my 7 year old daughter wants to get a cell phone what do you guys think

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Janine - posted on 09/15/2009

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Quoting Nicole:

First of all..a 7yr old doesnt need a cell phone..who is she going to be calling..second of all what kind of parent are you to even consider giving her one...Just say NO and move on...



I find this inappropriate for you to say "what kind of parent are you to even consider it".  We dont know the circumstance and maybe it is for the best that she had one, especially if she was away from her mother for periods of time.  In that circumstance, she would be a smart mother to get her child one as she would then always be aware that her child was safe and could contact her if and when needed.  This woman asked for advice, not to be judged!

Lindsay - posted on 09/14/2009

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I had just got my daughter a phone on her birthday. She just turned 7. We got her a prepaid one with unlimited everything. But she loves it. We only program certain numbers, but she uses it all the time. I feel much safer knowing she has one. She always has it with her. That way if she needs something she has all of the important numbers she needs. But it is up to you.

Cheryl - posted on 09/23/2010

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I can't see why a child of 7 would need a cell phone. All my three children got their phone at 14. We are in the country so there was no need to get one sooner . however I can see that kids that are in the city or catch buses on there own would need them sooner. 7 year oild would not need a phone as I would not have though they would be on their own. If they just want it to chat .....you will be paying so think hard before you GIVE IN!

Jen - posted on 12/27/2013

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I'm not with my 7 yr old daughter all the time coz i work 12 hours a day, her having a phone makes me feel more safer knowing i can always call and check on her

Megan - posted on 09/24/2009

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My 16 year old STILL does not have one (and believe me - I'm almost ready to break down for my OWN convenience!) but it has now become a status symbol to NOT have one. I sat at a soccer game with a group of kids last night - 90% of them spent time on the phone or trying to fight over a phone or take pictures of a phone. It was ridiculous. They should have been watching the game and cheering for their classmates who were out there playing instead of playing with their phones.

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Britny - posted on 08/13/2014

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My Husband and I are trying to find the best cell phone my 6 year old step daughter... i want to be able to set up for only certain numbers to call and block all Internet and texting. Any suggestions?

Chet - posted on 08/01/2014

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I can't imagine ever giving a cell phone to a 7 year old. The potential for it to cause problems is too great and the potential for it to be helpful is way too low.

In this day and age, anybody who would snatch a kid would immediately check them for a phone. I might consider one of the GPS tracking devices under certain circumstances - like if I had a disabled child who was prone to bolting and wandering - but not a phone.

What is a lot more likely than child snatching is that a mobile phone will make a child a target for theft, or will become a huge source of distraction. Phones also get lost, damaged or broken. It's a responsibility I wouldn't give to a kid in grade 1 or 2.

And the thing is, mobile phone ownership is a road you start down. The basic phone is the gateway phone! It's leads to other more expensive phones. Cell phone companies don't sell kiddie phones and family plans under the guise of safety because they really believe in safety. The safety angle is a marketing ploy. They know that the sooner you have a phone the sooner you're hooked as a cell phone customer, and that the more phones a family has the more they ultimately use phones and spend money on phones.

Cassandra - posted on 08/01/2014

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I never thought I'd consider getting a young child a cell phone either until someone tried to kidnap my son. He's 7 and I'm planning to get him a basic prepaid phone with GPS that he can carry around when he's away from me. I'm not a fan of technology for young kids on the whole, but I'll feel better knowing he can reach me and I can find him if something comes up. Don't pass judgement on other moms without knowing what their situation is.

America - posted on 06/15/2014

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I gave my daughter a samsung during the summer before she went into middle school, so around age 11. I had many reasons to do this, since my daughter enjoys participating in school around the clock, and is usually away from home until six. I gave it to her the summer before MS because I wanted to see how she would handle the phone, and it was in perfect condition when school started. I think the earliest age for you to get your child a phone is probably eleven, and even that age, for some, is too young. Seven is a bit too young, as their minds are still developing, and using a cellphone from that early can easily damage their brains. But he/she is your child, and it depends on the situation, so it is your call. I also have two sons, one is 5 the other is 9, they have complained about wanting a phone, but I agreed to give them a samsung when they turn eleven, like they're sister. I suggest that if your son/daughter takes good care of their phone for a year or so of owning it, upgrade it to a better, more popular brand, because these days with kids what type of phone you have or if you have a phone at all represent you, and even though it's stupid, I think that to make your child more comfortable socially, get them a beginners phone,.

Sumaia - posted on 01/02/2014

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A 7 yr old girl doesnt need a phone she has to be up to 12-13 and more she doesnt need one and if she needs one she is going to break it and need a other phone and i already got my phone when i was 14 and when i was like 5 i wanted a phone and then i said to my mind '' I dont need a phone i have to be 14 and i am crazy what i did'' YOU DONT NEED A PHONE!!!!!!!!!!! and that is not fair everyone got their phone from 14 and you are 7 yr old and have a phone thats not fair you need a phone when you are 14 yr old how can this happen??

Valerie - posted on 12/30/2013

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No way!!! Why start them soo young?? They are not teens, they are not adults.. they need to be CHILDREN.. and a 7 year old should not be alone taking care of themselves.. and if you work and your child is in an after school program or something, they have a phone should you need to get a hold of them, or if there is something that they really need to get a hold of you for.. just my opinion but I think this is all CRAZY that everyone is getting their young children cell phones!!!!

Usagi - posted on 12/12/2013

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My 7yr old has a cellphone. I'm a single parent and I feel much safer knowing he has one. He always has it with him, just in case of an emergency. In this day and age, you never know what can happen and to me, it's a form of cutting out the "middle man". I don't have to call his teacher, or school, or after school to contact him, I can just call him. ☺ You don't have to get your child a fancy phone, and metro offers $30 or less a month for unlimited talk/text. Which is all your child will really need. Good luck!

Daff - posted on 06/20/2013

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I just recently got my son his celfone. He's turning 8 next month we recently moved to a different carrier that is why he got the iphone for free. But I have to pay 30 per month for his line but that's unlimited on everything plus 10$ for the phone insurance. He is a very good and well behaved kid but I was thinking I should have gotten him a prepaid for the meantime

Angela - posted on 05/02/2013

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I think 7 is too young. But every child/family/ situation is different and only you know your child. When my children are old enough to have a phone I will be sure to also make it a financial learning experience as they would have a pre-paid phone pre-paid by their own funds. So if they cannot afford a phone, beacuse they are too young to work for $ or too young to handle then what better reason to say NO. If you cant pay you dont go,,,

Osko - posted on 05/02/2013

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Thank you for the lovley phone! my Daughter loved the phone and wants to thank you sooooooooooooooooooo much. soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo a bigggggggggggggggggg thank you.

Allanique - posted on 10/11/2012

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i want a blackberry or anyphone i love it. it will be so hot to get a blackberry i want one.

Hannah_Smith20 - posted on 03/14/2011

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Giving a cell phone to a seven-year-old is not the strangest idea in this modern age. But it has to be a bit older than that, and you should know your child's character as to their maturity in handling such responsibilities maybe they will just get it lost or damaged. My daughter got her first cell phone when she was 10 years old since I can't be with her all the time. It's important for our kids to be able to call whenever and wherever they are, and that in case of emergency a cell phone makes a huge difference. She is now 12 years old and we upgraded and installed her phone to a safety protection service that provides immediate help during emergency. By just pressing the panic button she can able to ask help from family, friends and trusted person and from 911 during dangerous situations. To learn more about this service check this out http://safekidzone.com/

Carmen - posted on 03/29/2010

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i bought my eldest 2 one each for xmas,age 7 and 8 yrs, i had it put on friends and family so they had no credit but they could call me ,dad ,gran etc. after a few days i heard one beepin ,it was a message sayin that if any more calls were made to this no. it would be turned off, the 7 yr old had called the emergency services 10times with her friends,i took it off her and its been in the box ever since,i will give it her back next year but i think 7 is to young and they dont really need to call anyone and can always use yours if its for friends,i bought her an mp3 player in the end much safer . hope this helps if u do get one just check the numbers every day so u know who their contacting .

Tanya - posted on 03/28/2010

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seriously??? a 7yr old. u got to be crazy to give a 7yr old child a cell phone! I myself didnt get one untill i reached the age of 17 and that was only because i was 8mths pregnant and i needed the phone just incase i was somewhere and i went into labour and had to call somebody! do what u think is right, but if it was my 7yr old, which i have a son who is 7, i wouldnt even give it a thought.

Susan - posted on 03/28/2010

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No...there are actual tests that show the dangers of letting children have repeated use of a cell phone. Their brains are not fully developed and the radiation can be very harmful, especially to a young brain. More children these days are winding up with brain tumors linked to the use of a cell phone.

Deanna - posted on 03/26/2010

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I honestly thought there were a few things my daughters knew all too well why they shouldn’t engage in certain activities. I was blown away with what I found on her cell phone.



I have 2 girls. 13 and 15. It's a bit scary as a single mother with teens. Didn’t realize what it would be like until the adolescent stage was staring me straight in the face.



Like most mothers, I provide my daughters with a cell phone so I can get a hold of them. So I can be sure they are safe. Unfortunately, today's cell phone is yesterday’s computer and worst.



DISTRACTIVE DRIVING - SEXTING - PEDOPHILES - CYBER-BULLIES - and on and on.....



Our mothers could overhear our conversations. They could pick up on what is going on because could actually hear us talking. Now they can be on the phone at 4 am without us even knowing it.



So less than month ago I started researching on ways to take back a little control when it came to my children's cell phones. After a week of research, I finally found what would lead to some 'peace of mind'.



Technology which keeps my girls safe... Stops distracted driving. ALERTS me instantly when there is Sexting, Pedophiles, Cyber-Bullies, Suicide, Drug or Gun talk. Tells me if they are in a speeding vehicle. Warns me if they enter an unsafe zone.



I finally feel as a parent I have some control over their ‘internet’ social life and able to safeguard my girls by being forewarned.... rather than being notified after it’s too late.



But what do I do when I am forewarned and it involves someone else’s children. Personally, it’s a no brainer of course. I feel I am obligated to inform their parents. And I will.



But what was once about protecting my children is not also about protecting other children as well. I HAVE A CAUSE. And it is to Save Lives.



Here is what I found. Now I am an advocate to keep children safe. http://www.mywebsafety.com/deetheis

Katie - posted on 09/16/2009

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IS SHE AWAY FROM YOU OFTEN? YOU COULD GET HER THE FIREFLY...IT HAS A MOMMY AND DADDY BUTTON AND EXPLAIN TO HER THAT IT SHOULD BE FOR EMERGENCIES!

Cassandra - posted on 09/15/2009

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We got our son a firefly when he turned 5. He can only call the 20 numbers we pre-programmed. Plus, there is a "mom" button and a "dad" button, very cute. The minutes are pay as you go so you can't go over :)

Janine - posted on 09/15/2009

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No no and no! I waited until my children were a little older to get their first one. 10 to be exact. I bought them a cheapy one to begin with and told them they had 1 year to show they were responsible enough to own a phone to begin with then they could up-grade to something a little more expensive only once they had proven themselves. I would buy the first round of credit for their phones - only put them on a prepaid plan so to know exactly how much they could spend and then it would be a matter of them having to save up pocket money to buy there own credit being around $30 per month if they wanted to continue it's usage. I think personally 7 is too young, they need a little more maturity and to realize consiquences of being responsible. At 7 it is merely something they would want to show off - same with the 10 year olds true enough, but they also understand the rules set in place. Unless your child goes out alot without you near - i really wouldnt bother!

Michelle - posted on 09/15/2009

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I think 13 is a good age for cell phones because at that age they go to friends and they stay home alone. I also think that they should have to pay for their phones or at least earn them by doing chores or babysitting.

Melissa - posted on 09/15/2009

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I'm with Tracey also. There are certain circumstance that may warrant a cell phone; like maybe an absent father or being away from the house constantly? If not, I'd say no way - or go with the Firefly option for emergencies. My own daughter won't be able to get her own real phone until she can pay for it herself. It's my opinion (mine only, take it or leave it) that children are overindulged these days and have no concept of responsibility or privilege. They have a sense of entitlement, like because mommy has one, she should be able to as well. Having cell phones (and other such privileges) at such an early age contributes to this. But, as her mother, you're the only one who can make that choice. Good Luck!

Staciemarie - posted on 09/15/2009

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This is a very personal decision. My daughter is 8 1/2 yrs old.. I bought her a cell phone in August. I didn't buy it because she asked me to, cause she didn't . I bought it because my daughter has type 1 diabetes. She is in cheerleading 5 days and week (sometimes more), girl scouts, she also has an after school program for kids to enhance their education on a subject of their choice. I need to know if my daughter's sugar is seriously low or high that she can reach anyone at a moments notice. If she were to collapse someone would open her bag to find her identity and see the phone and call her Emergency numbers. I did hear a lot of *poop* from people about this UNTIL they heard my reasons. But in my opinion, everyones reasons are their own and if it justifies the need for you, then that is the only thing you need to know. I even had a few Mom's who thougt I was crazy for buying my daughter a phone , since buy their 8 yr olds phones... Just for the added security of being able to reach each other. =) Hope this helps!

Gie - posted on 09/15/2009

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my daughter have to prove to us that she is responsible enough to have a cellphone. not until she went to middle school when we gave it to her,and she knows that we can get it anytime when she misbehaves. so far,it has been more of an advantage, i'm more at peace when she's not with us knowing that she can call us anytime when she needs to...

Melissa - posted on 09/14/2009

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I don't think a 7 year old needs a cell phone, unless she is away from you and may need to use it, and if that is the case, definetely pre-pay is the way to go and put some sort of block on it-who knows who she'll find on the other end if she is just playing or if someone calls her accidentally. There are some weirdo's out there.

Sara - posted on 09/11/2009

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I got my 15 yr old step daughter a cell phone... and within a week of having it she ran the bill up over $150.00... she let her older sister use it while she was visiting them and the older sister ran it up texting everyone... I returned it to the store and got out of my contract luckly without paying a penalty because they told me it had service down in SEMO and the closet tower was Cape and it didnt work and that the main reason i got them.... I am in SEMO a lot.

Sara - posted on 09/11/2009

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I got my 15 yr old step daughter a cell phone... and within a week of having it she ran the bill up over $150.00... she let her older sister use it while she was visiting them and the older sister ran it up texting everyone... I returned it to the store and got out of my contract luckly without paying a penalty because they told me it had service down in SEMO and the closet tower was Cape and it didnt work and that the main reason i got them.... I am in SEMO a lot.

Nicole - posted on 09/11/2009

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First of all..a 7yr old doesnt need a cell phone..who is she going to be calling..second of all what kind of parent are you to even consider giving her one...Just say NO and move on...

Diedra - posted on 09/11/2009

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I say it is up to you and your own daughter's maturity level, and activities. My 10 year old has one, as well as does her 15 year old sister. They are both nice phones, bought as b-day and Christmas gifts. They have camera, video, txt, also mp3 built in, all the bells and whistles, but are also PRE-PAID. We do $1.00 per day that covers mobile to mobile, txt and night and weekend time, all unlimited. I go the first of each month and put $31.00 on each phone and it has to last them till the beginning of the next month. If they download ringtones or anything else that uses their time or runs their time out then they have to wait and be without service till it comes time to put more money on their account. I also make them earn a portion of that money by doing chores around the house, and maintaining their grades. If the grades go down, the phone gets taken till they pull the grade up. My kids behavior has actually improved since they got the phones, now that they have them they do not want to loose the priveledge for any reason so they usually walk the line, so to speak.

I also feel better knowing they can call me at any time in an emergency...so there are benefits to them having a phone. I would get it for her, but at her age not spend more than $50.00 for a nice little pre-paid phone with a camera so she can take pics of her friends, and txt also..Sit down with her and explain the responsability that comes with the priveledge of the phone, and lay down some rules and guidelines for her to follow or the phone will be taken. Keep the charger in a common area, or your bedroom so that when she goes to bed at night the phone is not with her lay in bed and txt till the wee hours. Also I would reccommend that you check her txts to and from friends, "randomly". You'd be surprised what little ones can come up with when they think no one is looking or listening. Just a way to keep intouch with her and keep it on the DL...Good Luck!!!

Shelly - posted on 09/11/2009

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Every child is different. I would make two columns on a piece of paper and write wants and needs. If there are valid reasons why you think your child should be carrying a phone (safety, etc) then I would go with a plan that only allows them to call numbers that you preset into the phone. If it is just a want, you probably should hold off until the child is old enough to show responsibility to earn the priviledge (working to pay their bill or volunteering consistently).

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I think cell phones are fabulous for kids - my 9-year-old has had one for about a year. She uses it to make "radio shows" by using the recording function - it keeps her occupied creatively for hours. She takes photos with it and videos - it is really a creative toy. Also, it allows her more freedom 'cos I can let her out of the house and I know I can always contact her and she can always contact me. My biggest problem is getting her to keep it charged! Plus she is learning how to budget because I only let her have £5 every two months on it.

Amber - posted on 09/10/2009

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My son got one from Grandpa last Christmas.I only let him use it when we go out of town or he goes to a friends house so I can get a hold of him.Also it is a minute phone and those get spendy if they use it too much,which Grandpa found out..He was using too much at one point,now he uses it when he is supposed to use it..

Tara - posted on 09/10/2009

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I was a parent who thought the idea of my 8 year old having a cell phone was insane then came the day that her former daycare didn't pick her up from school. I think if your little one can handle the responsibility for one then yes (they have free cheap ones when you add a line normally). I have only certain numbers programmed into her phone so those are the only ones she may call. In an odd way it is also helping her with her spelling and her reading too (we have unlimited text) and what neither my teenage son or my daughter know is I have a family locator on the phones so I can go online at any time and see where there are

Andrea - posted on 09/10/2009

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Well I guess I am kinda like one of the old fashion type moms to a point. I have 3 kids at home a almost 17 yr old boy a 15 yr old girl and a 13 yr old boy I told mine they would not get one til they started dating or started driving (not that they will be using it while driving but for emergency only) and then it would be a pre paid and I would only put so many mins on it a month and if they wanted more they would have to put them on themselves. Well my daughter got one from a friend for christmas but it has no mins and I will not put mins on it yet and then she decided with birthday money to buy a new one and give her older brother the one she had got at christmas. so they have them but they have no mins on them yet. I will not put mins on them and they do not have a job they are not driving yet so I in the clear there. On the other hand there has been a few times I have sent my husbands with them somewhere, My daughter went on a trip this summer with her drama club to chicago I wanted her to have it in case of an emergency. Seven is too young in my mind there is a house phone. I could maybe see getting a prepaid and if she is going on an outing with friends send it in case of an emergency but take it when she gets home and explain to her that it is for emergency use only and if she uses it other then that there will be consequences.

TINA - posted on 09/10/2009

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I think it depends on the situation. Does she NEED the phone to be able to get ahold of you. (After school activities etc.). Or, do you need to get ahold of her at times? If she only WANTS the phone that is different. If you are thinking of getting her one, maybe having her be responsible for the phone (set a date that she may get the phone, christmas when you are 8, an upcoming birthday). Set up chores, for her to be responsible to contribute for the phone.

ANGELA - posted on 09/10/2009

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Been there, done that; she lost it (she was eight). I got her another one, BUT... she only uses it when she goes to someone's house to spend the night.

Christina - posted on 09/10/2009

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Why??? Seriously why does she need a phone?

7 is far too young however I do not know why you are even considering this. You have your reasons. Can she not use your phone at home? We only use cell phones, my hubby and I each have one and I have one at home for when I am out so the sitter can reach me. We have this because my husband is gone most of the time and I am basically a single parent. I want to be reached at anytime regarding my children. If my kids are older and have to out and about without me than I may consider a cell phone. The reason being so we can know where each other is at all times. Not just for social chit chatting. I know you can have prepaid plans that they use only in an emergency. If you are not careful it can get very expensive in a hurry and become a distraction to your child when she should be focused on more important things like school and homework.

Stacy - posted on 09/10/2009

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I do not think it is a good idea. We got our kids one when then started driving for emergencies if their car broke down on their way home from work. Cell phones are a priviledge and they need to earn it by getting a job and help paying for it. They need some type of responsibility. Maybe you could set up chores and they can show that they are a responsible individual.

Jennifer - posted on 09/10/2009

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Quoting Rachael:

I think your daughter is too young for a cell phone. My oldest son was 9 when he was given an old phone of my husbands, but this is purely for use when out with friends so we can get hold of him!!!!


Well, wouldn't that apply to the 7 yr old as well?? My daughter goes to her friends house, and those kids mother doesn't have a phone at all, house or cell. So, with my daughter having her phone, I'm ok with letting her go to her friends house! She checks in every few hours, and if the kids decide they want to go do something in the back yard, like slip n slide, or something, instead of coming all the way back home, she can call and ask! I allow 60 minutes a month for my daughter, and whatever is left over, rolls to the next month! She has NEVER lost it, gotten it wet, etc... My daughter is more responsible then most 10 or 11 yr olds, so, I would say, if you are going to trust your 9 yr old with one, give you 7 yr old the benefit of the doubt!

Dawn - posted on 09/10/2009

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I would say no. Like a previous reply unless she has lots and lots of activities where you dont go with her and she would need to call you yes. If she doesnt I dont think she would need one because who is she really going to call that she cant use yours. My daughter is 8 and she has asked me and I tell her no not until she gets into Junior High.

Faith - posted on 09/10/2009

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i think it would be ok if it's limited minites. my 13 yr old has been wanting one. and all the neiborhood kids around us have one. he's praticly the only one without.

i feel it'd be good for us to contact him if he's at a friends house. or such. but limit his min. we haven't bought him one yet. cause of the fact. he may use his min. just like that . by wasting them. so my guess is limit his/ her min. and if they waste them. they have no responsiblity for a phone. and let them know that.

Tiffany - posted on 09/10/2009

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I plan on getting my daughter one for her 10th b-day. But believe me she wanted one @ around 7 but I felt that was a little to young.But if you do get her one keep it very simply(only calls and nothing else).

Cassidy - posted on 09/10/2009

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I think that is to young. i have come to the decision that my boys will not have one till highshool. kids are growing up to fast now a days. yes a cell phone is good for when they are out but a 7 year old should not be out by his/herself so why would they need a phone. My opinion is let her be a kid have her use her imagination, play outside, play dress up, you know the stuff we did when we were little that kids dont really do that much any more because they are to worried about who is calling and texting them or who just "pinged" them. so in short dont give her a phone have her be a little girl.childhood doesnt last long as it is but nowadays it seems to be even shorter.

Queenee - posted on 09/09/2009

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My daughter was 8 when she got her cell phone, but It was just for emergencies. Try a prepaid that way she is not running up a bill, and you can find ways for her to earn minutes.

Mandy - posted on 09/09/2009

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my children have all had them and took them out and lost them now they have 1 which they have to keep at home so there freinds call there is also the risk of them being robed for the phone when they are out it is some thing you have to think very carefull about

Latoya - posted on 09/09/2009

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i personally think that 7 is way too young for a cell phone! it comes with responsibility and a 7 year old is not in my opinion ready for something such as this. so i say 11 maybe twelve when they can show better judgement !!! but the decision is yours in the end, good luck!!!

Jessica - posted on 09/09/2009

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NO NO NO, until she gets a job that she can be responsable to pay for her own minutes or txt, then will she appreciate it

Rachael - posted on 09/09/2009

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I think your daughter is too young for a cell phone. My oldest son was 9 when he was given an old phone of my husbands, but this is purely for use when out with friends so we can get hold of him!!!!

Leslie - posted on 09/09/2009

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My seven year old who is in second grade and my 9 year old who is in third both have cell phones. It gives them a sense of security as well as me too!

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