need help toilet training a 5 year old boy

Sylvia - posted on 04/19/2012

So with you on that Sherri. my son is ok with cleaning his self too. I have brought him to the Doc's soooo many times even asked if he could be tested or checked inside. And nope they wont do that which is okay but we have been through every thing, Right now we are trying Colase 50 mg. It makes it softer but he still is holding it not wanting to poo, He does this poopy dance when he is holding it. What I dont get is that when my son does poo a normal poo mind you it isnt on the toilet he will get off the toilet to try and hold it and blop EWWWWW on the floor then he is happy, All I say when that happens is See that wasnt so bad you did good next time try and stay on the toilet. OY I am happy that I am not the only mom going through this.

Sherri - posted on 04/19/2012

same problem here. what is it with 5 year old boys. he still wets the bed, but only at bedtime-never nap time. he still soils himself - sometimes up to 3x a day. we thought he would understand how nasty it is to have dirty underwear by explaining that dirty unders smell, nope, didnt phase him. then we tried having him clean them himself, wow, he thought that was fun... bubbles and poo EVERYWHERE. the bathroom was a hot mess. rather than using the bathroom he will stand very still and soil himself, oddly enough, he will go to the bathroom to pee. we are at our wits end with this situation. he will not be allowed into kindergarten if this behavior continues. we are going to the doctor tomorrow- to get her advice and see if it is a medical or maturity problem

Carin - posted on 04/18/2012

I feel your pain! My 5 year old was also stubborn and would not potty train. Like Angela said, one night I called his bluff. I was making dinner and he walked in and informed me I had to change him. He was wearing underwear and had poopy pants. I simply told him he would have to wait. I finished making dinner and served it. I made him sit at the table (with a towel on his chair) while we all tried to eat. No one ate much and our eyes were watering but I waited till after dinner to finally change him. That was the last time he skipped the potty and messed his pants. I know it sounds awful, but like you I had tried EVERYTHING else and it worked. Good luck. He'll get it.

Sylvia - posted on 04/18/2012

I am going through the same with my soon to be 6 year old. He will pee on the toilet but refuses to poo on it. I have done and tryed every thing. He hates it throughs a fit every time I put him on the toilet or potty, totally took pull ups out of the picture realized putting them on him all the time was making him think he could go in them. He is afraid of pooping a big poop and he holds it all of the time. i too am out of things to do to get him to go on the toilet. If you find some thing that works for you please let me know LOL

Jodi - posted on 09/26/2009

Jen, are you still allowing him to wear diapers and pull ups so as not to have to cope with the mess? If so, get rid of them. Don't give in to the tantrums you may get about it too. Just make it very clear, he either uses the potty, or he can go in his underwear. If he goes in his underwear, make sure he assists you cleaning it up. But reward him when he decides to use the potty. Both my kids were stubborn as heck, and they were younger than your boy when I finally did this to them. They only wet themselves a few times, and realised it was a better choice to use the potty. Your son is 5, he is old enough for you to just draw the line, lay down the law and understand 100% of what is expected of him.

Paula - posted on 09/26/2009

Dont stress about it, keep encouraging him to go potty, make a BIG deal about it, make it fun 4 him, & if he does go in the potty Make it a real big deal, cheer clap praise it will make him excited to go. If all else fails do nothing, he will do it when he is ready every child is different and your son WILL eventually toilet train when he is ready, try not to force it apon him to much and certainly DONT get angry or annoyed with him.

Just try to be as patient as you can and youll c he will want to do it soon enough

Angela - posted on 09/24/2009

I asked my co-worker about this and she says:

Call his bluff. He doesn't want to go, don't make him go. Put him in underwear (not pull-ups) and let himself and have to clean up after himself. Stop giving him the attention you are already rewarding him with and have to do it on his own.



Also, if there is a question of jealousy or neglect with the arrival of little bro, maybe spend some one-on-one time with him.