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My 6yr old son is completely out of control...I need HELP!

Marisabel - posted on 09/18/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I'm in DESPERATE need of HELP! my soon to be 6yr old son is completely out of control....& getting worse and worse everyday. I feel like I've tried everything time-outs, lost of privileges, spanking, behavior charts, counseling... everything and nothing seems to work with him. He refuses to listen to me or his step-dad. If he doesn't get his way he literally cries and screams for hours he kicks, punches and yells to me. Just the other day he got upset because i wouldn't let him have cereal at 4pm, so he started yelling at me "I hate you", "your a bad mom", "I don't love you anymore", then he opened the front door and stormed away yelling like crazy ....all those words just tore me apart, i don't know what else to do with him.I'm afraid that one day someone is going to think that i'm physically abusing him or mistreating him, especially because we live in an apartment complex. I'm afraid he's going to go the wrong direction as he gets older, I feel like this is emotionally overwhelming me and my husband. I feel stressed, depressed, anxious, and very tense and nervous at times. I don't want for my 2 younger boys (3 yrs & 17 months) to follow his tantrums and behavior, how can I make this stressful situation better? How can I help my 6yr old son?

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Ellen - posted on 09/20/2012

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You might want to try The Boys Town National Hotline (800.448.3000). They can give advice and resources. I personally have found that focusing on building up my son's self-esteem by focusing on playtime together, giving him lots of choices, and praising good behavior has worked tons better for getting the behavior I want then time-outs, loss of privileges, etc (though we still use them, just a lot less than before). You can watch a video of the type of play that works best (parent child interaction therapy) at http://www.impactparenting.com/impact-pa... You basically just follow their lead, do not give directions or ask questions, act like a sports announcer in stating what they are doing, all with an upbeat attitude. It builds the relationship, builds self-confidence, reduces power struggles.

Psyche - posted on 09/18/2012

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I'm sorry this is happening!! Thinking back to when this started, was there a triggering event? What was going on? Have you considered a child psychologist?

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