My daughter is 4 years old, she still doesn't speak clearly like kids her age! Help!

Katrisha Ann - posted on 08/07/2009 ( 40 moms have responded )

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Hi moms out there!

My daughter who is already 4 years old and 5 months still doesnt talk the same way her classmates does. She can communicate her needs and can tell stories of what happened to her in school but some of the words are still not clear. Any suggestions on how I can improve my daughter's speech?

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Srikalyani - posted on 07/10/2013

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My daughter who is already 4 years old and 5 months still doesnt talk the same way her classmates does. She can communicate her needs and can tell stories of what happened to her in school but some of the words are still not clear. Any suggestions on how I can improve my daughter's speech?

Junie - posted on 01/07/2014

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Hi moms!my son 3 going to be 4 years old my son still doesn't speak clearly like the other 3 year old kids.i mean normal he can say what he wants also tell me what is wrong with him. But he can't speak in full sentence.Any suggestions on how can i improve my son's speech?

Jhoi - posted on 01/17/2013

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My son is 4 years old but still not talking i already seen his pediatrician and they say that he was speech delay. He can understand instruction when you ask him. He is communicating thru sign language on which i hardly understand that keep him upset. I also enrolled him with speech therapist but doesnt work and they request him to an OT. What seems the other option that i can do?

Madihaqasim - posted on 06/25/2013

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hi dear
my son is 4 years old he can not speak english because our basic laugh is urdu plz tell me what can i do that he speak english very well and he doesnt speak clear plz give me adivce
i m waiting for your reply
thanks

Lalitha - posted on 07/31/2013

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Hi,
My son is 2 yrs 4 mnths but he is not pointing me and calling me ma. I am very much worried about this. If think about it iam not able to sleep for two or three days continuesly. please suggest me to do something for this.
Thank you

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Ivan - posted on 05/13/2014

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I stumbled into this thread and thought I would provide input from a Dad's perspective. First of all, I have a son who speaks really well for a 7 y/o, and a daughter who used to barely speak at 4 y/o. I had similar concerns as most of the folks who posted here. Second, I learned about the concept of multiple intelligence - the fact that all kids are smart, but in various areas. Kids who are good at speaking are word smart, kids who are good with numbers are number smart, kids who are great in physical activities are body smart...etc. There are 8 types of intelligence. And what i realised is I shouldn't measure my kids in the same mold as the norm - just because my son is good in speaking or that other kids my daughter's age are already good at speaking, does not mean that my daughter is behind. My wife and I decided that she is fine - that she simply is smart in other areas and will take more time to 'catch-up' linguistically. So instead of forcing her to speak-up, we focused on building her confidence in the areas she is already good at (she is body smart). Her confidence there eventually translated into her speaking up more. The point is that she developed on her own timing, not on my, my wife's or any 'specialist's' timing. Children are meant to be nurtured based on who they are supposed to be, not fixed based on how the society norm wants them to be. I wrote about the full story here. Sorry if I am sharing a link to personal blog, I was told by friends that my post made other parents feel more comfortable - so sharing it here in case it helps anyone. http://ivanlanuza.blogspot.com/2014/04/m...

Jessica - posted on 11/16/2013

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My son is also 2 years and 4 months but I'm having the problem. I'm very much worried about this. Please help me..!!!
Thank you,

Rehan - posted on 04/09/2013

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hi
my name is Rehan, In my office one guy working with me. some of the words are still not clearly so please kindly suggestions on how he can improve......waiting your response

Bessie - posted on 02/07/2013

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My grandson turned 4 in December and his speech is not clear at all either. He has been in speech therapy for awhile now, and still struggles. He did have to have tubes in his ears for two years but all his hearing test per and post op were fine. Someone just suggested to me today that I ask his doctor about getting a CT Scan done of his brain.

Kristi - posted on 01/13/2013

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Hi, wondering if you've talked to a developmental pediatrician yet. Or even just your daughter's regular pediatrician. They can give you a referral to get into the school system and for a speech therapist. My son is 3 1/2 and just started a program at school and I've already seen huge improvements. They use ABA therapy to get make him ask for what he wants. It seems really effective. I blog about it on http://www.findingninee.com if you want more information. Feel free to contact me directly, too!

Sophia - posted on 01/09/2013

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has hard as it is... it will get better.... dont look at what other children are doing... it will kill you inside.... just look at where she was and where she is right now... as my husband say our son is who he is..... at 6 he still gets speech in school. Can I tell you does well in all area of school... also still gets PT / OT. I thank god... he is no where .. where he was.... and thats how I see our world. he may never play football but he will help keep the boys on the team by helping them with their school work.....

Annalisa - posted on 11/30/2012

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Hi im a mother of a 2 year old son who was first not talking at all and has a speech therepist that comes to see him once aweek and he can say some words cleary sometimes and you still can understand what he says so we taught him sign language and he does good with that he cant even say sentance's yet and when im talking and holding him he will turn my head so im looking at him and he will look at my lips. Also when i turn music on up to 50 on vol he will dance to the base but when its turned down he dont hear it i had a school group do a hearing test with him 4 different sounds in each ear and it said RRRR in both ears what could be wrong with my son

Tiffaney - posted on 11/26/2012

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I had the same problem with my son when he was same age I put him in speach thearpy and also found out he had fluid in his ears. It was not painful and his peditrecian could not see it. But the specialist did they. Put tubes in his ears and his hearing came back.he is now 11 and no lonGer needs speech therapy .hope this helps you

Cindy - posted on 10/26/2012

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Thank you for Sharing this story this makes me feel a whole lot better, My son is on par with the kids his hearing is very good had that tested, its just his speech is not clear. here and there he will say a sentence i cannot understand. but I do see he tries to say things to me slowly. and most of the time its soo clear. so he is getting better. But there are days I just want to cry has I think I am to blame. the last thing I wanna know that there is something wrong with my child, I cant handle it, Im feeling a little bit emotionally now.

Cindy - posted on 10/26/2012

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My son does not speak clearly he does communicate what he needs to say but certain words is not too clear. Please help.

Kristi - posted on 10/25/2012

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Hi,

Have you had an evaluation? My son has been diagnosed with a speech and language delay, but not autism. He gets speech therapy and ABA training to build more words. It's really working. I'd ask for a referral from your doctor to see a developmental pediatrician. They can refer to you all sorts of free speech therapy and other resources. I blog about this myself on http://www.findingninee.com if you want to see what's been working for us.

Best of luck to you. It can be so worrying and frustrating!

Threenorns - posted on 10/23/2012

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your post is vague on details.



how do you mean, "words are not clear". there's quite a few sounds a normal child her age cannot make (doesn't mean NONE of them can, just means if they can't, it's no big deal).



my oldest spoke early and clear as a bell.



my second two were severely speech delayed.



second daughter sounded like she was talking under water: "mrs potts" was "mippipp pop" and "butterfly" was "bubbla-blye". she had a *****severe***** ear infection - dr couldn't understand why she was smiling and happy, said he couldn't even find her ear drum from all the inflammation and she should've been curled up on the floor in coma. it took too long to detect it and nearly a year to get rid of it - she now has CAPD. she didn't learn to speak coherently until she started school - children's voices were much much easier for her to make out than deeper adult voices.



third daughter - "bird" was "buh!"; "water" was "wah-doh"; "mummy" was "umma"; "doggy" was "goggy". she had dyspraxia - the muscles in her face were either not responding to nerve impulses properly or they were not getting the nerve signals, either bec the nerves were not firing properly or her brain was not sending the signals properly. after multiple rounds of speech therapy, she speaks wonderful but has an oddly mechanical inflection - ppl say *all the time* that she looks and sounds like a mechanical Dora the Explorer doll. she also has a lisp - we didn't bother with that bec it doesn't interfere with comprehension and it's adorable.

Nathan - posted on 10/22/2012

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My son is the same he not long go out of pullups and we stell dont no whats the matter with my son he loves my 1year olds toys we are thinking it might be something to do with his brain

Gina - posted on 08/29/2009

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I agree with the other comments about making sure she doesn't have any medical conditions first but if not then check with your local school district. They can do an evaluation to determine if speech therapy is needed or not. Both of my children have had speech therapy since they were very young. My daughter started when she was 3 and then my son when he was 18 months. I experienced great frustation from my children when they weren't understood so I know this can be a difficult situation. Hang in there though...My daughter is now 6 1/2 and no longer needs speech therapy and is doing great. I cried many tears over the issues but it is all working out in the end and my children have done so well with speech therapy. I also suggest the website starfall.com. It can assist with the phonics and reading.

Dawn - posted on 08/28/2009

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Hi I've been having the same prob with my 5yr old. He was sort of miss diag. On advice from a friend I had a hearing test that is for possible intermediate hearing lost. Where they can't hear certain sounds and ended up finding that he had fluid in his ears. But he only has had 3 ear infections his whole life. They never caught it before. So saw the ENT today and he is getting tubes put in on monday! The dr said that I should see an improvement in his speech in 1 - 2 days. She might have that prob. The audio.dr said that he hears as if you are speaking to him while he is underwater. So go see and ENT and go from there. Good luck, hope its turns out as easy as mine is.

Sabrina - posted on 08/24/2009

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My son had the same issues. We found out that he just needed some speech therapy. I'd talk to your child's doctor and request an evaluation to be done by a specialist. It may be nothing to be worried about at all.

Tabitha - posted on 08/24/2009

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my son has the same problem for the longest time i was the only one who could understand him. he's almost 6 now and it has gotten alot better there are still problems but it is better. he will starting his 3rd year of speech and that has also helped just give time she'll come around

Jane - posted on 08/24/2009

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my son was exactly the same. i took him to get his ears tested in the end and they found that he had glue ear and needed gromits he also had his adenoids taken out. he has been much better since and does undergo speach and language theapy. good luck and i hope this helps

Daisha - posted on 08/24/2009

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Katrisha i saw you mentioned that your daughter had an audiology test at birth. my daughter did to, it wasn't til the end of the school year last year that we finally realized there actually was a hearing problem. we had her tested again this summer and found out she has a 15%-20% hearing loss in both ears. she is now in hearing aids and her speech started improving immediately. the test they do at birth just checks that they can hear not how much or how well they are hearing. i strongly recommend you take her to an audiologist for the "real" hearing test. (the one they do in a booth) you may find that she isn't speaking clearly because she has a mild hearing problem .
good luck, let me know what happens

Karen - posted on 08/18/2009

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Hi, my name is Karen. When my daughter was 4 she didn't talk much either. I spoke to my doctor about it and they recommented to call birth to three. They were really helpful and told me about a preschool in my home town that would test my daughter for her speech. Now age 11 she still is delayed with her speech. But, I am so glad that I intervene early for her. That doesn't mean your daughter has this. But, I would speak with someone (doctor) about it. Even infoline 211 gives advice or connects you to the right people.
-Karen (Mom)

Karen - posted on 08/18/2009

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Quoting Katrisha Ann:

My daughter is 4 years old, she still doesn't speak clearly like kids her age! Help!

Hi moms out there!

My daughter who is already 4 years old and 5 months still doesnt talk the same way her classmates does. She can communicate her needs and can tell stories of what happened to her in school but some of the words are still not clear. Any suggestions on how I can improve my daughter's speech?


 

Karen - posted on 08/18/2009

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Quoting Katrisha Ann:

My daughter is 4 years old, she still doesn't speak clearly like kids her age! Help!

Hi moms out there!

My daughter who is already 4 years old and 5 months still doesnt talk the same way her classmates does. She can communicate her needs and can tell stories of what happened to her in school but some of the words are still not clear. Any suggestions on how I can improve my daughter's speech?


 

Theresa - posted on 08/17/2009

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Our middle daughter was tested in kindergarten after my urging and did qualify for speech. She had problems with her L's sounding like W and with SH, CH blends and R's as well. She is doing much better, but part is a habit and she has to be reminded. Her hearing was just fine she just had problems with tongue placement. Definitely check to see about speech therapy with your school district.

Penny - posted on 08/17/2009

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Our school district has speech therapists. They test the kids and if they qualify, they get free speech therapy. Ours was at the school near us and twice a week for 1/2 an hour. My son started when he was 4 and it really made a difference.

Michelle - posted on 08/12/2009

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hi, may i ask does she still av a dummy?? if so this make them speak unclear, my lil girls was the same until last xmas wen she finailly giv up her dummy an after only a month or so her speech started 2 clear up. an now 8 mths later is totaly fine.

Terri - posted on 08/11/2009

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Definitely have another Auditory Test done privately. The routine test given at birth and in the 1st year of school by nurses are quite basic. My son had glued-ear for years and went undetected until I brought him to a private pedriatic ENT specialist to be reviewed. NHS (public health care ) staff refused to have him tested in the eary years as they blamed his delayed speech to bi-lingual at home. The lost years had a negative effect on my son where he became rather reserve. I'm glad to say that after 2 years of Speech Therapists, he's finally coming out of his shell. He's still working on his confidence to speak aloud. But we are slowly getting there now. Well, good luck to you!

Brandy - posted on 08/08/2009

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My son at that age had speech problems and he still goes to speech at school, I found an early Introvention program and had him tested it was the best thing I could have done Iam from PA and we have great preschools thru Early introvention it gave him the 1 on 1 he needed to be prepared for school. Ask ur ped. what they think and honestly even if they so it is not a concern and you still have queastions go to someone else as our children's parents we need to listen to our instincts more.

Laura - posted on 08/08/2009

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Yeah, my son had one too (auditory test) because the hospital knew I was severe to profound deaf, because I told them. So, they wanted to make sure if my son can hear or not. My parents were in denial with me for a very long time about me being nearly deaf, for several years. They don't like people that have disabilities in any way.

Katrisha Ann - posted on 08/08/2009

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Moms thank you so much for all these recommendation. It is truly enlightening. Until someone tells you there might be a problem, I wouldnt realise that everything that you said made sense. Probably I am still in denial, thinking that there's nothing wrong with my daughter. But after reading what you had to say and based on my observation, there is a delay in my daughter's speech.

Laura - She doesnt have a lisp. She is actually good in phonics. Other facts I can tell you is that we had an auditory test when she was still a new born, her pedia required it. She just really can't speak clearly, or it's like she baby talks.

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My friends daughter had the same problem. Check with your local school district they can offer speech therapy before school. My friends daughter was also 4 years old and they checked her and she had speech therapy at the school one day a week. They want to find the kids having problems before they start to school. It was free too by the way. So call the school or school district office and ask questions. Pam

Jodi - posted on 08/07/2009

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My step-son had some speech problems at that age. We took him to a doctor and it turned out it was an ear, nose throat problem. He had to have his tonsils and adenoids out as well as grommets in his ears. It was honesly like an overnight cure - once he recovered from his operation, we noticed the difference in his speech immediately. Go and check with the doctor if there is any medical reason that this may be happening. If anything medical is ruled out, you can go and see a speech therapist to help her.

Laura - posted on 08/07/2009

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Perhaps is there a history of hearing impaired people in your family? I am. My son isn't though. If her speech isn't clear, then perhaps see the doctor to refer you to a speech therapist, just to brush up on her speech. I had one for 4 years, which really helped with my speech. My parents were against learning sign language, they didn't know I was hard of hearing until I was 3. (I was adopted at birth), maybe have some flash cards with Th, Sh, Ch, words in it, then she can sound out the first 2 words. Phonics is really good for practicing as well. I am sure there may be some computer programs that can help with her sounding out words, does she have a lisp? I don't know any more details than what you have written. I am just going by what I may know.. I hope I helped some... Laura.

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