overnight potty training

Rionna - posted on 07/27/2010 ( 43 moms have responded )

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My son will be 6 in november and he still has to wear a pull up at night. I have restricted fluids and he goes to the bathroom before he goes to bed. The doctor says it's completely normal up to the age of 6. I am worried about this. Does anyone else have this problem? Any advice on what to do? I need help with this. It is driving me nuts!!

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Heidi - posted on 08/08/2010

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I personally thought the pull ups were enabling my 4 1/2 yr old. It took about 2 weeks of changing sheets and morning showers, but now he is dry almost every day. I never punished him for being wet. I just taught him how to deal with the clean up. I don't know what a doctor would say, but I felt like his brain knew that he could wet the pull up, and that was no big deal. I told him we are training his brain to stay dry. So far so good.

Megan - posted on 08/17/2013

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I have a child who wet the bed nightly (often several times) until he was 8 years old. At first, I just invested in a couple pair of washable, waterproof underwearhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... this webpage has lots to choose from in lots of different sizes even waterproof boxers. And used a waterproof sheet protectorhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... to minimize the laundry.

At the age of seven the bedwetting began to chip away at his self esteem. We solved his bed wetting by using an alarm. A child who wets at night has a sleep pattern in which the brain does not react to the full bladder signal. The alarm gradually trains the child's brain to react. He went from being wet every single night to completely dry in about 6 weeks. The bed wetting alarm http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... has given us years of dry nights. Also, a new medical study at Wake Forest Medical Center found that undiagnosed constipation is a major factor in bedwetting as well. So you might want to get the book "Its No Accident" ...http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/...

My child absolutely loved the children's book, Prince Bravery and Grace - Attack of the Wet Knights http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/... . It is the story of a young prince who struggles with "the Wet Knights" and eventually defeats them by using an alarm. It's funny yet empathetic and gave him the understanding and motivation to end the bed wetting. The best advice for parents about how to stop bedwetting I found is the book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, by Renee Mercer. Invest in the books-they make the process so much easier, then an alarm -its the best decision I ever made.www.braveryandgrace.com

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Don't know if you got this info or not since I don't feel like reading all your other responses but we had this problem too. Bed wetting is common even up to 10 years old. Most kids will outgrow it at some point. Some things to try - make him drink at supper time then nothing after that. Make him go pee before bed. If you are serious about helping your child stop wetting then you need to get up a couple times per night for a while (set your alarm) and take your child to the bathroom. Prop him up and tell him to pee after he's sitting or standing at the toilet. Don't put him in pullups cause that makes them think it's ok to pee in his pants but do put a waterproof mattress cover on the bed (and have a spare) so you don't ruin the mattress. After awhile you should be able to work your way down from a couple times per night to just once per night then none at all. Part of the problem with my own son (who has finally - I hope - outgrown this at 8 years old) is that he sleeps so soundly his body doesn't wake him up with the urge to go - but that has changed recently too. I have noticed that he is getting up in the night sometimes to go pee but even if he doesn't he hasn't wet the bed in months. If this doesn't work - take your child to a very good chiropractor - that may help - but I would discourage giving kids pills for things like this - it's a common problem that can be handled without drugging your child. Good Luck!

Alicia - posted on 08/05/2010

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Our doctor wouldn't even discuss the matter with us until my son was 8. Many children are just heavy sleepers and there is NOTHING anyone can do. We put a second bed in his room so when he wet the bed he would get up change himself and crawl back to bed in his other bed. He was very embarrassed by his bedwetting and would try so hard to stay dry but nothing worked. It was so hard as a parent to watch him go through this but a week before his 8th birthday he just stopped and now wakes up at least once a night to use the bathroom. My youngest is 5 and we are now going through the same thing. We know it will end but it is a very long journey. Good luck!

Leah - posted on 08/05/2010

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I, like lots of other people, wet the bed til I was around 7. I would sleep really hard and not wake up in time, or would dream I was sitting on the toilet. I didn't do it every night.I know it can be frustrating but I did out grow it. My parents tried everything, even getting me up during the night, and tried to giving me raisins to eat. I don't know what worked I just know I did finally stop. I don't like to idea of giving meds. it seems a lot of people think giving meds. for everything is okay. I just afraid that some of them can cause other problems.

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Zoe - posted on 08/11/2010

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there's a reason nighttime pull-ups are made for up to 15 years old. and they look like undies, so let your child go on sleepovers with them. if he feels embarassed, he'll eventually stop. just be thankful he's dry during the day.

Angelic - posted on 08/10/2010

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I have a 13 1/2, 9, & 6 year old. My two older ones stopped around the age of 8. My youngest is still wettring his pull-up at night and my Dr. has also informed me that there is a pill I can give him and that bedwetting is hereditary. I have cut fluids early in the evening, I have him go to the bathroom RIGHT before he lays down for the night AND I get him up 2 hours after he goes to bed to use the bathroom once more. Sometimes he's dry all night, other times he wets right throught the overnight pull-up :( I'm just waiting patiently for him to outgrow it.

Annick - posted on 08/07/2010

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My son is 6 1/2 and for the most part he still wakes up wet in the morning. I've done everything (limiting fluids, etc) to no avail. I'm not worried, as I know he will outgrow it in his own time, so I don't make a big deal out of it. Kids learn to walk, talk, ride a bike, etc...all in their own time. Waking up dry will happen that way too :)

Carla - posted on 08/07/2010

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My grandson wore pull-ups until he was probably 9. He slept soooo hard that he wouldn't wake up to potty. It wasn't his fault, he was embarrassed to wear the pull-ups, but----. He eventually outgrew it. Relax, honey!

God bless

Chris - posted on 08/07/2010

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My son is 9 and still wets the bed. We tried the pills restricting drinks after 6pm and nothing worked. His doctor did an x-ray to see if anything was wrong and found out his bowel was 90% blocked. The pressure of that was pushing on his bladder. He has a BM movement 2-3 times per day but wasnt empting it. He takes miralax its a powder mix with water,juice, he likes it mixed in his pudding(makes it a little runny). but now he is only wet 1-2 times per week. Good luck and remember he is not doing this to upset you.

Rachel - posted on 08/06/2010

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My youngest daughter is still wetting the bed. she will be 6 in Sept. You are not alone!!

Nikkia - posted on 08/06/2010

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Okay, I thought I was alone with this issue. I have a seven year old who has been wetting the bed ever since he was five; the same issues are happening with my son also - his dr. told me that he will outgrow this and that it is very normal and I tell him to stop drinking at 7:30, but with the temps. being so high during these summer days, I sometimes allow him to drink water pass the 7:30 deadline. But, nothing is helping -- it even gotten to the point whereas his father and I have gotten into an argument about this issue, because his father consistently screams at him in the morning when my son wakes up wet. It is emotionally stressful for my son, as well. Sometimes, he has tears in his eyes when he notices his wetness when he wakes up. This issue is very stressful...

Suzanne - posted on 08/06/2010

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my son had the same problem our dr told us to try and get him to hold it for a bit longer during the day as that would help train his blader to hold more which should help to stop the bed wetting, she also said waking them up when they are sleeping makes it worse because they get more tired and fall into a deeper sleep and that contributes to the hole problem, we took her asvice and within 6 months he stoped hope this helps

Maserame - posted on 08/06/2010

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my son is almost 3 years old and he he has stopped wetting the bed, In my family a child my stop when their two and a half. what we do is you dont give them liquid at night, they must pee before they sleep and you must wake them 3 to 4 times until they get used to it, every morning when they wake up they must go straight to the bathroom.I hope this will help, good luck!!!!!!

Maribel - posted on 08/05/2010

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Don't worry! My son just turned 8 and the Dr. says it's still not abnormal for boys at this age to bedwet. So, we've tried everything you mentioned as well and still, he only has a couple dry nights a week. I don't pressure him, I just remind him to do those things we've mentioned. The Dr. also said that the medications they offer will not fix the root problem that it's a certain something in his brain that needs to mature. For some, it's at age 2 and others 20. It is very likely they'll outgrow very soon - just as soon as they're ready. I try not to stress about this and let nature take his course. What has been working for him (and we need to get back on track due to vacations), is setting his alarm clock at midnight to wake him up (he's a very heavy sleeper) - sometimes he wakes up himself - walks over the bathroom, pees and goes right back to sleep. This has helped to wake up dry for about a week! So, we're going right back to that to see if it will get his psychological clock to get him use to not peeing at night, or at least, get him use to waking up at night to pee and go right back to sleep. Be careful that this does not cause him sleep deprivation. He should be able to go right back to sleep - my son does. Dr says that this is great if it does not cause him to lose sleep after waking up to go to the bathroom. Try it! Good luck - he'll be over this soon! I totally understand what you're going through. I use to let him pee on his bed to "teach him a lesson", but that didn't work; plus, I hated changing the sheets every single day. So, we're back to good nights as well. They can do it!!!

Charmaine - posted on 08/05/2010

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i have a fitted sheet made of thick plastic i still have to wash the sheets but the mattress is protected my son wears the Huggies brand dri-nites we are in australia and they go up to the age of 15 so they are great for bigger children they are like a pullup so they can put them on without grip tabs

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My daughter still wet the bed at age 7, so having the pull-ups were necessary. I always had them available to her in her nightgown drawer so she could put one on at night. We had spoken to the doctor and were advised it was normal. She'd be dry a couple, then wet. Th only downfall we had found in using pull-ups is she started using them so she would not have to get up and go; because she was scared and it was dark in the hallway that led to the bathroom. We spoke to her about turning lights on and bought some hallway night lights, etc, and she has been much better since! good luck! :)

Shannon - posted on 08/05/2010

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My daughter who will be 8 still wets the bed at night sometimes. We watch her go potty before bed and most of the time wake her to go right before we go to bed. I hate changing the sheets so I bought the crib pads to soak up moisture and put those on top of her sheets to help protect the bed. They work most of the time.

Natasha - posted on 08/05/2010

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My 8 year old was almost 7 before she remained dry consistently at night. I got so tired of changing sheets because she'd be dry a few nights and I'd think we got over the hump, put her to sleep in just her underwear and then she'd wet the bed. I think kids just get there at their own pace. My pediatrician suggested an alarm which I purchased from onestepahead.com, and it seemed to work because the minute she started leaking, the alarm sounded, and it would wake her up. After just a couple of weeks, she was able to take herself to the bathroom in the middle of the night. Then she didn't wet the bed at night anymore. But since she was almost 7 by then, it's hard to know if the alarm was the reason for her being nighttime potty trained or if it was purely her developmental maturity.

Charmaine - posted on 08/05/2010

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Hi
My son was 6 in July this year and still wears dri- nites. He was a late toilet trainer at the age of 4 and a half so i figure he will be a late night trainer. i have 4 children and they all toilet trained at different ages. i also have a friend and her 13 year old daughter still wears dri-nites to bed so i think its very normal and if its not bothering him let him learn in his own time. hope this has helped
charmaine

Karen - posted on 08/05/2010

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My almost 7 y.o. is just to the point where I would feel comfortable letting her go for a sleepover. We have found that the bedwetting was directly related to how tired she was - if she was overtired she just didn't wake up. So, she still has to nap at least once a week and that is enough to catch up on her sleep. With school being so busy and trying to do things with friends, etc., she was just wearing herself out. Also, when her routine is interrupted, like on vacation, I would wake her halfway through the night to go potty and that helped, too. IMHO, I think it's completely normal and I wouldn't worry about it. Just keep restricting fluids, wake him up partly through the night if it might help, and give it time. Maybe try some extra sleep, particularly if he's going through a growth spurt or just overly busy.

Deanne Stricklin - posted on 08/05/2010

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I had the same problem with 2 of my boys. One of them has never had that problem. There is a nose spray that the doctor can prescribe that will stop the bedwetting, but if you don't have very good insurance, the pull ups are probably cheaper, and the pull ups also have no side effects. I do not recommend punishing the child at all or making them "sleep in it", this is not something the child can control. It's also not the parent's fault, it's just a natural part of the child maturing. They outgrow their bladders, their bladders can't hold very much urine, so naturally it has to come out somehow. Just keep limiting fluids, I would also suggest walking the child to the bathroom about 15 to 30 minutes after they've fallen asleep and making them go potty. They may be asleep this whole time, but they will still go if you tell them to. I have done it with my boys, and it works. They do suddenly just "grow out of it", just have patience, it'll happen sometime.

Mary - posted on 08/05/2010

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My daughter is 8 and still does it ... according to her doctor , and the specialist at children's hospital here it is completely normal ! I finally invested in a few washable bed pads ( like the hospitals use ) and stopped buying pull-ups , and some norwex mattress cleaner ( takes care of the smells in any soft surface ) and just tell her to wash every morning .. and support her , the worst thing we can do is make them feel bad about it . They may revert to day time accidents then because " I can't feel it at night so why should I feel it when I'm awake ...."

Amanda - posted on 08/05/2010

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Just a message to lady about pullups and 7 year ,you can now get washable pants for bed from austrilia for kids thinking of getting some for my daughter.which in long run would save money,they environment and your sanity and the need to change a bed,ps also lie them on a few fleece blankets it stops the sheets from getting soaked but also works as a good barrier that whats used inside reusable nappies fleece liners.

Kira - posted on 08/04/2010

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Don't worry. My daughter just turned 8 and about 6 months ago stopped wearing night pants. It really depends on the child and if there are any other factors. My daughter has ADHD and I learned that my cousing who had ADHD was about 8 when he started sleeping through the night without any accidents. He also has a son with ADHD and he had the same problem. I don't think you need to be concerned. You just have to wait it out and spend the money on the night pants.

Cathy - posted on 08/04/2010

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My oldest had the same issue and was in pullups at night. We tried everything most have mentioned. I finally started going in and lightly tapping her and telling her to get up and go potty. I didn't take her to the bathroom and I didn't fully wake her up. For her the issue was that she was such a heavy sleeper that she just didn't wake up enough to realize that she needed to go. I made a habit of going in before I went to bed and when I got up with the baby to go and tap her and tell her to potty..she finally got to where she didn't sleep so heavy and started doing it on her own. good luck and wishing you plenty of patience

Kristin - posted on 08/04/2010

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Does he have trouble w/constipation? My almost eight year old had terrible trouble for a long time, it finally ended up so bad he wound up in the hospital for four days w/impacted colon. But he would wet the bed often b/c he wasn't emptying his bladder completely b/c of the stool blockages in his intestines. Since we've gotten my son's constipation issues under control the bedwetting has stopped completely. Just a suggestion. Otherwise I'd say have patience, he may just have a small bladder or be a very deep sleeper that can't wake up to recognize he needs to pee, he will outgrow it. Good luck

Alison - posted on 08/04/2010

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Hi dont know where your from but get your doctor to refare you to the enuresis clinic . My both girls had the same problem up to they were seven. We went to the enuresis nurse who was gr8t !! both my girls had stopped bed wetting within six weeks and have never looked back !! Happy and dry.
Just a tip make sure your son is drinking loads during the day dont limit his drinks. he should be trying to get at least 1500ml of fluid a day, cut out fizzy drinks tea , and chocolate. it really works so go see the pee and poo nurse as ours calls herself and you troubles will be over in six weeks !! Good luck !!

Lisa - posted on 08/03/2010

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My son was also a bed wetter until he was 6 or 7 years old. It is actually pretty common in boys. We limited his liquid intake a few hours before bed, he wore pull ups at night, but he finally stopped wetting the bed when I started setting an alarm for him to wake up during the night. I got a simple alarm clock that was easy to set and turn off and put it on the end of the bed. I set it to go off at 2 am and would turn it on for him everynight at bedtime. He would wake up, shut off the alarm and go to the bathroom. In no time he had "trained" himself to wake up without the alarm if he needed to go to the bathroom during the night. This really worked wonders for my son and I hope this advice helps you too.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/03/2010

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My son is 8.5 and still wets the bed multiple times a week. There is no rhyme or reason to it. We've tried waking him to go potty, stopping fluids, going before bed, etc...to no avail. Our pediatrician says it's normal. He gave my son the option to take the pill or to not take the pill. My son has chosen to only take the pill if away from home. There are some side effects to it. I've also been told that making a child "hold it" a little longer during the day teaches the bladder to hold more so that it doesn't "spill over" at night time. I don't know if that works or not. We just try to not make a big deal out of it and to not make him feel like he's doing something wrong because it really is out of his control. Just hang in there...like my mom says, he'll get over it before he gets married...lol...

Christie - posted on 07/31/2010

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We have been struggling with our twins as far as night training too. They are 4 1/2 adn just in the last couple of weeks, our son has been holding his bladder all night. He still doesn't wake himself up to potty and did wet the bed last night. His twin sister is soaked every morning! She shows no signs of getting on the diaper free train! We have also tried all sorts of things and have just decided this is the way it is and she'll finally grow out of it. I'm so ready to be rid of diapers though!

Joanne - posted on 07/30/2010

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My DD is 5 she was fully night trained at 3 2/1 we moved house she now wears nite time nappies i think moveing house and me have a baby trigged something, i have taken her to the health nurse and doc same thing can't do any think till 7 years old there is a special mat they put on the bed that helps them stop over time, im sick if it too but there is nothing i can do too make her stop i was getting her up when i was going to bed to take her to the toilet and cutting back drinks nothing worked, been told it is up to the child when he/she is ready she is a smart child and know she wont be in them all her live she will stop when she is ready. Been told by both something between the brain and bladder is not conneting up propley.Sorry this did not help much but only time will tell.

Regina - posted on 07/30/2010

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My son will be 10 in October and we still have a problem with bed wetting. We have tried all those same tactics to no avail. We tried rewards for waking up dry, taking away his PSP, a raise in his allowance for every week he woke up dry, nothing. I think the thing that got to him was the embaresment factor. He didn't want his friends to know, but he wanted to have friends sleep over. We had a lot of sleepovers, but now he doesn't do it as much.

Kylie - posted on 07/30/2010

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There is also a product you can buy which is a sheet underlay that has a sensor in it, when the child starts to wee a beeping sounds to wake the child out of the deep sleep so they will get up and go to the toilet. I didnt need to use this at all but heard this works well.

Krista - posted on 07/30/2010

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I agree it is totally driving me nuts too,,,but the truth is the Dr is right.............i have had 3 kids all wet till at least 6 if not a bit longer on my third child and this one is 6 next month and same problem,,,,you potty train them and they seem fine and you think you take all measure as you have listed but still pissy sheets, the smell, the mess, the headache...ughhh i feel you all we can do is continue, less liquids before bed, potty right before,,,i get him up and take him in his sleep before i go to bed too and if i get up at all, or if he does,,,i try and stop it from happening, but you cant make a big deal about it,,,they will grow a complex, you have to just change, clean him up and try not to be too negative,,,also always invest on plastic covers on the mattress to save it from pee stains and smells,,,lose the pullups that is more like a crutch....you gotta just let him use his underwear only otherwise you are sending mixed messages :) feel free to chat more with me! krista 619 303-7945

Samantha - posted on 07/30/2010

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my daughter is 4 and a half and wets day and nite the drs said 2 keep her out of pullups as thats making think she is wearing a nappy and it will make her go bckwards!

Hayley - posted on 07/29/2010

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Can your Dr not refer you guys for Enuresis management? Not sure where u all r, im in the uk. Might be worth asking if its available for your children!

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I have 3 boys, 4,5, and 7 yrs. old...they all 3 still wet the bed. I do try to limit their drinks, but, to no avail..they still wet the bed. I do make them use the toilet too before bed and again still wetting. The only thing I can offer is that we did take away pull ups and go to underwear and try to let themselves wake with being wet and to try to change sheets and clothes and explain to them that it is yucky to sleep in a wet bed...try letting go of the pullups so he can feel disgusted with being wet and keep limiting drinks before bed ..atleast and hour or more b4.

Tiffany - posted on 07/28/2010

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i know all too well what you mean. my daughter is 6 also, and has to wear a pull up @ nite time, I thought something might be wrong too, so I asked the DR. and she told me the same, its normal. But our DR. said its normal untill up to 13 yrs. due to the fact that the childs bladder is still growing.

Marcie - posted on 07/28/2010

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My son will be 7 in Sept and still wets the bed every night multiple times a night. His fluid intake is already cut off at 6:30 when I get home from work and he goes to the bathroom before he goes to bed and I also wake him up every night to go to the bathroom (sometimes twice). And he is usually wet when I wake him up so I end up changing him then and then he is wet again in the morning. I am tired of spending a ton on pull ups all the time but I don't have time to wash his wet sheets everyday. I have been to the doctor and all I get told is he will out grow it. When does that happen? Your def. not alone, because it is driving me nuts too

Tonya - posted on 07/28/2010

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mine does the same thing at age 5. he still wears pull ups at night, but he doctor said that is something that he will do on his own. His dad, and aunt did it till way up in age from 9 to 12. the doc. had told me the same thing as far as cutting off drinks. he said that dairy product produces urine to not give anything with dairy in it.

Candy - posted on 07/28/2010

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My daughter is 5 and she stills gets up at night to go potty. She doesnt wet the bed but she is still getting up. We did the whole no drink after 6 and pee before bed but nothing works. She still will get up and go potty at night. that is when she usually ends up in our bed. I say dont worry until he is older. No a days we have it great because there is no mess to clean up because of pull ups. Just hang in there. Relax.

Michelle - posted on 07/27/2010

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the dr. can prescribe a pill to help stop the bedwetting a friend of mines son was still wetting the bed at age 7 so they used the meds......my son stopped at age 6 all of a sudden it all just stopped. The way my dr. explained it to me is some children especially boys fall into such a deep sleep that they don't even realize that they have to go until it is too late. good luck.

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