My 8 and 9 year old dont act like other 8 and 9 year olds....?

Raven - posted on 02/26/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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When i was their age i could walk to a friends house, make me a snack, and carry a conversation with an adult.. My 2 oldest kids cant do any of this.. You try to talk to them and you get no where.. My 5 year old can start counting at any number and my older 2 have to start at 1 to get to that number. Its like they dont have the mentality of a kid their age.. I can talk to kids in there class and learn about everything they did in that day in minutes... But my kids cant carry a conversation at all. Im not quite sure how to word it.. Does anyone else have this problem?

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Deepti - posted on 03/03/2011

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hi i have a suggestion that i tried with my son... its a game in which a person will be showed a thing and given some time to speak over it... like clock now say anything about it... now its ur turn and ur child will give u one word on which u have to speak
secondly u can pose as teacher and student where mom is a child and the kid becomes a teacher... and he will actally teach u the current lesson of his choice. u will say sorry for ur mistakes and b polite..in short give him a position of authority where ur kid will decide and choose and u will follow... this will increase their confidence, communication skill and revise their concepts as well try it!!

Rachell - posted on 02/28/2011

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Ouch! Sounds like you are right, but it does not solve your problem, professional help is the way to go. Try the school counsellor or your GP for a referral. Good luck!

Rachell - posted on 02/28/2011

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Is it a confidence in their own ability? Maybe they dont feel confident enough to contest a thought!

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Raven - posted on 02/28/2011

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We praise them all the time! We've even talked to the teachers and they say they praise them too. Theres no reason they should doubt thereselves. i just dont understand. The only thing i can think of is all the drama and emotional stress from the 'orignal mother'.. I've had the youngest for as long as he can remember.. But the other two were too old to forget..

Raven - posted on 02/27/2011

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The not talking thing is only part of it.. There good with one or two sentences.. But if you ask them to tell you about something they freeze up. Im not too worried about the not talking its the lack of... common sense? My daughter and son are very very very gullible. Most kids their age know whats right and wrong and the sky is blue and if you do something bad your going to gt in trouble... ect. Its really hard to put in words.. The teachers said its something they should have learned in kindergarden but they didnt. Its not that their shy.. Shyness would be okay. Its like they can do something everyday but then still do it wrong.. They can get in trouble for something know its wrong and then do it again.. If you tell my daughter that the sky is falling she would denie it and then consider it... When most kids would blow it off. Let me think of a better way to explain it...

Rachell - posted on 02/27/2011

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I am not sure what you mean but I know when people would visit us growing up it was polite to greet them, my children now say hello, but would be spoken too and ignore/go shy with people. It was embarrassing. My nephews (on my husbands side) did it until early teens and it drove me nuts, could be the two of you and you say hello and they say nothing and keep walking. I think if you try talking with them and have regular conversations with them it is a start and they can learn that way without the pressure of stangers. Your other options are school counsellors for assistance (if at a good school).

Dina - posted on 02/26/2011

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For the talking to adults, making conversation and making themselves feel like "home" at other peoples houses, they might just be shy, or more timid. Nothing wrong wtih that

There is no such thing as "normal" all kids are different, some outgoing, some shy. They may even be a little self consious about something, maybe they dont like how they say certain words so they avoid it. Best is to work on there confidence at home and talk and even read to you, so they become comfortable to do it with other people.

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