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Carla - posted on 07/02/2010
Our 4-year-old grandson does it a lot. We call it 'Mr Private'; I tell him to leave Mr Private alone. I understand all the mothers who are concerned that telling them to quit will make them feel guilty, but from the men I have known, and I'm sure their mothers told them the same thing, it didn't damage their psyche any! We have to interact with the outside world, and don't want our boys or girls acting outside the acceptable norms of the world.
So, keep telling him/her it won't run away, stop it, whatever! And if it itches, take him in and wash up!
God bless, sweeties!
Katrina - posted on 06/30/2010
my son grabbed it all the time when he was little, it really started at 9 months old. I asked the doctor and he said it's normal, they are curious and they do it because it feels good and they don't know it's not ok to do in front of people. My son is 9 and still does it, not really in public since he knows it's something personal, but he still does it at home. I do not ever tell him to stop touching it or anything like that because you are not suppose to tell a boy that since it can make them ashamed or feel like it's not normal. I just have always told him that all boys and men sometimes touch it and that's normal but it's not polite to do in public. When he does it at home I just ask him if everythings ok. Most of the time he will say it itchs or something and that's why he's doing it. I just say ok, let me know if it bothers you a lot so we can ask the doctor and I tell him to wash his hands when he's done. It may seem gross but it's all normal. I have always been very open and honest with my son. I talk to him about everything, I think it's important to not be ashamed or embarrassed to talk about personal things with your children. When you start talking about these things from a young age it's easier to talk about them when they are older. And most importantly your children will come to you with any questions they have and will be more comfortable telling you anything. I wasn't really comfortable talking about some of the things with my son at first but I knew how important it is for our future relationship so I have always brought up things ahead of time to create that close relationship where he knows he can come to me with anything and I will always be understanding and honest.
Sherri - posted on 06/30/2010
I tell them repeatedly they need to leave it alone it won't go anywhere. They are slowly beginning to realize this is not acceptable behavior in public. I think they are beginning to leave it alone simply because they are tired of hearing me tell them to leave it alone. LOL!!
Laveda - posted on 06/29/2010
you ko i dnt know cause my 3 year old and my soon to be 2year old dose it to my 3 year old dose it cause he has penial problems but i dk why my soon tobe 2year old dose it maybe its just a copy cat thing they see the big boys do it so they wanna try it to
I agree totally normal..my 5 year old doesn't touch it so much as he tries to say the word penis as many times/ways as he can. sometimes I think he just likes getting a reaction out of me or whoever the unsuspecting person in the room happens to be!!
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