Problems with Wiping

Jill - posted on 08/31/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Okay, my four year old son has started pre-school. He has an issue with wiping himself. I am at a loss for what to do! He is my first child, so I am really needing some suggestions. His teacher says he has a difficult time and does not want to even try to wipe himself. PLEASE HELP ME! THANKS!

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Latisha - posted on 08/31/2010

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Try baby wipes. I noticed that my son was uncomfortable with using tissue so I started putting baby wipes in the bathroom and showed him how to wipe himself. It a lot easier because they are moist so it helps them to completely wipe themself. Maybe you can donate some to the class for all the children to use. Hope this helps!

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He may not like the toliet paper there if yours is softer. I would also send him his own wipes for him to use as a lot of kids prefer the cleaner, softer feeling. Not sure what else to suggest but I hope this helps in some way.

Good luck and god bless

Ilene - posted on 09/09/2010

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My six year old had a huge problem with this. He would get poop all over himself, the toilet, the sink, and even the walls in the bathroom. I was really at a loss on what to do. This seemed to intensify during the summer and I was pretty worried about school starting next week. A few weeks ago, I decided to start hanging out with him in the bathroom at home. I would show him..."this is how much toilet paper you need to wipe yourself" You know how toilet paper has those perforations? He seemed to think he had to tear off at each and use the small square! Um. no. I told him he had to keep things cleaner or we would all get sick. I also made him clean up any mess he left. If he got it all over he had to clean it up. We added it to his responsibilities chart and he got a sticker for each time he did it correctly. He is doing so much better!

Zita - posted on 09/01/2010

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I agree with the Cottonelle wipes, they are more "grown up" for kids to use too! Don't worry lots of kids take a little time to learn to wipe. What I would do is to make sure you wipe him each day when he comes home to make sure he does not get sore until he is better at doing it himself

Crystal - posted on 08/31/2010

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I agree with Latisha about the wet wipes to start with instead of tp, but make sure to get the flushable cottenelle wipes, not straight baby wipes which are usually not flushable! :) That's how we started with my son, 5, and he is now doing well with tp.

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Emily - posted on 07/15/2013

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emily hatfield 29 alexander hamilton is my 2 year old son and he is starting two wipe his poo on the windows how do i get him two stop

Idella - posted on 09/14/2010

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tiolet paper is a toddlers worst enemy. try using flushable wipes. my kids love them and no more nasty finger prints to clean off the wall and other odd places

Tammy - posted on 09/14/2010

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Hav you tried wipies? My son is 9 and he still uses wipies. I keep them in the bathroom beside the comode and thats what he prefers to use.
If it is a case of "he just doesnt want to wipe, then until he gets a rash from not wiping, you may not be able to make him do it. Thats how we got on the wipy thing. I letg him know that it would make him feel better after wiping with them and havent had a problem since he got his first rash.

Jill - posted on 09/09/2010

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Thanks everyone! He is coming a long great using TP and I do spot check to make sure he is getting everything. The only problem now is that his Grandma will still wipe him. I have told her time and time again to not wipe him and let him do it. Her response, "He starts crying and then I feel bad!" If it isn't one thing, it is another...LOL! Again, thanks all!

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If it were over the summer, I'd say that he is "old enough" to wipe himself (if you've been doing it) and that he "gets to" go to school (a fun place) when he does the wiping himself. Teachers should not have to deal with helping him, and he should not be messy/stinky. But since he has started (going to school), just emphasize how important it is so he won't smell or get teased or be embarrassed. We had one who didn't want to do it herself. Eventually she did. She's very concerned she does it "right" and uses too much TP, but she did learn. Just monitor it as much as you can at home and praise him when he's nice and clean (on his own).

Angela - posted on 09/08/2010

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I wouldnt worry to much he will probably catch on soon. When my daughter started preschool last year she wouldnt wipe herself either and the teacher worked with her and explained to her that she had to and taught her how etc... and after a couple months of mommy not being there to wipe her butt so to speak she started doing it. In fact at the beginning of the year she got embarassed because she couldnt do it and the teacher called me and had her talk to me about it and I told her I was not driving to the school to wipe her butt she had to do it herself or sit with dirty underwear all day. She did it. He will get it just give him some time and it may take some tough love too.

Sherri - posted on 09/02/2010

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You are going to have to practice at home I would start off with toilet paper and finish off with baby wipes. So he can practice. To be honest I never had my children wipe until 5. It is to messy and they have enough trouble sitting without falling in. However, I also understand the schools position that he needs to also. So just practice at home.

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same for us, my son was making a mess when he used the bathroom. Once we started using wet wipes it made it much easier for him. It is a great idea to send them to school with him. I never thought of that and with my 5 yr. old he has to walk right by his backpack to get to the bathroom. Thanks ladies :)

Kimberly - posted on 09/02/2010

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You might try letting him use wet wipes. They make wiping a little easier for them and once he gets the hang of that I bet he will get better using toilet paper.

ASHLEY - posted on 09/02/2010

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pack baby wipes and put in his backpack or buy kandoo wipes for kids try that and see if that works. It should my daughter doesnt like toliet paper it also I feel it doesnt do a good job for wiping when kids are school aged and young. I myslelf always used baby wipes.

Rachel - posted on 09/02/2010

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I have the same issue with my son! He is the same age. He doesnt want to wipe himself either, it's like it weirds him out or something. His teacher looked at me like I was crazy when I told her he couldnt wipe. My husband said someone told him about wipes too, guess we need to give that a try! Glad to see I am not the only one with this problem! Good luck!

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