My 6 year old wont sleep through the night

Jamie - posted on 07/27/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My 6 year old daughter wont sleep through the night. She slept through the night as a baby, but the minute we took away her crib and gave her a big girl bed she refuses to sleep through the night, and I'm running short on ideas of what to do. She will go to bed and fall asleep without any problems, but then gets up at least 4 or 5 times a night some times more, and to get her to go back to sleep is a huge thing, she screams and has total fits until she either passes out from exhaustion, or I let her sleep in my room, and if she passes out from exhaustion shes back up before you know it. I've tried the sticker chart with the trip to the store at the end of the week, I've tried a tv in her room, radio, night lights, big stuff animals, time outs, even the dog sleeps with her now and she still wont sleep through the night. for Christmas I'm thinking about getting her a bed tent and seeing if that will work. Does anybody have any ideas on why my 6 year old won't sleep through the night? What can I do to get my 6 year old to sleep through the night?

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Laura - posted on 03/02/2012

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Like you, my son did not sleep at all until he was 12, you want to take out the TV and other things that stimulate, maybe lullaby music, do not put her to bed until she is very tired, make sure she has plenty to eat at tea time, make sure before she goes to bed let her empty her bladder.

Also check with her teacher about her learning at school, I'm just saying as this used to worry my son and that's why he didn't sleep.

In the end I gave in, he slept with us and on the settee, we did anything to make him sleep, we were even prescribed Melatonin which is a natural sleeping remedy, it never worked for him.

Now he is almost 16, and from the age of 12 wouldn't dream of sleeping anywhere but in his own bed and on Weekends I cant get him out, lol

Debra - posted on 07/28/2009

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be firm with her tell her she isnt a baby any more and that this is her room now and that she cant sleep in your room or your bed their will be tantrums and so forth , it took us at at least 6to 12 months to get are eldest to do it, he is 11 now and was 6 when we told him now he wants his oun room with out his brothers. the other 2 boys we didnt have this problem , i'm still working on the youngest and hes 2.

Keri - posted on 07/28/2009

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Have you talked to her doctor at all about trying a very mild sleep aid (Benedryl) to help her establish a healthier sleep pattern. Not something for her to stay on long term just something to get her in the routine of sleeping through the night. I also agree maybe a little "quiet" time in the afternoon as well. Being overtired can lead to sleeping problems as well. If she is having frequent seizure activity that will make her very tired as well.

Brandy - posted on 07/27/2009

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Sounds likeshe's a night owll. I'm the same way and so is my daughter. She's probably a daydreamer and her mind gets busy and she can't sleep. I'm over 30 and I still get up at night and can't go back to sleep.

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Valerie - posted on 10/10/2013

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My daughter used to have a really hard time having a relaxing sleep. We tried these guided imagry cd's that were recommended to us. They are stories that she listens to and imagines herself in and helps her relax. She loved them and still asks to hear them sometimes years later. You might also want to check her medications if she's on any. It turns out one of my daughter's problems was the Singulair she was on. Nightmares was a side effect. You can also try rewarding her for staying in her bed through the night or something. Maybe a sticker chart with a prize at the end? Good luck!

CD's were called "Indigo Dreams" and "The Swan and the Mermaid," you can find them on Amazon.

Lisa - posted on 10/23/2012

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thanks meg for your post.. my daughter is 6 and she is my only one and she complains of being too frightened in the night and that she sees shadows..

i have recently stopped her from coming into my bed at night.. because i don't sleep well when she lies on top of me or right up next to me..

i too have memories of being frightened as a kid and don't feel to reprimand her for it.. (even tho sadly last night i yelled and lost my temper)

i had a sibling that helped me to feel secure in my bedroom, where as cocoa doesn't.



help... i too have tried everything.

i am currently sitting in her room every night at random times when she wakes up for an hour sometimes waiting for her to fall asleep..

Meg - posted on 04/18/2012

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Is she having nightmares? I remember waking up at night, being afraid, but my father would spank me if I woke him and my mom up, so I'd just lay there, crying by myself. I was afraid of dark places for a lot of my life and when I finally moved out and got my own place, I actually got myself an angel nightlight. I was never able to tell my parents exactly what I was afraid of, which I think was part of their being impatient with me, but it was definite fear. Ask her doctor if her medication might trigger night terrors or nightmares and rule that out first. The other thing that came to me is, if this behavior started after she was moved out of her crib - did she fall out of bed? Maybe a detachable guard rail (at least for awhile) would make her feel more secure.

Sheena - posted on 08/06/2009

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i have the same problem, my daughter use to sleep through the night and once her youngest sister came she wakes up all night long wanting her daddy or mommy to lay with her. we have tried alot and recently, we found that we gave her a nice snack right before bed, nothing heavy, we make sure we take her to bed and sit with her for a few minutes, read her a book if she wants and then walk away.. she still wakes up at night here and there but has been able to put herself back to sleep with a toy she wants to lay with. i dont know if that will help but it worked for us, also, if its something thats bothering her, thats why she cant sleep maybe a nice talk to see whats going on would help, well good luck!!!

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I can not think of anything else to try. Just keep in mind that just because you don't look at it like a reward, she may. I still can't help but wonder if 10-11 hours of sleep a night isn't too much. I know that being tired is a trigger for her, but possibly let her take a short nap in the afternoon, but keep her up a bit later in the evening.

Jamie - posted on 07/27/2009

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she goes to bed at 9 right now, and normally wakes up around 7 in the morning, when there's school she has to get at 6 so she goes to bed at 8, she has a seizure disorder, and a huge trigger of hers is being over tired, which happens often because off her sleeping habits. I wont let her nap during the day allthough most times she wants too becuse shes allways tired. most of the things I've tried the doctors told me to do, to make her feel either encouraged to do it like the sticker chart, or to make her feel like someone is there, like the tv, radio, and the big stuff animals. i tried punishments too. i've had several talks with her about her sleeping, and she know the reasons that shes allowed to wake me up, and she just doesn't seem to listen, its been about 5 years since she slept through the night now. and i've been thinking about the crib and how she stopped sleeping once we took her out of it and thought that it might be the secure feeling, that's why i'm thinking about getting her a bed tent for Christmas, were also planning on redo my kids rooms for Christmas so it would go with that and maybe help her feel secure. that way it wont seem like a reward for not sleeping and just be part of Christmas that might help mommy get a decent night of sleep. we have also tried the book thing, reading books, looking at books. i don't think we've done any of this to try to reward her but just to get her to sleep.

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Just a few thoughts that come to my mind on why your 6 year old won't sleep through the night and possible ideas to help!



First, what time does she go to bed. Possibly she is not tired enough to sleep.



Second, sounds like she is being rewarded by this behavior. The things you mention you have tried can be looked at by a child as a reward. Giving her new animals, a radio, tv, dog, bed tent....



Try keeping some of her books by her bed. Tell her that before she wakes you up she is to read those books. If she doesn't "need" you, she can put herself back to bed like the "big kids" do. My daughter went thru that for a bit and by extending her bedtime a little and explaining to her what she can do while she is awake and what would be the proper reason to wake me, she started sleeping on her own. It took a few reminders. When she woke me, I just asked her if she had done what I asked her and when she said no, I sent her back to her room to do so and told her that when she did that, she could come get me.

Jamie - posted on 07/27/2009

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she goes to bed at 9 right now, and normally wakes up around 7 in the morning, when there's school she has to get at 6 so she goes to bed at 8, she has a seizure disorder, and a huge trigger of hers is being over tired, which happens often because off her sleeping habits. I wont let her nap during the day allthough most times she wants too becuse shes allways tired. most of the things I've tried the doctors told me to do, to make her feel either encouraged to do it like the sticker chart, or to make her feel like someone is there, like the tv, radio, and the big stuff animals. i tried punishments too. i've had several talks with her about her sleeping, and she know the reasons that shes allowed to wake me up, and she just doesn't seem to listen, its been about 5 years since she slept through the night now. and i've been thinking about the crib and how she stopped sleeping once we took her out of it and thought that it might be the secure feeling, that's why i'm thinking about getting her a bed tent for Christmas, were also planning on redo my kids rooms for Christmas so it would go with that and maybe help her feel secure. that way it wont seem like a reward for not sleeping and just be part of Christmas that might help mommy get a decent night of sleep. we have also tried the book thing, reading books, looking at books. i don't think we've done any of this to try to reward her but just to get her to sleep.

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Just a few thoughts that come to my mind on why your 6 year old won't sleep through the night and possible ideas to help!



First, what time does she go to bed. Possibly she is not tired enough to sleep.



Second, sounds like she is being rewarded by this behavior. The things you mention you have tried can be looked at by a child as a reward. Giving her new animals, a radio, tv, dog, bed tent....



Try keeping some of her books by her bed. Tell her that before she wakes you up she is to read those books. If she doesn't "need" you, she can put herself back to bed like the "big kids" do. My daughter went thru that for a bit and by extending her bedtime a little and explaining to her what she can do while she is awake and what would be the proper reason to wake me, she started sleeping on her own. It took a few reminders. When she woke me, I just asked her if she had done what I asked her and when she said no, I sent her back to her room to do so and told her that when she did that, she could come get me.

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