My 9 y.o.daughter does not like taking showers, we are all very clean people, but when it comes to shower time she gets angry and says she does'nt want to. It's probably just a faze, but it is very frustrating.

Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2009

Is it  just showers or does she not like having a bath either? My son does not like a shower but he loves a bath, he does not like it when the water hits his face and plus in a bath you can bring in your toys. good luck

Bobbi - posted on 01/23/2009

It probably is a phase unless she always hated it? I finally had to discuss "feminine hygiene" with my daughter and in as gentle a way as possible explained to her that if other children thought she smelled bad they would make fun of her and that kind of thing follows you through school. I didn't want to be mean but that is the sad truth so I explained why neven if she didn't feel like going through the hassle of a shower it was important. Also there is a great book by American girl called The Care and Keeping of You and it's all about being a girl and taking care of your body etc. We keep it in my room and when she wants to we look at it together and talk about "girl stuff".

Angie - posted on 01/23/2009

I have a thirteen year old daughter and she did go through the same thing around the same time....My son will be 9 in Feb. He is okay with the showers so far...he complains because they interfere with his "time" however he isn't as bad as my daughter was. I think that it is a phase they go through. But they grow out of it when their preteen confidence level starts to boost. Then good luck getting them out once they are in that bathroom.....

Liz - posted on 01/22/2009

I have a nine year old as well whom was exactly the same until about three months ago.It seems as they get closer to 10 they start to take more care of themselves and want to be like the other kids.I use to argue all the time with my daughter about how smelly she'll be and no-one will talk to her but at her own pace she has come to see that nice clean girls are nicer to be around.She is now wanting to have two showers a day which was a big turn around but at her own pace it happened.I really think it just takes time and letting them know that it is important to be clean weather it's a bath or shower.Good luck with it all..liz

Demetria - posted on 01/22/2009

I mean 6year old

Demetria - posted on 01/22/2009

Well I have a year old with the same problem. I purchased one of those removable shower heads for shower time and allowed him to rinse himself after i lathered him up and he liked it. Just make sure you pull the curtain before you let them loose cause everything will be wet. It also helps with hair washing. For bath time i purchased toys and water crayons so he can draw on the shower walls and things. There are also disney character bath stickers at the dollar store that you can put inside the tub for decoration. I basically redid the inside of the bath tub so he can get a playtime feel (ex: a basketball hoop for the tub or shower radio) and enjoy bath time. You can also offer a snack afterward for a reward for being clean. Our snack was sugar-free Popsicle or a vitamin water. The water tastes like juice and doesnt affect the fact that you just brushed the teeth! Hope this helps.

Brandy - posted on 01/22/2009

I also have a 9 y.o. daughter. Have you tried letting her pick-out her own bodywash? Maybe picking her own fun scent will help... Maybe also getting the shampoo & conditioner all-in-one bottle with a fun scent would help too. (and be quicker...) Good Luck!