my 6 year old has started 1st grade now has to return to kindergarten tomorrow. how do i tell him

Holly - posted on 09/27/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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After 3 weeks of being in 1st grade the teacher called on friday and said hes having a really hard time and needs to go back to kindergarten on Monday.

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Monica - posted on 09/30/2009

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I can honestly tell you that the first 2 weeks of school my sons teacher had something to complain about every day, not listening , not paying attention, thinks he may have a learning disability etc, well maybe he does process things a little bit slower then kid A and kids B but it has now been about 10 weeks of school and he is adjusting great! She says he is really starting to bloom now so see what I mean they need time to adjust to first grade lets face it school is nothing like it was when we were little and I am sorry but the quality of teachers has gone way done in my opinion..... lets hope the next generation of teachers go back to the basics where the kids come first.

Nina - posted on 09/28/2009

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with all the assistance that they have in schools now (pullout reading and math programs) why are they making that decision. And why didn't they consult with you first(or at least with such little notice..I would question this and then question why they won't offer assistance first. This seems like too radical of a choice. There should be other options.

Michelle - posted on 09/27/2009

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My first question is how can they put your child back a grade without first having a parents meeting? The second question and probably most important do you feel he needs to be put back?

I would be in the principals office first thing tomorrow morning wanting to know where they get off putting him back a grade without first consulting me. I have a son who has learning disabilities and they can not do anything with him (switching classes, changing his IEP, etc) without first getting my permission. As far as I know, this is true throughout the country.

Fight for want you feel is the best thing for your son.

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Try to work something out with the teacher that so that you can tell him that he is going to be her helper or assisstant. I do this with student who need to return to me for a second year. Normally those students know their way around the school and are a bit more able to do helpful things for their teacher.

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sometimes we take things that have happened to our children to heart i can see why your upset but somewhere theres a reason you just don't know it yet xxx

Jennifer - posted on 09/27/2009

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I would have a meeting with the teacher and counslers at the school before he is moved and then do not make a big deel about it just tell him that the class rooms have to many kids in them and that he is moving to a different class room and gunna have a new teacher and he is special and the smarter kids are moving around he is gunna like his new teacher if this helps you I can not believe that they are doing this to a child at any age.He must of been smart anough to move to the next grade dew to his grades and test scores I would go to the school and demand a meeting before he is moved My son went threw this in 4th grade and the teacher did not want to deal with him and wanted to put him on adhd meds cause she had to say his name alot she did retire after the yr but it was not him it was the old lazy teacher that he did not like and my son just wanted to hand his paper in with out mistakes so he took longer getting it done he was not gunna hand it in if he new it was wrong so he took longer to doing it he got A's and he had melt downs when he got anything less so there could be other reasons why this had acured and I would look into it before I would let this teacher move him....Good luck

Thomasine - posted on 09/27/2009

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I would fight with the board of education on that. If your child is having a hard time then they need to look at the situation and get him more help. In life if he has a hard time will he always be going backwards that is not fair to your child, get him extra help there are alot of programs for kids in the schools, maybe change his school,Kindegarden n first grade is not much of a difference in school work how hard could it be, please help your child n fight for your child don;t always settle to what people say. Good Luck!!

Toni - posted on 09/27/2009

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My daughter did the same exact thing. We just didn't make an issue out of it. Told her she was switching rooms and she never even noticed.

Ruth - posted on 09/27/2009

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I wouldn't pan him off as having ADD or ADHD yet.. I honestly would give that time... Don't let the school press that issue with you either.. Give him some time to grow into his skin before making rash decisions like that... Although if you think it's a problem have a shrink look at him they have kid counslers every where..

Holly - posted on 09/27/2009

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thank you so much. its hard enough to do this all by myself. i didnt have this problem with my oldest. i seem to think he may have add or adhd but nobody will help with this either. but i appreciate all your help and glad there is something out there to help us single moms. thank you

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A lot of kids have a hard time leaving kindergarden, but that does not mean he has to go back to kindergarden, if there is no other reason. My youngest eyed his kindergarden for weeks and would of rather returned there. Adjustments take time and 3 weeks is a bit short to determine that. Break it to him gently and I wish you lots of luck.

Monica - posted on 09/27/2009

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I was told by a teacher last year that same thing about my son, and I did put him back to K again and regret that I did that every day. He is now going to be 7 in Nov. and in first grade and doing well but the first month of school the teacher had complaints every day, he doesnt want to finish his work, he is day dreaming etc. He is bored he tell us and that is ok , I tell the teacher what he needs to finish send home and I will have him do as homework. Think very hard before you do this ... does he really need to go back or can you just work at home with him a little bit each night. It is annoying that teachers just give up without trying to help the kids and I know of what I am saying, good luck and which ever way you go let your son know that he is smart and will love his class.

April - posted on 09/27/2009

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Do your very best not to make him feel like he's being rejected. I would first ask him if he liked Kindergaten and if he missed it. If he says yes then its just that easy and you can go with the flow by telling him he gets to go back and have more fun...If he says no then maybe you can say that the rules have changed and that there are a few more things you have to learn in Kindergarten before its time to move up to First Grade. Telling the truth is always a good idea but spinning so that a child's self esteem is not damaged is a better idea. Hope I could help

Ruth - posted on 09/27/2009

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Just sit him down and ask him how he feels about it... Then explain to him that everyone learns at a different pace... Then reassure him in his studies and let him know if he ever needs help he can ask you or his teachers... To not be afraid to ask for help everyone needs help sometimes...

Brodie - posted on 09/27/2009

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I'm Sure i'm too late with this, but he may not be fazed by it at all. My son had to switch from a grade 1 to a sk/ gr 1 split and he barely noticed. my nephew had to switch classrooms completely and he was excited for the challenge. my son is 6 and my nephew is 5 so hopefully your son will go with the flow. Just make sure that when you do tell him it's still in a postive view, so then he's excited!!

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