potty trainig for a 4 year old

April - posted on 03/15/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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well my son blake is 4 years old and me and his dad are having issues getting him to potty train weve tried several different things and nothin has worked and were really wanting things to get better please email me back with any thoughts or advice please

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Brandi - posted on 03/22/2010

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I understand exactly what you are going through. I had this same problem with my daughter. We tried EVERYTHING under the sun, from the giving rewards, sticker boards, character undies. What finally worked was when she saw (and we kept reminding her) all her friends were going in the potty. She also wanted to go to school very bad, so we let her firmly know that if you go potty in your pants you don't get to go to school. Maybe it will work for you too. I think all in all they just won't do it until they are good and ready. I also agree with if you are using pull ups, get rid of them. Good Luck!

Carrie - posted on 03/22/2010

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I started potty Training my Autistic Son when he was 3 With no luck . So when he turned 4 tried again for a few months then he just would not . then about 3 months ago he would pee in the potty but not poop . he would hold it until i put his pull up on to go out or before bed .. so we just took the pull ups away all together and now he is doing really well every now and then he will have a oopsy but . He is doing real well now . So maby just take the pull ups and diapers away . for the first week you might have to wash underwear a few times after that you shouldn't have any probs .

Sue - posted on 03/21/2010

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mon son is 2 and 1/2 next week and we have started potty training but because he dont yet talk he cant tell us he needs to go so we just keep putting him on he likes the idea of going potty and he has accidents a few times a day but it all comes down to perseverance i dont use any bribes with my little boy when he goes potty we give him a lot of praise even when he dont go potty we tell him how proud we are of him for trying

Elizabeth - posted on 03/21/2010

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Well 4 is late in this sort of training. My sister has 3 boys and she used fruitloops and had them target practice, it was fun for them and they learned quickly. I had my daughter trained before 2, I used stickers for #1 and balloons for #2. Worked very well. The last thing you want to do is to make him feel bad or sad about it, this can actually prolong it and make it even more difficult

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i had the same problem with my son when he was 4. he was to the point where he understood the concept, he just saw no reason to use the potty while he was still in pull ups. so, we ditched the pull ups and refused to put him in anything but regular old underwear. for the first few days he had an accident, but, he was 4 so he had also understood the concept of not wanting to be embarrased by having an accident, so he quickly got the idea of going to the potty... he is 6 now, and we have never had any problems day or night.. since that first week. =) good luck!

Stephanie - posted on 03/20/2010

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With my son, I gave him M&Ms everytime he used the potty. Also I went to underwear shortly after he started potty training, that seemed to help because he did not like the feeling of being wet.I also did a potty chart and let him put a sticker on it every time he went potty, he really liked that. Hope this helps. Good luck!

Lethia - posted on 03/20/2010

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I have nine children seven boys and two girls.. Couple of my boys were easy to train and some not so easy I have found out making potty time fun is alot easier with boys sinking the cheerios and treasure box with like little dollar store stuff in it I hope this works get back with me and let me know

Lethia - posted on 03/20/2010

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I have nine children seven boys and two girls.. Couple of my boys were easy to train and some not so easy I have found out making potty time fun is alot easier with boys sinking the cheerios and treasure box with like little dollar store stuff in it I hope this works get back with me and let me know

Elizabeth - posted on 03/20/2010

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Try turning potty training into a game for him, put a fruit loop (the colors are easier to aim for) in the potty and tell him to sink it. When he does give him a little prize such as an extra boo at night time, a trip to the park, something that he loves to do. Just don't stress out! Its not an easy time for either of you! Training my oldest son it only took 3 weeks for him to be totally potty trained, my nephew it took only 2 weeks doing this, and I had told a customer at my old job (who later ended up being my stepdaughter in law) and she ended up training her 2 boys in less than a month this way. Good luck and remember to reward yourself as well. Don't let the stress of potty training get to you, and if your out in public don't let other people get to you if you have to get out of line because he has to go just say potty training can be so hard sometimes but I am proud of you for letting me know most grumpy people will smile!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/20/2010

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Try turning potty training into a game for him, put a fruit loop (the colors are easier to aim for) in the potty and tell him to sink it. When he does give him a little prize such as an extra boo at night time, a trip to the park, something that he loves to do. Just don't stress out! Its not an easy time for either of you! Training my oldest son it only took 3 weeks for him to be totally potty trained, my nephew it took only 2 weeks doing this, and I had told a customer at my old job (who later ended up being my stepdaughter in law) and she ended up training her 2 boys in less than a month this way. Good luck and remember to reward yourself as well. Don't let the stress of potty training get to you, and if your out in public don't let other people get to you if you have to get out of line because he has to go just say potty training can be so hard sometimes but I am proud of you for letting me know most grumpy people will smile!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/20/2010

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If you make it a kindof game for boys it seems to work a little easier, I always put a fruit loop (the colors help them see them great) in the potty and told my boys to am for it. (it also helps them with working on how not to miss the bowl when they are bigger!) When he hits (sinks the fruit loop give him a little prize, an extra book at bed time, going to the park, something that makes your little one happy)
Good luck and have fun with potty training and don't worry it will happen when he is all ready to be a big boy. BTW doing it this way I had my oldest son potty trained in 3 weeks with no accidents at all and my nephew in 2 weeks with only night time being an issue! Stressing ourself out during potty training doesn't help either of you! Take a bubble bath for your self!

Thelma - posted on 03/19/2010

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YOu know, I got stressed out about my daughter who also didn't wanted to potty train by 2½. A friend of mine said:"Leave her! When she's ready it will happen" I did and she did it herself before she turned 3. So if it didn't happen by 4 yet, don't stress! It will happen when he is ready!!! Have patience April and don't let friends or family tell you that he should, or he must... There is no such thing! You do what you feel is right. To the above mommy's, good advise! You guys are great!

Amy - posted on 03/18/2010

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My husband & I started potty training ours at 2 older children ages 4-1/2 & 6 at the age of 3. It took a them both to become fully potty trained a little over 1 yr. We started w/pull ups that disapear when wet then later with underpants. To make it easier w/our 4-1/2 yr old daughter we tried a door hanger on the outside bathroom door knob with the door closed indicating the bathroom is vacant. When the bathroom was occupied the door hanger was removed and replaced with the door shut when vacant again. (we didn't want the kids to play in the bathroom, this was the easiest way) Truthfully, this actually worked. Our 2 year old will start potty trainin sometime this summer. Also, try if not done so already to start by takin your son every 25 minutes and sitting is easiest for him to learn but it may take some time to convince him to stay for a few minutes. Later as he gets older he'll figure standin up on his own. Praise is also great. Good luck

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2010

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does he complain at all when he goes to the bathroom ~ like when you are trying to get him to potty train does he tell you it hurts or he just doesnt want too ~ the reason i ask is i had a problem training my son who is now 8 at the time he was 3 and didnt get trained until he was 4 but he also was telling me that it hurt whenever i tried to potty train him and it wasnt until i got a dr to listen to me that i finally found out that he had to have minor surgery and afterwards was potty trained in a few weeks.

also i know some stores have urinals for lil boys ~ have you thought about looking for one of those to see if he would like it or let him pick out his own potty chair and really make his ~ bribary is a good thing as well good luck

April - posted on 03/18/2010

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thank you for all the advice im going to talk to their dad and see if this is something he wants to try im just hopin things get better but i know that all i can do is work with him and keep workin with him until he picks it up

Debbie - posted on 03/18/2010

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It seems I bragged too soon. My daughter just had two accidents yesterday. She hasn't had them for quite awhile and then she had TWO on one day. Oh well. I think I jinxed myself when I bragged about her. (smile)

Ricki - posted on 03/18/2010

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I used bribery on my daughter. Jelly beans and dum dum suckers were the best things in my house. She was in panties in 2 days and very rarely had an accident (she's 5 now). BUT--she was an angel baby, made everything sooo easy for me. I didn't realize how easy until our second daughter arrived. I'm hoping the same thing will work for her but everything with her has been difficult.
Find something that he really likes but you only let him have on occasion (jelly beans and dum dums in our case) and try using them as rewards. (Rewards sounds better than bribery doesn't it?) Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 03/16/2010

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My twins were just shy of 4 when they were trained. My other boy was just a little over three and I have no idea on my two year old. Is your son stressed out about it? Does he show all the signs of readiness, but is being stubborn?

One thing I found after taking all sorts of advice, buying books, etc is that when they are ready they are ready. What my husband and I did was just talk about the bathroom, take them with us, buy big boy underwear, and also bribed them. The twins wanted to go fishing so when they got trained they got fishing poles. My other one it was candy and money. One thing I found was that when they were ready they came up to us and said " I want to wear my big boy underwear." They were day and night trained the day they told us they were ready. Hope this helps a little. If nothing else talk to your Pediatrician if nothing else to make sure nothing is physically wrong. Try not to make a big deal about, but be encouraging. Good luck.

Debbie - posted on 03/16/2010

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I don't know if I'll really be able to help. I'm potty training my daughter right now but she's 2. She's good except for nap time and bedtime. I haven't been able to get her to be good during those times yet.



I started by buying her undies that she really liked (Dora, Wonderpets, Spongebob). Then I told her that after I bought them I didn't want her to pee on Dora. If she peed on Dora, then Dora wouldn't be happy with her and may not even let her watch her anymore. ... I know, I'm a bad mommy, but it seemed to work. (smile)



She had a few accidents in the beginning but hardly any now. Actually I can't remember the last accident really since it's been weeks ago (I started potty training about 1.5 months ago).



I'm not sure if this helps, but that's what I did.

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