My daughter who is 5 still wets the bed, she won't wake up @ night, I need help!

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Jennifer - posted on 07/10/2009

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Nothing to drink 1 1/2 hours before you put her to bed, I know that sounds bad but really its not, by that time she'll have time to empty her bladder. When I had problems sleeping my doctor said the same thing so that I wouldn't have to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night and could sleep the whole night thru, hope it works out for you!

Lisa - posted on 07/11/2009

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My son is 7 and more often than not, still wets the bed. I found that he was even more lazy when using a pull up so I stopped that. The doctor told me they wouldn't do tests for other problems until about age 8 or 9. What she told me was that we had to retrain his bladder. During the day he will ignore the fact that he has to pee until he can hardly hold it so now his bladder doesn't give him the "I need to go" signal until he has to go badly. He is carrying that over into the night. He doesn't wake up in time because his bladder is used to getting really full before going so the "alarm" doesn't go off in time to get him up and to the bathroom. She told me to have him go to the bathroom more frequently during the day to retrain his bladder so that the "alarm" wakes him up sooner. I have noticed since I have tried having him go more often, he hasn't been wetting near as much. What he drank before bed or what he DIDN'T drink made no difference. Waking him up in the middle of the night to go didn't work because even though I would get him to go, he would still be wet in the morning. I think the retraining of the bladder makes a lot of sense. Even though he still wets, he doesn't do it as often as he did since the doctor told me to do that. It could maybe help you out as well.

Megan - posted on 12/03/2012

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Sending out a big hug to all moms and children dealing with nightly bedwetting. I have a child who wet the bed nightly (often several times) until he was 8 years old. At first, I just invested in a couple pair of washable, waterproof underwear http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... this webpage has lots to choose from in lots of different sizes even waterproof boxers. And used a waterproof sheet protector http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... to minimize the laundry.

At the age of seven the bedwetting began to chip away at his self esteem. We solved his bed wetting by using an alarm. A child who wets at night has a sleep pattern in which the brain does not react to the full bladder signal. The alarm gradually trains the child's brain to react. He went from being wet every single night to completely dry in about 6 weeks. The bed wetting alarm http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... has given us years of dry nights.

My child absolutely loved the children's book, Prince Bravery and Grace - Attack of the Wet Knights. It is the story of a young prince who struggles with "the Wet Knights" and eventually defeats them by using an alarm. It's funny yet empathetic and gave him the understanding and motivation to end the bed wetting. The best advice for parents about how to stop bedwetting I found is the book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, by Renee Mercer. Invest in the books-they make the process so much easier, then an alarm -its the best decision I ever made. www.braveryandgrace.com

Jamie - posted on 10/06/2009

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i started setting the alarm for me to wake up every 3 hours to get my son to the bathrm. he's now 7 and just recently started being able to make it through the night. also,making ure that your child doesn't drink past 530might help.

Shana - posted on 12/07/2012

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we would wake my daughter before we went to bed, take her potty and put her back in bed. we just kept doing that till she started to wake on her own out of habit. Hope this helps... :)

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Angie - posted on 12/12/2012

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Ghislaine - posted on 10/31/2011

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This is really common there are lots of posts regards this all children are different and will develop at their own pace my eldest was dry day and night by 2 and yet my youngest who is now 3 has only just allowed me to start toilet training never mind the night time thing . My point is dont stress there are lots more children than you realise that are still wetting the bed at 5 do speak to the Dr if you are worried its medical but I am sure that one day soon her brain and bladder will connect and she will be dry through the night good luck

Mary - posted on 10/31/2011

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hi moms, don't be discouraged at all. i am a mom of five kids, four girls and one boy all of whom were potty trained yet some of them were bed wetters. boys particularly tend to be bed wetters than girls however girls could also be bed wetters too. if they are not using pull ups any more make sure you buy plastic sheet covers that go under the fitter sheets. kids bladders aren't fully developed until the age of ten therefore they could still wet at night until that age or by nine in some cases. we did everything including stopping drinks at a certain time before bed, however it didn't always work. talking to your pediatrician's can also help too since some cases there could be a deeper medical issue, such as spina bifida or bladder infections (which bubble baths can tend to cuz). if the first are still frustating you talk to the doctor and see what they say and find. good luck.

Tania - posted on 09/13/2011

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Hi, in the last week we have not been putting pull ups on our son, (4 years old) he has had only one dry night since. He even wet his bed last night and then came into our bed and that was drenched by this morning. Should I just put him back in pull ups? I dont want to go backwards but its becoming a bit frustrating, i know its not his fault though. Yes he doesnt have fluids at night, we have tried waking him before we go to bed but he wouldnt wee, and when we have tried waking him other times during the night he is in such a deep sleep that he wont wake up, I dont see the point in dragging him out of bed, upsetting him and then he doesnt wee......... help! I have a 13 yr old daughter who had no problems getting through the night at around 3yrs old...

Tracy - posted on 11/17/2009

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my son is 4 nearly 5 and he still wets the bed we take him to the toilet b4 bed but he still wets the bed he comes and wakes me up to change his pj`s but then he has done it again he can do it upto 3 times threw the nite he doesnt have any drinks b4 bed either he just doesnt seem to able to wake up threw the nite until its too l8

Shari - posted on 10/06/2009

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You can try encouraging her to go to the washroom before she goes to bed and limit the amount of fluids she intakes 1 hr before bedtime.

Some kids take longer then others, maybe try night time pull ups, she may not like the idea of having to go back to wearing a "sort of" diaper and feel it more which will help her get used to getting up.

Most important is the amount of fluids she intakes daily and that she goes to the bathroom right before bedtime :)

Hope this helps!

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Hi Joneya, my 6 year old still has to wear under Jams to bed at night. What I've started to do and works quite well is, just before I head off to bed around 11-11:30, II dim the lights in the bathroom to just barely on and without actually waking my son up, I pick him up and carry him to the toilet. While holding onto him I put him on and sure enough he pee's just about every single time. He still has pee in his diaper in the morning, but just getting him up like that regularly will train his bladder.

Tammy - posted on 10/05/2009

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We just bought our 7 yo the Night Jams because she is still having accidents. The doctor said that it should actually stop at about age 6, but my brother did this until he was like 12.



They say don't give them anything to drink after dinner as this contributes to the wetting. My daughter sleeps like a log and it is so hard to get her up in the middle of the night to go, so for now the Night Jams will have to do.

Cristy - posted on 10/04/2009

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dont let them have anything to drink an hr before bed time . also I had a friend that had this problem and she found out her son was afraid of the dark and thats why he wouldnt get up to go to the rest room so she got a night light and that helped her alotbut if your bathroom is farther away from her room maybe a flash light would be better.

Williams - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Alinda:

I make my kids go right before they get in bed. Then i wake them twice during the night. If they go to bed at 8, i wake them at 11-11:30, then at about 3-3:30. So far it works. You will need a strong mind and prepare to get out of that sweet comfy sleep to do this.

So far one of my sons have adapted the schedule and the other goes all night without waking.



I tried this with my daughter, but she sleeps so hard that I cannot wake her. I would have to carry her to the bathroom and sit her on the potty, clean her all up everytime I tried to wake her to go and then she would still wake up wetting her pull-up. It's a great idea and works for many, but if your child is a heavy sleeper it just doesn't do the trick.

Williams - posted on 10/03/2009

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My daughter is six and still sometimes has problems wetting the bed, only at night and her pediatrician said that there isn't anything to worry about unless they are at least 8 yrs. old.

Alinda - posted on 10/03/2009

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I make my kids go right before they get in bed. Then i wake them twice during the night. If they go to bed at 8, i wake them at 11-11:30, then at about 3-3:30. So far it works. You will need a strong mind and prepare to get out of that sweet comfy sleep to do this.



So far one of my sons have adapted the schedule and the other goes all night without waking.

Chris - posted on 10/03/2009

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i make sure my daughter (7) go to the bathroom before she goes to bed....it helps alot

Darla - posted on 10/02/2009

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I know when I was younger, I wet the bed. My Dad started waking me up once or twice a night to go to the bathroom. And eventually, I started waking up by myself to go!

Jonetta - posted on 10/02/2009

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I am dealing with my 5yr old as well who wets the bed on occasion but I just keep sticking to my routine of nighttime pull ups only water or milk with dinner and nothing after that..over all it works but every now and then when he is upset over something he wets the bed its just another one of those motherly things we have to deal with..good luck to you and hope it all works out!!

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I agree with some of the others no drinks at least 1 to 2 hours before. what I do is before i go to sleep at night is take my 4 yr old that is sleeping into the rest room and put her on the potty and she uses the bathroom. It was a struggle at first but now she wakes up when she needs to go. But we do still have an occasional problem. but not as often and like others say it is more common than you think and will go away in time.

Christina - posted on 10/01/2009

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This is what you need to do. Dont let her drink anything 2-3 hours before bed. Make her at least try to go potty before bed every night, even if she says she doesnt have to. If she gets really thirsty just give her a couple of swallows of water. If you get up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom get her up too. That will help her learn to get up on her own too. I have two girls 5 and 2. This works, I promise. My oldest has never had an accident in bed and it didnt take my 2 year old long to adapt to the new potty schedule. Good luck!

Christina - posted on 10/01/2009

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*****THIS WILL WORK FOR YOU. PROMISE!!!!*****

This is what you need to do. Dont let her drink anything 2-3 hours before bed. Make her at least try to go potty before bed every night, even if she says she doesnt have to. If she gets really thirsty just give her a couple of swallows of water. If you get up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom get her up too. That will help her learn to get up on her own too. I have two girls 5 and 2. This works, I promise. My oldest has never had an accident in bed and it didnt take my 2 year old long to adapt to the new potty schedule. Good luck! Oh and you dont want to punish her either. She doesnt realize what she is doing is wrong.

Colleen - posted on 09/30/2009

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It's nothing to worry about she will grow out of it. The best thing you can do is make sure she doesn't have any liquids after dinner and make sure she goes to the toilet before going to bed, even if she doesn't need to go.

Christina - posted on 09/30/2009

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I dont give my kids anything to eat 2 hours prior to bed and I used to wake them at night to take them to the potty - a little disruptive I know but it helpes

Kristi - posted on 09/30/2009

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I have the same problem except that my daughter is almost 7. I have tried to get her up at night to go pee but still she wets her pullup...I have been told that she should go see a doctor but then again i don't know if that will help...I hope you can solve your childs problem Have a goo day

Kristi - posted on 09/30/2009

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I have the same problem except that my daughter is almost 7. I have tried to get her up at night to go pee but still she wets her pullup...I have been told that she should go see a doctor but then again i don't know if that will help...I hope you can solve your childs problem Have a goo day

Hillary - posted on 09/30/2009

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My son is 8 and he still wets the bed. One thing you have to take into consideration first is what time are they going to bed at night? Is there enough lighting for her to feel comfortable enough to get up and go to the bathroom? Then if you re-examine and you see that is not the issue you may want to consult your pediatrician. A lot of times....I heard this on the news this morning...kids have medical problems when they have urination difficulties. I would monitor what she eats because some foods contribute to urinary problems. Like if she eats too much sugar or if she has a lot of starch. Lot's of water. Also, make sure she is not holding her pee during the day then at night when her bladder is free and not constricted she's just wetting herself. I have to monitor my son in all these areas because he is a little overweight for his age. I know that all these factors contribute to his problem.



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ANGELINA - posted on 09/29/2009

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see a doc.their medince for that but she still young,i wounld n worry about it.

Jennifer - posted on 09/29/2009

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Put her in a pull up when you put her to bed. This will a lot of the mess and the embarresment of wetting the bed. eventually she will out grow it. Both of my kids were bed wetters they did so until the about the 2nd grade my son stopped before my my daughter did. My daughter also had a an overextened bladder so she couldn't feel when her bladder was full.

Kerri - posted on 09/29/2009

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Don't fret, pullups are ok. She will most likely grow out of it, but don't give her anything to drink after supper. If she complains shes thirsty, give her a couple sips of water and that it. Also, my mom used to pull me out of bed every night, put me on the potty and stick my hand in warm water. Kinda silly but it worked I guess.

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Hi Joneya, I'm Migdalia. I have a 3 older children. What I have learned in the past is not to give them anything to drink during the night. After dinner, I wouldn't give her more than a cup of water. What time do you put her to sleep? Try not to give her anything an hour before bedtime. Maybe a sip, if she asks, but nothing more.

One thing to keep in mind...the later she goes to sleep, the heavier she'll sleep. If at all possible, try to adjust her bedtime...and if your still up 2-3 hrs after she's sleep...wake her up to use the bathroom. Hope this'll help. Good luck.

Lesley - posted on 09/28/2009

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I do the same as Zoe, our 7yr old son, has only just this year, stopped wetting the bed! We always and still do keep a plastic cover under the sheet, so it does n´t affect the mattress! We never stopped him, from drinking in the day, milk, because he is on the skinny side, but used to allow him, only one same drink of milk to go to bed with!

The other thing to remember is to never ever tell the child off, however difficult, this may seem, ie all you can think of, well that´s another load of washing to do!

We also lifted Sean our son, out of his bed every night for almost two years to go to the toilet, he always went, until about the time, he became dry through the night, which is when we thought maybe it´s time to trust him all night? Which to date is working! Good luck

Lesley - posted on 09/28/2009

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Just one other thing I wanted to mention is that sometimes it can be a strict Teacher or a child who is bullying your child that can affect them. For our own peace of mind, it's good to ensure that all is well at school.

Lesley - posted on 09/28/2009

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Joneya, this can be a very disheartening situation for little one. Mom and Dad's response, reaction and support is very important. It is important to ensure that little one is content and not perhaps facing any situations at school or home that could cause this. I don't mean to sound melodramatic but this should be ruled out. Weleda Homeopathic meds has a good product called Enur that assists with bladder control.

I also found that no liquids for at least two hours before bedtime and putting little one on the loo during the night or even before you go to bed definitely helps. As they get older they learn to manage it too. Gargling with some mouthwash or water wets the throat if they get very thirsty. I wish you all the best and trust that the problem will rectify itself ;-)

Carrie - posted on 09/27/2009

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My 7 year old still wets the bed every night. I tried the not giving them anything to drink about an hour- 2 hours before bed like the Dr. said and it didn't work for her. We tried everything you could think of. She still does it and the Dr. says some kids will. And they will out grow it. We must be patient and make sure we are well stocked on pull ups and laundry detergent :)

Anita - posted on 09/27/2009

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stop allowing fluids about 2 hours before bed

make her go to the bathroom and then when shes done tell her to do it again

then shes off to bed

my daughter is the same way and when i dont do this she has an accident everytime

she just sleeps so hard. sometimes she even gets out of bed completly asleep and thinks shes in the bathroom and starts going where ever she is

not fun

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No drinking one hour before bed, and using the toilet before bedtime. That is what we do because it happened on occasion to my youngest that he would have an accident.

Sandee - posted on 09/27/2009

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PS Sometimes kids resist going to the bathroom at night for one reason or another - they may have fears of walking to the bathroom because it is dark or fears or there may be discomfort in peeing because of sore skin (my daughter gets eczema and it hurts when pee touches her skin). With my oldest, I found that making sure that a nightlight lit up the path to the bathroom and the bathroom itself encouraged him to go to the bathroom to pee instead of peeing in his bed or room (he was afraid of the dark).

Sandee - posted on 09/27/2009

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My daughter is 6 and she has trouble waking up at night to get up to go to the washroom. As a result she wets the bed periodically. It happens more often when she is ill, or when she is having a growth spurt. We used Good Nights training pants until she turned 6. Now I have waterproof pads like the kind used in hospitals (quilted on one side, waterproof backing; they launder easily) that I put underneath her fitted sheet so that it protects her bed and I can quickly peel it and the wet sheet off the bed and back to bed she goes (and me too!)

Ruth - posted on 09/27/2009

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Sorry one more thing also waking your child up in the middle of the night to go potty helps too... It teaches them to get up and go... My mom did it with us kids and I did it with her too... Then of course the rebelling started but it did work for a while lol...

Ruth - posted on 09/27/2009

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You know most children do do this and it is normal... But then you have children like mine... I just recently had a baby and had no problem with my daughter wetting the bed till then... I tried talking to her about it and everything.. But then I noticed one day she would ask to wear a pull up to bed some nights and not others.. So one night I told her no and she said well that's fine I'll just wet the bed... Well the next night she didn't want one and I said fine so in turns she didn't wet the bed... What really got me is she was doing it on purpose... Now to potty train her was easy she wanted her ears pierced told her fine that would be a reward after she got potty trained she was potty trained in a week... Kids can be manipulative so you got to watch that too... Kat my daughter I finally got fed up with it and told her if she wet the bed again I'd spank her... Not because it's bad which if it's just a child with a small bladder or a problem but she was doing it on purpose so yes at that point it's bad... I do hope you have better luck with your child and yes giving the child nothing to drink an 1 or 1 1/2 before bed does help... Good luck on your search I hope I helped...

Regina - posted on 09/26/2009

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Just be patient. There is no hurry.

I have 4 kids....some continued to wet until they were preteens....

Your child will grow out of it.

If you make a big deal about it, it'll get worse....



But check with doctor to make sure there isn't any medical condition.

Doctor suggested we use various things to stop bedwetting,

But if when we make it a big deal it would get worse...



Relax.....your child will be trained eventually.

There is many other things in life to worry about....this is really not a big deal.

Robin - posted on 09/24/2009

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One of my children experienced this problem for awhile because he was such a deep sleeper. I would physically pull him out of bed and walk him to the restroom even though he was asleep. I repeated this every night for a few weeks, helping prepare his body to the routine of going to the bathroom a few hours after he fell asleep.

After the assisted visits to potty, he naturally began to wake up during the night if he needed to do so.

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I have the same problem with my 5 year old son. He still wears a pull up to bed. I asked his Dr about it she said that its normal and they normally dont worry about it till they are about 6 years old. She said limit his liquid intake before bed. His bedtime is 8 so stop giving him anything to drink about 6. She also said that if I am still worried about it after he turns 6 there is a pill we can give him to help his bladder. I worried about it cause a lot of my friends kids have completely dry nights and they are younger than my son.

Gale - posted on 09/24/2009

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my son is 6, up to about 5 months ago he did the same thing. You have to wake her up, even is you have to set an alarm. If she goes to bed between 7:30-9, you have to wake her around 12-1. Have her go to the bathroom, even if you have to carry her, put her back in bed and she will be fine. After a while of doing this, she will wake up on her own and go

Krystal - posted on 09/24/2009

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yes I agree with the other mom with the no drink an 1- 1/2 before bed time. But what also might help if you help her create a routine. Say if she wakes up around 4 am because she has wet the bed and it is around the same time every night then try waking her up at 3 am to use the potty and after awhile she will get into that routine and be able to do it her self.

Krystal - posted on 09/24/2009

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yes I agree with the other mom with the no drink an 1- 1/2 before bed time. But what also might help if you help her create a routine. Say if she wakes up around 4 am because she has wet the bed and it is around the same time every night then try waking her up at 3 am to use the potty and after awhile she will get into that routine and be able to do it her self.

Aurelina - posted on 09/24/2009

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Hi, I have a four year old daughter who used to pee in bed. What I did was I let her pee before going to sleep. I also talked to her that no one's gonna sleep with her if she keeps on peeing because of the smell! It worked! She wakes up when she feels she needs to pee.

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