010

19

19

1

Definitely talk to your pediatrician about your 5 year old still wetting the bed. Not just a general practitioner. And I'm sure it is very, very stressful, but know that it is developmental and some children just have to grow out of it. :(

[deleted account]

A girl at my work has a daughter that at 7 would still pee the bed. The doctor gave her some type of nose spray that she did once a day and amazingly it worked. After a while she has wheened herself off it and isn't peeing the bed anymore.

Shakirah - posted on 02/11/2010

1

18

1

try not to have him drink anything a few hours before going to bed, if that doesn't work maybe you should talk to your doctor.

Sherri - posted on 02/17/2010

5

22

0

My 5 year had minor problems with wetting the bed. Here's what we did: As tireing as it is, we wake him up around midnight or little after and take him to the toilet. Try not to give liquids before bedtime. AND just before he is to fall asleep... tell him to remember to get up and go and quickly go back to bed to sleep. Children remember things for some reason just before they go to sleep! When he does go to the toilet on his own he well tell you and want you to be proud of him... so be sure to praise!



A change in his routine could have been the problem causing your 5 year old to wet the bed so try to get back to a routine.

Tina - posted on 02/15/2010

7

8

0

I have a 6 year old who still wears a pull up at night. She is wet just about every morning when she wakes up. We are currently seeing a urologist to make the problem stop, however it does run in my family. I have a few cousins and an aunt who wet the bed till the were about 12. Do you know if this runs in his family? I tried everything I tried not letting her drink before bed and she still ends up wet in the morning. I have tried letting her drink and sometimes she wakes up dry.... It is frustrating that your 5 year old still wets the bed but in some cases it is not their fault. You are not alone.

Dahlia - posted on 02/15/2010

14

28

1

Since your 5 year old still wets the bed you should get a spread for under the bed sheet to save the mattress. and no drinks 1 and a half to 2 hrs before sleep.

and 1-2 hrs after sleep, wake up to pee. then before u go to sleep ( assuming its like 3 or 4 hrs later, bring to pee again.

its a tough job, but u will be thru with it soon. follow the help told to u by all of us.

good luck. soon it will be fine.

there are also hormone pills, but i would advise u better not. i bought them for my daughter, but thank god didnt need them. we did it the way i just described.

good luck.

Colleen - posted on 02/13/2010

9

22

0

I have to say that first it seems as if your 5 year old still wetting the bed is a habit. Some children sleep so deeply that their brain doesn't wake them up or signal a strong enough response to wake up to deal with the issue of having to go to the bathroom. Definetly don't make him feel bad because of it, I'm sure he is embarrassed. Not that you would. Limiting water before bedtime, caffeine intake, maybe even rewarding him with a sticker chart that can earn stuff he really wants if he goes a week without messing the bed. You know it could be emotional. He may keep doing it because he gets attention Maybe he needs extra love, alone time with someone. Sometimes even if it's bad attention it still gets him noticed. Good luck.

Julie - posted on 02/13/2010

5

5

0

Bed wetting can be hereditary. If either parents were bedwetters then chances are the child will be too. Restricting fluid intake will not train your child to remain dry overnight. I have had this problem with my 8 year old and 5 year old. I have spoken to a pediatrition specializing in bedwetting and the bed wetting clinic at the childrens hospital. Basically your only avenue to teach a child to wake at night is to use an alarm that is about the size of a pillowcase and goes on the bed. As soon as urine hits it the alarm goes off. It is the childs resposibility to turn it off and replace the cover. This teaches the brain to wake up before the child needs to wee. It usually works. It worked for me when I was a kid, you must get it through your doctor and the waitlist is usually long however 5 is probably too young to start as they may stilll get over it themselves.

Audrey - posted on 02/13/2010

2

36

0

Does he drink any drinks that contain artifical sweetners. This can be the reason your 5 year old still wets the bed.

Misty - posted on 02/12/2010

8

11

0

first I would say take him to the doctors to see if he has a bladder problem... If not then hold back on the fluids before bed.. also have him use the bathroom before bed and wake him up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom.. I know it sounds crazy but I have three kids and it worked for all of them... I wish you the best...

Melissa - posted on 02/12/2010

8

21

0

my 5 year old daughter still wets the bed and i was told not to worry because some children still do at that age. i stick a nite time pull up on her and restrict her drink intake before bed, i also have a waterproof cover on her mattress. wetting can also be a sign of worry, distress and inscurities so try asking him whats on his mind and reasure him about the wetting and try using reward charts, i am and so far so good. if you show worry or anger about it it WILL make it worse as the pick up on it.If you feel like you can you could always wake him up when you go to bed and sit him on the toilet that can help too

Jaimie - posted on 02/11/2010

19

19

1

Definitely talk to your pediatrician about your 5 year old still wetting the bed. Not just a general practitioner. And I'm sure it is very, very stressful, but know that it is developmental and some children just have to grow out of it. :(

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms