HelenMcK - posted on 09/05/2012 ( 30 moms have responded )
My daughter started 4th grade this year. All the previous years she has loved school. She is severely dyslexic. Took me 2 years of fighting with the school before she was tested and she fell further and further behind. After getting her on a program to help her she is practically a straight A student. She works very hard and it takes her a while to do her work. We spend almost 3 hours a night doing homework.
In fourth they start changing teachers for different subjects rather than having just the one. I've never had to deal with a teacher like her math/social studies teacher. It started last week on Friday I was waiting outside the classroom door for almost 10 minutes after the final bell for my daughter. Her teacher, Mrs. T steps out and tells me it will be a little bit and slips back in before I can ask why. My daughter comes out another 10 minutes later very upset but says she has to put her books in her home room and follow her. By that time my daughter is in tears. I asked her why she had to stay after class and she replied "Because I'm too slow. I'm stupid." I asked who said you are too slow and stupid? She replied "Mrs. T said I'm too slow cos it takes me a long time to do my work. I said I'm stupid cos I'm slow." I told her well let's go talk to her but the teacher was gone home already it being Friday. Instead I went to speak with her intervention (I think that's what she is called, she helps students like my daughter in their classroom as they are no longer allowed to be separated from the other students). On the way I asked my daughter what they did for fun Friday. Which is one of 2 events on Fridays she loves. She said Mrs. T didn't allow her to go cos she was too slow. I said oh and said well how was the Pep Rally, I bet it was fun. She said Mrs. T didn't let me go to it either cos I am too slow. So we find the intervention teacher and I ask her why my daughter was being punished for being slow when in the ARD meetings it was stated by the diagnotician assigned to her that she would allowed extra time and shorter assignments. The intervention teacher said she wasn't supposed be and asked what happened. I had my daughter tell her. The teacher said no no no that's not supposed to happen and stated it wouldn't happen again and she would take care of it Tuesday morning.
Tuesday went well but today my daughter is in tears when I pick her up. I asked what was wrong. She said I was sent to the principal office cos I cant keep up Mrs. T told me I was lazy and she wasn't dealing with someone like me and said go to the office and the principal told me I had to be faster and that on the 14th I have to take a test in the office by the principal cos she wants to see what I know. I tried talking with Mrs. T today but she rather hatefully told me she didn't have time to talk to me and shoo'd me out of the room and closed the door. I have to wait til morning to talk to principal but I'm getting really angry with this whole thing. All my daughters other teachers are telling me how hard she works and even though she gets frustrated she asks for help and puts in more effort to her work than the majority of the class and tell me what a delight she is to have.
I'm at a loss on how to handle "Mrs. T". It has taken a long time to build my daughter's self esteem up from the struggles of 1st and 2nd grade before she started the programs for dyslexia and her other learning disabilities. This is the 2nd week of the school year and this teacher has managed to make my daughter thinking she's slow, lazy and worst of all, stupid. I'm just not willing to have my daughter coming home crying once or more a week and feeling that she is worthless because of her learning issues or thinking that she should be punished for them. I can't have her moved to another teacher cos there is night other. There are 4 teachers and they teach both 4th and 5th alternately. It's a very small school. There are no other schools in town, moving isn't an option, and I work Monday to Friday 8am to 5pm. I would love to homeschool both my children, but it would mean not working and that's not an option either. I would greatly appreciate any input.