Emilene - posted on 05/09/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have 4 children (2 babies & 2 school age). My two daughters are ages 8 and 11. I do my best to keep to the rules of our house in the hopes that in a few years I will not be dealing 2 out-of-control teenagers. One rule in our home is that the girls are responsible for keeping up with the tiny bedroom that they share, since the only mess that is ever made in there is their clothes covering every inch of the floor instead of in the dressers or closet. It is a constant battle to get the girls to comply and do the one task they are assigned to. Most of the time they push the limits of my patience until they get themselves grounded, which is not easy to do. My problem is the neighbor across the street who's daughter is a playmate of my children. She often comes to my door to ask if my girls can please come out to play with her child & her tone & words relay to me that she thinks I'm some sort of tyrant who doesn't want to allow her children outside & that I am just plain mean. All of this coming from an alchoholic woman with only one child, I feel silly when it causes me to second guess myself & my decisions. I wonder, if I were to let them grow up with no consequences for bad behavior & no sense of responsibility, what kind of parent would I be then? And what kind of adults would my girls become? I'm unsure how to deal with this woman without ruining the friendship between my girls & that woman's child. If anyone has some advice, I'm all ears.