Nudity and kids

Linda - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 30 moms have responded )

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At what age should you start covering yourself in front of your sons? My son is 7 and he will still walk into the bathroom or bedroom while I am nude, he doesn't seem to notice that I am even naked and really it doesn't bother me. I started thinking about his age, but I don't want to make it a big deal if he doesn't even seem to notice I'm naked... what do you think?

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Richi - posted on 03/16/2013

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i understand what you feel like. 1 perfect solution is to continue with nudity till you kids gets uncomfortable with it.
i have a teenage son(13) and i still don't cover up, i mean same as your case like entering bathroom while i am nude or when i am dressing.

In fact we take a bath together every Sunday because he has to attend his Martial arts class and i have to go to office, so you see it's perfectly normal for a teenage son too. but it would be better, you cover up if and only if he is not comfortable otherwise continue with nudity.

Melanie - posted on 08/22/2009

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My son is 7 and my daughter's going on 6. My husband and I rarely close our bedroom and bathroom doors. The kids have seen us in our birthday suits all their lives. My kids still take baths together, and my daughter loves to shower with me occasionally (I have a very nice shower room). I don't want all this playful innocence to end but I guess it has to at some time. But I don't think it should be an abrupt halt. The children would be confused and be curious about what we grown-ups are suddenly hiding. Guess we'll just start by closing the doors more and more often ....

Heather - posted on 08/21/2009

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I grew up in a house with 6 people. Modesty had nothing to do with it. When you need to get going somewhere no one has time to worry about embarrasement. I believe if you don't make a big deal out of it, neither will your children. My parents never hid themsevles from me (nor did they flaunt it) and I have not been traumatized by it. I think if your kids occassionally see you or your husband it's not a big deal. I wouldn't recommend it happen all the time.

Welsa - posted on 08/20/2009

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Why? just because I am a girl doesnt mean my naked body is dangerous to my son. I dont want my son to only be able to see a female body in a sexual way. boys need to grow up realizing a woman and her body exist for reasons beyond male satisfaction..

Michelle Lynn - posted on 08/20/2009

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OMG im so glad someone asked this question, our son is 6 and will walk in our room or the bathroom and not even notice we are nude. i was always worried other mothers would think there was something wrong with me for not worrying about it.i have started the 'my privacy" talk but before this we always have had an open door policy. we dont close our doors and be anti social with each other, so its confussing to him. also i agree that we have become so modest it borders on shameful. my sister has always made a big deal about nudity in her home and i feel like it made her children even more curious!

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Tracy - posted on 08/24/2009

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When my son was 3 he started to ask questions about body parts when he would see my husband or I naked. That is when we decided to make him knock before he enters our bedroom or the bathroom that we are in. Our daughter who is 4 either says our name or jiggles the handle to let us know that she is coming in. They both know that the only time that they can enter a room without knocking is either when there is no door or when the door is wide open.

Jenina - posted on 08/24/2009

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I have a 8 year old daughter, she used to walk in on me all the time. Her being a girl it doesn't bother me a s much as if she were a boy, eventually she will have the same things I have, when she started to ask questions about my body I explained it to her as simple as possible .She has a better understanding of her body and the privacy rules. She knocks before she enters. As far as you go you should've stopped him from just busting in when he was like 3 or 4 because just because he doesn't ask doesn't mean that he doesn't notice. Kids know a whole lot more about sex and the human anatomy than we did when we were their age. PUT A STOP TO IT NOW. U don't want him to go to school and say the wrong thing about what he saw on mommy. Or better yet have Dad explain to him why he shouldn't just bust in on mommy.

Julie - posted on 08/24/2009

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the way i see it linda is if he doesnt seem phased by it dont put too much thought into it one day my 6 yr old just decided he was going to become very private about himself but still seems very unphased by anyone elses nudity this is a topic of great debate in our home as i was raised in a very open family and my husband was not but i feel that the human body in its natural form is beautiful and have always taught my son this but on that same thing you need to use caution on what you do or say around outsiders about being nude near your children because some people think that ur biz is their biz and in some states it can be considered to be abuse (ridiculous right?! thats what i thought too) just so you know

Theresa - posted on 08/24/2009

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Me and my kids just take a bath sometimes together. My kids ages 9 and 6. My husband & me let them join us in the bathroom and we don't bother for them to see us naked.
But if they have questions about our body we simply explain to them in modesty and without any malice especially on our private parts. But I know we believe children are growing fasts, so our son who is 9 now, sometimes he is having a "me alone" now in the bathroom.

Chrissy - posted on 08/24/2009

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My son is 4 and as soon as he gets home he strips! Every time! I always get scared that someone is going to come over & my kid is friggin naked

Vickie - posted on 08/24/2009

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My kids are 5 (girl) and 3 1/2 (boy). Daddy does stay covered around my daughter and she knows that she closes her door ONLY to change. She will still shower with me though and doesn't seem to care although there are times that she will still grab at my boobs and I find that a little strange to me. As for my son, he showers with daddy and not me after he grabbed me down there (I think he was playing with the water but made me very uncomfortable). But he has seen me change and also will grab at my boobs if they are within reach. We are starting the privacy thing with my daughter and will soon try to work with it with my son as well, I think a lot of it has to do with your comfort level. No family is the same, nor is any child, start small with privacy in the bathroom and work up to if the door is closed then we are dressing and do that for him too, let that be the only reason the door is closed for a while so he learns. Good luck with it, God Bless!

Liz - posted on 08/22/2009

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I am so glad I am not the only one with concerns around this issue. I am a mother or a 4 year old girl and a 5 year old boy. They occasionally bathe together but I have started showering them separately since they have "found" themselves. I think that it is natural for them to know why boys and girls are different but I have started teaching them privacy when showering and changing without making a big deal about it. There was another post that I read that made a very valid point "Don't make a big deal out of it and they won't". Possibly putting signs up on the outside of a closed door saying "ENTER" or "DO NOT DISTURB" may help with the process. Good luck!

Elizabeth - posted on 08/22/2009

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I'm a mother of three girls (7,6,& 3) and one son (8), being that he was the oldest and the only other male in our household other than his father, I taught him at four or five to start respecting women's need for privacy and knocking on the bathroom door before opening it (because his sister's forget to lock it). Little things like that every once in a while he walks in on me in my slip or undershirts, but as for nude, my opinion is that boys need to learn early to respect women and have manners, such as ladies first etc..

Michelle - posted on 08/22/2009

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My son is now 5yrs and he is learning not to come in my room which leads to the master bathroom. I think what helped him is when I had my daughter two yr ago. He knew mommy would be nursing the baby and showering and bathing with the baby. Now as he's older he KNEWS the boundaries with us girls!

I hope Linda that was a help to you and your situation with your sons! God Bless You!!

Chantel - posted on 08/22/2009

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My son is 5, but has known sine he was 4 to knock when a door is closed.

My youngest is 2, and although I change while he is around and use the bathroom/shower, when he is 4 he too will learn the privacy rule.



Everyone needs privacy :) & for me and my kids, I don't want them seeing nudity, including myself, at 5 years old.

Toni - posted on 08/21/2009

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Mt eight year old would rather be naked than wear clothes anytime. But I stand my what I said that beyond a certain age they should not see the opposite sex naked. Everyone has their own beliefs on it and that is fine. I will not subject her to seeing her father naked that is too much for her.

SuAnn - posted on 08/21/2009

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we TRY not to let the kids see us naked but they dont respect the privacy thing. My daughter,who is 5, would rather walk around naked in front of her 7 year old brother and her dad. We tell her to go get clothes on because nobody wants to see that and then she does but we have to tell her every day.

Toni - posted on 08/20/2009

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My daughter is 8. She sees me nude all the time we dress together. When I get out of shower then she gets in. But she has never been allowed to see her father nude. They grow up too fast so keep the opposite sex covered.

Tam - posted on 08/20/2009

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quietly and effortlessly cover yourself as you look him straight in the eye and ask him to respect your privacy when you are changing, suggest that perhaps he knock before entering...

Welsa - posted on 08/20/2009

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Oh, me too! I feel like a body is nothing to be ashamed of. This culture probably has overdone the modesty thing to the point of shame.

Claudia - posted on 08/20/2009

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It is a difficult thing. My oldest is 5 and some time he walks in on me in the bathroom. I believe that soon enough he will be embarresed and will think twice to walk in on me. So the question is do you want to prevent an embarrising moment or let that moment happen and then explain that it's normal that these things happen and if he is not comfortable with it then you can arrange a rule to knock on the door before entering the bathroom. (you said he doesn't notice and it doesn't bother you...)

Nikki - posted on 08/19/2009

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that is tricky i have 3 kids 9, 5 and 1 and a half. they still bathe togather. as for adults the oldest is a girl and we don't let her see daddy in less than his boxers. my son is very touchy feely with me and always grabbs for a boob ( he was breast fed for to long and it is his comfort thing only mine or if i'm gone and he is upset dads may work sometimes) we have tried to tell him that he will be going to school this year and he needs to stop i try not to walk around nude infront of him because of that. both of the older kids know the difference btwn boy and girls and the also know if the door is closed to knock but that was for the oldest she wants someprivacy sometimes and we made it a house rule to protect everyone not to do with nudity but for alone time too, they know that it is a respect thing and if one says not now they don't go in good luck the choice is all yours.

Lisa - posted on 08/19/2009

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I have stopped my son who's 5 from walking in on me in the bathroom. Takes a while to train them.

Christie - posted on 08/19/2009

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Have you heard of Dr. Dobson? He is a Christian psychologist with a radio program. He suggests 3 years old. I think the problem is with memory later in life. Could be rough on him if thoughts of his naked mother pop into his mind!

Kelli - posted on 08/18/2009

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The Japanese have a great saying, "nudity is something often seen and rarely noticed". If it does not bother you, then let it be. If he is interrupting your "me time" then point that out. I think we have overdone the modesty thing to the point that our children and even adults are ashamed of their bodies. There is a difference between sexy nude and nude.

Darnita - posted on 08/18/2009

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My son is seven too and he knows better to walk in any room without knocking. I just don't want him to see me or his sisters or brother naked and he listens when I tell him to knock before entering. You just have to let him know more often that's all.

Laura - posted on 08/18/2009

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My son is 7 too. He will just walk right in. Most times I tell him to get out, if I am changing or having a shower, because that is when he'd see me nude. It bothers me more than it bothers him. I don't walk in on him when he changes or has a bath. I give him that privacy. I am going to have to start telling him more about privacy and to knock first. I just tell him to "Get out, I am changing". Or I say "Get out I am taking a bath/shower". Sometimes he listens sometimes he doesn't.

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just this last year my daughter (almost 7) has started being aware of her body. she doesn't want her dad to see her naked and has started closing her bedroom door while changing. i really don't think you should make a big deal out of it, but maybe have a talk with your son about how he needs to knock before coming in to make sure you are covered up. my daughter knows that rule well and to keep the respect for that rule we also knock when her door is closed.

Melanie - posted on 08/17/2009

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Our daughter is also seven so we are contemplating the same issue. We have started on the importance of privacy. For example we try not to walk in on people in the bathroom etc. This is a rule we all follow - so she is not allowed to walk in on me or her dad and we are not allowed to walk in on her. We have talked about daddy wanting a little space to get dressed but at the same time it is not made a big deal about - so occasionally she still sees her daddy naked. We expect things to change in the next few years as she enters puberty, but until then we are happy to let things go as they are.

Inez - posted on 08/17/2009

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I would say that now is the time to stop him from walking in on you, it just means you need to explain to him the differences between boys and girls and that sometimes mommy has to have her privacy.

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