ALETHEA - posted on 06/05/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )
ALETHEA - posted on 06/05/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )
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Jakki - posted on 06/12/2009
We've got a female pet mouse and recently borrowed a male one for a bit of procreation. Now we're all desperate for the babies to be born, and we've been discussing gestation periods etc etc. It's been a good non-embarrassing way of approaching the issue.
I bet farm kids never have any problems with this question!
Samantha - posted on 06/12/2009
i would answer her honestly in a langage she will understand.make sure you mention plently about love.but my main advise is dont put her off as you want her to keep coming to you with any questions that she has.good luck.
Leah - posted on 06/12/2009
Honesty at an age appropriate level. My son came home from kindergarden fully misinformed ( with dirty words and all!!!) by a girl in his class. I was angry and shocked, but decided to answer all of his questions as simply as possible. I also tell him every time he has baby question that "This topic is very inappropriate to talk about at school." and that he "come home to ask his questions so he gets the right answers" It's been about two years now and so far it's all been ok. I felt lucky he was comfortable enough to ask me. Try the book "Where did I Come From?" and skip parts she's not ready for=)
Darci - posted on 06/11/2009
My little girl asked about it, and I told her that she was still a little young, and I would tell her when she was older. She came home from school one day, and found out herself. I would suggest if you want an open lines of communication, tell her enough to satisfy. If you don't, she will find out all the wrong ways from school and friends. My son came home from daycare at 4 stating that you have sex with a girl when you stick your pee pee in her butt. I quickly informed him that whoever told him that did not know, and as other questions have come up, I have answered them.
Therese - posted on 06/10/2009
I think the best is to be honest from start, so it doesn´t become somthing strange. And at first they don´t need to know everything.. but always answer so they feel they can talk to you!!
In sweden there are a lot of diffrent books that is ok just go to the libery and look it up, but never say let´s talk about it when you are older because they will still wonder..
Hannah - posted on 06/10/2009
My daughter came home from school saying she was 'sexing' in the toilets. It turned out that it was kissing but as I was just pregnant we thought it was a good time to do a talk on sex and babies. We got a book out from the library and it even had the words 'sex is also called making love'. it explained eggs, sperm and the whole process but in a very child-friendly way. It gave all the truthful information without being explicit. it answered all questions and she never talked about 'sexing' again as she did not want a baby yet. i think being honest, depending on the maturity of your child, is the best way to go. i hope this will continue into her teenage years as i believe it is an ongoing conversation which needs to be carried on for as long as she needs. it is not shameful to talk about sex with your child, if you treat it as such they may not want to come back which i personally do not want to happen. good luck.
ALETHEA - posted on 06/08/2009
Thanks for all the wonderful advice!
Melissa - posted on 06/07/2009
When I was young there used to be a book called "where did I come from"..... I think honesty is the best policy-within reason...Thank God my girls haven't asked yet
Kathleen - posted on 06/07/2009
there are some really great books, they can help you discuss it at her level, no way to advoid it better she learns what it is from Mommy and Daddy than anyone else.
Vicky - posted on 06/06/2009
My daughter was 6 when I got pregnant. She is an excellent reader so I took her to our library and she found a book in the childrens section about a sperm that has to train for a race. We both thoroughly enjoyed reading it. Very funny and covers the subject brilliantly. Sorry can't remember its full name but I am sure staff could help. Happy reading.
Tanya - posted on 06/06/2009
I don't know your religious beliefs, but I've told my children "God" decides that it's time for a mommy and daddy to have a baby and he takes a seed and plants it in the mommy's tummy and the baby grows until it's time to be born. - But my kids were 2 & 4 when i had to expalin the "truth" talk wasn't going to work for me.
Misty - posted on 06/06/2009
Oprah had a special about talking with your children about sex. There is a link on her website that gives you a manual, of sorts, on how to talk with your children about the birds and the bees, at all ages. It's a great resource.
Tamara - posted on 06/05/2009
When I got pregnant in the fall my six year old asked how the baby got inside mommy. My husband and I believe it best to answer as honestly as possible in an age appropriate way. I know not everyone is comfortable with this method, but it's better than my sister-in-law who was told boys pee on girls to get them pregnant, or my house growing up where babies just appeared and we didn't talk about it at all. All I can do is share what I've done and how it's worked for me.
We told her that daddies have sperm and mommies have eggs and when the get together it makes a baby. Then we told her that baby lives in a special part of mommy's body called a uterus and when baby was big enough the baby would be born.
She was happy with this answer and as of now hasn't needed any more of an answer. I know one day she will, but I hope that we will have created enough of an open honest dialog that she will be okay asking me anything, maybe I can help prevent her from getting pregnant at 17 like I did.
Rachelle - posted on 06/05/2009
They get married! (well most do) but just tell her you are not at the age to talk about that I will tell you when you are older. If she persists look for a book in the library or ask the librarian about that topic that would relate to her age group.
Kathleen - posted on 06/05/2009
I would explain it as vague as possible with what answer she'll be okay with. My daughter came to her own conclusion that kissing does it. I just let that be till she actually asks me. Maybe something like, they love each other sooo much God blesses the woman with a baby...... Good luck! :)